On Purpose with Jay Shetty

• Dr. Orna Gurlanik: Struggling to Communicate With Your Partner? THIS One Habit Could Slowly Be Destroying Your Relationship! (Here’s How to Catch It Before It’s Too Late!)

  Do you ever feel like you're having the same fight over and over again? Why is it so hard to be in a relationship with someone who is different from you? Today, Jay sits down with Dr. Orna Guralnik — the world-renowned clinical psychologist, psychoanalyst, and lead therapist on the hit series Couples Therapy. Known for helping couples navigate the complexities of intimacy, conflict, and emotional patterns, Orna shares the real reason relationships break down — and what it actually takes to build something that lasts. Jay and Orna explore why couples often blame communication as the root of all their problems, when what’s really breaking them down runs much deeper. They explore how differences in values, backgrounds, and even childhood wounds create invisible barriers in love—and how we often try to solve them by changing the other person instead of turning inward. Orna shares how blame, defensiveness, and scorekeeping keep us stuck in toxic patterns, and what it looks like to show up with more honesty, humility, and curiosity. Together Jay and Orna unpack the rise of therapy language online—terms like “gaslighting” and “narcissist”—and how misusing them can shut down the kind of open dialogue relationships truly need. They also explore how issues around money, time, and intimacy often point to deeper struggles with power, identity, and emotional safety. In this interview, you’ll learn: How to Stop Trying to “Fix” Your Partner How to Recognize the Real Issue Beneath the Argument How to Make Conflict a Source of Connection How to Move from Blame to Responsibility How to Stay Grounded When Your Values Clash How to Build a Relationship That Grows with You Real love doesn’t ask us to become someone else — it asks us to grow into our most honest, grounded self. This episode is a reminder that healthy relationships aren’t about avoiding differences, but about learning how to navigate them with compassion. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:06 Why Couples Really Fight: The Common Core Conflicts 04:02 Facing “Otherness”: What Happens When Your Partner Is Different 06:07 Embracing Differences Without Losing Yourself 10:21 Building a Partnership of Equals During Conflict 16:48 Holding On to Your Value in a Relationship 19:39 Conflicting Loyalties: When Family and Love Collide 25:18 The Art of Working Through Relationship Struggles 30:01 Digging Deeper: Finding the Root of Your Disagreements 33:26 Escaping the Blame Trap in Your Relationship 37:24 Self-Centeredness vs. Shared Growth 43:07 Creating Emotional Safety for Your Partner 49:57 Letting Love In: Are You Truly Ready for Partnership? 55:33 How Men and Women Tend to Navigate Relationships Differently 57:02 Why It’s So Hard for Men to Open Up Emotionally 01:00:59 Listen Closely—People Reveal More Than You Think 01:03:20 When Parental Baggage Shapes Your Relationship 01:06:57 Signs of a Strong and Healthy Relationship 01:13:35 What Really Makes Someone a Bad Partner? 01:18:35 Are You in Love with a Narcissist? 01:22:12 The Money Struggles Behind Relationship Conflict 01:28:46 Intimacy and Desire: What Keeps Love Alive 01:33:25 Orna on Final Five Episode Resources: Orna Guralnik | Website Orna Guralnik | Linkedin Orna Guralnik | Instagram Orna Guralnik | TiktokSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Feeling Unsupported, Misunderstood, or Doubted? You Are Not Alone! (THIS 7-Step Method Will Help Silence the Self Doubt And Build REAL Confidence)

  Has anyone ever doubted something you were excited about? Have you ever felt judged for trying something different? Today, Jay opens up about one of the most painful yet common experiences: feeling unsupported, unseen, or misunderstood by the people closest to us. He unpacks the psychology behind why others often don’t believe in us, highlighting the “false consensus effect” and the tendency for others to anchor us to who we used to be. But Jay reminds us this isn’t a flaw in our vision, it’s a sign that we’re ahead of the curve. Jay also dives deep into how true confidence is built—not before we begin, but because we begin. He shares why strangers may become your strongest supporters, how to use resistance as a tool for growth, and why failing in public can be a powerful connector. From the competence-confidence loop to the importance of staying grounded in purpose rather than revenge, Jay outlines seven transformational shifts that can help anyone move from self-doubt to self-trust. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Keep Going When No One Believes in You How to Stop Seeking Approval How to Build Confidence Through Action How to Handle Unsupportive Friends and Family How to Prove Yourself Right Instead of Proving Others Wrong No matter where you are in your journey, whether you’re just starting out, stuck in the middle, or feeling like giving up, remember this: you don’t need everyone to believe in you. You just need to believe in yourself enough to take the next step. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:50 #1: Stop Pitching, Start Proving 06:54 #2: Rejection is Often a Protection 11:59 #3: Use Doubt as a Focus Filter 16:33 #4: Strangers are More Likely to Support You 21:15 #5: Create Before You're Confident 25:20 #6: Make Failure Public Strategically 28:08 #7: Focus on Proving Yourself RightSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• People-Pleasers — If You're Afraid to Stand Up for Yourself, Do THIS to Speak Up Without the Fear of Losing the People You Love With Africa Brooke

  What makes it hard for you to speak up? Do you ever say “yes” when you really want to say “no”? Today, Jay is joined by Africa Brooke, a globally recognized consultant, speaker, and writer specializing in self-censorship, integrity, and expression. Known for helping individuals and organizations navigate the complexities of honest communication in the digital age, Africa brings a deep, compassionate lens to today’s most pressing cultural dynamics. Together, she and Jay unpack the psychology of cancel culture, which she redefines as “collective sabotage”—a pattern driven by fear, shame, and the pressure to appear morally perfect. Africa challenges the idea of accountability, suggesting it’s often rooted in fear-based conformity, and highlights “self-censorship” as a hidden consequence of the current social climate. As the conversation unfolds, Africa opens up about a turning point in 2020—when she made a choice that didn’t align with her values just to gain social approval. That experience sparked her exploration of a “third perspective”, a path beyond binary thinking, where wisdom replaces performance and nuance replaces judgment. Jay and Africa discuss how social media pushes us to present a polished version of ourselves, and how fear can silence not just what we say, but who we really are. They break down the difference between performing out of fear and choosing your words with intention—reminding us that we’re not limited to staying silent or oversharing. Instead, encouraging us to speak from a place of self-awareness, integrity, and grounded confidence. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Speak Honestly Without the Fear of Judgment How to Tell the Difference Between Self-Censorship and Intentionality How to Navigate Conflict Without Abandoning Your Values How to Stop Performing for Social Media and Start Living Authentically How to Set Boundaries in a Respectful Way How to Let Go of Binary Thinking and Find the Third Perspective Even when it’s uncomfortable, your voice matters, because it’s real. Give yourself permission to step out of fear, show up with grace, and make space for the kind of dialogue that moves us forward. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:36 How Cancel Culture Reflects Modern Day Tribalism 03:29 Is Expressing Your Truth Worth the Risk of Punishment? 06:03 Understanding the Fear of Self-Censorship vs. Careful Thinking 09:48 Letting Go of the Identity Others Expect From You 15:22 Finding Freedom in Honest Expression 18:32 How Empathy Begins With Letting Go of Judgement 21:50 Why We Struggle to Give Ourselves Grace 26:33 The Fear Behind Another Person’s Freedom to Speak 33:57 Do Your Values Match the Life You’re Actually Living? 40:34 You Don’t Have to Heal Everything at Once 45:17 How Negativity Bias Shapes Our Perception of the World 49:02 How Ego Blocks Curiosity in Everyday Moments 53:46 Why You’re Not Entitled to Silence Others 01:07:30 Blame and Shame Don’t Lead to Real Change 01:11:36 How to Truly Understand People You Disagree With 01:14:37 From Cancel Culture to Collective Sabotage 01:19:19 How Constant Apologies Undermine Your Voice 01:21:07 Why We Must Let Everyday Moments Breathe 01:25:15 Self-Expression Should Not Be a Performance for the Internet 01:29:33 Don’t Build an Audience That Won’t Let You Evolve 01:37:54 Are You Living a Truth You Never Chose? 01:42:51 Does One Narrative Define Your Whole Reality? 01:44:41 Is It Ever Justified to Cancel Someone? 01:48:00 How to Give Grace Without Losing Your Boundaries 01:52:43 Most of What Feels Urgent Today Won’t Matter Tomorrow 01:55:55 Africa on Final Five Episode Resources: Africa Brooke | Website Africa Brooke | Instagram Africa Brooke | LinkedIn Beyond the Self with Africa Brooke The Third Perspective: Brave Expression in the Age of IntoleranceSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Dr. Darshan Shah: Can’t Focus, Sleep, or Lose Weight — it Could be From the Toxins in Your Every Day Products! (Do These SIMPLE Daily Swaps to Undo the Damage NOW!)

  Do you drink water from plastic bottles every day? Have you ever thought about how many chemicals you’re exposed to daily? Today, Jay welcomes back renowned longevity expert, board-certified surgeon, and founder of Next Health, Dr. Darshan Shah. Known for making complex health topics accessible, Dr. Shah returns with an urgent message about the hidden threats silently affecting our health every single day: environmental toxins. With over 25 years of experience in medicine and wellness innovation, Dr. Shah breaks down how over 150,000 manmade chemicals—many of which didn’t exist just decades ago—have entered modern life through the air we breathe, the water we drink, the food we eat, and even the products we apply to our skin. These toxins, including microplastics, heavy metals, and hormone-disrupting compounds, are contributing to chronic disease, inflammation, and accelerated aging. But rather than incite fear, this conversation delivers hope. Dr. Shah shares a practical roadmap for detoxing daily life—simple, affordable steps that can be taken immediately. He emphasizes the power of the body’s natural detox systems, particularly the liver, and how small changes made consistently can lead to transformative results over time. Together, Jay and Dr. Shah explore the deep connections between physical and mental health, the importance of tracking key biomarkers, and the role of lifestyle over genetics in preventing conditions like Alzheimer’s, heart disease, and cancer. In this interview, you'll learn: How to Spot Early Signs of Toxin Buildup in Your Body How to Track the 10 Key Biomarkers That Predict Long-Term Health How to Strengthen Your Brain and Prevent Alzheimer’s with Simple Daily Habits How to Avoid Microplastics in Your Kitchen and Clothing How to Reduce Toxin Exposure in Your Air at Home How to Filter Your Drinking Water Safely and Affordably This episode serves as both a wake-up call and a guide, empowering audiences to live with greater awareness, vitality, and intention. It’s a masterclass in preventative health and conscious living, reminding everyone that the path to long-term wellness starts with simple, purposeful choices made today. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 01:18 Why So Many People Are Getting Sick Today 02:14 The Hidden Toxins in Your Everyday Life 03:24 Are You Breathing in Dirty Air Without Knowing It? 08:22 Your Indoor Air Could Be More Toxic Than Outside 08:51 Why You Need to Filter Your Water (Now) 10:38 Stop Drinking Water from Plastic Bottles 13:21 Where Microplastics Are Hiding in Plain Sight 15:31 Heating Plastic? Here's What It's Doing to Your Food 16:40 Why Microplastics Are Still Unregulated 16:50 The Surprising Truth About Paper Coffee Cups 18:24 Is Organic Food Really Worth It? 20:32 How Convenience Culture Is Making You Sick 21:36 Why Eating Slowly Can Transform Your Health 23:16 Rethinking What Self-Care Really Means 24:13 How Toxins Enter Through Your Skin Every Day 27:46 How Often Should You Actually Wash Your Hair? 29:26 Is Your Environment Aging You Faster Than Your DNA? 30:25 Subtle Signs Your Body Is Full of Toxins 31:26 Your Body Already Knows How to Detox—Here’s How to Help It 32:21 Simplify Your Cleaning Routine and Avoid Harsh Chemicals 34:04 The Top 3 Causes of Death—and How to Avoid Them 36:17 Why Heart Disease Is Still the #1 Killer 37:59 The 4 Real Causes of Heart Disease (It’s Not Just Cholesterol) 38:53 What You Need to Know About Metabolic Disease 42:22 The Silent Damage of High Blood Pressure 45:53 How to Lower Blood Pressure Naturally and Easily 47:07 What Inflammation Is Really Doing to Your Body 48:24 Is Your Immune System Too Weak—or Too Busy? 49:42 How Antibiotics Could Be Hurting Your Gut and Immunity 52:21 The Cholesterol Numbers That Actually Matter 53:35 Why Healthy People Are Still Having Heart Attacks 54:23 How Much Do Genetics Really Influence Your Health? 56:29 Yes, You Can Now Test Early for Alzheimer’s 57:44 Simple Habits to Keep Your Brain Young and Sharp 01:01:30 Is Alzheimer’s Preventable? Here’s What the Science Says 01:02:55 How to Lower Your Risk of Cancer Starting Today 01:06:22 Why Being Proactive with Your Health Can Save Your Life 01:07:49 10 Biomarkers Everyone Should Be Tracking 01:12:00 The Hidden Link Between Mental and Physical Health Episode Resources: Darshan Sha | Website Darshan Sha | TikTok Darshan Sha | Instagram Darshan Sha | YouTube Darshan Sha | LinkedIn Darshan Sha | Facebook Extend Podcast with Darshan Shah, MD Next Health https://www.drshah.com/biomarkers https://www.drshah.com/toxinsSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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• Feel Stuck in the Wrong Job? This ONE Mindset Shift Will Help You FINALLY Discover Your Purpose (Even If You’re Starting From Zero)

  Have you ever felt like you were meant for more? What would you do if money wasn’t a factor? Today, Jay joins The Pivot Podcast for a conversation that explores the beauty, discomfort, and transformation found in life’s biggest pivots. Sitting down with hosts Fred Taylor, Channing Crowder, and Ryan Clark, Jay opens up about the fear of being seen starting from zero, the discipline forged through solitude, and the inner strength that comes from committing to a life of purpose. Throughout the episode, Jay and the hosts dive into the difference between passion and purpose, the value of consistency over talent, and why the most meaningful success often starts small. With candor and warmth, Jay also shares insights on love, authenticity, and mindfulness, reminding listeners that who we become is shaped not by how the world sees us, but by how we see ourselves. The conversation is raw, reflective, and often humorous, touching on everything from identity and appearance to relationships and emotional maturity. In this episode, you'll learn: How to Start from Zero Without Fear How to Build Confidence Through Solitude How to Stay Grounded in a World of Noise How to Know If It’s Time to Pivot How to Let Go Without Calling It a Failure How to Make Stillness Your Superpower How to Discover Purpose by Collecting, Then Connecting Whether you're rebuilding, realigning, or simply reflecting, this episode offers the grounded wisdom and practical tools to navigate it all. With Love and Gratitude, Jay Shetty Join over 750,000 people to receive my most transformative wisdom directly in your inbox every single week with my free newsletter. Subscribe here. What We Discuss: 00:00 Intro 00:26 The Power of Practicing Public Speaking for 10 Years 03:10 Why People Seek Inspiration from Others 05:41 Discovering the Purpose That Fuels Motivation 08:52 Ways to Integrate Mindfulness Into Daily Life 12:43 A Glimpse Into the Discipline of Monk Life 14:16 How Deep Connection Leads to Greater Learning 18:23 Understanding Why Similar Actions Have Different Intentions 24:46 Exploring Whether Appearance Really Matters 28:38 Learning to Be Alone Without Feeling Lonely 34:16 Embracing Stillness and the Strength of Solitude 37:16 The Impact of Meeting the Right Person at the Right Time 41:08 What It Takes to Practice Celibacy 44:43 Unpacking the Biggest Misconception About Love 48:33 The Most Challenging Part of Loving Someone 51:46 Why Choosing the Right Leaders Truly Matters 54:37 How Failure Can Lead to Growth and Insight 56:41 Can Real Love Be Found on Dating Apps? 01:01:16 Taking the First Step Toward Finding Purpose 01:04:16 Why Consistency and Practice Outshine Talent 01:06:48 Defining the Moments That Mark a Major Life Pivot 01:11:32 Reframing Failure as a Simple Pivot 01:15:06 What to Expect in the Live Tour Episode Resources: The Pivot Podcast | YouTube The Pivot Podcast | X The Pivot Podcast | Instagram The Pivot PodcastSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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