In this episode we explore why we feel we should put a time limit on feeling better, whether that’s after a bereavement, an illness, or the benefit we think we should experience from a holiday.We discuss the impact of striving to be ‘fixed’ or ‘better’, rather than living with how things are right here, right now. We explore the idea that acceptance of how things really are can lead to us making the changes that we really need, not a knee-jerk reaction to the discomfort of the present. Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why are we always in a rush?
In this episode, we discuss our personal experiences of rushing, how that feels in our bodies (not pleasant!) and the consequences of always being in a rush – being clumsy, dropping things, forgetting what we are doing, all that stuff! It’s not all or nothing, sometimes ‘drive mode’ is very much where we need to be, rather than in ‘rest and digest' or 'soothing' mode. So really noticing when each system is activated, when they are helpful, and when we could mindfully and carefully do one thing at a time is really helpful.We explore the benefits of noticing how rushing feels in our bodies, and how that can give us some control over the choices that we are making.Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted through their websites:www.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why do we look to social media for validation?
In this episode we explore looking for validation on social media. Social media is not either ‘good’ or ‘bad’, – it really depends on how we use it.It can be hard to find people who are like us in our social circle sometimes; particularly if we have a neurodivergence, or a rather niche hobby. That’s where social media can be super helpful – it’s a great way to connect with people who share similar experiences or interests. But, like anything, there are some downsides too. It's important to be mindful of how much we share about our personal lives and emotions, especially in public spaces, for our own safety and peace of mind.If we feel isolated it is easy to reach out to an on-line community, which may well say something about our in-real-life connections. Building those deeper, in-person relationships can take a lot more time and effort, but they’re super important, too.Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted via their websiteswww.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why do we fear the worst?
As humans, we’ve got this amazing ability to imagine the future and reflect on the past, but honestly, it doesn’t always work in our favour! We can easily spiral into thinking about all the worst-case scenarios, and before we know it, our bodies are reacting as if those things are actually happening right now.A lot of the time, these "what-if" scenarios are shaped by past experiences, or even things we’ve seen in movies, read in books, or heard from other people. As usual, we share our own experiences of fearing the worst, and also times when difficult things have happened!In this episode, we dive into some strategies to help calm our nervous system, so we can think more clearly and see things as they really are, instead of getting stuck in a worst-case scenario spiral.Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted via their websiteswww.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Why don't we like endings?
In this episode we discuss why we don't like endings and yet life’s full of endings. Whether it’s moving to a new place, switching jobs, or something much heavier like the end of a relationship or losing someone close to us. And yet, it feels like we’re not always great at dealing with them. We tend to push those feelings aside or beat ourselves up for feeling upset when it seems like everyone else is handling things better.But what if we let ourselves truly feel what we're feeling? What if we gave ourselves the time and space to accept those emotions instead of trying to push them away? Until we do that, it’s tough to process what we’re losing and figure out where we’re headed. It’s totally okay to grieve an ending, no matter how big or small the change might be.Adrienne and Lucy can be contacted via their websiteswww.presenceofmind.life (Lucy)www.adriennekirk.uk (Adrienne) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
In each episode Adrienne Kirk, a Psychotherapist and Lucy Woods, a Mindfulness Specialist bring some lightness to often difficult subjects, helping to navigate through the messiness of life's challenges. With a real emphasis on how to move towards flourishing, It's Not That Deep, looks at what it really is to be human, and offers some tools and strategies that help to support our wellbeing.Find us at: www.adriennekirk.uk or www.presenceofmind.life Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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