For The Hayters

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses postpartum depression, suicidal ideation in children, chronic pain, and mental health crises.

When Katie sat down with me, she described a moment leaning over her 6-month-old’s crib, crying so hard that her baby stopped crying out of shock. That was the moment she knew she was in the "vortex." After a 20-year career in nursing, Katie found herself battling severe medical gaslighting during pregnancy, debilitating chronic migraines, and the terrifying reality of parenting a child with severe mental health struggles.

But the hardest thing she had to do? She had to learn how to emotionally detach from her daughter’s pain in order to save her. In this raw conversation, we talk about the identity shift of leaving a stable career, the lie of "balancing it all," and how to find peace when your body and your family are in crisis.

Connect with Katie: Host of The Midlife Purpose Project https://katiefarinas.com/ Substack: Katie Freeness

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This episode discusses death of a minor, emotional abuse, family estrangement, and traumatic birth/NICU experiences.

Ciyla Fletcher is only 25, but she has lived a dozen lifetimes. From moving 15 times before adulthood to being raised by grandparents while her parents drifted in and out, Ciyla learned early on that "chaos felt like safety." But the hits didn't stop at childhood instability.

At 16, Ciyla lost her best friend and first love, Bailey. Instead of support, she faced a campaign of jealousy and rumors from her own family members who told her she "had no right to grieve." Now, as a mother of two and a nursing student, Ciyla is rewriting the definition of family. In this raw conversation, we discuss the pain of having a father who calls you a "stranger," the maturity required to co-parent peacefully at 20 years old, and why being thankful you don't understand betrayal is the ultimate sign of healing.

Connect with Ciyla: Instagram: @ciyla.xo

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Trigger Warning: This episode includes detailed discussion of miscarriage (including missed miscarriage and medication-assisted miscarriage), grief, medical trauma/insensitive care, anxiety/SSRI withdrawal, and fertility-related testing. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Today’s episode of For The Hayters features Kim Gordon, who shares the reality of navigating two miscarriages—and the complicated, layered grief that comes with each one. Kim opens up about the shock of learning her baby had no heartbeat during what was supposed to be a joyful milestone, the painful and traumatic experience of taking medication to miscarry at home, and the ways medical systems can fail people when they’re most vulnerable.

Kim also talks about how grief impacted her marriage—how she needed to talk while her husband shut down, and how their emotional experiences flipped during the second loss. From advocating for better care, switching providers, exploring progesterone support and blood clotting labs, to rebuilding her mental health, Kim’s story is raw, honest, and deeply validating for anyone who has experienced pregnancy loss—or loved someone who has.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: @gordongirl21

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Postpartum Support International (PSI): postpartum.net
Pregnancy Loss Support (Share): nationalshare.org

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Trigger warning: This episode includes discussion of postpartum depression, self harm thoughts, pregnancy loss, intimate partner violence, and death and grief.

Today’s episode of For The Hayters features Teri, a mom who has lived through postpartum depression, the loss of her father and two brothers, and the work of building a blended family while healing from an abusive relationship.

Teri shares what it was like becoming a mom at 18, experiencing pregnancy loss, and trying to raise two little ones while still learning how to grow up herself. She opens up about grief that stacked before she ever had time to breathe, including losing her dad in 2017 and later losing both brothers in 2023 and 2024.

We also talk about what postpartum depression looked like for her after her youngest child, the moment she realized she needed help, and how support, therapy, and honest communication became part of her healing. This conversation is about motherhood, survival, rebuilding, and what it means to keep choosing yourself and your kids, even when it is hard.

To connect with this week’s guest, you can reach out to them through: terigambe22

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Trigger warning This episode discusses pregnancy loss medical trauma and grief.

Today’s episode of For The Hayters shares Melissa’s powerful and emotional journey through high risk pregnancies cesarean scar complications postpartum depression ectopic pregnancies NICU life and the devastating loss of her mother.
Melissa opens up about becoming a mom at 26 navigating two emergency C sections experiencing a NICU stay during peak COVID and later facing both a traditional ectopic pregnancy and a rare cesarean scar ectopic pregnancy that required emergency intervention.
She shares the physical and emotional toll of those moments the loneliness that comes with navigating the medical system the fear of not knowing if she would survive another pregnancy and the heartbreak of losing her mother only one week after undergoing surgery.
This story is raw honest and full of courage. Today Melissa is expecting baby number four a reminder that hope can exist even after unthinkable pain.
To connect with this week’s guest you can reach out to her through @melissagiegoldt on Instagram

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988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline 988lifeline.org Call or text 988
Postpartum Support International postpartum.net
Resolve National Infertility Association resolve.org
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