The Best of You

Dr. Alison Cook
The Best of You
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  • The Best of You

    When Submission Has Been Used to Silence You

    06/12/2026 | 10 mins.
    Today's Scripture: Ephesians 5:21–33**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the often misunderstood language of submission. She explores the heart of Paul’s teaching through the lens of Jesus: mutual reverence, self-giving love, and power expressed through care—not control. We explore:*What submission is not *Why Ephesians 5 begins with mutual submission and must be read through the way of Jesus*How religious language can sometimes reinforce fear, control, or self-abandonment*Why real love creates space for both people to become more whole, honest, and free*What mutuality looks like in relationships marked by dignity, accountability, and truthGo Deeper:Episode 56: Am I really Supposed to Die to Myself?Episode 55: Am I Supposed to Distrust Myself?Episode 5: What is Codependency and Why Does it Matter?Read the first 3 chapters of The Best of You here.

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  • The Best of You

    212. Why You Feel Everything So Deeply (and Other People Don’t): Childhood, Sensitivity & the Nervous System

    06/11/2026 | 37 mins.
    Why do certain situations overwhelm you while someone you love seems completely unaffected? 

    In this episode, Dr. Alison explores one of the most important questions we ask about ourselves: Why am I the way I am?

    Using the image of a seed planted in soil, she explains how your God-given wiring, childhood environment, sensitivity, and nervous system all work together to shape the person you are today.

    This conversation offers a compassionate framework for understanding yourself—and the people you love—in an honest, empowering way. (You’ll want to share this episode with your loved ones!)

    You’ll learn:

    Why your brain is like a plant

    How childhood shapes your mental and emotional health

    The difference between your wiring and your wounding

    The research behind “orchid children” and “dandelion children”

    How different kinds of “soil” shape your nervous system, relationships, resilience, and sense of safety

    Why highly sensitive people may struggle more in hard environments—and thrive more in healthy ones

    Why healing begins when you understand both the seed you were given and the soil that shaped you

    This episode will help you see your story—and your loved ones—with more clarity, compassion, and hope.

    More Resources:

    You can now preorder Dr. Alison’s newest book, The Secure Soul, and immediately receive the first 3 chapters as well as early access to the companion guide!

    Connect further with @dralisoncook on Instagram

    Curious what Family Role may have shaped you? Take the Family Role Quiz to learn how you may be showing up in your relationships with others.

    Want to hear more like this? Start here:

    Episode 143: Reparenting Your Younger Self—How to Stop Seeking Approval From Others & Find Inner Security

    Episode 22: How to Build Trust with Yourself 

    📖 Find a full transcript and list of resources from this episode here

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  • The Best of You

    Finding Secure Attachment in God When Productivity, Approval, or People Can’t Sustain You

    06/10/2026 | 9 mins.
    Today's Scripture: Jeremiah 17:5–8

    In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on the powerful image of a tree planted by water. She explores what happens when we ask approval, productivity, perfectionism, control, or another person’s response to carry the full weight of our security. We explore:

    *Why needing people is not the problem—but making one person your source can drain your soul

    *How approval, productivity, perfectionism, and control can become fragile root systems

    *Why fear-based attachment makes it hard to receive goodness

    *How to become like a tree planted by water, steady even when heat or drought comes

    *How secure attachment with God helps you receive love without clinging to it

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  • The Best of You

    How to Break a Bad Habit Without Hating Yourself

    06/09/2026 | 10 mins.
    Today's Scripture: Mark 9:43–47**Today's devotional is in response to listener requests.**What do you do when you keep returning to the same behavior—the one that offers relief in the moment but leaves you feeling ashamed, disconnected, or farther from love? In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on Jesus’ intense words in Mark 9:43–47 and reframes them not as an invitation to self-hatred, but as a call to radical honesty and freedom. We explore:

    *How to break a bad habit without getting trapped in shame*Why patterns like numbing, resentment, control, people-pleasing, comparison, or fantasy can pull us away from love*How compulsive behaviors shape your nervous system, desires, and relationships*Why willpower alone usually isn’t enough to change a deeply patterned behavior*How creating distance from triggers can become a wise spiritual practice

    Go Deeper:Episode 197: A deep dive with Dr. Joel Al on spiritual warfare and personal responsibility

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    Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison’s free email community for ongoing reflection and support.While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍
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  • The Best of You

    When You Feel Stuck in a Pit & Help Seems Far Away

    06/08/2026 | 9 mins.
    Today's Scripture: Psalm 40:1–3

    What do you do when you’ve prayed, waited, done the work, and still feel stuck in the middle of a pit? In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook reflects on Psalm 40:1–3 and the kind of patience that isn’t passive, polished, or emotionally detached—but deeply honest before God.

    This episode is for anyone who feels worn down by waiting and needs a reminder that God hears, turns toward, and meets us with love one small step at a time. We explore:

    *Why biblical patience doesn't mean suppressing your emotions

    *Why Christian hope is different from forced optimism

    *What it means to find “a firm place to stand”

    *How God forms a new song in us slowly

    Go Deeper:

    Episode 77: The Dark Night of the Soul: Why It Happens and What It Means

    Episode 99: Exploring a Broken Spirit & the Dark Night of the Soul with Christopher Cook

    Connect with Dr. Alison on Instagram: @dralisoncook

    Join 80,000+ Soul Menders in Dr. Alison’s free email community for ongoing reflection and support.

    While Dr. Cook is a counselor, the content of this podcast and any of the products provided by Dr. Cook are not specific counseling advice nor are they a substitute for individual counseling. The content and products provided on this podcast are for informational purposes only.‍
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Join therapist and author, Dr. Alison Cook, as she guides you through some of your toughest challenges with wisdom, kindness, and grace. Together with friends and experts we'll unpack the best of psychology from a faith-based perspective. You’ll discover how to break free from painful patterns, mend your past, and discover what brings out the best of you.
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