Feminist Wellness

Tenderoni Hotline #22: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself.

Today’s episode holds two powerful questions. First, how do you use grounding and orienting when a space is not actually safe? What does nervous system regulation look like for queer folks, BIPOC folks, and anyone navigating real socio-political threat? If hypervigilance has helped keep you alive, are you supposed to just breathe deeper and calm down?

Then we turn to another question. Why do high-achieving, successful, respected professionals still struggle to trust themselves? Why does approval seeking persist even when you have built a career, a reputation, and a life that looks solid on paper?

Together, we explore the difference between grounding and orienting, and why neither is about pretending you are safe when you are not. We talk about how to stay responsive instead of reactive in spaces that carry risk, how emotional outsourcing develops in the nervous system, and why marginalized bodies cannot simply think their way into safety.

We also unpack how self-trust gets wired or not wired in early relational experiences, how patriarchy and capitalism reward being chosen over being known, and why the very skills that make you professionally competent can quietly erode your embodied sense of worth.

You will learn why grounding is not about forcing calm, why hypervigilance is not pathology but adaptation, and how self-trust is built through lived moments of centering yourself without the world collapsing. As always, we keep it practical. You will walk away with small, doable practices to begin shifting from external validation toward embodied self-trust, without shame and without overwhelm.

So go ahead and get cozy. I’m so glad you’re here, my tenderoni.

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#367: Have you ever felt that deep yes in your body about speaking up, protesting, or naming injustice… and then frozen the moment someone showed disapproval? What if learning to unfreeze isn’t just about personal healing, but essential for collective liberation?

In this episode, I explore how emotional outsourcing keeps us frozen when our values are calling us forward. I break down what happens in your nervous system when disapproval feels like a survival threat, why your amygdala overrides your moral clarity, and how the freeze response makes you disappear energetically even when you’re still in the room. This isn’t about cowardice. It’s about conditioning.

Tune in today to learn how to recognize freeze in real time, how to resource your nervous system to unfreeze, why small acts of authenticity build courage, and why community is essential for collective liberation. I also share practical steps to honor your values without collapsing into fear and how choosing integrity over comfort becomes revolutionary, one micro choice at a time.
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Tenderoni Hotline #21: Hello my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, our soft and spacious corner of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, where we explore your most tender questions about healing, nervous system care, and returning home to yourself.

In today’s episode, we’re unpacking a question that comes up all the time in somatic spaces, yoga classes, and Instagram infographics: Are emotions really stored in the hips? Together, we’ll get curious about where this idea comes from, how it gets flattened into oversimplified slogans, and what’s actually happening in your body when those hips feel tight, tender, or tear-filled.

We’ll talk about the difference between emotional release and emotional resolution, what the nervous system has to do with chronic muscle bracing, and why fascia, stress, and safety are central to understanding what your body is trying to tell you.

And because you know I love the science and the woo, we’ll explore the origins of this concept across different systems, from somatic psychology to Traditional Chinese Medicine, Ayurveda, and Indigenous frameworks, with care, nuance, and zero appropriation.

You’ll walk away with a clearer understanding of why this myth persists, how your body actually processes emotional pain, and why healing isn’t about “extracting” emotion but expanding your capacity to feel, soften, and stay present with yourself.

So go ahead and get cozy. I’m so glad you’re here.

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#366: Ever been certain someone was mad at you, disappointed in you, or about to leave you… only to find out you were completely wrong? What if that certainty wasn’t intuition at all, but projection?
In this episode, I unpack projection through the lens of emotional outsourcing. I walk you through how your nervous system takes fear, shame, anger, or need and unconsciously assigns it to someone else. From assuming your partner is furious, to spiraling over a short email from your boss, to believing a friend doesn’t care about you, you’ll learn how projection distorts reality and quietly destroys your relationships.
Join me this week to learn how projection forms in the nervous system, why it feels so real in your body, what it costs you in intimacy and self-trust, and how to interrupt it. I’ll also share practical ways to pause between sensation and story, stay present with your own feelings, and respond to what’s actually happening instead of reacting to old fear.

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Tenderoni Hotline #20: Hello, my love, and welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline. Today, I’m joined by the luminous and deeply grounded Rose Zealand, financial planner, death doula, and a radiant graduate of the Anchored program.
In this powerful and heartfelt conversation, Rose shares her journey from emotional flashbacks, perfectionism, and the chronic belief that she was “broken”… to a place of embodied healing, nervous system safety, and radical self-acceptance.

We talk about what it means to move beyond just talking about healing and into the felt sense of coming home to yourself. Rose opens up about learning the language of her nervous system, redefining boundaries with love, and how she stopped outsourcing her worth to others and started honoring her full humanity, on her own terms.

Together, we explore healing from internalized shame, the magic of being witnessed in community, and why this work isn’t about fixing what’s “wrong” with us but remembering what’s always been whole within us.

If you’ve ever felt like you were the only one who couldn’t figure it out, the only one “too much” or “not enough,” this episode is for you. So get cozy, press play, and come be held by this beautiful story of reclamation, resilience, and return with Rose.

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