"Can I forgive someone and still keep healthy boundaries?"
"Why does forgiveness still feel impossible?"
Forgiveness is one of the most beautiful teachings of the Christian faith—and one of the most misunderstood.
Many of us learned that forgiveness meant moving on quickly, letting go of our anger, or restoring a relationship before trust had been rebuilt. But what if forgiveness isn't about minimizing harm at all?
In this episode, Dr. Alison Cook sits down with theologian, author, and advocate Dr. Amy Orr-Ewing to explore a richer, more biblically grounded understanding of forgiveness. Together they unpack the difference between forgiveness, reconciliation, justice, and repair—and why naming the truth of what happened is an essential part of healing.
Whether you're navigating family wounds, betrayal, church hurt, or simply wondering why forgiveness feels so difficult, this conversation offers both compassion and hope.
You'll learn:
Why forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation.
How forgiveness differs from denying or minimizing harm.
Why anger can be a healthy and necessary part of healing.
How forgiveness and justice can exist together.
What Scripture teaches about forgiveness after abuse or betrayal.
Why forgiveness is often a journey rather than a single decision.
How God's grace empowers forgiveness without requiring self-abandonment.
Forgiveness isn't pretending the wound never happened.
It's telling the truth about what was lost while slowly allowing God's grace to heal what was broken.
Make sure to check out Amy’s new book, “Forgiveness: Reclaiming Its Power in a Culture of Outrage and Fear”
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Episode 78: The Mental Health Benefits of Forgiveness and Thoughts on Grace with Max Lucado
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