Raising Elite Competitors

• #1 Rule for Coaching Your Own Kid (Without Ruining the Relationship)

  If you are a mom who also coaches your daughter, this episode is a must-listen. This dynamic can be tricky , and it often leaves you questioning if it's helping or hurting your relationship. Learn the single most important rule to maintain and protect your bond, turning the experience into a positive one for you both!🎯 Key Takeaways from Coach BreAcknowledge the Difficulty: If your daughter is in middle or high school, acknowledge that being the coach's kid is a tough situation with more scrutiny.Mom vs. Coach: Mom is comfort and security, while Coach is correction and strategy. Be clear about when she is hearing each voice.The Matrix Activity: Create a matrix with your daughter to define what "Mom sounds like" and what "Coach sounds like" in different scenarios (like pre-game, post-game, and timeouts).Give Her the Choice: Identify settings, like the car ride home, where she gets to choose if she wants to hear from Mom or Coach.The #1 Rule (Sacred Space): Create a sacred space (like the dinner table) that is off-limits to talking about the game. This is essential for preventing burnout and protecting the relationship.The Most Important Thing: Remember your relationship with your daughter is the most important thing, so always be checking in.Is the car ride home causing you more stress than joy? The Elite Competitor Program is the playbook for sports moms. We equip you with the tools to guide her to confidence.We help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so she believes in herself as much as you do. Learn more about the Elite Mental Game program, which teaches athletes skills to show up confidently and deal with the ups and downs of their sport.Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Learn the #1 rule for coaching your own daughter to keep the experience positive and preserve your relationship, addressing the tricky coach/mom dynamic.[00:00:22] A shout-out to Kim, a mom in the ECP community, who experienced a "transformational" car ride home after completing Phase One of the mental training program with her daughter.[00:01:08] Discover how the ECP's mental training program teaches athletes skills like showing up confidently and recovering from mistakes faster, preventing them from "crumbling" on the car ride home.[00:02:41] Understand the fundamental difference: Mom = comfort and security, Coach = criticism, correction, and coaching. Older athletes often get these roles "crossed."[00:03:10] The most tangible activity to separate the roles: Create a "mom/coach matrix" with your daughter to define what each role sounds like in specific scenarios.[00:04:35] Establish situations where your daughter gets to choose her communication mode (Mom or Coach), such as the car ride home (e.g., using a scrunchie as a visual signal ).[00:04:50] The #1 rule to protect your relationship: Create a sacred space where talking about the game is off-limits to prevent burnout and a tough dynamic.[00:05:50] A critical final reminder: Your relationship with your daughter is the most important thing, so constantly check if coaching is helping or hurting it.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• From Ironman to Cancer Survivor: Why Mental Toughness Matters Beyond the Game

  What does it really mean to be tough when life throws something your training could never prepare you for?In this episode, Coach Bre sits down with Kelly Vo, Co-Founder of The Pink Ribbon Army and Ironman athlete turned cancer survivor, to talk about how the mental strength built in sport can transform how we face life’s hardest battles.Kelly shares her powerful story of moving from competition to recovery and how mindset tools like visualization, self-talk, and focus helped her navigate chemotherapy and healing. Together, she and Coach Bre explore the deeper side of resilience, the kind that’s rooted in vulnerability, community, and purpose.You’ll learn: 💪 What true mental toughness looks like beyond the game 🧠 How to use mindset strategies to stay grounded through uncertainty 🎀 Why vulnerability and connection are key to lasting resilience 🌸 The inspiration behind The Pink Ribbon Army and its mission of hopeWhether you’re an athlete, a mom, or someone walking through your own challenge, Kelly’s story will remind you that your strength isn’t measured by medals or times, it’s measured by how you rise, again and again.Come hang out with Kelly and join her movement on Instagram @thepinkribbonarmy, or learn more at www.pinkribbonarmy.com.Episode Highlights: [00:02:41] Kelly joins the conversation, sharing how her diagnosis at age 40 led her to create the Pink Ribbon Army. As a lifelong athlete and “super aunt,” she reflects on how community and purpose helped her turn a difficult experience into a movement for good.[00:11:27] Kelly emphasizes that breast cancer doesn’t discriminate. She shares how many friends admitted they hadn’t yet scheduled mammograms—and encourages every listener to get checked. Early detection, she stresses, can make the difference between a manageable journey and a life-threatening one.[00:15:08] Kelly debunks the myths around mammograms, assuring listeners they’re quick, manageable, and nothing to fear. She shares that healthcare providers perform them every day and encourages women to prioritize their peace of mind.[00:24:04] She shares how she reframed her cancer journey as her most important “Ironman.” Each stage—surgery, chemotherapy, recovery—became her version of the swim, bike, and run. Her mindset: stay steady, stay focused, finish strong.[00:23:25] Kelly discusses how the mental tools she developed through sport helped her handle uncertainty, fear of recurrence, and moments of exhaustion. “It’s the same muscle,” she says—training the mind to stay calm and keep moving forward.[00:30:40] Kelly dives into her daily practices for positivity, including using a five-minute gratitude journal, reframing tough moments, and staying thankful for even the smallest blessings.[00:36:00] Kelly gives an update on The Pink Ribbon Army’s annual October event featuring a golf tournament, 5K, and after-party that raises funds for women undergoing treatment.[00:40:23] Kelly closes with a heartfelt reminder for listeners to get their screenings, trust their intuition, and face fears early—because early detection saves lives.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• [Athlete Tip] Be a Pressure Player in Competition

  Every athlete faces it—the big moment when the game’s on the line and nerves kick in. In this episode, Coach Saylor shares powerful mindset tools to help athletes rise in those pressure moments instead of crumbling.You’ll learn how to reframe pressure from something to fear into something to embrace, using simple, science-backed strategies your daughter can start practicing today.Coach Saylor dives into:💪 Why “pressure is a privilege” (and what that really means)🦃 The “Turkey Dinner” analogy that helps athletes stop overthinking big games🎯 How to train with intensity so pressure feels familiar, not scary🧠 A quick “scenario planning” exercise to prepare for clutch moments🔥 How to find your athlete’s ideal “hype number” for peak performance💬 Powerful self-talk phrases that build belief under pressurePlus, hear how one athlete, Asha, learned to bounce back quickly after mistakes—proof that mental training works.Whether your daughter’s facing a championship game, a tough tryout, or everyday team stress, this episode will help her see pressure as an opportunity to trust her training and play with confidence.🎧 Tune in to learn how your athlete can turn nerves into fuel—and rise as a true pressure player.👉 Listen now on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or your favorite podcast platform!Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Join Coach Saylor as she shares mindset tips to help athletes rise in high-pressure moments instead of crumbling. Learn how to trust your training and become the reliable “pressure player” your team can count on.[00:02:32] Coach Saylor reframes pressure with one powerful truth: “Pressure is a privilege.” Discover how those butterflies mean you’ve earned your moment to shine.[00:03:42] Hear the fun and memorable “Turkey Dinner” analogy. Learn how athletes can stop turning big games into huge, stressful events and instead approach them like any other competition.[00:04:24] Find out why athletes don’t actually rise to the occasion—they fall to the level of their training. Coach Saylor explains how bringing focus and intensity to practice sets you up to perform under pressure.[00:05:40] Get ahead of pressure moments before they happen. Saylor walks athletes through a “scenario planning” exercise to help them visualize challenges and choose confident responses in advance.[00:07:23] Discover the power of your “hype number.” Find out how maintaining the right energy level can help athletes perform their best—even when nerves kick in.[00:08:43] Not all stress is bad! Coach Saylor breaks down how a little “good stress” can push athletes into their peak performance zone. Learn to use that energy instead of fighting it.[00:09:22] Build confidence with empowering mantras like “I was made for this” and “I can trust my skills.” Saylor reminds athletes that their self-talk can make or break performance in pressure situations.[00:10:27] Wrap up with key takeaways to help athletes rise under pressure: treat pressure as a privilege, make practice competitive, and remember—it’s just another opportunity to play the sport you love.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• Is Your Athlete a Perfectionist? 5 Signs to Look For & How You Can Help

  Does it feel like nothing your daughter does is ever good enough? She may win a game, set a personal record, or master a new skill, yet still criticize herself. Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can motivate athletes to improve, push harder, and reach higher goals. On the other hand, it can become overwhelming, causing emotional distress, frustration, and even avoidance of challenges. In this episode of Raising Elite Competitors, Coach Bre dives into the five key signs that your daughter may be a perfectionist and shares practical strategies you can use to support her.You’ll learn how to identify these common perfectionist tendencies:1. Beating herself up after mistakes – Coach Bre explains how the “snapback” routine can help athletes quickly reset, regain focus, and continue performing without letting one mistake define the rest of their game.2. Never satisfied, even after wins – The episode covers ways to help your daughter practice gratitude, celebrate effort, and focus on progress instead of outcomes, reinforcing confidence and enjoyment in her sport.3. Avoiding risks or playing it safe – Coach Bre shares strategies for helping your daughter take healthy risks, gradually build confidence, and learn that mistakes are manageable and part of the journey.4. Big emotional reactions to mistakes – Emotional responses can be intense when performance feels tied to identity. Learn how emotional regulation, visualization, and mindful breathing can help athletes process setbacks.5. Tying self-worth to performance – The episode explores ways to develop a supportive inner voice, including daily affirmations and mindset practices, so your daughter can care about her performance without letting it define who she is.The insights shared in this episode give you the tools to understand your daughter’s mindset, provide the encouragement she truly needs, and help her thrive with confidence, resilience, and joy on and off the field.Episode Highlights: [00:02:25] Your athlete struggles to move on from errors and spirals into negative self-talk. Coach Bre shares how the Snapback Routine, a quick two-second reset using breath, a power word, and a signal, helps athletes bounce back fast and stay focused.[00:08:40] Perfectionist athletes often play it safe to avoid failure. Bre explains how to help them build “risk-taking muscles” through low-stakes practice and praise for bravery over outcomes. The goal? Encourage effort, not perfection.[00:11:20] When performance feels tied to self-worth, even small errors can trigger tears or meltdowns. Bre shares how parents can anchor calm: validate feelings first, then gently redirect. Be her “calm in the storm” instead of rushing to fix it.[00:15:30] Perfectionism isn’t all bad; it drives growth and high standards. The key is helping your daughter let go of self-criticism while keeping her motivation. Bre invites parents to the TrainHerGame.com free training for practical tools to help their athlete find confidence without the crush of perfectionism.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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• How to Help Your Athlete Daughter Talk to Coaches About Playing Time

  Playing time can be one of the most emotional and confusing parts of sports for athletes and parents alike.You see your daughter working hard, but she’s frustrated when she doesn’t get minutes on the court or field. You want to help, but you’re not sure how to do it without stepping in or making things worse.In this episode, Coach Bre shares practical ways to support your daughter when she’s struggling with playing time, and how to guide her to confidently talk to her coach.You’ll learn:✅ How to understand your team’s playing time philosophy✅ How to help your daughter own her role and see her value beyond minutes played✅ What to do (and not do) when you’re frustrated, too✅ Step-by-step conversation tips for your daughter to approach her coach✅ How to reframe tough situations into powerful growth opportunitiesYour daughter’s worth isn’t measured in minutes. It’s reflected in her effort, her courage to speak up, and her growth through challenges.When she learns how to advocate for herself, she doesn’t just earn more playing time. She earns lasting confidence.Episode Highlights: [00:00:00] Coach Bre sets the stage: Playing time is one of the most emotional, frustrating topics for parents and athletes alike.[00:03:10] Invitation to join the TrainHerGame.com free training, a gateway to the Elite Mental Game program designed to boost girls’ confidence fast.[00:05:30] Inside look at how Bre’s varsity team sets clear expectations and defines roles to help players feel valued even if they aren’t starters..[00:09:20] Bre shares her own college story of being a blocking sub. This is proof that limited playing time doesn’t equal limited impact.[00:11:40] Moms, check yourselves. Is it your frustration about playing time, or your daughter’s? Honest self-reflection prevents emotional overreactions.[00:13:50] Encourage self-advocacy! Don’t email the coach yourself. Let your daughter take the lead to build real-world communication skills.[00:15:00] How to prepare for “the talk” with her coach: plan ahead, reflect on strengths and areas to improve, and approach with curiosity, not blame.[00:17:00] Sample conversation starters: “Coach, can you help me understand my role?”, “What can I work on to contribute more?”[00:18:40] Prepare her for tough feedback and remind her to thank the coach for clarity. This is growth in action![00:20:10] Perspective check: Coaches make decisions for the team, not just one player. Parents can remind their daughters to see the bigger picture.[00:21:00] If the environment doesn’t fit your daughter’s goals, it’s okay to seek a better team next season. Look for one that aligns with her needs.[00:22:00] Wrap-up: These hard conversations build confidence, communication skills, and resilience. Playing time might not change overnight, but her self-belief will.[00:23:00] Final encouragement: Remember, your daughter’s self-worth isn’t measured in minutes on the field but in her courage to keep showing up and speaking up.Next Steps:Join our FREE Training for Sports Moms - How to Strengthen Your Athlete Daughter's Mental Game so She Believes in Herself as Much as You DoVisit our podcast website for more great episodesThank you in advance for joining us on our mission and leaving a rating and review on Apple Podcasts.

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