Java with Juli - Making Sense of God and Sex

This week, Juli sits down with Joe and Hannah to tackle the question: What do you do when you're attracted to someone who isn't your spouse?
Together, they unpack the reality that attraction outside of marriage isn't a matter of if, but when. From the myth of "soulmates" to the powerful role of brain chemistry, this conversation explores why these feelings happen, and why they don't have to define your choices.
You'll also learn how small decisions, honesty, and intentional investment in your marriage can protect what matters most.
Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso
Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: Building a Great Sex Life
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Follow-up Resources:
Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery
Be the first to know when Online Book Studies open up
Sexual Attraction Isn't As Important as You Think, Here's Why by Juli Slattery (blog)
Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06
Follow Hannah Nitz at @hannahnitz
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Shame has a way of convincing us to hide. But Jesus doesn't turn away from your shame. He steps toward it.
This week, Juli sits down with Dr. Carol Tanksley and Allie Mazur to shed light on the often unspoken reality of living with an STI. Together, they unpack the weight of shame, the fear of rejection, and the questions that can follow a diagnosis like herpes. 
You'll be reminded that while consequences of sin may linger, they don't have the final word. Jesus meets us right in the middle of our brokenness, offering freedom, healing, and hope. 
If you've ever felt like your story is "too much" or "too broken," this conversation is for you.
Guests: Dr. Carol Tanksley, OBGYN and Allie Mazur
 
Follow-Up Resources:
Q&A: Are sexual sin and sexual brokenness the same thing? (video)
Q&A: Where do I begin healing? (video)
How to Get Past Shame from Sexual Sin by Juli Slattery (blog)
 
Dr. Carol Tanksley's website: drcarolministries.com
Follow Dr. Carol at @drcarolt
Allie Mazur's website: livebeyondherpes.com
Follow Allie Mazur at @allie_beyond
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Married sex doesn't just "stay hot"...but you can fan the flames to create something even more meaningful (and longer-lasting) than honeymoon sex.
This week, we're talking about how to keep married sex exciting over the long haul. You'll learn about the shift that happens in long-term relationships, why desire can fade into routine, and what actually helps bring the spark back. 
No theory. No pressure. Just real-life rhythms and practical ways you can reconnect emotionally and physically with your spouse. If you've ever thought "we're good... but it's not like it used to be," this conversation is for you!
 
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
 
What did you think of this conversation? We'd love to hear from you! Leave us a comment and review. 
 
Follow-up Resources:
Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery
Be the first to know when Online Book Studies open up
Join Dr. Jennifer Degler's Dare of the Month email list.
Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz
Follow Authentic Intimacy at  @authenticintimacy

One of you is ready to leave early. The other is still looking for their shoes. Welcome to marriage.
This week, Juli and Mike are on stage at the Love Like You Mean It Cruise! Live and unfiltered, they talk honestly about how their differences have shown up in parenting, intimacy, and their pace of life—and how they've learned to let those differences draw them closer, instead of driving them apart.
Guest: Mike Slattery
Join Mike & Juli on the Love Like You Mean It Cruise in 2027! 
 
Follow-up Resources:
3 Reasons Women Tend to Take Over in Marriage by Juli Slattery (blog)
Q&A: How can I help my husband grow up and take responsibility? (video)
The Very Important Difference Between Conflict & Fighting by Juli Slattery (blog)

Some wounds don't just live in your memories… they live in your body, in your relationships, and in your sense of safety. 
If you've ever wondered, "Can I be whole after sexual trauma?," you're not alone—and you're not beyond healing.
That's the question Juli is tackling this week. You'll hear why sexual trauma uniquely affects identity and intimacy, how shame and self-blame keep us stuck, and what real sexual wholeness looks like.
This conversation is for anyone who has experienced sexual trauma (or loves someone who has) and is wondering: Is healing really possible for me?
 
Co-host: Hannah Nitz
Register for the webinar Healing After Sexual Abuse: Practical Guidance for Pastors, Leaders, and Caregivers.
 
Follow-up resources:
Find a Christian counselor or sex therapist: check out ABCST or MyCounselor.online
Surprised By the Healer by Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow
The Wounded Heart by Dan Allender
Try Softer by Aundi Kolber
God's Healing Stinks by Juli Slattery (blog)
Q&A: Past sexual trauma inhibits my ability to enjoy sex. Is there hope that I can ever heal? with Dr. Juli Slattery
Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz
Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy