Mindset Money Success

In this episode, Loraine discusses the five shocking truths behind narcissistic future faking, often referred to as the soulmate illusion. Future faking is the illusion of 'someday,' where a partner paints a vivid, perfect picture of a life together, while their current actions leave you feeling hurt, ignored, and devalued. If this sounds familiar, you have likely encountered this sophisticated manipulation, which serves as a cornerstone of narcissistic abuse. This tactic involves making grand promises about the future solely to gain power and control over you in the present. We uncover the insidious truths that lie behind this behaviour.Best Moments from the Episode The narcissist’s promises are a desperate attempt to soothe their own deep psychic pain. Psychologists agree that narcissism is rooted in profound self-hatred and shame, not self-love. By manipulating you into believing their fantasy, they gain a fleeting feeling of power and relief from their own sense of weakness.Narcissists are master manipulators who use a tactic called narcissistic mirroring. They encourage deep conversations early in the relationship to get you to reveal your most heartfelt desires, hopes, and dreams for the future. They then mimic your dreams back to you, making the connection feel magnetic and uniquely perfect, leading you to believe you have met your soulmate.Future faking is a powerful tool used throughout the entire abuse cycle, not just during the initial love bombing phase. They may dangle the future you crave only to snatch it away as punishment, perhaps by stating an engagement or vacation is on hold because you "ruined the mood".The constant mismatch between loving words about the future and harmful actions in the present creates a profound psychological discomfort known as cognitive dissonance. Personal Example of Future Faking: Loraine recounts a personal experience involving future faking where, after talking about a dream to live in Spain, the partner purchased a property there. However, shortly after the purchase, the partner revealed he had made a "huge mistake," leaving the speaker feeling deflated and upset.Key TakeawaysFuture Faking is a Tool of Control: It is a sophisticated manipulation used to gain power and control over you in the present, fueled by the abuser's own self-hatred and need for fleeting relief.You Are Trapped by Your Own Hopes: The narcissist uses narcissistic mirroring to sell you a future built exactly upon your own most heartfelt dreams, making the connection feel uniquely perfect. Designed to keep you emotionally invested and trapped.The Dissonance is Deliberate: The painful paradox of hearing someone plan your future home while they devalue you right now is a tactic designed to keep you disoriented through cognitive dissonance. You are kept busy trying to reconcile their conflicting behaviours rather than seeing the abuse for what it is.To break free, you must stop focusing on empty promises and start looking at the hard evidence of present-day actions. Your nervous system often registers the danger before your mind can name it, so listen to your body—if you feel tense, unsure, or small in their presence, trust that physical response as honest data.Link to the free trial for the School content platform.Loraine also offers Zoom, coaching, and mentoring calls, drawing on 11 years of lived experience in a manipulative relationship.

IntroductionWelcome to Mindset Money Success. Host Loraine Marshall speaks with Tina Woods, a coach dedicated to helping individuals recover from narcissistic abuse and unlock trapped trauma. Tina recounts her entry into this field after leaving a 24-year advertising career and navigating her own journey through complex trauma (CPTSD), addictions, burnout, and a highly abusive relationship with a covert narcissist. She now works in her purpose of empath empowerment, assisting women to transform lessons learned and move from victim mode into their highest frequency. This episode delves into the deep psychological trap of the trauma bond, the strategic nature of narcissistic abuse, and practical self-help steps for recovery.3 Best MomentsUnderstanding the Trauma Bond: Tina explains that the trauma bond is a "serious, serious addiction" and is fundamentally a "spiritual, a physical, a mental, psychological trap" that is extremely difficult to break.Abuse Starts with Love Bombing: It is crucial to understand that the manipulation and abuse cycle begins not with the devaluation or discard, but with the love bomb phase. Narcissists are highly strategic; they plot their victims and look for supply by weighing up their wounds, such as isolation or self-love issues, making the love bombing the beginning of the abuse.Harnessing Anger for Healing: Tina advocates for releasing anger, describing it as her "kill Bill stage," rather than repressing or suppressing it, which can cause sickness. Techniques she used for release included joining kickboxing and self-defence, as well as bouncing on a mini trampoline, shaking, and dancing.4 Key TakeawaysEmbrace Deep Honesty and the 'Ik-List': To begin breaking the trauma bond, the first step is to come into deep, painful honesty about both the abuser's behaviours and your own attachment patterns. Tina suggests creating an 'ik-list' (a tip she borrowed from Dr Ramani) detailing all the awful things the abuser said and did, so you can clearly see the truth when they attempt to 'hoover' you back in.De-centre the Abuser and Reclaim Self-Love: Recovery requires understanding your codependency and recognising that seeking validation from a toxic person reflects a lack of self-love and self-worth. You must de-centre the narcissist and the relationship story to go on a deep journey of reclamation, which often involves reviewing childhood patterns and behaviours.Implement the 360 Approach for Complex Trauma: When dealing with complex trauma (CPTSD), a self-help strategy should address the mind, body, and soul. For the soul, focus on raising your frequency through faith, prayer, cord cutting, or walking in nature. For the body, prioritise nervous system safety through somatic exercises, yoga, breathwork, and nourishing food.Listen to Your Intuition: Your intuition is activated when you start spotting the abuser's patterns of behaviour. When you find yourself having the same conversation multiple times or noticing flare-ups around certain times, this may lead to the realisation: "maybe it's not all me," which is a powerful starting point for moving forward.Contact Talia Coaching https://www.taliacoaching.co.uk/ From your hostConnect on other platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this week's episode, Loraine Marshall aims to challenge and completely dismantle conventional financial advice that often leaves people feeling stuck. Our guide on this journey is Rob Moore, a self-made millionaire, property investor, and host of the Disruptors podcast, known for building his fortune on contrarian thinking. Loraine extracts some of Rob Moore's valuable insights, offering a blueprint for building wealth by exploring the money lies that keep you poor, and revealing the hidden rules of the financial game. 4 Key Takeaways1. Lie number one suggests that saving your money in the bank is responsible, but Rob Moore argues this is a dangerous myth. Due to inflation—which he calls the biggest legal money scam—leaving your money in the bank is not saving it; it is eroding and degrading its value, resulting in a guaranteed loss of purchasing power over time.2. Inflation is a quiet theft of your money and a systematic feature of the modern financial system. The only effective defence is to own assets that rise in value as currency devalues, such as property, stocks, businesses, and precious metals (like gold and silver coins), which store value better than cash.3. The wealthy understand a critical distinction: bad debt (borrowing for depreciating consumer items like a new car or designer clothes) keeps people on a treadmill, while good debt can make you richer. Good debt involves strategically borrowing money, like using a mortgage on a rental property, to acquire an asset where the financial return is higher than the debt's cost.4. The supposedly secure job is one of the riskiest financial strategies because your entire income stream depends on one employer, meaning you are not in control. Since even saving money is a risk due to inflation, true financial security comes from taking calculated, educated investment risks to build assets that you control. 4 Best Moments1. Ex-financial advisor Chris Roll provided a brilliant analogy, explaining that the Monopoly game rules state that if the bank runs out of money, it can simply write some more on a piece of paper and use that. This perfectly illustrates how the modern financial system and central banks create currency out of thin air.2. In a rant about modern consumer culture, Rob Moore highlighted the absurdity of spending £55 on a trendy water bottle when the same money could purchase a one-ounce silver coin, which is a real, tangible asset that stores value. This powerfully symbolises society's broken financial priorities.3. This insight captures the power shift when dealing with high-level finance and leverage: "If you borrow a million pounds from the bank, you have a problem. If you borrow 100 million from the bank, they have the problem".4. Blueprint for Your First £10,000. Rob Moore provides a simple, diversified plan for asset growth: 40% into the stock market (e.g., Vanguard Life Strategy Fund), 30% in physical gold, 20% in physical silver, and 10% in calculated high-risk crypto (e.g., 80% Bitcoin, 20% Ethereum). This strategy hedges against economic uncertainty while investing in long-term growth.Connect on other platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

In this episode, Loraine explores opportunities for finding and securing funding for your Dream Business Startup.Best Moments1. The discussion highlights the systemic challenges in traditional venture capital, noting that while almost 40% of startup owners in Europe are women, companies founded by women receive only 2.4% of total venture capital funding. However, this statistic is reframed as "permission to stop playing a game that wasn’t designed for you".2. We examine the internal hurdle of a "scarcity mindset" the deeply ingrained belief that there isn't enough opportunity or support. This paralysing mindset leads to risk aversion and accepting limitations. The powerful counterpoint is introduced: "poverty loves foot dragging," while speed, decision, and action are the habits of abundance.3. Listeners are encouraged to shift from passive worrying to an active, opportunity-focused state of doing. The principle "money loves speed" is explained as a law where acting on an idea as fast as humanly possible creates an energy that helps attract more money, echoing the concept that "the universe loves speed".4. Grants are highlighted as the best kind of funding because they are a primary source of debt-free money—meaning founders don't give up equity and do not have to pay the money back. Corporate partners like Poker Power, BOTOX® Cosmetic, Visa, and Caress have created major grant programs through IFundWomen (IFW).5. The most efficient strategic move a founder can make is to fill out the IFundWomen Universal Funding and Grant Application. This single action places the founder in a central database, which IFW uses to match founders with opportunities when they partner with brands.Key Takeaways• Mindset is your most powerful asset: Acknowledge that the funding gap is real, but recognize that shifting your mindset from scarcity to abundance is the critical foundation for success.• Embrace Immediate Action: Apply the principle that "money loves speed" by taking immediate, decisive action on your ideas instead of waiting for the "perfect" moment.• Tap into the Diverse Ecosystem: Don't focus solely on VC; instead, tap into the rich ecosystem of grants and supportive organisations like IFundWomen, Female Founders Rise, Ladies Who Launch, and the Tory Burch Foundation.• Take One Concrete Step Today: The only wrong choice is inaction. Your homework is to take immediate action, such as filling out the IFundWomen Universal Application or exploring the Tory Burch Funding Finder to give your dream the momentum it deserves. Follow on more platformsSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator

Welcome to another episode of Mindset Money Success! Host Loraine Marshall introduces guest Carolyn Ann Wood, a mindset mentor and hypnotherapist. Carolyn specialises in an "amazing modality called heart healing," which literally heals the heart. She shares her journey of becoming a certified heart healer and quitting her day job to pursue her successful business, currently travelling and living out of two suitcases. Her personal purpose is focused on freedom, love, and connection.Loraine and Carolyn discuss the profound power of the mind and how unconscious beliefs, often formed in early childhood, can silently drive reality. Lorraine recalls her own experience growing a property management business based on a simple written goal: "double the income in the first three months, double the income in the next three months". The conversation also touches upon Lorraine's challenging experience navigating years of overlapping litigations, from an ex-partner, and the importance of managing anger and rebuilding self-worth while tackling external pressures.Carolyn emphasizes that true transformation is not a "one and done" event but requires a holistic approach involving mind, body, heart, and soul work, along with dedicated nervous system regulation.Best MomentsOn the Nature of Heart Healing: "The crazy thing is, the beliefs aren't about the experiences themselves. They are about the other people who were involved in the experiences". Heart healing targets the root belief formed in childhood, often related to the primary caregiver, to address the feeling of "not enoughness".Affirmations vs. Deep Beliefs: If you are repeating affirmations like "I'm a millionaire" but not seeing results, it is likely because an underlying, unconscious belief is running silently in the background, saying, "no, you’re not a millionaire". To fast-track success, you must get to the root of these negative beliefs.Self-Love as the Key: Unconditional self-love and self-acceptance are the key to joy, happiness, success, and wealth. When you love yourself, you have the confidence to make decisions that suit you, and if things don't go as planned, it doesn't "knock you back"Key TakeawaysMindset Requires Clearing Blocks: While repetition of education and motivational content (like Jim Rohn's tapes) is helpful, true, rapid transformation requires clearing the deep, unconscious beliefs that prevent affirmations from becoming reality.Holistic Work for Lifestyle Change: Mindset work is a lifestyle choice; it is not achieved through a single session. It involves working with your mind, body, and heart (and soul) simultaneously, much like losing weight requires diet, exercise, and mental pre-planning.Nervous System Regulation is Core: Nervous system regulation is "absolutely core for everyone". Carolyn recommends breathwork and EFT tapping to intentionally regulate the nervous system, especially since dysregulation sends internal signals of instability and unsafety.Achieving success by shifting your mindset is like being a skilled gardener: affirmations are the seeds you plant every day, but unless you consistently clear the deep, unconscious weeds (the negative beliefs and unregulated nervous system), those seeds struggle to fully blossom.https://carolynannewood.com/shopwithmeSupport the PodcastInvitation To Join Skool As A Creator