A Place of Yes | A Grief Podcast

David Ferrugio was just 12 years old when his father was killed in the September 11th attacks. Growing up in a New Jersey commuter town, David went to school that morning knowing his dad worked in the World Trade Center but with no way to comprehend what was unfolding. More than two decades later, he still lives with a uniquely public kind of grief—one where the day his father died belongs, in some way, to everyone. From unexpectedly encountering footage of the attacks to grieving the relationship with his dad he never got to have as an adult, that loss has profoundly shaped the way David thinks about death, life, and what we do with the time we're given.
In this conversation, David and Heather talk candidly about losing a parent young, the strange reality of grieving someone whose death is part of history, and why humor—even the wildly inappropriate kind—can sometimes help us carry the unbearable. David shares how repeatedly confronting the footage of 9/11 became part of his own grieving process, why he believes getting unstuck requires both grace and accountability, and how his father's death ultimately led him to create the podcast DEAD Talks. They also explore post-traumatic growth, survivor's guilt, mediumship, the possibility of an afterlife, and the importance of staying present when you know firsthand how quickly everything can change. It's an honest, sometimes funny conversation about accepting the absurdity of life and death, leaving room for the "maybe," and choosing to keep living when someone you love no longer can.
Resources & Ways to Connect
You're Not Dead Yet: https://a.co/d/0fcJmUZB
DEAD Talks: https://deadtalks.net/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Website: http://jakeshelpfromheaven.org/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jakeshelp

Jake’s Help from Heaven Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jakeshelp

APOY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aplaceofyespodcast

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heathersstraughter

Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@aplaceofyespodcast

For more of Heather’s writing and thoughts: https://ohheather.substack.com/

Everything’s Jakey (Substack): https://everythingsjakey.substack.com/

Brad Wolfe has spent much of his life asking what gives life meaning. As the grandson of Auschwitz survivors, he grew up hearing stories of unimaginable suffering, survival, and the kind of love that can still exist after profound trauma. Later, when his close friend Sarah was diagnosed with a rare pediatric cancer, Brad found himself showing up at her bedside with the one language he knew best: music. Writing songs for Sarah during her illness became both an offering to her and the beginning of a larger question that would shape his life and work: why wait to live with more love, purpose, and compassion?
In this conversation, Brad and Heather talk about grief, music, post-traumatic growth, and the ways pain can become something meaningful without ever making the loss itself okay. Brad shares the story of his grandparents, the lessons his grandmother left behind, the friendship that inspired his early work with pediatric cancer families, and the creation of Reimagine, a community built around helping people face death and embrace life. They also explore what it means to keep showing up, how small acts of service can carry someone’s memory forward, and why the people we lose can continue shaping how we live. It’s a thoughtful conversation about love, legacy, creativity, and choosing not to wait for some later moment to live more fully.
Resources & Ways to Connect
Reimagine Website: https://letsreimagine.org/

Brad Wolfe and the Moon: https://www.bradwolfe.com/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Website: http://jakeshelpfromheaven.org/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jakeshelp

Jake’s Help from Heaven Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jakeshelp

APOY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aplaceofyespodcast

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heathersstraughter

Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@aplaceofyespodcast

For more of Heather’s writing and thoughts: https://ohheather.substack.com/

Everything’s Jakey (Substack): https://everythingsjakey.substack.com/

For most people in Saratoga Springs, Patrick Pipino is known as the guy who always shows up. Whether he's organizing community events, teaching someone how to snowmobile, baking sourdough for friends, or helping a neighbor in need, Pat has built a reputation around generosity and connection. But behind that outward kindness is a loss he has carried for nearly four decades. When Pat was 19 years old, his younger sister Meredith was killed in a tragic house fire set by an arsonist. She was just 13 years old. In an instant, his family was forever changed, leaving behind questions, heartbreak, and a grief that would follow them for the rest of their lives.
In this conversation, Pat and Heather talk about sibling loss, survivor's guilt, and the complicated ways grief evolves over time. Pat shares the lasting impact Meredith's death had on his mother, his brother, and his own understanding of family, as well as the guilt he still wrestles with decades later. They explore what it means to keep someone's memory alive, the challenge of living with unanswered questions, and why small acts of kindness have become such an important part of Pat's life. Along the way, they discuss social media, community, parenting, and the quiet ways the people we love continue shaping who we become long after they're gone. It's an honest conversation about loss, guilt, legacy, and learning to carry grief without letting it define you.
Resources & Ways to Connect
Jake’s Help from Heaven Website: http://jakeshelpfromheaven.org/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jakeshelp

Jake’s Help from Heaven Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jakeshelp

APOY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aplaceofyespodcast

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heathersstraughter

Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@aplaceofyespodcast

For more of Heather’s writing and thoughts: https://ohheather.substack.com/

Everything’s Jakey (Substack): https://everythingsjakey.substack.com/

When Andrea Wilson Woods was 22 years old, she made a life-changing decision: she became the legal guardian of her eight-year-old half-sister, Adrienne. What began as stepping in to provide stability quickly became a true parent-child relationship, with Andrea raising Adrienne through childhood, adolescence, and eventually a devastating liver cancer diagnosis. By the time Adrienne died at just 15 years old, Andrea had spent years fighting for her, advocating for her care, and building a life centered around the person she loved most.
In this conversation, Andrea and Heather talk about the unique grief of losing a sibling who was also your child in every way that mattered. Andrea shares what it was like to navigate the medical system as a young caregiver, the heartbreak of watching friendships disappear after loss, and the struggle of reconciling a life that has been permanently shaped by grief. They also explore intuition, anniversaries, the milestones their loved ones never reached, and the ways we continue carrying someone forward decades after they are gone. Andrea reflects on writing her memoir, Better Off Bald, preserving Adrienne’s own words and artwork, and building a national liver cancer organization in her sister’s honor. It’s a deeply moving conversation about love, advocacy, identity, and what it means to spend a lifetime keeping someone’s memory alive.
Resources & Ways to Connect
Andrea Wilson Woods Website: https://andreawilsonwoods.com/

Better Off Bald: https://betteroffbald.com/

Blue Faery: The Adrienne Wilson Liver Cancer Association: https://bluefaery.org/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Website: http://jakeshelpfromheaven.org/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jakeshelp

Jake’s Help from Heaven Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jakeshelp

APOY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aplaceofyespodcast

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heathersstraughter

Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@aplaceofyespodcast

For more of Heather’s writing and thoughts: https://ohheather.substack.com/

Everything’s Jakey (Substack): https://everythingsjakey.substack.com/

Erica Phelps never imagined she would one day be navigating life after the loss of her daughter, Emmie. Born healthy, Emmie began experiencing infantile spasms as a baby, and over time her condition became increasingly medically complex, requiring around-the-clock care and reshaping every part of family life. In this conversation, Erica shares what it looked like to parent a child with profound medical needs, the identity and purpose that caregiving created for her family, and the devastating reality of losing not only a child, but the entire life built around caring for them.
Erica and Heather talk openly about the rawness of early grief, the physical and emotional weight of losing a medically fragile child, and the complicated process of figuring out who you are after years of 24/7 caregiving. They also explore sibling grief, guilt, honoring a child while continuing to live, and the ways parents try to keep their children’s presence woven into everyday life after they’re gone. Erica shares how donating Emmie’s medical equipment to other medically complex families has become one meaningful way to carry her legacy forward. It’s an incredibly honest conversation about child loss, caregiving, survival, and the deep need to feel understood by people who truly know this kind of pain.
Resources & Ways to Connect
Jake’s Help from Heaven Website: http://jakeshelpfromheaven.org/

Jake’s Help from Heaven Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jakeshelp

Jake’s Help from Heaven Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jakeshelp

APOY Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/aplaceofyespodcast

Heather’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heathersstraughter

Our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@aplaceofyespodcast

For more of Heather’s writing and thoughts: https://ohheather.substack.com/

Everything’s Jakey (Substack): https://everythingsjakey.substack.com/