Ready For Love with Hilary Silver

• How to Stop Sabotaging Your Love Life

  Think you’re “too much,” “too independent,” or “too intimidating” for love? You’re not. You’re just done playing small! In this episode, Hilary Silver sits down with Ready for Love grad Kara Judd, a powerhouse executive who finally got honest about what was really holding her back in relationships. Kara opens up about how she stopped blaming her success, her height, and her “strong personality,” and started doing the deeper work, rewriting the stories that kept her settling for less. Now she’s in a healthy, equal relationship built on respect, communication, and growth. This isn’t a fairy tale, it’s what happens when you heal your patterns and show up as your real self. Episode Highlights: Why accomplished women still feel insecure in love How subconscious beliefs shape attraction and dating patterns Kara’s process for rewriting old stories and showing up differently What a truly equal relationship looks like after doing the work Why being “too much” is actually your greatest strength The difference between being chosen and choosing yourself Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Kara’s Love Story and Dating Breakthrough 03:10 How Childhood Beliefs Sabotage Love 05:26 The Wake-Up Moment That Changed Everything 08:45 Attracting a High-Quality Man After Healing 12:30 Boundaries, Space, and Real Connection 15:22 From Self-Sabotage to Self-Worth 18:44 How Confidence Changes Love 21:10 Real Love Starts with Self-Honesty Tune in and find out what really changes when you stop settling and start showing up fully. ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply Connect With Kara Judd: LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kara-judd-4477a01/ Cozy Earth: Luxurious Bedding Up to 40% Off + 100-Night Sleep Trial Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer

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• #89: Why He Won’t Commit (And Why You’re Still Waiting)

  When a man keeps you half chosen and half confused, the real problem isn’t his hesitation but the part of you willing to wait for it! Ever been strung along by a man who gives just enough to keep you hopeful but never enough to give you certainty? One day he’s all charm and chemistry, the next he’s conveniently unavailable? You start analyzing his behavior like a crime scene. Does he have trauma? Is it timing? Is it me? Hilary calls BS! In this episode, Hilary dismantles the obsession with figuring him out and asks a better question: Why are you waiting for someone who won’t choose you fully? Mixed signals are signals. If it only feels good when he’s present but wrecks your peace when he’s gone, that’s not romance — that’s chaos dressed as potential. And if you’re tolerating crumbs, playing it cool, or bending your boundaries just to keep him around, you’re accidentally auditioning for the role of “almost enough.” Hilary’s message is blunt but liberating: stop chasing clarity from him and start demanding consistency for yourself. You don’t need closure, you need standards. So ask yourself, are you in a relationship or just holding space for someone who hasn’t decided? And if you stopped waiting on his decision, what would yours be? Episode Highlights: Why “understanding him” is just a distraction from reclaiming your own power What mixed signals in dating are actually telling you How pick-me energy sabotages real commitment Signs you’re emotionally unavailable too The mindset shift that ends situationships for good Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Women Stay Stuck in Non-Committal Relationships 01:34 The Trap of Overanalyzing His Mixed Signals 03:18 Emotional Burnout from Chasing Clarity 04:21 How to Evaluate a Relationship Beyond Chemistry 05:24 The Hidden Cost of Self-Betrayal and Pick-Me Energy 07:31 When You’re the One Afraid of Commitment 09:17 Shifting from Waiting to Self-Ownership 10:00 Final Call to Stop Settling ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

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• #88: How Kimberly Found Love After 13 Years of Avoiding It

  When you’ve been single for 13 years, “I’m fine” starts sounding a lot like “I’ve given up.” Kimberly was successful on paper, but she was quietly miserable off it. Between perimenopause, work burnout, and pandemic isolation, she’d convinced herself she was too busy (and too jaded) for love. Then she found Ready for Love, and everything shifted.  She thought she was signing up to find love. Happily, she found herself in the process. In this episode, Kimberly gets raw about forgiving herself after an affair, dropping decades of shame, and learning what real emotional maturity looks like. She shares how doing the work helped her move cities, meet her partner (again), and launch her own consulting business with actual self-trust. Now she’s living proof: self-love isn’t a backup plan, it’s the whole plan. Episode Highlights: Why independence can be emotional armor in disguise The real reason self-forgiveness changes everything What “doing the work” actually looks like when it sticks How loving yourself first changes your love life and your career The secret to attracting love that feels calm, not chaotic Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Finding Love by Loving Yourself First 00:22 13 Years Single and Ready for Change 05:53 Healing Shame and Rebuilding Self-Worth 07:58 How Attachment Styles Impact Relationships 11:40 Meeting Her Partner and Creating Healthy Love 16:02 From Self-Love to Career Confidence 17:50 Why Investing in Yourself Always Pays Off ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

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• #87: Stop Mothering Your Man

  If you’re a woman who can run circles around most humans — yet still finds herself scheduling her partner’s appointments, tracking his moods, or generally keeping his life stitched together — congratulations, you’re unofficially in man-keeping mode. Hilary is calling it out the silent epidemic of high-achieving women accidentally becoming their partner’s project manager instead of their partner. Spoiler: nothing kills attraction faster than turning romance into a daycare. But rather than blaming men, she hands the steering wheel back to us. How much of this dynamic exists because we keep jumping in? What happens if you stop over-functioning and let him rise,  or reveal that he won’t? This episode is a wake-up call for every woman who’s tired of being needed more than she’s cherished. Because you don’t need another job title. You need a partner who carries his own weight without being micromanaged. Episode Highlights: The real reason competent women keep ending up in mothering roles How “helping” becomes control disguised as care Why boundaries are sexier than over-giving The one-liner that stops you from taking on his “we should” ideas How to instantly shift the power dynamic without drama or nagging Episode Breakdown: 00:00 What Is Man-Keeping? 01:09 When You Start Feeling Like His Mom 02:33 The Real Fix: Change Your Own Patterns 06:25 Stop Overfunctioning and Set Boundaries 07:27 Flip the “We Should” Script 11:08 Love Is Partnership, Not Parenting ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

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• #86: From Walls Up to Wide Open: Meryl’s Reset on Love & Life

  If you’ve ever rejected a man because his name annoyed you… this episode is for you.   Hilary sits down with award-winning interior designer and unapologetic former love-skeptic Meryl Stern, who admits she once dismissed perfectly good men for crimes like “bad vibes” and “unfortunate first names.” (Her words.) But beneath all that discernment? A woman hiding behind a beautifully curated emotional wall.   Inside Ready for Love, Meryl didn’t just “work on herself” — she resigned from decades-old childhood roles, stopped earning love by overgiving, and rewired her identity from martyring do-it-all to woman who actually receives. Now, she runs a luxury design firm with her daughter, just completed a 12,000 sq ft project featured in Architectural Digest, and treats dating the same way she treats client selection: You don’t pick me. I pick YOU.   She’s single, self-possessed, and fully uninterested in settling, which, around here, counts as a success story. Episode Highlights: When “I’m just independent” is actually code for I don’t trust myself to choose well Why nitpicking men is just fear in fancy clothes The homework assignment that broke her identity wide open How healing self-worth bleeds into business, leadership, and money Dating rule #1: You don’t get picked—you pick   Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Meet award-winning designer & RFL alum Meryl 02:00 The moment she realized her “independence” was actually a wall 05:40 How journaling cracked her open 08:10 The resignation letter that rewired her self-image 12:30 Building a business with her daughter (without killing each other) 16:45 Her three-year AD-featured dream project 18:50 Current relationship status? Selectively single 20:30 The real measure of success: Would the old you tolerate this?   ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else.   ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?    🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass   💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply

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