Raising Elite Competitors

Two moms share how they help their daughters bounce back from a bad play in minutes. Parents... Join me LIVE this week to learn more → https://trainhergame.com/mom

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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Intro
00:39 Elise's Breakthrough on the Field
02:06 The Trust Yourself Trick
03:25 Ella's Pool Adaptation
05:10 Parents' New Playbook
07:45 Join the Elite Competitor Academy

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

🎤 Joined by two Elite Competitor Academy families, Michelle and her daughter Elise, and Danyell and her daughter Ella, sharing what changed for them inside the program.

Michelle shares the exact wristband trick she uses to remind Elise to trust herself mid-game, and Danyell describes how quickly Ella recovers between swims when she has a rough one.

Both moms also open up about how they changed the way they talk to their daughters after a game, swapping quick fixes for real support.

What You'll Learn:
✅ The exact wristband trick Michelle uses to remind Elise to trust her skills mid-game
✅ How Ella "knocks off" a bad swim and preps for the next one like it's brand new
✅ Why Elise's coach noticed a change before she said anything about it
✅ The shift from outcome praise to process praise, and why it reprograms self-talk
✅ What changed once both moms stopped focusing on what could've gone better

💬 Moms — comment below: What's one thing you say to your daughter right after a tough game or match?

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉Parents who give process-oriented feedback, focused on effort and strategy over outcome, support their young athlete's motivation more effectively (Motivation and Emotion, 2023)
👉A study of 46 NCAA Division I swimmers found that a structured pre-performance routine led to more helpful emotions and less intense negative emotions before racing (The Sport Psychologist, 2021)
👉A 2025 study of young elite athletes found that how quickly and constructively an athlete processes a mistake, not whether she dwells on it at all, was linked to better perceived performance (Frontiers in Sports and Active Living, 2025)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

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Your daughter doesn't need to love mental training to benefit from it. Here's why mental toughness for athletes starts before buy-in, and what actually happens on a Welcome Call. Learn more here, mom → elitecompetitor.com/emg

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🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors

FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge

OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:
👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg

Connect with us!
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
00:54 Community Shoutouts
02:03 She's Not Broken, Just Untrained
04:13 How to Get Her Bought In
05:59 Mental Training as a Skill
07:43 Proof It Works
09:12 How to Bring It Up
10:53 Closing Thoughts

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

You already believe mental training matters for your daughter. The hard part is actually bringing it up without making her feel like something's wrong with her.

What You'll Learn:
✅ Why your daughter isn't broken, she's simply untrained in one specific skill
✅ Why there's no perfect script, and what to focus on instead
✅ Why she doesn't have to be excited about this for it to be the right move
✅ The specific order kids move through before they actually buy in
✅ What happens on a Welcome Call, and why most skeptical athletes leave convinced

💬 Moms — comment below: What's the one thing that's made you hesitate to bring this up with her?

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉A 3-week psychological skills program produced significant gains in young athletes' domain-specific self-esteem, including athletic competence (Merlin et al., Pediatric Exercise Science, 2024)
👉An 8-week psychological skills training program significantly reduced competitive anxiety in adolescent athletes, with the effect still holding 3 months later (Bai et al., Social Behavior and Personality, 2026)
👉Autonomy-supportive parenting was linked to greater persistence and better self-regulation in adolescents completing tasks they weren't initially enthusiastic about (Papa et al., School Mental Health, 2026)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#mentaltraining #sportsmom #girlathletes #mentalperformance #confidencecoaching

The science behind why you freeze under pressure. Athletes: take this quiz to find out your competitor style → https://elitecompetitor.com/athlete

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📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors

FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge

OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg

Connect with us!
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Intro: Freezing Under Pressure
00:55 Mackenzie's Story
02:35 What Happens in Your Brain
04:10 Tip 1: Name It to Tame It
05:11 Tip 2: Anchor and Go
06:29 Tip 3: Bridge Practice and Games
08:41 Recap and Outro

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

🎙 This episode is hosted by Coach Saylor, our mental performance coach for competitive girl athletes inside the Elite Competitor Academy.

In this episode, Coach Saylor breaks down why athletes who look sharp in practice can suddenly freeze the moment a real competition is on the line. She shares the science behind it, plus three tools you can start using with your daughter today.

Coach Saylor also shares a real message from one of our Elite Competitor Academy athletes who used these exact tools to compete like she practices and post some of her best results yet.

What You'll Learn:
Why skills that feel automatic in practice can break down the moment pressure shows up
The "name it to tame it" step that takes the power out of a pressure spiral
A simple pre-play anchor routine (breath, cue word, physical signal) to reset instantly
How to build practice on purpose so game pressure stops feeling foreign
Why her past training is the strongest fuel for her present confidence

💬 Moms — comment below: When does your daughter's practice-brilliance disappear the most? Big tournaments, playoffs, or when a college coach is watching?

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:-
77% of athletes experience choking under pressure at least once a year, averaging 18.25 times (Mesagno, Hammond & Goodyear, 2024)

A meta-analysis of 800 athletes across 15 sports found pre-performance routines produce moderate-to-large performance gains specifically under pressure (Rupprecht, Tran & Gröpel, 2021)

Competitive performance anxiety in young athletes is rising due to early specialization and year-round training, and it directly interferes with executing trained skills (McDuff, Garvin & Marsalis, 2025)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#sportsmom #mentalperformance #girlathletes #confidencecoach #athletemindset

Two moms share what helped their daughters bounce back after a mistake. 🧠 Learn more here, mom → https://trainhergame.com/mom

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🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors

FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge

OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:
👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg

Connect with us!
IG: ➡︎ https://www.instagram.com/elitecompetitorcoach
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⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction
01:39 Meet the Moms and Daughters
02:59 Why They Joined the Academy
03:18 Elyse's Struggle on the Field
04:19 Ella's Individual vs. Team Pressure
04:58 Danielle's Perspective on Building a Foundation
06:21 Overcoming Early Skepticism
09:14 Program Overview and How to Join

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

🎤 Joined by two Elite Competitor Academy families, Michelle and her daughter Elise, and Danyell and her daughter Ella, sharing what changed for them inside the program.

Michelle describes exactly what she saw from the sideline when Elise made a mistake, and the moment that changed how her daughter handled it. Danyell shares why she wanted her daughter to hear these same tools from someone other than her, before the pressure of competitive swimming caught up to them.

What You'll Learn:
✅ What Michelle saw from the sideline when Elise made a mistake, and what changed once she got support
✅ The specific moment Elise decided to trust her skills again mid-game
✅ Why Danyell wanted the message to come from someone other than her, even with a psychology background of her own
✅ The exact question Michelle asked Elise that opened the door to try mental training
✅ Why doubting this will work at first is a normal reaction, not a red flag

💬 Moms, comment below: What's the exact moment you realized your daughter's mental game needed more support than her physical training?

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉Parents' influence on youth athlete motivation has been found to surpass coaches' in some respects (Frontiers in Psychology, 2023)
👉A qualitative study of coaches, parents, and athletes found a consistent gap in know-how around mental skill development, meaning families are often the ones initiating outside resources (Frontiers in Sports and Active Living, 2025)
👉A network meta-analysis of 46 randomized controlled trials found psychological interventions meaningfully reduced competitive anxiety in athletes (Sports Medicine – Open, 2026)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#sportsmom #mentalgame #girlathletes #sportsparenting #confidentathletes

14-year-old, Maeryn, a nationally ranked tennis athlete, shares her advice for showing up on bad days. 🎾 Learn more about the Elite Competitor Academy program she uses to keep centered → https://trainhergame.com/mom

📌 Resources & Tools:

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🎓 Strengthen Your Athlete's Mental Game - Training for Parents → https://trainhergame.com/mom
📬 Join our weekly TIPS newsletter → https://sportsmom.fyi/yt-tips
💬 Use this Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to talk to your athlete about mental training → https://sportsmom.fyi/convo-guide
🎙 Listen to the Podcast: Raising Elite Competitors

FREE for Athletes:
🔹 Share with your athlete: What's Your Competitor Style Quiz → https://athlete.fyi/yt-quiz
🎥 YouTube Playlist for Athletes → https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge

OUR SIGNATURE PROGRAMS:👉 Join The Elite Mental Game for girl athletes → https://trainhergame.com/yt-emg

Connect with us!
IG: ➡︎ https://www.instagram.com/elitecompetitorcoach
Tik Tok: ➡︎ https://www.tiktok.com/@raisingelitecompetitors
YouTube: ➡︎ SUBSCRIBE 🙌🏼 and hang out in our community here with us!

⏰ Key Timestamps:
00:28 Intro
01:11 Meet Maeryn
02:41 Recent Tournament Wins & Mental Prep
05:09 Snapback Routine & Breathing Techniques
06:35 The Brain Dump Strategy
08:48 Positive Affirmations
10:25 Overcoming Past Struggles
12:00 Advice & Closing Thoughts

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre — a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

🎾 This week's guest is Maeryn, a 14-year-old nationally ranked tennis player and our July Athlete of the Month. She joins Coach Saylor to share her advice for athletes and parents on showing up and competing even on the hard days.

Maeryn walks through her Snapback Routine, box breathing, and the pre-match worry list she hands straight to her parents so she can't carry it onto the court. She also shares the four-line affirmation script she reads during changeovers.

This episode is for the athlete who's had a bad week and the parent trying to figure out what to say to her. Share it with your daughter, then come back and comment below.

What You'll Learn:
✅ How Maeryn shows up and competes even during a rough stretch
✅ The exact Snap Back Routine she uses to reset mid-match in under 20 seconds
✅ Why she writes down every worry before a tournament and hands it to her parents
✅ The four-line third-person affirmation script she reads during changeovers
✅ How she reframes a loss so it doesn't turn into a weeklong spiral

💬 Moms — comment below: What's the first thing you say to your daughter in the car after a tough loss?

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
👉Third-person self-talk improves emotion regulation and self-control under pressure by creating psychological distance from the stressor. (Moser et al., Scientific Reports, 2017)
👉A meta-analysis found pre-performance routines meaningfully improve concentration and lower pre-competition anxiety. (Gröpel & Mesagno, International Review of Sport and Exercise Psychology, 2021)
👉A brief writing exercise immediately before a high-stakes moment significantly boosted performance, especially for those who are habitually anxious. (Ramirez & Beilock, Science, 2011)
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The Raising Elite Competitors podcast and YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#sportsmom #mentaltraining #girlsintennis #confidencebuilding #athletemindset
Join our FREE live training for sports parents: The Do's and Don'ts of Strengthening Your Athlete's Mental Game! -> REGISTER HERE