Brain First Parenting with Eileen Devine

SUMMARY - Many parenting struggles with neurodivergent kids don’t come down to behavior, they come from a clash between deeply held parental values and a child’s brain-based capacities. In this episode, Eileen explores what happens when beliefs about “good parenting” collide with asynchronous development, emotional regulation challenges, and inconsistent cognitive skills. You’ll learn why pushing harder often backfires and how shifting from a behavior lens to a Brain First lens allows your parental values to actually take root.

TAKEAWAYS:
Parenting frustration often lives at the intersection of adult values and a child’s neurobiology, not a lack of effort or care.
Chronological age does not equal ability for kids with brain-based differences; uneven skill development changes what’s reasonable to expect.
You don’t need to abandon your parental values, you need to adjust how you teach them so they align with your child’s cognitive skills.
You cannot consequence a skill into existence; responsibility develops through repeated teaching, regulation, and scaffolding.
Flexibility in rules and expectations is not permissive parenting, it’s responsive parenting that reduces power struggles and supports growth.

RESOURCES:
Your Lens Matters – Free downloadable infographic

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SUMMARY - In this episode, Eileen sits down with Amy Lang, sexuality educator and expert, for a frank and open conversation about sex education for kids who are neurodivergent. Amy is the founder of Bird & Bees & Kids, and since 2006 has helped thousands of families have stronger, more open communication about sexuality and relationships.

TAKEAWAYS:
Talking to kids about sexuality is a health and safety issue; knowledge is empowering and reduces vulnerability.
This is an essential on-going conversation to have with your kids, especially given the access kids have to misinformation from friends and online.
Having conversations about sexuality and changing bodies early and often helps normalize very natural part of the human experience, especially given that these changes can be extremely distressing to neurodivergent kids.
All parents come into parenthood with deeply held beliefs and values that play into their level of comfort with sexuality and talking about this with their kids. Reflecting on this as a parent will help with confidence in moving forward with these conversations.

RESOURCES:
Birds & Bees & Kids
Sexuality and Safety with Tom and Ellie Book Series
Never Have I Ever (TV series)

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SUMMARY - In this episode of the Brain First Parenting podcast, Eileen explores the idea - which is grounded in research - that caregiver burnout can become contagious through shared nervous system dysregulation. Drawing on a recent keynote experience with those in professional and personal caregiver roles, she describes how caregiver burnout often builds gradually, frequently goes unrecognized, and how the right kind of support can act as a buffer from the stress.

TAKEAWAYS:
Caregiver burnout is not a personal failure. It is a nervous system response to prolonged stress and responsibility.
Burnout can have a contagion effect, spreading socially, emotionally, and physiologically within families, communities, and care teams.
Many caregivers are deeply burned out without realizing it, often experiencing anxiety, depression, irritability, and physical symptoms.
Living with or caring for someone with a fragile nervous system can dysregulate the caregiver’s own nervous system over time.
Connection and co-regulation are essential resilience-building tools that help heal and stabilize the nervous system.
Support matters—but how and where you receive support matters just as much.
Communities that focus only on how hard things are can increase burnout; healing support helps move caregivers toward relief, regulation, and hope.

RESOURCES:
Resilience Room Membership Community is a supportive space for caregivers focused on nervous system healing, co-regulation, and resilience building. Join the waitlist so you can be notified when we open our doors for new Members!

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SUMMARY - In this episode, Eileen outlines in detail what attention and working memory skills are exactly, and seven signs that may indicate a child struggles with this cognitive skill set.

TAKEAWAYS:
Attention and working memory refers to the ability to selectively process information and then also retain this information in an accessible state.
There are behaviors that reflect lagging attention and working memory skills and this episode provides seven common behaviors for parents and professionals to be aware of.
Recognizing the signs and symptoms of lagging attention and working memory skills is essential in order to provide a child/teen with the accommodations they need to be successful.

RESOURCES:
Brain First Parenting Podcast, Episode 5: Making Sense of Those Frustrating On and Off Days

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SUMMARY - In this episode, Eileen discussed a topic that is at the center of stress for many parents of kids with neurobehavioral conditions which is their extended family's inability to understand their child from a Brain First lens. Eileen offers some suggestions on ways to manage this specific, often tricky dynamic.

TAKEAWAYS:
It is a common experience amongst parents of kids with neurobehavioral conditions to experience feelings of judgement, shame, and being misunderstood when it comes to their extended family members' inability to see their child through a Brain First lens.
Often times, family members are missing information that is needed in order to shift their lens.
There are resources and strategies Eileen suggests in this episode to help bridge this gap (resources are also listed below).
There are common internal beliefs that parents hold that prevent them from asking for the accommodations their child needs. Reflecting on what "stuck points" you experience when asking family members to accommodate your child is essential so you can confidently move forward with what your child needs.

RESOURCES:
(Blog Post) Dear Family Member: A Letter I Hope You Read
(Free Downloadable Infographic) Your Lens Matters: Shifting to a Brain First Lens
Episode 6: Your Child is Not the Problem
Episode 22: The Unique Grief Affecting Parents of Neurodivergent Kids

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