Brown Girl Self-Care

When plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.”
In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when things go south.
True alignment and self-trust don't come from doing more; they come from choosing to be more. I'm sharing a personal story about a moment my own intuition loudly yelled, "F that noise,"* and why reclaiming your wisdom means stepping out of the frantic hustle and creating a safe space for the part of you that is just terrified of making a mistake.
If you are currently sitting in the wreckage of a recent setback and second-guessing your every move, this conversation is your invitation to put down the heavy labor, return to your own bones, and remember that you are allowed to be human.
Key Topics Covered
The "Should" Spiral: How we weaponize expectations against ourselves after a setback and drive a wedge into our own self-trust.
The Trap of Doing vs. Being: Exposing the frantic urge to over-research, seek validation, and prove ourselves to the world instead of trusting the brilliance already within us.
Intuition as an Internal Power: Grounding ourselves in the true definition of intuition—the natural ability to know something without needing external proof or evidence.
Healing the Little Girl Within: Why rebuilding trust starts with comforting the inner child who learned at a young age to reject her own body's wisdom.
Lessons over Failure: Shifting our perspective so that mistakes become an anchor for deeper wisdom rather than a reason to abandon ourselves.

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Now, more than ever, is the right time for you to be thinking about yourself. If you are a Black woman in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, chances are you have spent decades as a caregiver. Whether you are managing children, siblings, grandchildren, or aging parents, you might be at a point where something simply has to give. If you notice that you are constantly exhausted and your health is feeling iffy, it is time to look in the mirror and ask a real question: What is your endgame?
In this intimate solo episode, I am sharing some major shifts happening in my own life. I recently made the decision to scale back my hours at work to 24 hours a week because my body was flat-out rejecting a grueling schedule. Our energy is finite, and pushing through back spasms and exhaustion just to survive in a system that does not prioritize our wellness is no longer an option.
I am also talking about the necessity of stepping back from mothering our adult children. I share a recent story about my daughter getting her hair braided that reminded me that she is a grown woman with her own job and her own money. When we step back, we allow our children to grow into who they are meant to be, and we reclaim valuable time for our own rest, reflection, and restoration.
Finally, I am diving into why the environment we live in makes holistic health so difficult for Black women, and why I am actively planning a personal exit strategy (part of MY endgamge) to move overseas by 2028. Self-care requires extensive, consistent dedication, and it is time to stop putting your life on hold.

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Have you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out.
In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you even if your "one great thing" slipped out of reach.
We often tie our worth to a specific outcome, believing that if we just get that one thing, everything will be perfect and we’ll finally be "good enough." But what if that disappointment is actually a mirror?
In This Episode, We Cover:
The "One Great Thing" Trap: Why we mistakenly give external milestones the power to validate our entire existence.
Sitting in the Lane: The radical act of allowing yourself to feel disappointment without rushing to fix it or force a pivot.
Who Are You Becoming? Shifting the focus from what you can get to who you are growing into while you wait.
Key Takeaways to Carry With You:
"Sometimes we have to just sit in that initial lane of disappointment for the things that we don't get, that we had our heart set on. That doesn't mean that goodness is not for you. It just means that it's gonna look different than what you imagine.""Sometimes there's a lesson in the waiting. And it's not so much about what you can get, but about who you are becoming or who you are growing into as you wait."

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Today I am in conversation with Tara Pringle Jefferson, Author of Bloom How You Must: A Black Woman’s Guide to Self-Care and Generational Healing. Tara is the founder of The Self Care Suite, a digital wellness community for Black women. Over the last decade, she has brought her wellness expertise to corporate audiences including WW, SiriusXM, Wayfair, and Priceline.
During our time together we talk about generational healing for Black women and the ways we are currently growing and blooming in sptie of what we (as Black women) have endured for decades.
To learn more about Tara please check her out here:
instagram.com/wherewomenbloom
facebook.com/wherewomenbloom

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Have you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen.
We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it feels safe. We look for little things, like “well, at least it’s closer to home,” to justify staying on autopilot. But true liberation means you stop fighting for the bare minimum. It means you stop settling for a minute amount of money, space, love, and you actually start allowing the alignment of your true vision (which for me is working less, earning more, and pouring into my purpose).
What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:
Seeking Derailment vs. Allowing Alignment: What it looks like when you are fighting, inquiring over and over, and pushing for full-time hours in a place that shrinks you, instead of allowing the space to do things that actually align with your vision.
Making the Uncomfortable Comfortable: How we look for little things to make a limiting situation feel okay, and how that comfort keeps us limited and stuck on autopilot.
The Bare Minimum Trap: The moment you tell yourself that all of your wants, your needs, and your hopes don't matter as long as the basics are taken care of and a little bit of money is coming in.

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