Ready For Love with Hilary Silver

Staying fit and confident as you age has NOTHING to do with discipline or rules and everything to do with how devoted you are to yourself. Most fitness advice for women over 40 is exhausting. Push harder. Try again. Do more. Hilary says what a lot of women are already feeling but rarely hear out loud. That approach is not making you stronger. It is just making you tired. And it is definitely not building confidence. In this episode, Hilary shares the five principles that help her stay super fit without punishing her body or living by rigid rules. The conversation goes straight to the pattern underneath it all. Treating your body like a project that needs fixing. Handing your power to experts. Following rules that stop working and then blaming yourself when they fail. What if your body actually knows what it needs? What if consistency came from enjoying what you are doing instead of forcing it? This is not about food plans or workout schedules. It is about putting yourself back on your own list. When you stop making yourself optional, things shift. Your energy changes. Your body responds. You start to feel more like yourself again! Episode Highlights: Why pushing harder is not the answer The mindset shift that makes fitness stick Letting go of rules and trusting your body Choosing movement that actually feels good What changes when you make yourself the priority Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why “Discipline” Stops Working for Women as They Age 07:19 The Shift From Self-Discipline to Self-Devotion 10:39 Stop Following Fitness Rules and Trust Your Body 12:32 Making Movement Enjoyable 15:17 Making Yourself the Priority Changes Everything ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer Self-Centered Bundle: Built to Support the Real You Three intentional programs that work better together, plus The Daily Journal. Find it at readyforloveinc.com Cozy Earth: Make Rest a Habit You Look Forward To Up to 20% off + 100-Night Sleep Trial & 10-Year WarrantyUse code READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com

Confidence is not built by proving yourself through achievement.  Instead it happens by deciding you trust yourself no matter what happens. You can’t lose, no matter what. If you are successful on paper but feel unsure, self-doubting, or overly accommodating in dating and relationships, this episode will hit close to home. Hilary explains why confidence built through achievement works at work but falls apart in intimacy, and why so many smart women mistake competence for true confidence. The missing piece is certainty. When you trust yourself enough to know you will be okay no matter how things turn out, you stop shrinking, second-guessing, or settling. What changes when you no longer need proof before you act? Hilary reframes confidence as an internal decision rather than something you earn through results. She shares how committing to yourself, honoring your own boundaries, and using fear as a signal for growth creates confidence that does not disappear under pressure. This is the kind of confidence that follows you everywhere, changes how you show up in love, and makes you magnetic without trying. Episode Highlights: Achievement makes you good at things, not confident in yourself If your confidence depends on outcomes, it isn’t real. Real confidence starts when you trust yourself You don’t wait for confidence, you decide it Feeling scared usually means you’re on the right track Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Most Confidence Advice Is Wrong 02:56 The Real Foundation of Confidence: Self-Trust 05:52 How to Build Unshakable Confidence in Love and Life 12:04 Embracing Growth and Resilience ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply The Daily Journal Challenge A 90-Day Digital Journal + Free 7-Day Accountability Challenge Join us at readyforloveinc.com/challenge/

People pleasing in romantic relationships is often praised as being “easygoing” or emotionally smart, but it is actually self-betrayal that blocks real love, emotional safety, and genuine connection. In this episode, Hilary pulls the curtain back on approval seeking and emotional self abandonment. This is the habit of editing yourself, managing reactions, and shape shifting to avoid rejection. It can look polished on the outside, but it leaves you anxious, unseen, and quietly lonely. The attention you receive never lands because the real you never shows up. When love depends on performance, connection stays shallow and trust never fully forms. Hilary challenges the pattern head on. Why does someone else’s opinion outweigh your own. What are you protecting when you silence yourself. And what kind of relationship can exist if honesty feels risky. This conversation is a direct invitation to stop auditioning for acceptance and start choosing self loyalty. When you lead with who you actually are, the right people step closer and the wrong ones step out of the way. Episode Highlights: People pleasing is self betrayal, not kindness Approval never lands when the real you is hidden Shape shifting destroys emotional safety Performing creates loneliness, not connection Real love starts when you stop auditioning Episode Breakdown: 00:00 How People Pleasing Destroys Real Connection 02:58 The Psychology Behind Approval Seeking 06:13 Why Abandoning Yourself Leads to Loneliness 09:02 Breaking the Cycle of Inauthenticity 11:51 Embracing Your True Self for Real Connection ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply The Daily Journal Challenge A 90-Day Digital Journal + Free 7-Day Accountability ChallengeJoin us at readyforloveinc.com/challenge/

If your relationship looks good on paper but feels empty, this episode explains why settling in love keeps happening and how it quietly trains you to accept less in relationships. Hilary gets direct about why smart, capable women keep choosing the wrong men and staying in relationships that technically work but emotionally fall flat. This is not a dating pool problem. It is a self-worth and scarcity mindset issue that shows up when fear of being alone feels safer than asking for more. If you have ever talked yourself into “good enough” while feeling lonely in a relationship, this conversation will land. This episode is a reality check with teeth. Hilary challenges you to stop dating for someone’s potential instead of their reality, to stop excusing red flags, and stop waiting to be chosen. As 2026 approaches, the message is clear. Raise your standards, trust that what you want exists, and walk away from what does not align. The fastest way to stop settling in love is to stop accepting what you already know is not enough. Episode Highlights: How settling in relationships hides behind “good enough” Why smart women still choose the wrong men The fear that keeps you stuck in unfulfilling love Being chosen vs choosing on purpose Why dating potential never pays off Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Why Settling in Relationships Keeps You Unfulfilled 01: 05 What Settling Actually Looks Like 02:37 5 Reasons Why You Could Be Settling 10:03 How to Stop Settling and Get the Relationship You Want ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply AquaTru: Ultra-Pure Water You Can Actually Trust 20% Off Your Countertop Purifier Use Promo Code: READY at AquaTru.com The Daily Journal A 90-Day Digital Journal + Free 7-Day Accountability Challenge Join us at ReadyForLoveInc.com/challenge

Charlene thought she was ready to date after losing her husband and parents, but she struggled to find real love with the men she was dating. Each relationship reflected the same old wounds she carried into her marriage: overgiving, hoping for scraps of connection, and treating attention like approval. Nothing shifts until you’re willing to look at what keeps repeating and ask why it still has a hold on you. That question became her turning point. Inside the Ready for Love program, she rebuilt trust with herself. She named her dating non-negotiables for the first time in her life. She stepped into dating with a calm, grounded confidence that didn’t need someone else’s interest to feel worthy. What happens when a woman dates with that mindset? She attracts people who actually fit the life she wants rather than the wounds she’s healing. This episode offers a clear look at dating after loss, breaking old patterns, and choosing partners from strength rather than fear. It invites you to consider where your own standards live and whether you’ve been settling for connections that don't match the depth you want. Episode Highlights: Dating after loss and how grief can shape your patterns Why emotionally unavailable men kept showing up The moment Charlene recognized she needed a new approach How naming her non-negotiables changed her confidence What dating looks like when you lead with self-respect How falling in love with herself shifted everything Episode Breakdown: 00:00 Facing Grief and Loss 05:07 Reflections on Marriage and Relationships 11:40 The Self-Confidence Transformation Process 19:22 Dating Again With Real Confidence 24:40 Embracing Self-Love and Empowerment 31:24 Advice for Women Attracting the Wrong Men ✨ I’m Hilary Silver, LCSW, former psychotherapist turned master coach and founder of Ready for Love. I help high-achieving women show up in love as confidently as they do in their careers. 💡 Through this podcast, I share my WOMAN-centered, SELF-centered approach—time-tested methods that blend psychology, brain science, relationship skills, and no-BS dating advice. 🎙️ Since 2017, we’ve helped over 10,000 women with a 98% success rate, making Ready for Love the #1 program in the world for women who’ve tried everything else. ✨ Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and finally create the love you deserve?  🎯 Watch my free masterclass to learn the proven 4-step Ready for Love Method: https://readyforloveinc.com/masterclass 💬 Apply for a free Love Breakthrough Call with my team: https://readyforloveinc.com/apply LINKS: Cozy Earth: Your New Favorite Blanket Up to 40% off their Bubble Cuddle blanket and more. Use Promo Code: READYFORLOVE at CozyEarth.com AirDoctor: The Trusted Air Purifier for a Healthier Home Use Promo Code: READY Up to $300 off + Free 3-Year Warranty Exclusive Podcast Offer