Between the Ears Podcast

In this episode, Arnold Beekes takes up responsibility, which links back to the starting point he shared a few episodes ago: you are good enough, and it’s not your fault but it is your responsibility. He lays out four ways to deal with it. First, you can accept responsibility for your well-being or refuse it, and refusing means “I’m a victim, it’s just the way I am.” Second, if you refuse, you become a pinball of other people and circumstances, your problems remain, and you feed a need for significance and attention. Fear often stops people from accepting responsibility, and they end up seeking relief rather than a cure, through drinking, partying, drugs, sex or porn. Third, you sometimes have to take responsibility for things that are not under your control, like a child kicking a ball through a neighbour’s window, where you are still legally responsible, which means balancing your own responsibility with letting go so you don’t feel powerless. Fourth, you take responsibility for what is under your control, which in the Stoic view is very little, but includes your thoughts, feelings and emotions. How you respond is the heart of your well-being, and if you focus on the cure you look at the cause and ask what you can do about it. Arnold’s own daily practice is to ask himself what went well, not what went wrong. The episode closes with a story of everyday beauty from Leicestershire, where 87-year-old Phyllis Day, who has Alzheimer’s, was asleep when a fire broke out at 11:30 pm. Her daughter Suzanne saw two half-dressed men ramming the front door on her doorbell camera and thought it was a break-in, but the neighbours had smelled smoke and run straight out. One of them was driven back twice by the smoke before reaching the bedroom, and they walked Phyllis out, one arm each. She was treated for smoke inhalation and made a full recovery.

 

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In this Question and Quote episode, Arnold Beekes asks: what are you most excited about lately? It can be small, moderate or big, as long as it excites you. He admits it isn’t an easy question, because we’re used to negatively framed ones like what frustrates you or what you hate. He invites you to write your answer down, since it may surprise you, and to keep asking yourself regularly, because it says a lot about you. The quote is from Osho and ties to responsibility, which Arnold will discuss in episode 34. Osho says that if one is miserable, one is responsible, but the miserable person never expects the responsibility and says someone else is making them miserable. Arnold calls letting go of that old habit the great courage to divorce misery.

 

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In this Question and Quote episode, Arnold Beekes starts with a simple question: if you go out to a restaurant, where do you go and what do you eat? He won’t say what the answer means, but he believes it says something about you and how you deal with certainty and uncertainty, so it’s worth thinking about. The quote for this episode is “People who have nothing interesting to share often resort to complaining and criticizing.” Arnold points to social media, where most people criticize what others do, saying they would have done it differently or complaining about the weather, the food, the government or big companies. These people are responsive, he says, they react to others but don’t create anything or take any initiative to make the world better for everyone. His hope is that more people ask themselves: what am I doing, what can I contribute, how can I help? Every person has a role to play and can help make a better world for all.

 

🔗 About Your Host (Arnold Beekes)
🌐 Website: https://bio.link/beekes
💪 Brain Gym: https://braingym.fitness
🧠 Brain Athletes: https://brainathletes.club
🚀 Innovation Athletes: https://innovationathletes.club
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In this episode, Arnold Beekes shares what he calls a first aid kit for your brain fitness, for days when your mood is low, your energy is gone and everything feels negative. You don’t have to do it all. He invites you to pick one or two items and apply them today, then try another on another day. The list: stop watching or reading the news and learn something instead, since you miss nothing and most of it is built to create fear; stop meeting toxic people and connect with inspiring ones, even if only through their writing or videos; stop focusing on the past or the future and be present now; stop being a victim and create something, anything, a drawing, a new dish or a photo of a tree in blossom; stop saying “that’s just the way I am”, because neuroplasticity means your brain can form new connections for the rest of your life; stop comparing yourself with others, whose pictures are often photoshopped and whose insides may not match the outside, and use your own uniqueness instead; stop consuming violence in horror films, thrillers and news; appreciate beauty, even a new leaf on a street tree or a cup you have ignored for years; and stop rushing, because nothing will happen if you take a nap and slow down. The episode closes with a story of everyday beauty from Germany, where volunteer teams use thermal imaging drones at dawn to find newborn fawns hiding in tall meadow grass before farmers start mowing. A ground team then carefully moves each fawn to safety, using grass or leaves rather than bare hands so the mother doesn’t reject it, and returns it once the mowing is done. Volunteer groups across Germany now save hundreds of fawns each season, and the method has spread to other countries.

 

🔗 About Your Host (Arnold Beekes)
🌐 Website: https://bio.link/beekes
💪 Brain Gym: https://braingym.fitness
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🚀 Innovation Athletes: https://innovationathletes.club
🎓 Join our Skool brain-fitness community: https://www.skool.com/brain-fitness-7070

 

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In this episode, Arnold Beekes talks about attention as one of the most valuable currencies we have. Where your attention goes, your energy flows, and he argues that far too much of it is triggered by fear. Fear puts you in survival mode, fight or flight, and in that state you can’t be creative, find good solutions or get real insights, because great ideas need a relaxed mind. Arnold, who was born in the Netherlands and now lives in Paraguay, points out there are no tigers around, yet fear is still the main tool for grabbing attention. In his view it is used by governments to make people comply and by almost every business to sell, through fear of war, climate, oil prices, being too fat or having an old car, and he says around 95% of social media is fear based. His advice is to not engage with anything that makes you fearful or angry, and to stop filling every gap in your day with the phone. Eat without looking at your screen, talk to people without it, keep it off your nightstand, and when you drink your tea or coffee, just drink it. That pause feels ten times better than scrolling. He also warns against the “two screens” habit, watching TV while following social media, because it splits your attention. Instead, become the guardian of your attention, listen to your heart and to what your body is telling you, like the pain in your ankle you have been ignoring. The episode closes with a story of everyday beauty about Tyler Wiebe, a motorcyclist in Brisbane who was dragged under a car that stopped on top of his sternum, so he could not breathe and his heart could not beat properly. Two employees from a nearby business, Rob and Brian, ran out, called over their colleagues and kept trying to lift the 3,000 pound vehicle until it came up just enough to pull him clear. Tyler survived and later thanked his rescuers on Australian TV, calling them certified legends, saying he gets more time with his daughters and family because of them.

 

🔗 About Your Host (Arnold Beekes)
🌐 Website: https://bio.link/beekes
💪 Brain Gym: https://braingym.fitness
🧠 Brain Athletes: https://brainathletes.club
🚀 Innovation Athletes: https://innovationathletes.club
🎓 Join our Skool brain-fitness community: https://www.skool.com/brain-fitness-7070

 

Roy Coughlan · The Podfather Network — Editor & Promoter
Website: https://roycoughlan.com/
Virtual Assistants: https://va.world/
Private Networking Group: Learn about a Private Networking Group in 50 US States & 50 Countries with 700+ Members https://connectedleaders.academy
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The Authority Alliance: A Foundation of Experts — community for entrepreneurs, coaches, and thought leaders to connect, collaborate, and grow their authority together: https://theauthorityalliance.com/
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