Welcome to The Hilary Silver Podcast. Hilary started this podcast to invite listeners into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you more s...
Setting big goals is easy. Staying on track when life inevitably throws you a curveball? That’s the real challenge. In this episode, Hillary Silver shares seven game-changing tools to help you stay committed to your goals—even when you mess up (because you will, and that’s okay). Forget perfectionism; it’s about showing up for yourself, learning from setbacks, and making progress every day.
Hillary dives into the practical and mindset shifts needed to turn your resolutions into realities, without the self-sabotage or endless restarts. From getting crystal clear on your goals to forgiving yourself when things go sideways, this episode is packed with no-BS advice to keep you moving forward—even if you fall off the wagon a time or two.
Episode Highlights:
Get Clear AF on your goals—it's non-negotiable.
Break it down into bite-sized objectives and baby steps.
Celebrate mess-ups—they’re not failures, they’re feedback!
Reframe Success: Focus on effort and self-pride over external results.
Step into the identity of the future you who’s already achieved it.
Check Yourself! Are these goals really yours, or someone else’s expectations?
Forgive the mess-ups, recommit, and love yourself through it all.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Overcoming Goal Setbacks
[01:44] The Reality of Messing Up
[02:05] Tool 1: Clarify Your Big Goal
[03:18] Tool 2: Differentiate Goals and Objectives
[05:00] Tool 3: Celebrate Daily Progress
[07:00] Tool 4: Accept Imperfections and Mess-Ups
[08:24] Tool 5: Celebrate the Mess-Ups
[10:09] Tool 6: Talk to Yourself as Your Future Self
[12:27] Tool 7: Check Your True Motivation
[15:14] Tool 8: Forgive Yourself and Reconnect to Your Why
[16:27] Stay Committed to Your Goals
If you're tired of restarting the same goals and ready to finally show up for yourself with love and clarity, Hillary's got you covered. Check out her free mini training, This Changes Everything, and her programs designed to help you crush your goals with confidence. Grab them (and free resources!) at hilarysilver.com/guides. Let’s make this your year! 🌟
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16:51
How Letting Go Is the Ultimate Power Move
Control freaks, brace yourselves! In the final episode of her five-part series, Hilary serves up a truth bomb with the fifth core concept of her self-centered model: The outcome is internal. Translation? Stop obsessing over things you can’t control and start owning what’s already yours—your inner power.
Hilary breaks down why we tie our worth to things we can’t control—whether it’s nailing the job interview, getting the client deal, or making someone like us. Really, It’s a losing game. She shares how letting go of external outcomes doesn’t just free you from stress and anxiety—it gives you the ultimate power to thrive, no matter what.
Episode Highlights:
Why control is an illusion (and why your frantic grasping isn’t working).
How to measure success by how YOU show up, not how others respond.
The paradox of letting go: Stop chasing, start attracting.
Why the real win is inside you—and how to claim it.
Hilary’s soap analogy: Let go, or watch it slip through your fingers.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Seeking Certainty
[02:33] Anxiety and the Need for Certainty
[03:57] The Illusion of Control
[06:04] Claim YOUR Personal Power
[08:01] Releasing the Need for External Validation
[12:05] The Ultimate Paradox
Ready to make this mindset shift for real? Check out Hillary’s free mini video training, This Changes Everything, at https://hilarysilver.com/guides/. Stop chasing. Start thriving. It’s time to lean back and live big.
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13:44
Stop Letting Your Past Define You
Your past doesn’t define you—unless you let it. In this episode, Hilary Silver serves up a reality check with core concept number four of her self-centered model: identity is a choice. That’s right—who you are isn’t carved in stone, no matter what your childhood, parents, or society told you.
For too long, you’ve been letting outdated beliefs and hand-me-down narratives dictate your life. It’s time to rip up that old script and write a new one where YOU call the shots. Whether you’re 40, 50, or 60, it’s never too late to hop off the train of old beliefs and step into a new self-concept. And she’s living proof, sharing how she went from therapist to boss, business owner and beyond by redefining who she was—and who she wanted to be.
If you’re ready to get off that tired train of self-doubt and step into the CEO role of your life, this episode is for you. And trust us, it’s about to get personal, empowering, and a little uncomfortable—in the best way possible.
Episode Highlights:
Your identity isn’t fixed—why it’s time to stop believing your own BS.
How subconscious programming keeps you playing small (and how to smash it).
The four truths about identity that will change how you see yourself forever.
Hilary’s mic-drop moments: from small-town therapist to global powerhouse.
A challenge to rewrite your identity starting TODAY.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction to Identity Formation
[01:03] Subconscious Programming
[01:34] Core Concept #4: Identity is a Choice
[03:01] Focus on Identity
[03:22] Four Key Points on Identity
[03:32] Point 1: Expectations Shape Reality
[03:43] Point 2: Identity Beyond Labels
[04:04] Point 3: Beliefs are Not Facts
[04:37] Point 4: Identity Work as a Gateway
[06:11] Expanding Identity for Growth
[07:04] Challenge: Questioning Beliefs
Stop letting old stories run your life. Ready to level up? Grab her free mini video training, “This Changes Everything,” at hilarysilver.com/subscribe. I
It's time to own your story. 💥
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8:26
The Toxic Truth About Being Selfless
We’ve been told that putting others first is the hallmark of a good person, but what if that’s a big, fat lie? In this episode, Hilary Silver tackles the myth of selflessness head-on, revealing how this deeply ingrained belief isn’t just harmful—it’s downright toxic. Drawing on her decades of experience as a psychotherapist and lifestyle mentor, Hilary introduces the third core concept of her self-centered model: "In your life, you come first and you go first."
Hilary explains how the pressure to be selfless erodes self-worth, breeds resentment, and creates hollow, transactional relationships. She challenges the narrative that sacrificing yourself for others is noble, exposing how it leads to emotional burnout and a lifetime of feeling undervalued. Instead, Hilary offers a liberating alternative: prioritize yourself unapologetically. Because when you treat yourself with the respect and care you deserve, you teach others to do the same.
Episode Highlights:
Why “selflessness” is a toxic myth keeping you stuck and resentful.
How putting yourself first is the most selfless thing you can do.
The real reason self-sacrifice leaves you exhausted and undervalued.
Healthy giving vs. soul-sucking selflessness—know the difference.
Why modeling self-respect is the ultimate relationship game-changer.
The mindset shift that puts you back in control of your life.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[00:53] Meet Hillary Silver
[01:57] The Myth of Selflessness
[02:28] The Big Lie
[04:15] Consequences of Selflessness
[05:57] The Void and Compulsion to Give
[06:33] Resentment and Transactional Relationships
[07:05] Self-Serving Giving
[08:40] Healthy Giving vs. Selflessness
[09:12] Core Concept #3: You Come First
[12:54] Conclusion
Stop putting yourself last—it’s time to take the lead. 💅 Grab Hilary’s free mini video training, "This Changes Everything" and start making yourself the priority you’ve always deserved to be: https://hilarysilver.com/guides/
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13:49
Believing This Lie Leads To A Life Of Regret
Ever been told, “The world doesn’t revolve around you”? Yeah, same. Hillary is here to call BS on that tired cliché. In this episode, she’s rewriting the narrative and proving why your world absolutely should and DOES revolve around you
For too long, we’ve been guilted into thinking that putting ourselves first is wrong, especially women. Hillary is showing you why being the sun in your own universe is the only way to thrive. When you focus on your energy, your mindset, and your desires, every part of your life—relationships, career, health—levels up.
If you’re sick of playing small, living on autopilot, or settling for whatever life throws your way, this is your permission slip to flip the script. Hillary’s breaking down how to stop people-pleasing, start thinking about yourself (a lot), and live a life that’s unapologetically yours.
Episode Highlights:
Why “the world doesn’t revolve around you” is the real selfish statement.
How to reclaim your title as the star of your personal universe.
Why self-reflection is the ultimate power move.
Living on autopilot? Here’s why it’s killing your vibe.
The ripple effect: How leveling up one part of your life elevates everything.
Hillary’s personal mic-drop moment that changed her life.
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:57] Core Concept: Your World Revolves Around You
[02:29] The Impact of Your Energy on Your Life Areas
[04:37] Spend More Time Thinking About Yourself
[05:30] Knowing Yourself to Make Aligned Choices
[07:06] Elevating One Area Elevates All Areas
[08:08] The Power of Self-Realization
[08:29] The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth
[09:22] Conclusion
Ready to Make Yourself the Priority?
💡 Get Started Today and Head to hilarysilver.com/guides for free resources, including Hillary’s mini video training This Changes Everything and her 90-day Daily Journal—designed to help you own your life unapologetically.
Your world, your rules. Now, go claim your crown. 👑
Welcome to The Hilary Silver Podcast. Hilary started this podcast to invite listeners into conversations and workshops that are designed to help make you more successful in love and life by turning your focus towards the only person who really matters in your life: YOU. (Yeah, she said it). This isn’t a self-care podcast – it’s a self-centered one.
Why? Because, despite what your mom told you, you really are the center of the universe. Sound cringey? Scary? Selfish?
Good. It’s discomfort that is going to empower listeners to take radical responsibility for the only person they can change (hint: it’s the person staring back at them in the mirror).
The conversations on The Hilary Silver Podcast are designed to challenge long held beliefs about life, relationships and ourselves. Forget what you think you know about narcissism, relationships, therapy, anxiety, “successful” women & dating, wellness & aging, and a whole host of other topics that have all been talked to death… but never like this.
Hilary is the psychotherapist turned paradigm-shifting, script-flipping disrupter listeners didn’t know they needed in their lives… until now. She’s part woo, part neuroscience, and 100% no bullshit. And she’s here to help you become self-centered so you can become self-assured, self-made, self-loved, self-aware, self-reliant, self-sufficient, self-motivated, and some more!
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