The Thais Gibson Podcast

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Do you feel overwhelmed by panic, fear, or loneliness when someone pulls away?
Do your emotions feel sudden, intense, and impossible to calm, even when you know you’re safe?

If you have an Anxious Attachment Style, this isn’t a personal flaw, it’s a trauma response rooted in early attachment experiences.

In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why Anxious Attachment triggers feel so intense, what “arrested development” really means, and how somatic processing can help soothe your nervous system so you can self-soothe without self-judgment or shame.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why struggling to self-soothe is not weakness, it’s survival conditioning
How early abandonment fears create intense adult triggers
What arrested development looks like during emotional activation
How somatic processing helps regulate panic and fear
Why your triggers are trauma responses, not personality flaws

Key Insights Covered:
Anxious attachment panic is often a subconscious fear of abandonment and survival
Emotional overwhelm can pull you into a younger, frozen emotional state
Trauma lives in the body, not just the mind
Somatic tools help you witness emotions instead of being consumed by them
Compassion and nervous system regulation are essential for healing

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
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📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
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📝 Read the PDS Blog
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Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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The Dark Tetrad - Epstein & Huge Dating Red Flags to Spot Early.

The Dark Tetrad refers to four socially harmful personality traits that can show up in dating, friendships, communities, and even positions of power:

Narcissism
Machiavellianism
Psychopathy
Sadism

Episode Summary
In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down how these traits operate, how they overlap with grooming and manipulation dynamics, and most importantly, how to spot early warning signs before you learn the hard way. This isn’t about diagnosing people. It’s about pattern recognition so you can protect your boundaries, your emotional health, and your future relationships.

In today’s video, you’ll learn:
• What the Dark Tetrad is and why it matters in dating
• How narcissistic traits present early on
• The strategic manipulation behind Machiavellianism
• The emotional coldness and lack of remorse tied to psychopathy
• The disturbing enjoyment of others’ discomfort seen in sadism

You’ll also learn how to trust your body’s signals; confusion, anxiety, walking on eggshells as early indicators that something may not be right.

Awareness is empowerment.

Key Takeaways
✔️The difference between personality traits and clinical diagnoses
✔️How narcissists respond to boundaries and micro-disappointments
✔️Why Machiavellian individuals treat your “no” like a problem to solve
✔️The “remorse test” for identifying psychopathic traits
✔️How sadistic tendencies can show up in dark humor, escalation, or cruelty
✔️Why chronic confusion and nervous system stress are red flags

Timestamps
00:00 – The Dark Tetrad
01:14 – 1. Narcissism
01:51 – Signs of Narcissism
03:37 – 2. Machiavellianism
04:43 – Signs of Machiavellianism
07:45 – 14-Day Trial Promo
08:34 – 3. Psychopathy
09:15 – Signs of Psychopathy
12:51 – 4. Sadism
13:02 – Signs of Sadism
14:04 – Final Thoughts

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access:
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If you value independence, feel uncomfortable with emotional closeness, or tend to pull away when relationships deepen, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style.

These patterns aren’t about a lack of care or desire for connection, they’re subconscious protection strategies developed to avoid emotional overwhelm, vulnerability, or feeling trapped.

In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down 10 common ways Dismissive Avoidant attachment can sabotage intimacy, helping you recognize these patterns with compassion and understand how to shift them so relationships can feel safer, more connected, and more sustainable.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why emotional distance can feel safer than closeness
How counterdependence develops from early emotional neglect
Why commitment may trigger fears of being trapped
How minimizing vulnerability and needs damages intimacy
What causes quick exits, intermittent reinforcement, and shutdowns
How learning healthy interdependence supports secure attachment

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access:
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Understanding the Fearful Avoidant Push-Pull Cycle
If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, relationships can feel like an exhausting emotional pendulum, pulling you toward closeness one moment and pushing you away the next.

In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down why Fearful Avoidants experience this push-pull dynamic and how healing begins by understanding your activating and deactivating strategies, the stories you tell yourself, and the unmet needs driving these patterns.

Episode Summary
Fearful avoidants often carry both anxious and avoidant wounds at the same time. This creates inner conflict, wanting closeness while also fearing it.

In this episode, you’ll learn:
Why Fearful Avoidants swing between activation and deactivation
How trauma, core wounds, and subconscious stories fuel push-pull patterns
Why calm, secure relationships can feel unsafe or unfamiliar
How emotional regulation helps you identify and meet your real needs
How questioning your internal stories brings you back to balance
Healing isn’t about choosing closeness or distance, it’s about learning how to return to center.

Key Takeaways
Fearful Avoidants have both activating (anxious) and deactivating (avoidant) sides
Push-pull patterns are driven by unmet needs and core wounds, not character flaws
Awareness is the first step, noticing when you’ve left emotional center
Questioning your stories helps prevent emotional dysregulation
Regulating your nervous system allows you to express needs more clearly and safely

Timestamps
00:00 – The Fearful Avoidant’s Push Pull Patterns
00:34 – Fearful Avoidants Have an Activating and Deactivating Side
02:45 – Take Notice of Your Activating And Deactivating Tendencies
03:15 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo
03:51 – Question Your Stories
05:32 – Regulating Your Emotions Can Help You Meet Your Needs

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/