They run companies, manage households, juggle a million responsibilities—and still find themselves accepting the bare minimum in love. Why?
In this Summer of Love kickoff, Hilary calls out the quiet epidemic of high-achieving women settling for less in their relationships. From doing all the emotional labor to accepting the bare minimum in return, Hilary spells out what “crumbs” really look like, and why so many women accept them without even realizing it.
The truth? Starving women eat crumbs. If you’ve spent a lifetime feeling emotionally underfed, even the smallest scrap of affection can feel like a meal. But that won’t get you the love you want, and it’s not your fault. The fix? Stop looking outward, and start filling yourself up from within.
If you’re ready to quit the chase and start receiving real love, this episode is your wake-up call.
Episode Highlights:
The subtle (and not-so-subtle) signs you're accepting crumbs
Why blaming men misses the point entirely
How emotional deprivation starts early—and shows up in dating
The difference between chasing love and attracting it
What it actually takes to become the woman who won’t settle
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why Strong Women Settle for Crumbs in Love
[00:56] Signs You're Settling for Less in Relationships
[02:10] How It Feels When You Accept Less Than You Deserve
[03:01] The Real Problem Isn't Him—It's You
[04:07] How Early Experiences Shape Your Standards
[05:32] The Solution: Heal, Fill, and Stop Settling
[07:10] Learn How to Get What You Want
Stop chasing scraps and start receiving the whole damn cake. Hilary shows you how to go from starving to self-fed—and why you are the only one who can do it.
🔗 Ready to quit settling and attract real love? Grab Hilary’s free masterclass: https://hilarysilver.com/masterclass
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This Book Changed How I Think & Live
Think you're doing all the work but still stuck? This episode might explain why.
Hilary breaks down the book that changed everything for her — and no, it wasn’t a psychology textbook, a trauma certification, or another high-ticket coaching program. It was an 85-page book from 1910: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles.
It’s not about money. It’s about mastering your mind, and understanding how your thoughts are either creating what you want... or reinforcing what you don’t.
Episode Highlights:
Why therapy, mindset work, and affirmations didn’t create lasting change
What “thinking truth regardless of appearances” really means (and why it’s so hard)
How to stop being a passive observer of your life and start becoming the architect
The real reason action without belief keeps you stuck
Why making the most of yourself is not selfish — it’s your responsibility
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] The Science of Getting Rich: What You’ve Been Missing
[01:14] Hilary’s Journey With the Book That Changed Everything
[03:54] How Your Thoughts Become Your Life
[05:52] Why Belief Must Come Before Proof
[07:27] Embodying the Version of You Who Has It
[08:41] Why Personal Growth Is Non-Negotiable
[11:10] Your Mind Is Your Greatest Asset
[12:14] Learn More + Work With Hilary
This is the episode to press play on if you’ve been “doing the work” but not seeing the results.
🔗 Resources:
– Apply for Ready for Love: https://readyforloveinc.com/program/
– Watch the free masterclass: https://readyforloveinc.com/
– You’ll also enjoy Listening To: How I Changed My Brain in 90 Days
– Read the book: The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles
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Prosperity Codes: What High-Vibe Women Never Do
Ever wonder why some women seem to have a magnetic pull for love, success, and good fortune? It’s not luck, it’s energy. In this episode, Hilary Silver breaks down the prosperity codes high-vibe women live by… and the 7 low-vibe habits you need to drop like yesterday’s leftovers if you want to get everything you say you want.
Episode Highlights:
Why complaining without action drags you down
The ego trap of blame and excuses
What victim energy really sounds like—and how to rise from it
How to stop chasing approval and own your worth
The entitlement trap vs. empowered action
What happens when you keep avoiding hard conversations
The quiet control of unsolicited advice (and how to drop it)
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Introduction
[01:17] Importance of High Vibe Behaviors
[01:48] Prosperity Code #1: Don't Complain Without Action
[03:03] Prosperity Code #2: Avoid Blame, Excuses, and Defensiveness
[04:07] Prosperity Code #3: Don't Live in Victim Energy
[06:02] Prosperity Code #4: Don't Seek External Validation
[07:06] Prosperity Code #5: Avoid Entitlement
[09:14] Prosperity Code #6: Don't Avoid Conflict
[11:13] Prosperity Code #7: Don't Offer Unsolicited Advice
[13:40] Embrace High Vibe Behaviors Without Judgment
[14:01] Conclusion
If you recognize yourself in any of these behaviors, good. Awareness is the first step. Now let’s shift into the energy of your next-level self.
✨ Want a free energetic reset? Grab Hilary’s mini video training, This Changes Everything, and start rewiring your vibe to match the life you actually want: https://hilarysilver.com/subscribe/
3 High Vibe Habits That Upgraded My Life: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TU-_3lZEqcg
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Over 40 Glow Up: How to Turn Heads This Summer
You don’t need a new serum, a new diet, or a new man to glow up this summer—you just need you. In this episode, Hilary is handing out the keys to radiance, and spoiler alert: they’re all about your energy, not your eye cream. Because glowing up has almost nothing to do with how you look and everything to do with how you feel.
From slowing down your pace to indulging in what actually lights you up, Hilary walks you through the internal shifts that make you magnetic. We’re talking presence over appearance. Being rather than doing. Feminine flow instead of frazzled hustle.
Episode Highlights:
Trade burnout for slow, sensual mornings
Choose desire over duty (yes, you can buy the sundress just because you want to)
Fill your calendar with you before it fills up with everyone else
Eat and drink like a woman who loves herself
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Rediscover Your Spark
[01:24] How to Have a Summer Glow Up
[01:35] Slow Down and Embrace Feminine Energy
[03:10] Let Yourself Receive and Indulge in Desire
[05:07] Prioritize Yourself and Fill Your Days with Intention
[07:07] Eat and Drink Like You Love Yourself
[08:49] Create a Powerful Morning Mindset Ritual
[11:06] Glow From Within: Presence Over Appearance
Because turning heads isn’t about getting attention—it’s about owning your presence so fully that people feel you walk in the room.
✨ Want to lock in the mindset that makes all this magic possible? Grab Hilary’s Daily Journal—it’s the exact method that’s helped thousands of women (herself included) rewire their brains and live from that grounded, glowing place every day: hilarysilver.com/journal
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Regrets Of The Living (Make These Changes Now)
We talk a lot about the regrets people have when they're dying, but what about the regrets we carry every single day?
In this episode, Hilary Silver, former therapist and master coach of 25 years, shares the four most common regrets she hears in her work with high-functioning women. These are micro-regrets that quietly erode your confidence, peace, and sense of self.
From staying silent when you should’ve spoken up, to ignoring your intuition, to being too critical of your appearance, Hilary unpacks the everyday ways we abandon ourselves, and how to stop.
Episode Highlights:
What self-abandonment really looks like (and how it shows up)
Why burnout keeps you from showing up as your best self
How to stop dismissing your inner voice
The sneaky regret most women have about their bodies—and how to stop repeating the cycle
Episode Breakdown:
[00:00] Why We Regret What We Do (and Don’t Do)
[01:47] Regret #1: Self-Abandonment in Relationships & Life
[04:36] Regret #2: Not Being Your Best Self
[06:33] Regret #3: Ignoring Your Intuition
[07:46] Regret #4: Being Too Hard on Yourself
[09:33] How to Learn from Regret Without Shame
Regret can either weigh you down or wake you up. This episode is your reminder to choose differently, starting now.
✨ Want more? Sign up for Hilary’s free weekly newsletter, Self-Centered, where she shares mindset shifts and lifestyle favorites: https://hilarysilver.com/newsletter/
Welcome to the podcast that’s here to flip your world—and your mindset—upside down.
This is The Hilary Silver Podcast, where being self-centered isn’t selfish—it’s the cheat code to getting everything you want in life. Because when YOU are good, everything else falls into place. Your relationships, your confidence, your success, your body, your peace—they all start with you.
So, if you’ve been running yourself ragged trying to be everything for everyone and still wondering why you feel like crap, buckle up. It’s time to step into the role of the main character in your own life.
Hilary’s the straight-talking, script-flipping, former psychotherapist you didn’t know you needed—part brain science, part universal laws, and 100% no bullshit. She’s your bestie with receipts, here to help you stop waiting for permission, start trusting yourself, and finally build a life that feels as good as it looks.
Every week, Hilary dives into the real stuff—confidence, boundaries, aging, relationships, success—all the things that actually matter, without the fluff (or the toxic positivity). Just real talk, hard truths, and tools that work, served up with little spoonfuls of sweetness to help the medicine go down.
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