Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads

What happens when years of depression, anxiety, bullying, and feeling like an outsider finally meet a microphone? G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with Noah May to talk about surviving some of his darkest moments, finding connection when he needed it most, and discovering that using his voice through podcasting could become part of his healing.

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Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries.

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Mental Health Quote

“Stay strong and don’t let it all bring you down. You got to keep fighting.” — Noah May

Episode Description

Noah May has been navigating depression since he was 13 and anxiety since he was 18, but his story is about more than diagnoses. It’s about what happens when loneliness, bullying, complicated family history, and feeling like you don’t belong start shaping the way you see yourself — and what can happen when you finally find a way to speak back.
In this deeply personal conversation, Noah joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to talk about growing up without his biological father, learning the painful circumstances surrounding his conception, being bullied by classmates, and wondering whether he was ever good enough. He also opens up about starting therapy, struggling to be completely honest during those early sessions, and later realizing that healing sometimes requires finding the right outlet — not just following someone else’s version of what recovery should look like.

For Noah, one of those outlets became podcasting.

After graduating from Auburn University with a journalism degree, Noah faced another familiar fear: What if all that work had been for nothing? Instead of giving up, he leaned harder into creating. Today, he hosts three podcasts — Lethal Venom, Music Talks, and Southern Reads — and uses his platform to tell the truth, connect with people, and create the kind of space he once needed himself.

Noah’s story reminds us that life rarely follows the damn plan. Sometimes healing looks like therapy. Sometimes it looks like friendship. Sometimes it looks like music, books, or sitting behind a microphone and finally saying the things you’ve carried for years.

Keywords: Noah May, depression, anxiety, suicidal thoughts, mental health recovery, podcasting and mental health, bullying recovery, loneliness, finding your voice, emotional healing, therapy, young adult mental health, mental health advocacy, overcoming adversity, healing through storytelling

Meet Our Guest — Noah May

Noah May is an Auburn University graduate with a bachelor’s degree in journalism and the host of three podcasts: Lethal Venom, Music Talks, and Southern Reads. After navigating depression, anxiety, bullying, loneliness, and periods of suicidal thinking, Noah turned his experiences into a reason to speak openly and create conversations where others can feel seen, heard, and less alone.
Website: https://www.noahspodcasts.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/713902225134300

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenoahshowww

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/noah-c-may

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thenoahshowww

X: https://www.x.com/noahspodcasts

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/noahspodcasts

Lethal Venom:

https://noahspodcasts.com/lethal-venom

Music Talks:

https://noahspodcasts.com/music-talks

Southern Reads:

https://noahspodcasts.com/southern-reads

Key Takeaways

Your past can shape you without getting the final say in who you become.

Depression and anxiety can make you feel isolated, but hearing someone else’s story can remind you that you aren’t the only one carrying heavy shit.

Finding the right mental health support may take time, honesty, and sometimes more than one therapist or healing approach.

Creative expression can become a powerful emotional outlet when you've buried feelings for years.

Supportive friendships can completely change the way we experience difficult seasons.

Life rarely unfolds exactly according to plan, and that doesn’t mean you failed.

Actionable Items

Find one safe outlet where you can say what you’ve been holding back — whether that’s therapy, journaling, podcasting, voice notes, art, or a trusted person.

Take inventory of the people around you. Pay attention to who makes you feel supported, heard, and able to be yourself.

When your original plan falls apart, ask yourself, “What can I build with what I have right now?” instead of automatically assuming you failed.

Important Chapters

00:00 — Meet Noah May

01:45 — Noah’s Childhood and Family Story

06:38 — Bullying and Growing Up Without a Father

08:11 — Depression and Anxiety Begin

09:12 — Starting College During COVID

12:52 — Why Noah Chose Journalism

15:00 — Turning a Dream Into Podcasting

16:38 — Podcasting as a Therapeutic Outlet

19:59 — Building Three Podcasts

21:05 — Music and Mental Health

23:14 — Rediscovering Reading

26:15 — Therapy and Learning to Open Up

28:28 — Giving Anxiety a Theme Song

29:53 — Advice to Noah’s 12-Year-Old Self

30:52 — The Hardest Lesson Noah Has Learned

32:15 — Noah’s Favorite Word

33:32 — Where to Find Noah

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Grief has a way of dragging us back into every decision, every conversation, and every painful “what if.” In this deeply personal episode, Stephanie Renner joins G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to talk about losing her son Jordan to suicide, the guilt and regret that followed, and how she learned to keep moving forward without letting the past define the rest of her life.

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Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listeners in more than 160 countries.

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Mental Health Quote

“Love is not measured by the outcome.” — Stephanie Renner

Trigger Notice + 988 Crisis Reminder

This episode includes candid conversations about suicide, suicidal ideation, self-harm, grief, and the loss of a child. Please take care of yourself while listening and step away if you need to.
If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis in the United States, call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline. https://988lifeline.org/

For crisis support outside the United States: https://findahelpline.com/

Episode Description

After losing her father, her mother, and her oldest son within a six-year span, Stephanie Renner knows what it feels like to replay the past and wonder what could have been different.
In this raw and deeply human conversation, Stephanie opens up to G-Rex and Dirty Skittles about her son Jordan, who died by suicide shortly before his nineteenth birthday. She shares what it was like raising a deeply empathetic young man who struggled for years with suicidal ideation, mental health challenges, and the feeling that he did not quite fit into the world around him.

Stephanie also speaks honestly about the guilt that can follow devastating loss. The questions come fast and hard: What if I had found the right therapist? What if I had been home? What if I had made one different decision? She calls them the “if-onlys,” and she knows firsthand how easily they can become a prison.

Over time, Stephanie began to understand that loving someone deeply does not mean you can control their outcome. That realization became one of the most important lessons of her life: Love is not measured by the outcome.

She also shares the unexpected signs that have helped her feel connected to Jordan, the community that surrounded her when she could barely function, and the ways grief changed her perspective on fear, work, and what actually matters.

After nearly 25 years as an attorney, Stephanie stepped away from the life she built and moved toward something more meaningful. Today, through her Regret to Resilience Method, she helps people work through regret, guilt, and shame after trauma or loss.

She also founded Gilly’s Friends in Jordan’s memory, turning his kindness into a lasting reminder: You matter. You’re loved.

Keywords: Stephanie Renner, Regret to Resilience, grief, grief recovery, suicide loss, suicide prevention, parental grief, guilt after loss, regret, emotional healing, self-forgiveness, resilience, trauma recovery, mental health awareness, finding purpose after loss

Meet Our Guest — Stephanie Renner

Stephanie Renner is a keynote speaker, writer, attorney, nonprofit founder, and creator of The Regret to Resilience Method. Her work helps people release regret, guilt, and shame after trauma or loss so they can move forward with greater purpose, confidence, and self-compassion.
Her work is deeply personal. After losing her father, mother, and oldest son, Jordan, within six years, Stephanie turned her own experience with grief into a mission to help others stop allowing the past to control what comes next.

She is also the founder of Gilly’s Friends, a nonprofit created in Jordan “Gilly” Guilford’s memory that spreads intentional acts of kindness and reminds people that they matter and are loved.

Website: https://www.stephanierennerspeaks.com

Gilly’s Friends: https://gillysfriends.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/srrnd/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/stephanie.renner2

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephanierenner/

Key Takeaways

Love is not measured by the outcome. You can love someone completely and still not control what happens.

Regret often lives in the “if-onlys,” where we convince ourselves that one different choice would have changed everything.

Grief does not mean forgetting someone or moving on from them. It can mean learning to carry love and loss at the same time.

Support matters. Sometimes the people who simply show up, sit with you, feed you, and stay close make survival possible.

Belonging matters, especially for young people who feel like they do not fit anywhere.

Purpose can grow alongside grief. Stephanie transformed Jordan’s legacy of kindness into work that continues to help other people feel seen and valued.

Actionable Items

Challenge one “if-only.” Write down a regret you keep replaying and ask yourself whether you truly know that changing that one moment would have changed the outcome.

Know who your people are. Identify two or three people you can call when life gets heavy, and consider whether someone in your life may need you to be that person for them.

Do one intentional act of kindness. Send the text. Make the call. Buy the coffee. Check in. Small moments can carry more weight than we realize.

Important Chapters

00:00 – Meet Stephanie Renner

02:30 – Signs From Jordan and Staying Connected After Loss

08:15 – Jordan’s Mental Health Journey

12:00 – Surviving the Loss of a Child

13:35 – The “If-Onlys” of Grief and Regret

18:50 – One of Stephanie and Jordan’s Final Conversations

21:45 – Mental Health, Shame, and Creating a Kinder World

23:30 – The Community That Carried Stephanie

26:15 – Losing Fear After Losing So Much

26:55 – Grieving a Son While Losing a Mother to Alzheimer’s

29:30 – From Attorney to Regret to Resilience

31:00 – Letting Go of Mother’s Day Guilt

33:30 – Care Bears, Raccoons, and Signs From Beyond

41:25 – What Stephanie Would Tell a Younger Jordan

44:25 – Love Is Not Measured by the Outcome

45:40 – Favorite Word, Least Favorite Word

46:10 – Regret to Resilience

47:05 – Gilly’s Friends and Jordan’s Legacy of Kindness

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Some conversations can be course-corrected with feedback. Others cross a bright line and demand something more. In Part 2, G-Rex, Dirty Skittles, and Regent Cornell get even more practical about confrontation, emotional regulation, accountability, leadership, and what to do when the other person simply refuses to meet you halfway.

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Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries.

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“People rarely need fewer confrontations. They need thousands more courageous everyday feedback conversations.” — Regent Cornell

Episode Description

How do you have a healthy conversation when the other person refuses to listen, take accountability, or change?
In Part 2, Regent Cornell returns with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles to push the conversation beyond basic communication skills and into the harder territory: bright lines, toxic leadership, broken trust, emotional triggers, and knowing when you have done everything you can.

Regent explains the difference between feedback and confrontation, including situations where a boundary has been crossed so clearly that feedback is no longer enough. He also explores why confrontation should never become an excuse to retaliate, humiliate, or emotionally punish another person. The temporary satisfaction of “winning” a fight can quickly turn into regret.

G-Rex asks what happens when leaders avoid conflict or when the person receiving feedback refuses to engage. Regent’s answer is clear: you cannot force someone to change. You can communicate, influence, set expectations, and choose what you are willing to tolerate, but accountability ultimately belongs to each individual.

The trio also talks about self-worth, curiosity, emotional regulation, and why avoidance can quietly destroy relationships. Regent leaves listeners with a challenge: choose one conversation. Not ten. One. Decide what needs daylight, get curious about the other person’s reality, and stop waiting for the “suddenly” that comes after months or years of avoidance.

Keywords: difficult conversations, courageous conversations, conflict resolution, mental health, emotional wellness, boundaries, leadership communication, workplace conflict, toxic leadership, self-worth, accountability, emotional regulation, healthy confrontation, relationship communication, Fierce Conversations

Meet Our Guest — Regent Cornell

Regent Cornell is a transformational leadership, talent-development, and organizational-growth expert with more than 33 years of experience helping leaders, teams, and individuals build the clarity, confidence, and capability to thrive. He serves as Vice President of Market Evolution & Strategic Growth at Fierce Conversations and owns Cornell Consulting, bringing expertise in executive coaching, strategic communication, organizational development, team building, diversity and inclusion, negotiation, and change management.
Regent is an HBDI Level III Master Facilitator through Herrmann International and holds a Professional Coaching Certification at the ICF-PCC level from the University of Miami. He is also certified in Fierce Conversations, Myers-Briggs, DiSC, Prosci Change Management, and Advanced Consulting.

Fierce Inc.:

https://www.fierceinc.com/

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/regent-cornell

Key Takeaways

Feedback is preventative care; confrontation is the intervention when a pattern becomes too important to ignore.

Some situations cross a “bright line” and require immediate accountability rather than gradual feedback.

You cannot force another person to change, no matter how well you communicate.

Entering a confrontation to prove you are right usually shuts down curiosity and learning.

The best time to give feedback is close enough to the moment to be useful and calm enough to be constructive.

Avoidance weakens relationships; curiosity strengthens them.

Actionable Items

Pick one conversation you have been postponing and put a date on when you will address it.

Before speaking, ask yourself: “Am I entering this conversation to prove something or to learn something?”

Use Regent’s standard for fierce feedback: candor with care, clarity with curiosity, and courage with respect.

References Mentioned

Fierce Inc.:
https://www.fierceinc.com/
Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott

Important Chapters

00:00:49 – Asking, “How Can I Show Up Better for You?”

00:01:31 – Feedback as Preventative Care

00:02:08 – When Someone Crosses a Bright Line

00:04:22 – Confrontation Is Not Revenge

00:06:58 – What Happens When Leaders Avoid Conflict?

00:10:52 – What If the Other Person Won’t Reciprocate?

00:12:39 – The Cost of Waiting Too Long

00:16:08 – Self-Worth, Choice, and What You Will Tolerate

00:17:55 – Avoidance vs. Curiosity

00:19:57 – Stop Entering Conversations to Prove You’re Right

00:20:57 – Candor With Care

00:21:41 – Start With One Conversation

00:23:09 – Stop Waiting for the “Suddenly”

00:24:33 – A Message for Leaders

00:25:24 – How to Connect With Regent

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What happens when the conversations you keep avoiding start costing you your peace, your relationships, or even your mental health? G-Rex and Dirty Skittles welcome back Regent Cornell for a powerful conversation about honest feedback, emotional courage, boundaries, and why saying the hard thing early can keep resentment from taking over.

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Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries.

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“Silence does not remove the issue. It simply delays the conversation while allowing the impact to continue.” — Regent Cornell

Episode Description

Avoiding a hard conversation might feel easier in the moment, but what happens when silence starts becoming resentment, anxiety, or emotional exhaustion?
In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, G-Rex and Dirty Skittles welcome back leadership and communication expert Regent Cornell to talk about why courageous conversations matter long before things reach a breaking point. Regent shares how the principles of Fierce Conversations have changed his personal and professional life, and why feedback should feel less like criticism and more like a GPS helping us course-correct.

The conversation gets deeply personal as Regent opens up about quarterly relationship check-ins with his partner, navigating difficult family dynamics, and setting a painful boundary with a friend struggling with addiction. Dirty Skittles reflects on how avoiding hard conversations can turn into resentment, while G-Rex shares how she uses the principles of Fierce Conversations even when the person she needs to confront is herself.

Together, they unpack why confrontation does not have to mean conflict, cruelty, or emotional warfare. Healthy confrontation means facing the problem with honesty, curiosity, and respect before frustration becomes something bigger.

This episode reminds you that protecting your peace doesn't always mean walking away. Sometimes it means finally saying what needs to be said.

Keywords: courageous conversations, difficult conversations, mental health, emotional wellness, healthy communication, boundaries, feedback, confrontation, resentment, self-awareness, relationship communication, conflict resolution, Fierce Conversations, leadership communication, protecting your peace

Meet Our Guest — Regent Cornell

Regent Cornell is a transformational leadership, talent-development, and organizational-growth expert with more than 33 years of experience helping leaders, teams, and individuals build the clarity, confidence, and capability to thrive. As Vice President of Market Evolution & Strategic Growth at Fierce Conversations and owner of Cornell Consulting, Regent works at the intersection of leadership, strategy, human connection, and change, grounded in the belief that meaningful conversations create the conditions for learning, action, and transformation.
Fierce Inc.:

https://www.fierceinc.com/

LinkedIn:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/regent-cornell

Key Takeaways

Avoidance does not solve conflict; it often gives resentment room to grow.

Feedback works best when it happens before frustration becomes confrontation.

Difficult conversations can strengthen both professional and personal relationships.

You can have a Fierce Conversation with yourself, but an outside perspective can help challenge the stories you tell yourself.

Setting a boundary does not mean you stopped caring about someone.

Honest communication should come from respect, not revenge or the need to prove you are right.

Actionable Items

Think of one conversation you have been avoiding and write down what you actually need the other person to understand.

Use Regent’s “experience, explore, explain” approach: share your experience, ask about theirs, explore the situation together, and clarify what happens next.

Before confronting someone, check your emotional temperature. If you are going in to punish, prove, or unload, give yourself time to regulate first.

References Mentioned

Fierce Conversations:
Fierce Inc.:

https://www.fierceinc.com/

Fierce Conversations by Susan Scott

Herrmann International / HBDI

Important Chapters

00:00:40 – Regent Returns to the Podcast

00:04:44 – You Don’t Have a “Work Self” and a “Personal Self”

00:09:49 – Why Common Sense Is Not Always Common Practice

00:10:33 – Feedback Before Confrontation

00:15:46 – How Avoidance Turns Into Resentment

00:18:34 – Having Fierce Conversations With Yourself

00:21:55 – When Loving Someone Requires a Boundary

00:27:20 – Why We Need Other Perspectives

00:29:36 – Confrontation Is Not a Brawl

00:31:24 – Experience, Explore, Explain

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What happens when betrayal forces you to stop fixing everyone else and finally start protecting yourself? G-Rex and Dirty Skittles sit down with Barbara Parker for a raw, funny, and deeply honest conversation about healthy boundaries, emotional safety, perfectionism, rebuilding self-worth, and learning that protecting your peace isn’t selfish—it’s necessary.

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Sh!t That Goes On In Our Heads is a 2024 People’s Choice Podcast Award Winner (Best Health), 2024 Women in Podcasting Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), 2026 Podcast Tonight Award Winner (Best Mental Health Podcast), and 2026 NYC Podcast Award Audience Choice Winner (Best Hosts), with over 4.5 million downloads and listened to in over 160 countries.

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This episode includes conversations about infidelity, toxic relationships, emotional trauma, alcohol misuse, suicidal thoughts, and intense emotional distress. Please listen with care.
If you or someone you know is struggling or in crisis, call or text 988 in the United States and Canada for immediate support. You don’t have to carry the heavy shit alone.

Mental Health Quote

“Anything that comes between you and your peace needs to be removed.” — Barbara Parker

Episode Description

Barbara Parker knows what it feels like to lose yourself while trying to hold a relationship together. After discovering repeated infidelity in her marriage, she found herself facing heartbreak, anger, financial instability, and one brutal realization: she had spent so much energy worrying about someone else’s happiness that she had stopped paying attention to her own.
In this powerful conversation with G-Rex and Dirty Skittles, Barbara shares how those painful experiences became the foundation for rebuilding her identity, strengthening her boundaries, and eventually helping others do the same. She explains why boundaries start with knowing what you want, why two perfectly good people can still be completely wrong for each other, and why protecting your peace sometimes means accepting that somebody simply isn’t headed where you’re headed.

Barbara also gets real about perfectionism, anxiety, emotional triggers, and the wounds that can sit beneath our awareness until something slams directly into the panic button. She shares her “good enough” approach when perfection falls apart, her tea-kettle analogy for bottled-up emotions, and how her POWER method helps people communicate more clearly, rediscover their confidence, and create lives aligned with what actually matters.

This isn’t about pretending heartbreak was some magical gift wrapped in a bow. It’s about realizing the shit that hurt you doesn’t get to own you forever. You can learn from it, rebuild from it, and become fiercely protective of the peace you worked so damn hard to find.

Keywords: healthy boundaries, self-worth, emotional safety, toxic relationships, relationship healing, betrayal trauma, divorce recovery, self-love, perfectionism, anxiety, emotional wellness, confidence building, personal growth, women’s empowerment, mental health podcast

Meet Our Guest — Barbara Parker

Barbara L. Parker, MA, LPCC-S, is the Founder and CEO of BF Empowerment Center, where she helps people build confidence, improve communication, set healthier boundaries, and move through emotional healing and major life transitions. Drawing from both professional expertise and her own experiences with heartbreak, divorce, financial hardship, and rebuilding her identity, Barbara brings a practical, empowering approach to helping people create healthier relationships with themselves and others.
Connect with Barbara:

Official Website:

https://www.bfempowerment.com/

Instagram — BF Empowerment:

https://www.instagram.com/bfempowerment/

Facebook — B F Empowerment Center:

https://www.facebook.com/bfempowerment/

LinkedIn — Barbara L. Parker:

https://www.linkedin.com/in/queenblparker

Key Takeaways

Healthy boundaries begin with knowing what you want before somebody else starts deciding it for you.

Two people can both be good humans and still be completely wrong for each other.

Protecting your peace sometimes requires walking away from situations that keep pulling you away from yourself.

Perfectionism can steal the joy from moments you worked incredibly hard to create.

Anger can be the surface reaction covering a much deeper emotional wound.

Rebuilding after betrayal means investing energy back into yourself instead of endlessly investigating somebody else.

Emotional safety, self-worth, and identity matter just as much as what a relationship looks like from the outside.

Actionable Items

Ask whether it’s on mission or off mission. Before saying yes to a relationship, commitment, opportunity, or another obligation, ask whether it supports the life you’re trying to build or pulls you away from it.

Practice the “good enough” reset. When perfectionism starts convincing you everything is ruined because something went wrong, remind yourself that successful doesn't have to mean flawless.

Empty the emotional tea kettle. Make regular space to talk, journal, rest, seek therapy, or process what you’re carrying before one small trigger sends everything boiling over.

Important Chapters

00:01:06 – Meet Barbara: Spunky, Sassy, and a Recovering Perfectionist

00:04:21 – What Healthy Boundaries Actually Look Like

00:06:29 – The Heartbreak That Taught Barbara Boundaries

00:08:53 – Facing Infidelity and Talking to Nine Mistresses

00:13:30 – Poor Boundaries, Lost Identity, and Inviting Chaos

00:15:15 – When Betrayal Made Barbara Disconnect From Herself

00:16:28 – Turning Pain Into Purpose

00:19:01 – Stop Investigating Them and Start Investing in You

00:21:53 – The POWER Method and Finding Yourself Again

00:23:51 – Anger, Old Wounds, and the Panic Button

00:25:26 – The Tea Kettle: What Happens When We Never Empty Out

00:30:22 – “This Is Going to Hurt, but It’s Going to Be Worth It”

00:32:04 – Loyalty, Fidelity, and Emotional Safety

00:34:06 – Anxiety, Perfectionism, and Never Feeling Productive Enough

00:35:12 – Favorite Word, Least Favorite Word, and Why “Can’t” Gets No Love

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