Hotter Than Ever

• Rethinking Relationship Rules with Ally Iseman

  Have you missed us? We’re thrilled that Hotter Than Ever is back after an unplanned summer hiatus. Not only did Erin sell her house and move, but she’s also in the midst of launching a new business while solo parenting—no big deal. We’re returning with a bang and more real talk than ever, as Erin gets radically honest about navigating massive life transitions in midlife: letting go of old definitions of “success,” reimagining what home means, and choosing growth, even when it’s messy, expensive, and terrifying.Then, Erin sits down with relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, and founder of Passport to Pleasure, Ally Iseman, to explore how to live and love on purpose. In this episode, Ally helps us unpack the rules of monogamy women grow up with, and asks: what if, instead of defaulting to the one-size-fits-all model, we designed our relationships on our own terms? Join Erin and Ally as they discuss:The journey from serial monogamy to expansive, intentional relationship designCompersion, jealousy, and why feeling joy for your partner’s joy can be a gamechangerThe differences between boundaries, rules, and agreements and why most of us were trained to get them muddledWhat happens when you actually talk about your needs (spoiler: intimacy gets real!)Exploring play parties, and what they reveal about consent, courage, and communityHow to find your people and build community, whether you’re single, partnered, monogamous, or in the delicious unknownChoosing adventure, whether it’s relocating to Europe, reframing “failure,” or falling in love with yourself at 40+OUR GUEST: Ally Iseman is a writer, TV host, NCSF-registered Kink Aware Professional relationship coach certified by The Consent Academy, and Founder of the educational platform Passport2Pleasure.com. She has been a speaker, community organizer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016. A sought after podcast guest, Ally is also a featured subject matter expert for The New York Times, Cosmo, Well+Good, Romper, PureWow, and Yahoo! and others and a contributing writer for Sexual Health Magazine.Want more Ally? Find her and her work online at www.passport2pleasure.com and access her free tools at the links below:Relationship Ratio: www.passport2pleasure.com/ratioBig Why: www.passport2pleasure.com/bigwhy Follow her and Passport to Pleasure on:YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@passport2pleasure Substack: https://allyiseman.substack.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/passport2pleasure https://www.instagram.com/allyiseman Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@passport2pleasure Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61554151163099 LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/passport2pleasure

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• How To Have a Truly Intimate Relationship with Dr. Alexandra Stockwell

  “Having a fantastic relationship is a learnable skill.”So many of us crave deeper connection, more spark, and a sense of feeling not just content, but truly alive, decades into love and relationships. But what if your desire has dulled, your partnership feels stuck on autopilot, or you’re no longer even sure what you want, let alone how to ask for it? Enter Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, “The Intimacy Doctor”, a physician, relationship coach, author, and podcast host, whose mission is to help women and couples create conscious, erotically vibrant partnerships in midlife and beyond.Join us for a candid and empowering conversation with Dr. Stockwell on breaking the cycle of compromise, rediscovering your desires, and bringing more pleasure into your life… and your bedroom. We dive into why:Great relationships and intimacy are built through intention and skill, not just chemistry or timeDesire alone isn't enough to sustain relationships and the importance of reflecting on how deeply you truly want somethingMany women discover deeper pleasure and connection later in lifeUncompromising intimacy, rather than compromise, is the real secret to a nourishing, fulfilling relationshipEveryday interactions shape long-term intimacy just as much as what happens in the bedroomCuriosity and asking open-ended questions can reignite emotional and sexual intimacy with your partnerVulnerably sharing how something made you feel creates more connection than placing blameOUR GUEST: Alexandra Stockwell, MD, “The Intimacy Doctor”, is a relationship and intimacy expert who helps high-achieving couples create emotionally connected, erotically vibrant partnerships. A physician-turned-coach, she’s the bestselling author of Uncompromising Intimacy, host of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, and creator of the Aligned & Hot Marriage program. Married for 28 years with four children, Dr. Alexandra teaches that the key to lasting passion isn’t compromise, it’s authenticity. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, Rolling Stone, Cosmopolitan, and more.Want more Dr. Stockwell? Find her online at https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/ and listen to her podcast, “The Intimate Marriage Podcast”, using the link below or wherever you get your podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-intimate-marriage-podcast-with-intimacy/id1548060690 Follow her on: IG: @intimacydoctor FB: @Intimacydoctor Youtube: @intimacydoctor Tiktok: @intimacydoctor LinkedIn: alexandrastockwell Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram:

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• The Surprising Thing Your Teen Actually Needs From You with Megan Saxelby

  “Adolescence isn’t the end of your close relationship with your child, it’s the beginning of the best one you’ve ever had.”For so many parents, the teenage years loom like a storm cloud, fraught with anxiety, conflict, and the fear of losing connection. But what if everything you think you know about adolescence is dead wrong? What if it’s not a time to dread or simply get through, but an invitation to lifelong closeness and understanding with your kids?In this episode we sit down with Megan Saxelby, founder of Wild Feelings, veteran educator, and reformed “middle school monster” on a mission to radically reframe how we all understand and approach adolescence. Drawing from 17 years in middle school classrooms and her pioneering work in dignity-based conflict resolution, Megan shares how these pivotal years can unlock the best, most meaningful relationships we’ll ever have with our kids. We discuss:Why the “doom and gloom” narrative about teens does everyone (kids and adults alike!) a massive disservice, and what actually happens when we expect more from themThe powerful science behind adolescent brain development (hint: ages 11–17 are just as crucial as birth to five—and why we need to stop checking out right when it matters most)How dignity-based conflict resolution can transform peer relationships, empower young people to speak up, and bring empathy and accountability into every hard conversationThe number one thing teens want: to truly MATTER, to belong, and to have agency—along with simple, actionable shifts you can use to support them (no matter whose kid they are)Real talk about parenting through change: whether that’s divorce, growing up, or just learning how to be your child’s anchor, not their peerPractical ways to help teens (and yourself) meet the chaos of growing up, especially in a world that makes belonging and inclusion feel more urgent (and more fraught) than everOUR GUEST: Megan Saxelby is on a mission to reframe adolescence as a time of growth and connection—not chaos. A veteran educator and founder of Wild Feelings, she brings 17 years of classroom experience and cutting-edge research to her work with parents. Megan has collaborated with thought leaders like Rosalind Wiseman and Dr. Donna Hicks, and helped develop core curriculum for #halfthestory, a leading digital wellness nonprofit. Through Wild Feelings, she offers practical, evidence-based tools that help parents navigate the teen years with confidence and compassion.Want more Megan? Find her online at https://www.wildfeelings.co/ and check out her parenting course here: https://www.wildfeelings.co/parents/ Follow her on Instagram at @wildfeelings.co and on Substack https://wildfeelings.substack.com/ Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok:

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• Matchmaking Secrets from LGBTQ Dating Guru Dr. Frankie

  Dating in today’s world can feel confusing, lonely, and (thanks to the apps) a lot like a part-time job with no benefits. But what if finding a connection isn’t about chasing elusive chemistry, endlessly scrolling, or pretending to be someone you’re not? Enter Dr. Frankie Bashan: a clinical psychologist, longtime connector, and pioneering LGBTQIA+ matchmaker whose mission is to help every person find authentic love, no matter what boxes they check.In this conversation, Dr. Frankie joins Erin to share her personal story and lift the veil on what really works (and what doesn’t) when it comes to finding partnership in midlife, especially for those outside the hetero dating mainstream. We dive into:Turning your strengths and superpowers into a careerThe power and success that come from finding your niche in business and serving underserved communitiesWhy dating apps are designed to keep you wanting, not finding, and how matchmaking flips the scriptWhy chasing the “fireworks” in dating chemistry can be a trap and not a path to a healthy, sustainable relationshipHow your “list” might be holding you back, and why letting go of overly specific criteria in favor of three core dealmakers can open you up to real connectionHow matchmaking for the LGBTQ+ community is different and what straight daters can learn from queer dating wisdomOUR GUEST: Dr. Frankie Bashan is a clinical psychologist, sex therapist, and founder of Little Gay Book, the leading LGBTQ+ matchmaking service in the U.S. With over 20 years of experience supporting queer individuals and couples, she combines emotional intelligence, intuition, and a personalized approach to help clients find meaningful, lasting love. Known for her emotional intelligence and trauma-informed approach, Dr. Frankie boasts an 85% matchmaking success rate to support clients around the world. She also co-hosts MTV’s Are You The One and offers coaching globally via Zoom.Want more Dr. Frankie? Find her and her matchmaking services online at https://littlegaybook.com and follow her on Instagram at @littlegaybookmatchmaking Want more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube: @hotterthaneverpod Facebook: @hotterthaneverpod Follow Hotter Than Ever wherever you listen to podcasts - we’re on Apple Podcasts, Spotify and more! That way you’ll never miss an episode. We’d love to hear what you think about the show - it helps us know what stories are resonating with you. DM us on Instagram and write us a review!

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• How To Co-Parent So You Don't F*ck Up Your Kids with Christina McGhee

  Divorce is often treated as the end of the story, but what happens after the separation, when the real work of navigating co-parenting begins? In this episode, we sit down with Christina McGee, renowned divorce parenting expert and author of Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids. With over 20 years of experience supporting families through change, Christina reminds us that divorce doesn’t make you a bad parent, it simply means you’re a parent navigating a tough chapter. Join us for an honest and deeply practical convo of what it means to redefine “family” when the old scripts of custody battles, “my time,” and visitation as a commodity, no longer serve us or our children. Erin and Christina dig into:Why terms like “custody” and “visitation” turn parenting into a transaction and how shifting to “parenting time” can center kids and reduce emotional strainHow kids come to take on the emotional burden of divorce, especially when parents get stuck on splitting time "equally"Why 50/50 custody isn’t one-size-fits-all and how to build a parenting plan that actually works for your childWhat to do when your values clash with your co-parent’s discipline style and how to respond with empathy instead of reactivityConcrete strategies for holding space for big feelings, validating your kid’s emotions, protecting their right to love both parents, and avoiding the blame gameHow to lean into your co-parent’s strengths (even if they’re not your strengths) so your child feels supported from all sidesOUR GUEST: Christina McGhee is a divorce-parenting expert who believes divorce doesn’t make you a bad parent—just a parent going through a tough time. For over 20 years, she’s helped families and professionals keep the focus on what matters most: the kids. She’s the author of Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids, creator of the Co-Parenting Specialist™ Certification Program, and Education Director for the SPLIT Outreach Project, which produced the acclaimed Split documentary films. Learn more at divorceandchildren.com or coparentingspecialist.com.Want more Christina? Find her online at www.divorceandchildren.com and www.coparentingspecialist.com. Check out her Book: “Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids” on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2MK4Mya Follow her on: IG: @divorceandchildren Facebook: @divorceandchildren Linkedin: @christinamcgheeWant more Hotter Than Ever? Subscribe to the Hotter Than Ever Substack to dive deeper. Find episode transcripts at www.hotterthaneverpod.com Follow us on:Instagram: @hotterthaneverpod TikTok: @hotterthaneverpod Youtube:

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