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This is The Hilary Silver Podcast, where being self-centered isn’t selfish—...
It Took Me 30+ Years to Realize What I’ll Tell You in 10 Minutes
You want love, success, confidence, the dream body—because obviously. But what if I told you that the way you’re going after it is exactly why it keeps slipping through your fingers? Yeah, it’s not the goal that’s the problem. It’s how you’re wired to chase it.
In this episode, Hilary drops the truth bomb you didn’t know you needed: The constant grind for external validation—whether it’s from a relationship, your bank account, or the number on the scale—only reinforces the idea that you’re not enough without it. And that? That’s keeping you stuck.
Episode Highlights:
Why your biggest desires might be rooted in old insecurities (Hint: Your childhood is probably involved.)
The exhausting cycle of proving your worth (and how to break it)
Why desperate energy pushes away exactly what you want
How shifting your mindset flips the script on love, success, and happiness
The magic of deciding you're already worthy—before you have the “proof”
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:16] The Belief-Proof Paradox
[03:03] The Powerlessness of External Validation
[06:04] The Addiction to External Proof
[07:07] High Achievers and the Need for Approval
[09:03] The Inherent Nature of Self-Worth
[10:06] Choosing to Believe in Yourself
[11:19] Worthiness Precedes Achievement
[12:00] The Importance of Self-Relationship
[12:32] Conclusion
This isn’t about sitting back and manifesting your dream life with good vibes alone. It’s about rewiring your beliefs so that you stop blocking yourself from everything you’re meant to have.
🎧 Listen now & step into your power!
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💬 What’s one belief about success or self-worth that you’re ready to let go of? Drop it in the comments! 👇🔥
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How Women Are More Powerful Over 50
They told us aging meant fading into the background—HA, not a chance. In this unapologetic episode, Hilary is flipping the script on what it really means to be a powerful woman over 50. After her viral episode “How I Turn Heads Over 50”, the internet had a lot to say—some women embraced the message, others questioned the need for attention, and plenty misunderstood the real point. But she’s here to set the record straight: this isn’t about validation, and it’s definitely NOT about seeking male attention.
Episode Highlights:
The straight-up LIES you were fed about aging, beauty, and self-worth
Why your value has NOTHING to do with male attention (seriously, let’s retire that nonsense)
The myth of the “invisible woman” and why YOU get to decide if you fade into the background
How to walk into any room like the queen you are—without seeking validation from anyone
The three mindset shifts every badass woman over 50 needs to make yesterday
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[03:19] External Validation and Self-Worth
[04:01] Aging and Societal Perception
[05:57] Claiming Personal Power
[07:01] Becoming Rejection-Proof
[09:09] Turning Heads with Energy
Referenced Episode:
“Forget Invisible Woman Syndrome - How I Turn Heads Over 50” : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-hilary-silver-podcast/id1739660144?i=1000676193898
Hilary is dropping truth bombs, dismantling outdated beliefs, and handing you the permission slip to become the most magnetic, self-assured version of yourself—on your terms.
Ready to ditch the old narratives and claim your space? Listen in, take notes, and start showing up like the powerhouse you were born to be.
🎧 Listen now & step into your power!
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💬 What’s one outdated belief about aging you’re DONE with?
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What I've Had Done to Look 10 Years Younger at 52
People are shocked when they find out Hilary is 52. They see the abs, the energy, and the glow, and immediately want to know the secret. Well, in this episode, she’s spilling it all—the workouts, the mindset, the aesthetics, and yes, the cosmetic procedures she’s done (and proud of). Because here’s the deal: taking care of yourself isn’t vain, it’s self-respect.
This is not about fighting aging—Hilary loves getting older. But embracing aging doesn’t mean just rolling over and accepting every wrinkle and change if it doesn’t feel good to you. It’s about choice. Confidence. Owning what makes you feel powerful. And not giving a damn about what anyone else thinks.
Episode Highlights:
Why loving yourself and getting cosmetic work aren’t opposites
The truth about Botox, fillers, and why she stays very picky
The brutal reality of post-baby body changes—and the surgeries that changed everything
Why cruelty-free skincare is a must (no excuses)
The real key to looking and feeling amazing at any age—spoiler: it’s not just lasers and serums
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[02:09] Loving Aging and Self-Confidence
[03:02] Pro Being Your Best, Not Anti-Aging
[05:09] Making Choices for Yourself
[06:02] Self-Love and Cosmetic Procedures
[07:39] Personal Transformation Journey
[08:00] Pregnancy and Body Changes
[12:02] Physical and Emotional Impact
[14:08] Non-Surgical Maintenance
[14:28] Botox and Fillers
[15:10] Invisalign and Dental Care
[16:14] Skincare and Animal Cruelty-Free Products
[17:17] Lasers and Microneedling
[17:39] The Real Secret to Looking and Feeling Your Best
[18:00] Conclusion
So whether you’re Botox-curious, all-natural, or somewhere in between—this episode is a reminder that it’s your face, your body, your rules. Do what makes you feel amazing and own it unapologetically.
🎥 Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/w81LQ0cqSqQ
💬 Comment: What’s one beauty or self-care choice you’ve made just for you? 👇
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From Male Attention to Overcoming Loneliness: Ask Me Anything about Turning Heads, Leveling Up and Feeling Connection
Hilary is diving into your questions, and as always, she’s keeping it real. In this Q&A episode, she tackles some of the biggest struggles high-achieving women face—from owning your confidence to battling that nagging loneliness even when your life looks great on paper. If you’ve ever felt unseen, stuck, or just plain over it, this episode is your wake-up call.
Episode Highlights:
Confidence isn’t about approval, it’s about presence. When you feel valuable, you become magnetic—no validation required.
Overwhelmed by personal growth? Forget the mile-long to-do list. Master your thoughts first, and everything else will follow.
Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. It’s about whether you’re truly seen in your relationships. Here’s how to deepen the connections you already have.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction and Listener Questions
[00:47] Turning Heads Over 50
[01:41] Addressing Male Attention Assumptions
[05:56] The Importance of Being Self-Centered
[07:09] Managing Your Mind and Thought Patterns
[08:24] Feeling Lonely Despite Having It All
[10:00] Situational vs. Existential Loneliness
[12:21] Authenticity and Deepening Connections
Ready for real transformation? Start reprogramming your thoughts with Hilary’s Daily Journal: https://hilarysilver.com/journal/ —a simple but powerful tool designed to shift your mindset and attract the life you actually want.
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Feeling Lost? 6 Practical Tools To Discover What You Really Want
So, you’ve hit a new phase in life—kids don’t need you as much, work feels like a never-ending rerun, and suddenly, you’re left with space. But instead of feeling free, you’re stuck wondering, "What the hell do I actually want?" Don’t worry, Hilary is here to drag you out of the “what now?” spiral and help you find your spark again.
In this episode, Hilary tackles that “I don’t even know what I want” dilemma with practical tools and a hefty dose of real talk. If you’ve been so busy playing all the roles—mom, career badass, caretaker—that you’ve forgotten who you are outside of them, this one’s for you.
Episode Highlights:
Jealousy isn’t a vibe killer; it’s a clue. Start paying attention to what makes you envious—it’s pointing you toward your desires.
You don’t have to overhaul your life in one go. Experiment, try stuff, and ditch what doesn’t fit (looking at you, Airstream).
Forget practicality for a second—what would you do if you had no limits?
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Finding What You Truly Want
[03:11] Exercise 1: Become a Master Observer of Yourself
[05:17] Exercise 2: Use Jealousy and Envy as Clues
[06:00] Exercise 3: The Magic Wand Question
[07:14] Exercise 4: Experiment Without Commitment
[08:27] Exercise 5: The Life Zone Exercise
[09:31] Exercise 6: Focus on Your Feelings
[10:55] Honoring Your Feelings in Daily Life
[12:10] Self-Satisfied Program and Conclusion
Ready to put yourself back at the top of your priority list? Check out Hilary’s Self-Satisfied Program: https://hilarysilver.com/shop/ for guided exercises (like the life zone!) and actionable steps to reclaim your time and energy.
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Welcome to the podcast that’s here to flip your world—and your mindset—upside down.
This is The Hilary Silver Podcast, where being self-centered isn’t selfish—it’s the cheat code to getting everything you want in life. Because when YOU are good, everything else falls into place. Your relationships, your confidence, your success, your body, your peace—they all start with you.
So, if you’ve been running yourself ragged trying to be everything for everyone and still wondering why you feel like crap, buckle up. It’s time to step into the role of the main character in your own life.
Hilary’s the straight-talking, script-flipping, former psychotherapist you didn’t know you needed—part brain science, part universal laws, and 100% no bullshit. She’s your bestie with receipts, here to help you stop waiting for permission, start trusting yourself, and finally build a life that feels as good as it looks.
Every week, Hilary dives into the real stuff—confidence, boundaries, aging, relationships, success—all the things that actually matter, without the fluff (or the toxic positivity). Just real talk, hard truths, and tools that work, served up with little spoonfuls of sweetness to help the medicine go down.
New episodes drop every Friday on all podcast platforms and YouTube.
Hit follow, tune in, and let’s make self-centered the best thing that’s ever happened to you.
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