The Baddest Bitch in the Building

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Mansplainers are the unpaid interns of the patriarchy. Annoying, yes. Useful, also yes.

In this episode, I break down a simple psychological formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage. Because it’s time to stop playing fair in an unfair world. When you understand the psychology behind why someone feels the need to explain everything to you, the dynamic DRASTICALLY changes.

Instead of shutting them down, you guide the conversation, lower their guard, and steer the interaction where you want it to go.

Smart women don’t get mad. They redirect a mansplainer’s impulse to explain into leverage.

This episode explains the same elicitation techniques used by intelligence professionals in agencies like the FBI and CIA. These methods help investigators gather information without triggering defensiveness. The same principles apply in everyday conversations, at work, in dating, and in social settings.

I’ll discuss:

The elicitation technique used by intelligence agencies to gather information
The three-step formula that turns mansplaining into a strategic advantage
The psychology behind mansplaining
How to lower someone’s guard so they reveal more than they intended
How “nice girl” conditioning trains women to give away their power
Why strategic communication is not manipulation

Timestamps:
0:00 Intro
3:30 How to use elicitation on mansplainers
9:10 Unlearning “nice girl” grooming
19:07 Join the Patreon
20:54 The psychological formula
33:41 Is this manipulative?

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.
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In this episode, I talk about why so many women feel the need to keep explaining themselves. Over explaining often comes from people pleasing, fear of judgment, and subtle social power dynamics. Once you see the pattern, you start noticing how explaining yourself too much affects confidence, boundaries, and the way people (don't) respect you.

I'll break down the psychology behind over explaining, why women do it, and the mindset shift that helps you stop explaining yourself and start being taken seriously.

This episode is complimentary to the one directly preceding it (Girly law of power #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone).

PS I strongly recommend you listen to this with earphones to get the full experience. You'll see what I mean...because when I told y'all everything up until late 2025 was just a WARM UP!! This is the most intricately produced episode I've ever created. I'm so excited for you to listen.

0:00 Intro
3:32 Why women have a compulsion to over explain
12:52 How over explaining creates an ENERGY VACUUM
17:02 6 ways to stop over explaining yourself
31:43 My final gift to you

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]
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We've made it to law #32! Not that it's a particularly important number...I'm just grateful to have all you baddies here <3

Being understood is bloody exhausting. It's also a way we get emotional safety, because we've been brainwashed to believe that our truth is only valid if others understand and accept it. What a load of baloney.

In this episode, we're throwing out this rotten baloney by discussing:
How being understood is a fear-based response
Why the patriarchy benefits from our compulsion to feel understood
How this damages people's perception of us & makes them respect us less
5 ways to unlearn this compulsion
The patriarchy loophole we can exploit when we stop trying to be understood

✨Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building.

Love, Neeki
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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]
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In this episode, I break down every week of our menstrual cycle and to help you understand what’s happening hormonally, what your body needs from you, and how you can sync your cycle to your life.

We’ll discuss:
All 4 weeks: Menstruation, the follicular phase, ovulation, and the luteal phase
How your estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone levels are changing
What this means for your mood, energy levels, productivity, sociability, and physical performance
What your body is trying to do during each phase
What each phase is best suited for

Timestamps:
2:03 - Intro, the basics of the follicular & luteal phases, estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone
9:01 - Week 1: Menstruation (Winter)
22:29 - Week 2: Follicular (Spring)
28:54 - Week 3: Ovulation (Summer)
38:21 - Week 4 Luteal (Autumn)
47:08 - Improving your gut health to address PMDD & PMS

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Sources:
Association Between Magnesium Intake and Migraine Among Pre and Postmenopausal Women: A Cross-Sectional Study
Headaches and Magnesium: Mechanisms, Bioavailability, Therapeutic Efficacy and Potential Advantage of Magnesium Pidolate
Ovulatory cycle effects on tip earnings by lap dancers: economic evidence for human estrus?
Oxygen, Hormones, and Performance: A Case Study of Menstrual Cycle Effects on Athletic Physiology
Period Power by Maisie Hill
The effect of diet and aerobic exercise on Premenstrual Syndrome: Randomized controlled trial
The Estrobolome: The Gut Microbiome-Estrogen Connection
Women’s body odour during the ovulatory phase modulates testosterone and cortisol levels in men

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]
🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon
💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

📚 Want the first 20 Girly Laws of Power in book format? Get a SIGNED (!!) copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here, shipped directly from me.
You can also purchase on Amazon or get a PDF or EPUB file.
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From the time we're little girls, we're taught that romantic love is something we should aspire to. That when we grow up, we have to find Mr. Right and marry him for love. And if we don't marry for love, we're shallow, demanding, gold diggers.

The real gold diggers are men who sell the myth of romantic love, because they have nothing else to offer.

In this episode, we'll map out romantic love to the 4 rungs of the marketing funnel (awareness, consideration, conversion, loyalty) and discuss how love has been used as a recruitment strategy by the patriarchy.

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🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us.

👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies.

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🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: @baddestbinthebldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ @baddest.b.in.the.bldg
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💘 Collabs/partnerships: [email protected]
🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon
💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠, a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.