The Thais Gibson Podcast

Start 2026 With Secure Love & True Emotional Wholeness. Get a Free 7-day Trial and keep our Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/new-year-new-you?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-new-you&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-07-26&el=podcast If you have an Anxious Attachment style, the urge to get closure from someone who pulled away, ghosted you, or shut down can feel overwhelming. But chasing closure from the wrong person often keeps you stuck, emotionally drained, and unable to move on. In this video, Thais Gibson explains why seeking closure isn’t actually the need and what to do instead to regain emotional stability, certainty, and peace. 🎥 EPISODE SUMMARY When someone won’t explain themselves or emotionally meet you after a breakup, it can feel impossible to move forward. But what feels like a need for closure is often a need for certainty. In this episode, Thais walks Anxious Attachment styles through a grounded, practical framework to stop chasing answers from someone who isn’t capable of giving them. You’ll learn how to evaluate whether a person can provide healthy closure, how to understand the emotional “void” left behind, and how to begin meeting your own unmet needs so you can heal more quickly and fully. These steps help you stop looping in rumination, regain emotional safety, and build secure self-connection, without needing anything from your ex. ✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS • Why seeking closure from the wrong person keeps you stuck • The difference between closure and certainty • How to tell if someone is capable of giving healthy closure • Why Anxious Attachment styles struggle most with uncertainty • How to reframe unmet needs after a breakup • What you’re really grieving when you miss your ex • How self-validation and need-meeting accelerate healing ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – Seeking Closure Is Not Always the Answer 00:45 – Step 1: Ask Yourself if This Person Is Capable of Giving You Closure 02:11 – Step 2: Remember That You Are Experiencing a Void of Certainty in This Situation 04:22 – Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Promo 04:41 – Step 3: Look at How Other Needs Were Being Met in That Relationship 05:32 – Step 4: Make a List of the Things You Miss About Your Ex Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Start 2026 With Secure Love & True Emotional Wholeness. Get a Free 7-day Trial and keep our Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/new-year-new-you?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=new-year-new-you&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-05-26&el=podcast If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, the people you feel drawn to are not random. They are often deeply connected to your subconscious comfort zone, nervous system conditioning, and unhealed emotional wounds. In this video, Thais Gibson explains the four most common archetypes Fearful Avoidants are attracted to and exactly what each attraction reveals about where you are in your healing journey and what needs to shift to move toward secure attachment. 🎥 EPISODE SUMMARY Fearful Avoidants often want emotionally healthy, secure relationships, yet repeatedly find themselves pulled toward partners who feel unsafe, unavailable, or overwhelming. Why? Because the subconscious mind is wired for familiarity, not happiness. In this episode, you’ll learn how subconscious conditioning and nervous system dysregulation drive attraction patterns, why chaos can feel like chemistry, and how different attachment archetypes mirror specific inner wounds. Thais walks through four relationship archetypes, including other Fearful Avoidants, Dismissive Avoidants, Anxious partners, and narcissistic types, so you can clearly identify your patterns and begin healing them at the root. ✨ KEY TAKEAWAYS • Why attraction is driven by subconscious safety, not conscious desire • How your “type” reflects how you treat yourself emotionally • The role of nervous system regulation in breaking trauma bonds • Why Fearful Avoidants are drawn to chaos, distance, pressure, or control • How each relationship archetype points to a specific healing focus • What to work on to stop repeating painful relationship cycles • How subconscious healing + somatic work create real change ⏱ TIMESTAMPS 00:00 – You May Be Attracted to the Wrong People 01:00 – We Are Attracted to Those Aligned With Our Subconscious Comfort Zone 02:36 – Archetype 1: The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 05:17 – The Power of Nervous System Regulation and Subconscious Healing Work 06:36 – Key Pillars for a Secure Relationship Promo 06:55 – Archetype 2: The Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style 08:09 – Archetype 3: The Anxious Preoccupied Attachment Style 08:55 – Archetype 4: Narcissists Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Unlock clarity, healing, and emotional freedom this Boxing Week with Thais Gibson. Start your FREE 7-day trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics-flashsale&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-31-25&el=podcast When a Dismissive Avoidant suddenly pulls away, stops responding, or “goes missing,” it can feel confusing, painful, and deeply personal. But what’s actually happening beneath the surface is far more complex and far less about you than you might think. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the real emotional and nervous-system processes driving dismissive avoidance, including shame responses, fear of vulnerability, and learned patterns around conflict and emotional expression. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of this behavior, or if you recognize these patterns in yourself, this video offers clarity, compassion, and a powerful path forward. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why Dismissive Avoidants often withdraw after moments of emotional closeness How vulnerability activates shame and fear around emotional expression The role of unresolved family dynamics and emotional modeling Why conflict feels overwhelming or unworkable for dismissive avoidants How avoidance becomes a strategy for escaping uncomfortable emotions Why healing these patterns creates more freedom, safety, and connection in relationships ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – What the Dismissive Avoidant Is REALLY DOING When They Go Missing 00:31 – Dismissive Avoidants and Vulnerability in Relationships 01:29 – Dismissive Avoidants and Conflict in Relationships 02:23 – Dismissive Avoidants Have Core Fears About Their Own Emotions 03:14 – The Shame Response 04:41 – Healing Family Trauma Promo 05:27 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Go Missing 07:07 – Why Dismissive Avoidants Disconnect 08:01 – Why You Should Work On This If You Are A Dismissive Avoidant Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/

Unlock Clarity, Healing, and Emotional Freedom This Boxing Week With Thais Gibson. Start your FREE 7-day trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics-flashsale&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-29-25&el=podcast Do you feel yourself pulling away when someone gets close — only to panic when they create distance? This hot and cold cycle is one of the most painful and confusing patterns of the Fearful Avoidant attachment style. In this video, Thais Gibson explains exactly why this cycle happens, what’s really being triggered beneath the surface, and how to finally break free from it in a healthy, secure way. If you’ve ever felt stuck in make-up and break-up dynamics, struggled to settle into relationships, or felt overwhelmed by closeness and distance at the same time — this episode is for you. Fearful Avoidants often experience intense emotional polarities — craving closeness while simultaneously fearing it. In this episode, Thais breaks down: • Why Fearful Avoidants feel overwhelmed when partners pursue them • Why distance can suddenly trigger anxiety and chasing behaviors • How unresolved childhood core wounds fuel hot-and-cold relationship cycles • Why pushing someone away feels like “relief” — but leads to regret later • How emotional literacy, boundaries, and subconscious healing change everything You’ll learn how these patterns form, why they repeat, and what it actually takes to feel safe, settled, and secure in relationships — without losing yourself. ✨ Key Takeaways • Why Fearful Avoidants struggle to trust and settle into relationships • How core wounds like abandonment, entrapment, and unworthiness get activated • The real reason behind make-up and break-up cycles • Why pushing someone away is a trauma response — not a true desire • How to identify needs instead of reacting from fear • The role of subconscious reprogramming in lasting healing • What healthy bonding actually looks like for Fearful Avoidants ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Hot and Cold Patterns 00:49 – The Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style 01:40 – Fearful Avoidants Struggle to Settle Into Relationships 03:49 – When Core Wounds Get Triggered 05:57 – Boxing Week: Sex Course Promo 06:42 – The Make Up and Breakup Cycle 09:22 – Healing Your Core Wounds Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentTheory #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #HotAndCold #RelationshipHealing #SubconsciousHealing #DisorganizedAttachment #EmotionalHealing #SecureAttachment

Unlock Clarity, Healing, and Emotional Freedom This Boxing Week With Thais Gibson. Start your FREE 7-day trial to the Personal Development School and get the Healing Family Dynamics Course ($250 Value) FREE for Life. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/healing-family-dynamics-flashsale?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=healing-family-dynamics-flashsale&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-12-27-25&el=podcast If you’ve ever felt torn between craving closeness and pulling away, this episode will help you finally understand why. Fearful Avoidant attachment can feel like living in constant emotional contradiction, longing for intimacy while fearing it at the same time. In this episode, Thais Gibson dives deep into the inner world of the Fearful Avoidant, unpacking the subconscious patterns, core wounds, and survival strategies that quietly shape relationships from the inside out. You’ll gain compassionate insight into what’s really happening beneath the surface and, more importantly, how healing and secure connection are absolutely possible. In this conversation, Thais explores three core patterns that define the Fearful Avoidant inner world: • The push–pull dynamic of yearning for closeness while fearing emotional safety • Hypervigilance, resentment buildup, and difficulty communicating needs • Deep-seated unworthiness wounds that drive overgiving and self-sacrifice Through real-life examples, personal reflection, and practical guidance, you’ll learn how Fearful Avoidant behaviors develop and how awareness, communication, and subconscious rewiring can transform relationships from the inside out. Whether you identify as Fearful Avoidant or love someone who does, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and real tools for healing. ✨ Key Takeaways • Why Fearful Avoidants experience intense emotional push–pull • How hypervigilance leads to resentment and emotional shutdown • The danger of expecting partners to “mind-read” needs • How unworthiness wounds fuel overgiving and burnout • How to question internal stories instead of reacting from fear • Practical ways to communicate needs with clarity and safety • Why subconscious healing is essential for lasting change ⏱️ Timestamps 00:00 – Attachment Style Quiz 00:42 – Intro 03:50 – 1 — They Yearn for and Fear Closeness 09:46 – Hypervigilance and Resentment Buildup 16:46 – Gaining Awareness and Ways to Communicate 22:16 – Healing Family Dynamics Course Promo 23:04 – 2 — They Expect You to Mind-Read 28:23 – Question Your Story and Meet the Need 31:46 – Transparency in Relationships 40:08 – 3 — They Have an "Unworthiness" Core Wound 48:31 – Final Thoughts 51:27 – Conclusion Meet the Host Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships. Helpful Resources: 🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 📚 Read the Learning Love Book https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast 🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1 📝 Read the PDS Blog https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/ Let’s Connect on Socials: 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson 💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ #FearfulAvoidant #AttachmentTheory #PersonalDevelopmentSchool #HealingRelationships #SubconsciousHealing #EmotionalHealing #AttachmentStyles #InnerChildHealing #RelationshipGrowth