Self Care Club - The Midlife Edition

Why is saying no so hard for women in midlife? Your kids, your partner, your parents, your friends, your work and the school WhatsApp all want a piece of you — and because you're so capable, everyone assumes you'll say yes.

This week on Self Care Club: The Midlife Edition, Nicole Goodman and Lauren Mishcon talk about why saying no might be one of the most important forms of self-care in your 40s and 50s — and how to actually do it without guilt.

In this episode:

Why women are conditioned to people-please — and why midlife is the moment to stop

"What you tolerate, you allow": how being capable makes people assume you'll do everything

The joy of JOMO — why you don't have to go to everything anymore

Why a genuine no is kinder than a fake, resentful yes

The simple pause that stops the automatic yes

Every no is a yes to something else

You don't need an excuse — how to say no honestly and briefly

Saying no to the request, not the person

Curating your friendships and letting other people be disappointed

Where to start if you really struggle with setting boundaries

If you've ever got to Friday night completely exhausted from a week of things you didn't want to do, this one's for you.

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Self Care Club: The Midlife Edition is a British Podcast Award-winning show about midlife, menopause, wellbeing and self-care for women in their 40s and 50s. If you enjoyed this episode, please rate, review and share it with a friend who needs to hear it.

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This episode is sponsored by Welbeck – providing beyond better healthcare.

Welcome to Ask The Doctor. In this special bonus episode, we put your midlife health questions directly to a medical expert and this time, we're talking about bladder issue, urinary incontinence, prolapse and UTIs.

We put your questions to consultant urological surgeon Neha Sihra. She specialises in the investigation and treatment of male and female urinary incontinence, bladder dysfunction, neuro-urology, bladder pain and urinary tract infections and performs a range of surgical procedures for these conditions.

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Please note: Self Care Club is for entertainment purposes and not personal medical advice. If you have symptoms or concerns about your bladder, urinary health or pelvic floor, please speak to a qualified healthcare professional.

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On today’s show we’re talking about something that affects millions of women but that we still find surprisingly difficult to talk about: our bladders.

Urinary incontinence, recurrent UTIs, pelvic floor problems and prolapse are incredibly common, particularly as women move through their 40s, perimenopause and menopause. But how much of it is actually "normal", how much should we put up with, and when should we get help?

This week we are joined by Miss Neha Sihra, Consultant Urological Surgeon, to answer the questions women are often too embarrassed to ask.

We talk about why childbirth, perimenopause and menopause can change your bladder, whether low oestrogen can cause urinary symptoms even without vaginal dryness, and whether needing to wee more frequently or waking up several times a night is simply part of getting older.

We get into urinary incontinence, including stress incontinence and overactive bladder, why women leak when they laugh, sneeze, run or jump, and what treatments are actually available.

Then it's time for UTIs. Why do some women suddenly start getting recurrent infections in midlife? How can you tell the difference between a UTI, overactive bladder and menopause-related urinary symptoms? Can you have UTI symptoms without actually having an infection? And does cranberry really help?

We also tackle pelvic floor health and prolapse. What does a prolapse actually feel like? Can you have one without knowing? Does running, lifting weights or playing sports make it worse? And what's the difference between a weak pelvic floor and one that's actually too tight?

Finally, Neha explains which bladder and urinary symptoms women should get checked rather than simply putting them down to ageing or menopause, and the symptoms she wishes women would stop ignoring.

If you've ever crossed your legs before sneezing, planned your day around toilet locations, had a UTI at the most inconvenient possible moment or wondered whether that sudden need to wee every five minutes is "just your age", this one's for you.

In this episode we discuss:

Women's bladder health

Urinary incontinence and menopause

Stress incontinence

Overactive bladder

Recurrent UTIs

UTIs and perimenopause

Vaginal oestrogen and urinary symptoms

HRT and bladder health

Pelvic floor problems

Pelvic organ prolapse

Bladder problems and sex

Exercise and urinary incontinence

When to see a urologist

Which urinary symptoms should be checked by a doctor

Find Neha Sihra here: https://welbeck.com/find-a-specialist/miss-neha-sihra

Please note: Self Care Club is not medical advice. If you have symptoms or concerns about your bladder, urinary health or pelvic floor, speak to a qualified healthcare professional.

Get in touch with us:

Email us: hello@theselfcareclub.co.uk

Instagram @selfcareclubpod

Try AG1 now at https://drinkag1.com/selfcare and get £20 off your first order + 5 AG1 Travel Packs for on the go, a bottle of Vitamin D3+K2, and the Welcome Kit for FREE. No risk with the 30- day money-back guarantee.

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Diagnosed with ADHD at 40, Kate Moryoussef explains what ADHD really looks like in women over 40, why so many reach midlife before spotting it, and how perimenopause, oestrogen and HRT can change your symptoms.

If you've ever wondered whether your forgetful, overwhelmed, emotionally intense brain is more than "just your personality", this episode is for you.

Kate is the host of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Podcast, author of The ADHD Women's Wellbeing Toolkit, an EFT practitioner and mum to four neurodivergent children.

IN THIS EPISODE:In this episode we discuss:

ADHD in women and why it is often diagnosed later in life

ADHD symptoms in women over 40

ADHD and perimenopauseOestrogen, hormones and ADHD symptoms

ADHD and HRTBrain fog and forgetfulness

ADHD and anxietyRejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)Emotional regulation and overstimulation

ADHD and workProcrastination and executive dysfunction

ADHD burnout and masking

ADHD-friendly self-careSensory regulationSleep, movement, food and caffeine

Getting an ADHD diagnosis in midlife

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Self Care Club is not medical advice. If you have concerns about ADHD, please speak to a qualified professional.

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