One Part Lion - One Part Lamb with Stephen Scoggins

You can have the house, the car, the trophies and the stage, and still be stuck asking, "And then what?" Performance coach Tanya C. Oliver hit that question at rock bottom, and her answer wasn't to rebuild her old life. It was to build something completely new.
Tanya is a performance coach for Kingdom entrepreneurs with more than 20 years teaching high achievers emotional intelligence, high-performance habits and leadership. She's also the author of Building the New. In this conversation, she and Stephen get honest about why successful people keep repeating the same patterns, how to stop making decisions from dysregulation, and what it takes to build an identity rooted in Christ instead of outcomes.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why rebuilding your old life keeps you stuck, and how to build new from ground zero
- The 3-part framework for transforming any area of your life: be honest, get curious, seek solutions
- The difference between a goal and a vision, and why clarity only comes when you move
- A 4-part framework for regulating your emotions before you execute
- Why procrastination isn't laziness, and what's really driving it
- How your values and standards act as bodyguards against counterfeits in business and relationships
Chapters:
(00:00) Intro & Welcome
(04:13) Building the New: Rock Bottom & Going All In
(09:44) Honest Inventory: The 3-Part Framework
(15:49) Success for Who? Life Before Going All In
(21:23) Goals vs. Visions
(25:44) Procrastination, Pressure & Refinement
(31:27) Regulation Before Execution: The 4-Part Framework
(37:46) Fear vs. Love: Healing the Root
(49:13) Inner Child Work & Forgiving Yourself
(1:01:02) "A Daughter of the King" & Stewarding Self
(1:15:06) Your Standards Are Your Bodyguards
(1:22:08) Rapid Fire
Connect with Tanya C. Oliver:
Building the New: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1966152574?lv=shuf&channelId=500&plpRedirect=mhFallback
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tanyacoliver/
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Connect with Stephen Scoggins:
Website: https://stephenscoggins.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_scoggins
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephenscoggins
Watch on YouTube: @LionLambWithStephen
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Remy Davenport has generated 850 million views for his clients, and he still turns founders away. His reason: a platform only amplifies what's already inside you, and he won't put a megaphone on dysfunction.
Stephen Scoggins sits down with Remy, a content strategist who builds platforms for faith-led founders, to explore one of the hardest questions in leadership: when are you ready to be seen, and when is God still building you in the hidden season?
Remy opens up about shutting down two businesses at the same time with no income, no savings, and a baby on the way. He also shares the co-founder fallout that taught him what dysfunction really costs. Stephen reveals the one line that redefined his entire message: you can't scale dysfunction.
In this episode:
- Why your platform will only amplify what's already inside you
- The Gandhi sugar story and what real credibility looks like
- Why imposter syndrome can mean you're teaching what you haven't lived
- How Remy's clients create 36 pieces of content in 3 hours
- How the algorithm actually works now, and how to reach your real followers
- Why "who you're becoming" matters more to God than what you're building
This is the Lion and Lamb methodology in action: the boldness to build a platform, paired with the humility to let God build you first.
Chapters:
00:00 Intro & Welcome
03:46 The Power of a Voice
08:06 The Parable of the Talents & Stewardship
17:53 Credibility & Imposter Syndrome
26:41 You Can't Scale Dysfunction
32:46 Who You're Becoming
36:28 Shutting Down Two Businesses
49:59 Smart Sessions
55:03 How the Algorithm Works Now
1:01:03 Alignment Before Acceleration
1:14:32 Lion or Lamb: Remy's Biggest Struggle
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Connect with Stephen:
Website: https://stephenscoggins.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_scoggins
YouTube: @LionLambWithStephen
Connect with Remy Davenport:
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Rhonda Kich has spent 20 years in the rooms where deals get done, and she's met heroes who weren't who they claimed to be. Stephen Scoggins and Rhonda talk about finding mentors you can actually trust in a world full of performers.
Rhonda is a dealmaker, strategic advisor, host of the Unfiltered podcast, and president of Mentor Box 2.0. She has helped founders, fund managers, athletes, and entertainers get funded, get visible, and get into the right rooms. Now she's rebuilding Mentor Box as a trust platform where every mentor is vetted, peer reviewed, and expected to own their failures.
In this episode, you'll hear:
Why meeting your heroes can leave you feeling "a little violated," and what to do when a room isn't aligned
"Every referral is a loan on your reputation": spotting takers vs. heart-centered people
Why posing in front of a rented jet or sports car makes you an imposter
Stephen's story of having everything on paper and feeling completely empty
How Mentor Box 2.0 vets mentors, and why having no failures disqualifies you
The one question that makes Rhonda end a conversation immediately
How to build an advisory board before you can afford a team
Lion or Lamb: which one cost Rhonda more?
It's the Lion and Lamb methodology in action: the boldness to walk away from the wrong rooms, and the humility to ask for help.
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Connect with Stephen Scoggins:
Website: https://stephenscoggins.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stephen_scoggins
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stephen_scoggins
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephenscoggins
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephenscoggins
Connect with Rhonda Kich:
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Chapters:
00:00 Trailer & Intro
01:16 Meet Rhonda Kich
03:46 Green Rooms, Heroes & Fake Success
16:21 Having Everything and Feeling Empty
19:20 Mentor Box 2.0 & the Trust Recession
27:42 How to Spot a Real Mentor
34:18 From Learning to Action: Advisory Boards & Accountability
53:29 The Future of Mentor Box
57:29 Lion or Lamb? + Rapid Fire

Bernard Quisumbing's story of addiction recovery, faith, and grief: five failed rehabs, 14 years on meth, and the prayer that set him free. Twenty years later, he's walking through the one loss he can't outwork.
Stephen Scoggins sits down with Bernard, former hip-hop artist, former top-performing car salesman, and fitness and wellness thought leader with the Don't Quit Legacy Foundation, for one of the most honest conversations ever on One Part Lion, One Part Lamb.
Bernard opens up about the deal he made with God after jail and five rehabs, how his marriage came back from the brink while he was "crushing it" at work, and what he's learning about grieving well after losing his baby brother, David. For high achievers, leaders, and faith-driven entrepreneurs, this is the Lion and Lamb methodology at its most human. The strength that gets you through, and the surrender that carries you when strength isn't enough.
Content note: This episode discusses addiction and suicide and is intended for adult listeners. If you or someone you love is struggling, you are not alone. In the US, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline).
In this episode:
- The prayer Bernard prayed when he "didn't even know God"
- Why his wife was crumbling while he was the top performer at every dealership
- The "Two Hands" principle: why high achievers give help but won't ask for it
- Inflated vs. deflated ego: the two reasons we don't raise our hand
- "Love or fear?": the question to run your words through before you speak to your kids
- G.R.I.E.F.: an early framework for grieving well
Chapters:
(00:00) Intro & Content Note
(01:46) 20 Years Sober From 14 Years of Meth
(04:33) Meth, and the 60 People He Pulled In
(06:42) Where It All Started: Age 7
(12:41) Top Performer, Crumbling Marriage
(19:40) Two Hands: Why We Won't Ask for Help
(20:52) Never Enough: The Messages He Believed
(29:39) The Grief He Can't Outwork
(32:23) What Families Get Wrong About Addiction
(35:19) Five Failed Rehabs & a Deal With God
(38:01) Why Asking for Help Is So Hard
(43:07) Love or Fear? The Words Kids Carry
(50:02) Anxiety, Isolation & Empathy
(55:12) Achievement Hid Him, Didn't Heal Him
(56:08) David, the Beloved & Anger at God
(01:12:23) G.R.I.E.F.: How to Grieve Well
(01:27:10) Don't Quit Legacy & Closing
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Connect with Bernard Quisumbing:
Don't Quit Legacy Foundation: https://dqlegacyfoundation.org/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bernardquisumbing/
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YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@LionLambWithStephen

He had the mansion, the exotic cars, and every marker of "made it" by age 24 — and none of it was real. It took a heart attack to show him why.
In this episode, Stephen sits down with Dan Sachkowsky — performance coach, founder of Big D Coaching, and author of the upcoming book Following Your Way Uphill — for a conversation about what happens when strength becomes the very thing that's holding you back.
Dan built his first business at 17 with no idea what he was doing, chased every marker of success he could get his hands on, and lost it all more than once before he understood why. He and Stephen unpack the moment a heart attack forced him to confront that his focus had been off for years, the "systems first, people second" mindset that finally got him out of his own way, and why so many entrepreneurs think they're serving their families when they're really just serving their own ego.
This one lives right at the center of the Lion and Lamb methodology, the drive and discipline to build something real, paired with the humility to release control before it costs you everything.
In this episode: 
Why founders who try to do everything themselves are the actual bottleneck in their business
The delegation trap Dan calls "holding their shirt," and how it keeps teams from growing
Why "I'm doing this for my family" is often a story entrepreneurs tell themselves
How a heart attack forced Dan to rebuild his company — and himself — on purpose
The difference between a leader who intimidates and one who protects
Why "selfish" isn't a dirty word, and how taking care of yourself is what lets you actually serve others
Where Dan's Lion still runs hot, and where the Lamb has saved him more than once
Connect with Dan Sachkowsky
Coaching: bigdcoaching.com
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