The Thais Gibson Podcast

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If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, the people who frustrate, hurt, or emotionally activate you the most are not random. They are mirrors, reflecting the parts of yourself that have been repressed, conditioned, or pushed into the shadows in order to survive.

In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down one of the most powerful healing tools for attachment recovery: relationship shadow work and how your triggers reveal the subconscious patterns shaping your relationships, self-worth, and emotional safety.

🎥 EPISODE SUMMARY

In this episode, you’ll learn how the relationship shadow, a concept rooted in Carl Jung’s work, directly influences fearful avoidant patterns in love and connection. When parts of you were once shamed, punished, or deemed unsafe to express, they didn’t disappear, they went underground.

These hidden traits show up later as intense emotional reactions to others. Whether it’s feeling taken advantage of, disrespected, controlled, dismissed, or overwhelmed by closeness and distance, your triggers are signposts pointing toward unresolved inner conflict and unmet needs.

You’ll also learn the difference between the shadow and the golden shadow, why Fearful Avoidants often abandon themselves to stay safe, and how this creates painful relationship dynamics that can be healed through conscious integration and boundary repair.

✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Why your strongest emotional triggers reveal what you’ve been taught to repress
• How Fearful Avoidants often take advantage of themselves to please others
• The hidden link between people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and resentment
• How lack of boundaries creates feelings of being disrespected or controlled
• Why you may attract dismissive or anxious partners and how this mirrors inner patterns
• Practical reflection questions to integrate shadow traits in a healthy, balanced way
• How daily awareness and small behavioral shifts can reprogram attachment patterns

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
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📚 Read the Learning Love Book
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🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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Do You Actually Want Love… Or Do You Just Want to Be Chosen?

The feeling of not being chosen by someone you deeply care about can feel devastating. But what if the real wound isn’t about love at all?

In this powerful episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the deeper subconscious pattern behind the need to be chosen and how it may be rooted in unresolved childhood experiences. You’ll learn why this pattern keeps repeating, what healthy love is actually supposed to feel like, and how to finally shift out of chasing and into secure connection.

Episode Summary
The desire to be chosen often masks something much deeper: a subconscious belief that being selected equals worthiness. When this pattern forms in childhood through not feeling fully seen, safe, or special, it can show up later as chasing emotionally unavailable partners or investing in people who don’t fully choose you.

In this video, you’ll uncover the five pillars of healing this wound, including understanding your subconscious comfort zone, recognizing how you may be recreating unresolved childhood experiences, and learning how to truly choose yourself first.

Because the truth is: healthy love is not supposed to feel like auditioning.

Key Takeaways
• Why not being chosen feels so painful and grief-oriented
• How wanting to be chosen can stem from childhood experiences
• The difference between conscious desire and subconscious programming
• Why we subconsciously choose familiar (even painful) dynamics
• What secure love is actually supposed to feel like
• How choosing yourself rewires your subconscious comfort zone
• Practical steps to begin healing and building self-alignment

Timestamps
00:00 – The Feeling of Not Being Chosen
01:27 – 1. Think of a Time When You Wanted to Be Chosen
03:36 – 2. The Desire to Be Chosen Is a Recreation of an Unresolved Childhood Event
05:16 – 14-Day Trial Promo
06:06 – 3. We Choose What to Invest in From Our Subconscious Mind
09:12 – 4. Love Is Not Supposed to Feel Like That
11:24 – We Heal This When We Learn to Choose Ourselves
12:32 – 5. In Order to Change, You Have to Start With Your Subconscious Comfort Zone
14:51 – Steps to Heal

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Explore Your Attachment Style With Thais Gibson. Access All Courses, Live Webinars & Q&As Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Access:
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If you have an Anxious Attachment style, the urge to get closure from someone who pulled away, ghosted you, or shut down can feel overwhelming. But chasing closure from the wrong person often keeps you stuck, emotionally drained, and unable to move on.

In this episode, Thais Gibson explains why seeking closure isn’t actually the need and what to do instead to regain emotional stability, certainty, and peace.

🎥 EPISODE SUMMARY

When someone won’t explain themselves or emotionally meet you after a breakup, it can feel impossible to move forward. But what feels like a need for closure is often a need for certainty.

In this episode, Thais walks anxious attachment styles through a grounded, practical framework to stop chasing answers from someone who isn’t capable of giving them. You’ll learn how to evaluate whether a person can provide healthy closure, how to understand the emotional “void” left behind, and how to begin meeting your own unmet needs so you can heal more quickly and fully.

These steps help you stop looping in rumination, regain emotional safety, and build secure self-connection, without needing anything from your ex.

✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Why seeking closure from the wrong person keeps you stuck
• The difference between closure and certainty
• How to tell if someone is capable of giving healthy closure
• Why Anxious Attachment styles struggle most with uncertainty
• How to reframe unmet needs after a breakup
• What you’re really grieving when you miss your ex
• How self-validation and need-meeting accelerate healing

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

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If you crave deep connection but feel stuck in cycles of push-pull, anxiety, or emotional exhaustion… this isn’t because you’re broken, it’s because your nervous system learned to associate love with threat.

And the good news?
That conditioning can be rewired.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 clear signs a Fearful Avoidant attachment style may not yet be ready for a healthy relationship and what must shift internally before secure love can truly thrive.

You’ll learn how unresolved core wounds, nervous system dysregulation, and unconscious relationship patterns can keep pulling you into chaos, intensity, or emotional burnout — even when you deeply want stability and closeness.

Most importantly, this episode shows you what healing actually requires, so you can stop repeating old patterns and start choosing relationships from safety, clarity, and self-trust.

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why hot-and-cold patterns signal unresolved attachment conditioning
✔ How “testing” replaces healthy communication for Fearful Avoidants
✔ Why intensity can feel like chemistry when your nervous system is used to chaos
✔ How jumping to worst-case conclusions keeps you emotionally dysregulated
✔ The importance of knowing and communicating your needs before committing to a relationship
✔ Why nervous system regulation alone isn’t enough — and what must be rewired underneath

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Get the Somatic Attachment Healing Course Free for Life When You Start Your 7‑Day Trial of the All-Access Pass.

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If you keep feeling confused, disconnected, or emotionally shut out in relationships or you find yourself attracted to people who pull away when things get close, this episode is for you.

Avoidant patterns aren’t about not caring.
They’re about a nervous system that learned closeness wasn’t safe.

And that pattern can be healed.

🎥 Episode Summary

In today’s episode, Thais Gibson breaks down 5 major signs a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style may not yet be ready for a healthy relationship, and how to recognize whether real healing is actually taking place.

This episode is especially powerful if you’re:

Dating someone avoidant and unsure how to proceed

Recovering from repeated emotional distancing or shutdown

Or working on your own avoidant patterns and want to know what to heal next

You’ll learn how avoidant strategies like emotional distancing, intellectualized vulnerability, conflict avoidance, and ambiguous commitment are rooted in unhealed core wounds and what must shift internally for secure, lasting connection to be possible.

✨ Key Takeaways

✔ Why “needing space after closeness” is an avoidant strategy, not independence
✔ How low-maintenance connection replaces emotional intimacy
✔ Why vulnerability gets intellectualized instead of felt
✔ The role unresolved core wounds play in nervous system shutdown
✔ How conflict avoidance blocks long-term relationship safety
✔ Why ambiguous commitment is a sign of emotional unavailability
✔ How minimizing your needs creates long-term relational harm

Meet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.

Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast

🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1

📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/

Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/