Family Goals with David Pollack and Pastor J

How should Christians respond when someone wrongs them? When we're hurt, treated unfairly, or see our children experience disappointment, our natural response may be anger, revenge, or the need to prove we're right. But what does it look like to respond with the character of Christ?
In this Monday Motivation episode of the Family Goals Podcast, David Pollack and Pastor Jonathan “Pastor J” Howes talk about choosing grace over revenge and humility over pride. Drawing from Philippians 2:3–5 and Romans 12:19–21, they explore how to handle conflict, respond to unfair situations, protect our Christian witness, and demonstrate Christlike character when life gets difficult.
They also discuss the importance of teaching our children how to respond to adversity—not by pointing fingers or fueling anger, but by showing humility, putting others first, and looking for the next right move.
In this episode:
Choosing grace instead of revenge when someone wrongs you
Why being right isn't always the most important thing
Having the mind and character of Christ
Responding to conflict without damaging your Christian witness
Teaching children humility and Christlike character through adversity
CHAPTERS
00:00 Introduction & College Football Conversation
06:21 Honoring Our Veterans
07:48 How Should Christians Respond When They're Wronged?
18:47 Philippians 2:3–5: Having the Mind of Christ
31:17 Teaching Our Kids Christlike Character in Hard Moments
SCRIPTURE REFERENCES
Philippians 2:3–5
Romans 12:19–21
RESOURCES MENTIONED
Jamey Toney / Toney Financial: https://tigerretirement.com/
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ABOUT THE SHOW
David Pollack (College Football Hall of Famer & CFB Analyst) and Pastor Jonathan “Pastor J” Howes (Lead Pastor of Graystone Church) host a weekly conversation about God, family, marriage, and sports, bringing biblical truth and practical wisdom to everyday life.
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Do you have to be in the spotlight to make an eternal impact? David Pollack and Pastor J continue their study of Twelve Ordinary Men by John MacArthur, exploring the life of Andrew and how God uses ordinary people to do extraordinary things. Discover how quiet, faithful, behind-the-scenes ministry can bring others to Jesus and make a difference for eternity.
IN THIS EPISODE
• Andrew’s example of bringing others to Jesus
• Why quiet, one-on-one evangelism matters
• How God uses ordinary people to do extraordinary things
• Recognizing and encouraging the gifts God has given our children
• Finding your “one more” person to reach for Christ
RESOURCES MENTIONED
• Jamey Toney / Toney Financial: https://tigerretirement.com/
• Banquet of Blessings: https://pollockfamilyfoundation.com/
• Twelve Ordinary Men by John MacArthur
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ABOUT THE SHOW
David Pollack (College Football Hall of Famer & CFB Analyst) and Pastor Jonathan "Pastor J" Howes (Lead Pastor of Graystone Church) host a weekly conversation about God, family, marriage and sports, bringing biblical truth and practical wisdom to everyday life.
MORE FROM DAVID POLLACK
www.DavidPollack.com
See Ball Get Ball (YouTube): https://www.youtube.com/@DavidPollackCFB
See Ball Get Ball (Apple Podcasts): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/see-ball-get-ball-with-david-pollack/id176966549
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David Pollack and Pastor J explore the relationship between faith, politics, and voting. How can
Christians participate in the political process while keeping their hope and identity firmly rooted
in Jesus?
Hear about why Christians should stay engaged, stand for biblical values, and seek the good of
their communities. They explore five biblical reasons to vote, including being salt and light,
standing for what is right, caring for our communities, understanding the role of government,
and considering the world we’re leaving for the next generation.
The conversation also explains how Christians can evaluate candidates through character,
leadership, experience, and alignment with biblical convictions—without placing their ultimate
trust in a political party or politician. They close with practical encouragement to stay involved,
remain faithful to biblical values, trust God regardless of election outcomes, and protect our
Christian witness through the way we engage with others.
IN THIS EPISODE
● Should Christians get involved in politics?
● Five biblical reasons Christians should vote
● Being salt and light in our communities
● Evaluating candidates through character, leadership, and biblical values
● Why our hope and identity must remain in Jesus
● Encouraging the next generation to participate
● How to disagree without damaging your Christian witness
● Don’t sit out, don’t sell out, don’t freak out, and don’t bow out
SCRIPTURE REFERENCES
Matthew 5:13–16 • Proverbs 31 • Jeremiah 29:7 • Romans 13:1 • Psalm 20:7 • Philippians 3:20 •
Proverbs 29:2 • James 1:19
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Continuing their conversation about learning to forgive yourself, David and Pastor J focus on
God’s forgiveness and the promise found in 1 John 1:9. They explore biblical forgiveness,
repentance, spiritual growth, and how faith changes the way we live.
IN THIS EPISODE
● Understanding God’s forgiveness through 1 John 1:9
● The difference between confession, repentance, justification, and sanctification
● How to respond to sin and take practical steps toward change
● What Jesus’ encounter with the woman caught in adultery teaches us
● Finding freedom in God’s forgiveness instead of being defined by past mistakes
● Connecting with your kids and building stronger family relationships
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and Jonathan Howes (Lead Pastor of Graystone Church), having a weekly conversation about
God, Family, and Sports. Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and plenty of fun, they
explore how faith shapes the way we live, lead, parent, and compete.
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How do you forgive yourself, overcome pressure, and help your kids learn from mistakes? On
the Family Goals Podcast, David Pollack and Pastor J discuss sports, parenting, Christian faith,
and how to compete without letting performance define your identity.
Inspired by Oklahoma quarterback John Mateer’s reminder to “forgive yourself,” David and
Pastor J explore the mental side of sports, handling criticism, and learning from failure without
getting stuck in it. They discuss how parents can encourage young athletes, help their kids
enjoy the game, and avoid adding unnecessary pressure.
The conversation also turns to faith and competition. Does God care who wins a football game?
How can athletes use their gifts to glorify Him? And what does it mean to compete for an
“audience of one”?
IN THIS EPISODE
● Learning to forgive yourself and move forward after mistakes
● Helping young athletes handle pressure without letting performance define them
● Parenting with encouragement instead of adding pressure
● Competing for an “audience of one” and using your gifts to glorify God
● What 1 Corinthians 9 teaches about discipline, purpose, and running to win
ABOUT FAMILY GOALS
You're listening to David Pollack (College Football Hall-of-Famer and college football analyst)
and Jonathan Howes (Lead Pastor of Graystone Church), having a weekly conversation about
God, Family, and Sports. Through honest conversations, biblical wisdom, and plenty of fun, they
explore how faith shapes the way we live, lead, parent, and compete.
FOLLOW THE FAMILY GOALS PODCAST
Follow on Apple:
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