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• What This Soccer Mom Got Wrong After Games (and How She Fixed It)

  Coach Bre chats with Kimberly, a busy mom of young athletes, about the small but powerful changes that transformed her approach to parenting in youth sports. After years of post-game frustration, Kimberly realized her reactions, especially after wins, losses, and mistakes, were affecting her kids’ confidence and love for the game.✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:How to celebrate effort over outcomes to build resilience 🏆Simple ways to shift language and routines that reduce stress for both parent and child 🗣️“Shine Time” moments to connect and reinforce positivity 💖How small mindset tweaks can lead to big improvements in confidence and enjoyment ⚡Kimberly shares her journey using the Elite Mental Game program, showing that supporting your young athlete does not have to be complicated. Coach Bre dives into actionable tips for handling post-game emotions, fostering mental toughness, and keeping sports fun for your kids, without adding extra pressure.Whether you’re a parent wanting to improve your approach, a coach guiding families, or just curious about youth sports psychology, this episode is packed with practical advice and inspiration.Tune in to discover how small shifts in mindset and communication can help your child thrive on and off the field, while making your parenting journey calmer, more confident, and way more joyful. 🌟Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Meet Kimberly. A busy sports mom with two daughters juggling soccer, basketball, cross country, and softball.[00:02:00] The surprising impact of a simple note during the What to Say Challenge. It shifted their entire after-game dynamic.[00:03:36] Introducing her daughters. Ages 13 and 15, both playing multiple sports with full schedules and high expectations.[00:05:10] Why she joined EMG. Playing up brought pressure her younger daughter was not prepared for emotionally.[00:07:10] Getting her husband on board. Both parents needed the same language to support their daughters.[00:08:00] How she introduced EMG to each daughter based on personality and what motivates them..[00:15:00] “Shine Time.” The fun routine Kimberly created to make EMG feel special and consistent.[00:19:00] Early wins. Her daughters used tools like the Snapback routine and quickly saw confidence shifts.[00:22:30] The car ride breakthrough. No more tense conversations or emotional shutdowns.[00:23:40] Kimberly’s new rule for after games. Only say “Good game” unless her daughter invites more conversation.[00:24:30] The power of focusing on the parent role instead of coaching from the sidelines.[00:27:20] How her older daughter used EMG tools during stressful high school tryouts.[00:31:40] Reframing playing up versus playing age. How they found what worked best for each girl.[00:40:00] Creating a pre-field routine that helped her daughter manage nerves and step onto the field ready.[00:42:30] Kimberly’s final encouragement to moms. You are not alone and small language shifts can change everything.Next Steps:Jump into The Elite Mental GameJoin our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• Athlete of the Month: Kate's Comeback Story

  In this special episode, we’re celebrating our very first Athlete of the Month inside the Elite Mental Game! Her story is one every athlete needs to hear.Kate, a field hockey player, opens up about the moment she almost quit her sport after what felt like a big setback. She shares how investing in her mental game helped her rebuild confidence, regain her love of playing, and come back stronger than ever.If your athlete has ever doubted themselves, felt stuck, or wondered if they’re “good enough,” Kate’s story will inspire them to keep going. She shares the exact mental tools that helped her turn failure into fuel, and ultimately make varsity as a freshman.Athletes and parents, don’t miss this powerful conversation about resilience, belief, and what’s possible when you train your mind just as much as your skills.Listen now and cheer Kate on! Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Coach Saylor kicks off the episode and introduces the very first “Athlete of the Month,” which is a new series spotlighting real girl-athletes who have transformed through the Elite Mental Game.[00:00:20] Meet Kate, a field hockey athlete who was on the verge of quitting after repeated setbacks and self-doubt—but made an unbelievable comeback through mental training.[00:00:47] Hear how Kate’s eighth-grade JV tryouts spiraled into nerves, mistakes, and crushing disappointment… and how that moment pushed her to the mental breaking point.[00:01:20] Kate opens up about feeling “not good enough,” being told no over and over, and wondering if all her hard work was pointless—an experience many athletes quietly battle.[00:01:43] This episode becomes a must-listen for any girl who feels stuck, overwhelmed, or unsure how to move forward in her sport.[00:02:19] Kate introduces herself and shares her powerful story of fumbling tryouts, beating herself up after every mistake, and the heartbreak of not making JV.[00:03:00] She reveals the moment she questioned everything, considered quitting, and how mentally defeated she felt—until her mom signed her up for the Elite Mental Game.[00:03:20] Kate explains how bounce-back routines, positive self-talk, and visualization helped her rebuild her confidence and finally believe in her ability.[00:03:40] The big comeback: Kate uses her new mental skills at tryouts… and ends up making varsity as a freshman. 🤯 A defining moment that proved how far she had come.[00:04:04] Coach Saylor reacts with chills (same, girl ✨) and celebrates Kate’s growth, grit, and ability to manage nerves so she can play at her true level.[00:04:49] Kate is now chasing new goals in club season with a stronger mindset—and a deeper love for her sport.[00:05:14] Coach Saylor wraps up with a message to all athletes: doubts, nerves, and low moments are normal. What matters is having the tools to rise from them.[00:05:41] Kate is crowned Athlete of the Month, and listeners get a sneak peek that a new athlete story will drop next month.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• College Recruiting Made Easy: How to Help Your Athlete Get Noticed (Without Spending Thousands)

  If your daughter dreams of playing in college but you’re overwhelmed by where to start, this episode breaks the process down into something clear and doable. Coach Bre talks with David Hitz, COO of Athlete Narrative, about what recruiting really looks like today and how your athlete can get noticed without expensive platforms or endless research.💡 In This Episode:✔️ Why “If she’s good enough, coaches will find her” is a myth✔️ What coaches actually look for in an email✔️ The biggest mistakes families make early in recruiting✔️ How your daughter can send 100+ personalized emails quickly✔️ A behind the scenes look at Athlete Narrative’s simple, affordable tool✔️ When athletes should realistically start the process✔️ Why D1 is no longer the only path✔️ Real stories of athletes going from zero traction to real offersConnect with David on IG at @athletenarrative and @theneuropro, or email him at [email protected].🎧 Exclusive Offer:Download The Recruiter App using our affiliate link to access the Elite Competitor pricing of $15 per month through November 30th.Episode Highlights: [00:00:18] Not sure if your daughter is too young to think about college recruiting? Coach Bre explains why understanding the process early builds calm confidence instead of confusion.[00:01:10] Meet David Hitz, COO of Athlete Narrative and longtime mental performance coach. [00:03:20] Where your daughter should actually start with recruiting. Hint: It is not creating a profile and hoping for the best.[00:05:33] The first mistake almost every family makes. David explains how Googling for help leads parents straight into pricey programs that rarely deliver.[00:09:42] Why Athlete Narrative designed the app to be simple enough for busy teens.[00:11:00] Full walkthrough of the recruiting app. How the Radar Page works and how “Hope,” their AI, helps athletes send personalized emails fast.[00:13:09] The hidden risk of bulk emailing coaches through big platforms. David explains how it can damage credibility and trigger spam filters.[00:19:00] Real success story. One athlete went from zero interest to multiple offers within a few months.[00:21:47] When athletes should start using the app. What freshmen, sophomores and juniors need to know.[00:24:10] Why Athlete Narrative refuses to trap families in a platform. You keep all your coach emails even if you cancel.[00:25:20] The price every parent wants to know. David explains the surprisingly affordable monthly cost.[00:26:05] Why The Elite Competitor partnered with Athlete Narrative. Shared mission, shared values, and the same desire to protect girls confidence.[00:29:33] Another athlete success story. More than 350 emails sent and a commitment to Biola University.[00:30:52] Final details and access to the Elite Competitor community discount before the price increases.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• #1 Rule for Coaching Your Own Kid (Without Ruining the Relationship)

  If you are a mom who also coaches your daughter, this episode is a must-listen. This dynamic can be tricky , and it often leaves you questioning if it's helping or hurting your relationship. Learn the single most important rule to maintain and protect your bond, turning the experience into a positive one for you both!🎯 Key Takeaways from Coach BreAcknowledge the Difficulty: If your daughter is in middle or high school, acknowledge that being the coach's kid is a tough situation with more scrutiny.Mom vs. Coach: Mom is comfort and security, while Coach is correction and strategy. Be clear about when she is hearing each voice.The Matrix Activity: Create a matrix with your daughter to define what "Mom sounds like" and what "Coach sounds like" in different scenarios (like pre-game, post-game, and timeouts).Give Her the Choice: Identify settings, like the car ride home, where she gets to choose if she wants to hear from Mom or Coach.The #1 Rule (Sacred Space): Create a sacred space (like the dinner table) that is off-limits to talking about the game. This is essential for preventing burnout and protecting the relationship.The Most Important Thing: Remember your relationship with your daughter is the most important thing, so always be checking in.Is the car ride home causing you more stress than joy? The Elite Competitor Program is the playbook for sports moms. We equip you with the tools to guide her to confidence.We help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so she believes in herself as much as you do. Learn more about the Elite Mental Game program, which teaches athletes skills to show up confidently and deal with the ups and downs of their sport.Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Learn the #1 rule for coaching your own daughter to keep the experience positive and preserve your relationship, addressing the tricky coach/mom dynamic.[00:00:22] A shout-out to Kim, a mom in the ECP community, who experienced a "transformational" car ride home after completing Phase One of the mental training program with her daughter.[00:01:08] Discover how the ECP's mental training program teaches athletes skills like showing up confidently and recovering from mistakes faster, preventing them from "crumbling" on the car ride home.[00:02:41] Understand the fundamental difference: Mom = comfort and security, Coach = criticism, correction, and coaching. Older athletes often get these roles "crossed."[00:03:10] The most tangible activity to separate the roles: Create a "mom/coach matrix" with your daughter to define what each role sounds like in specific scenarios.[00:04:35] Establish situations where your daughter gets to choose her communication mode (Mom or Coach), such as the car ride home (e.g., using a scrunchie as a visual signal ).[00:04:50] The #1 rule to protect your relationship: Create a sacred space where talking about the game is off-limits to prevent burnout and a tough dynamic.[00:05:50] A critical final reminder: Your relationship with your daughter is the most important thing, so constantly check if coaching is helping or hurting it.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• From Ironman to Cancer Survivor: Why Mental Toughness Matters Beyond the Game

  What does it really mean to be tough when life throws something your training could never prepare you for?In this episode, Coach Bre sits down with Kelly Vo, Co-Founder of The Pink Ribbon Army and Ironman athlete turned cancer survivor, to talk about how the mental strength built in sport can transform how we face life’s hardest battles.Kelly shares her powerful story of moving from competition to recovery and how mindset tools like visualization, self-talk, and focus helped her navigate chemotherapy and healing. Together, she and Coach Bre explore the deeper side of resilience, the kind that’s rooted in vulnerability, community, and purpose.You’ll learn: 💪 What true mental toughness looks like beyond the game 🧠 How to use mindset strategies to stay grounded through uncertainty 🎀 Why vulnerability and connection are key to lasting resilience 🌸 The inspiration behind The Pink Ribbon Army and its mission of hopeWhether you’re an athlete, a mom, or someone walking through your own challenge, Kelly’s story will remind you that your strength isn’t measured by medals or times, it’s measured by how you rise, again and again.Come hang out with Kelly and join her movement on Instagram @thepinkribbonarmy, or learn more at www.pinkribbonarmy.com.Episode Highlights: [00:02:41] Kelly joins the conversation, sharing how her diagnosis at age 40 led her to create the Pink Ribbon Army. As a lifelong athlete and “super aunt,” she reflects on how community and purpose helped her turn a difficult experience into a movement for good.[00:11:27] Kelly emphasizes that breast cancer doesn’t discriminate. She shares how many friends admitted they hadn’t yet scheduled mammograms—and encourages every listener to get checked. Early detection, she stresses, can make the difference between a manageable journey and a life-threatening one.[00:15:08] Kelly debunks the myths around mammograms, assuring listeners they’re quick, manageable, and nothing to fear. She shares that healthcare providers perform them every day and encourages women to prioritize their peace of mind.[00:24:04] She shares how she reframed her cancer journey as her most important “Ironman.” Each stage—surgery, chemotherapy, recovery—became her version of the swim, bike, and run. Her mindset: stay steady, stay focused, finish strong.[00:23:25] Kelly discusses how the mental tools she developed through sport helped her handle uncertainty, fear of recurrence, and moments of exhaustion. “It’s the same muscle,” she says—training the mind to stay calm and keep moving forward.[00:30:40] Kelly dives into her daily practices for positivity, including using a five-minute gratitude journal, reframing tough moments, and staying thankful for even the smallest blessings.[00:36:00] Kelly gives an update on The Pink Ribbon Army’s annual October event featuring a golf tournament, 5K, and after-party that raises funds for women undergoing treatment.[00:40:23] Kelly closes with a heartfelt reminder for listeners to get their screenings, trust their intuition, and face fears early—because early detection saves lives.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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