Raising Elite Competitors

Her daughter was doing everything right. But when the competition got harder, she started shrinking. 💛 Grab the system that helped her regain her confidence → https://trainhergame.com/mom

Heather watched her daughter Isla go from crumbling under pressure to winning finals matches against girls two years older than her - and she shares exactly how it happened.

This is the conversation most sports moms need to hear.

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

In this episode you'll hear:
✅ What "shrinking" actually looks like from the bleachers and why it breaks a mom's heart
✅ How Isla introduced a simple pre-match routine that changed everything
✅ What Isla told her mom she actually needed from the sideline (Heather had no idea)
✅ How one conversation from the parent training opened a door that had been closed

🎙️ Heather also shares how she introduced mental training to her 11-year-old without making her feel like something was wrong with her and how Isla ended up asking to do the program again.

If you've ever watched your daughter play smaller than you know she can, this one is for you.

⏱️ Key Moments
00:00 Introduction: Meet Heather & Isla
01:49 About Isla: Young Tennis Player
02:52 What Was Happening on the Court
03:33 Finding The Elite Mental Game
04:27 How Heather Introduced the Program to Isla
06:45 Early Wins: Changes Heather Noticed
09:55 Isla's Champion Moment: Playing Free
12:22 The Power of Effort Over Outcome
12:27 Fitting Mental Training Into a Busy Schedule
15:32 The Parent Side: What Heather Learned
16:27 Open Dialogue: Isla's Feedback from the Sideline
18:20 Going Forward & Final Thoughts

Drop a comment below with the moment from this conversation that hit closest to home for you 👇

⬇️ New here? Start with the free training for sports moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom

💛 Already inside The Elite Mental Game? Head to members.elitecompetitor.com for your next steps.

📩 Want to connect? Email us at [email protected]

📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️  Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors      

P.S. A few things worth knowing as a sports mom:
⚡️ 72% of girls drop out of sports by age 13, most citing lack of enjoyment and declining confidence (Women's Sports Foundation)
⚡️ Athletes who use mental imagery and visualization perform measurably better under pressure, with research showing up to a 45% performance improvement in high-stakes situations (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology)
⚡️ A Harvard study found that reappraising pre-performance anxiety as excitement, rather than trying to calm down, leads to significantly better performance outcomes (Alison Wood Brooks, Harvard Business School, 2014)  

The Raising Elite Competitors YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.      

#girlssports #mentalperformance #sportsparenting #girlathlete #youthsports
If you have an athlete with goals to play in college, join me for our free training next week! Register Here

Your daughter is grinding. Practices, tournaments, extra reps. And college coaches are watching. But not for what you think. 🎯 trainhergame.com/mom

College coaches and recruiters aren't just watching her play. They're watching how she reacts when things go wrong.

Does she slam her hand after a bad mistake? Does she pout when she gets pulled? Does she get flustered when a ref makes a bad call? 

Those are mental skills. And most athletes have never been taught them.

In this episode, Coach Saylor breaks down the elite performance formula and why neglecting the mental game cancels out everything your daughter has already built.

You'll learn:
✅ Why physical training and film study aren't enough on their own
✅ What the multiplication model means for your daughter's real potential
✅ Exactly what college coaches look for beyond raw talent
✅ How elite athletes like Simone Biles and Megan Rapinoe trained their mindset
✅ Why just 5 minutes a day is enough to give her a serious edge

This one is for every college-bound girl athlete and every mom who wants to help her get there.

🎙 Coach Saylor is a Mental Performance Coach inside The Elite Competitor community. She works alongside Coach Bre to help girl athletes build the confidence and mental tools they need to compete freely and thrive at the next level.

🕓 Key Moments: 

Drop a comment below: What's one thing you wish your daughter's mental game could benefit from👇

📩 Want to connect? Email us at [email protected]

📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes Raising Elite Competitors youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCgMBGRYc4tFmuJ3hKO4r4pQ
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:  
⚡️ 70% of youth athletes quit sports by age 13 - and poor mental experience is one of the leading drivers (Aspen Institute, Project Play, 2019)
⚡️ College coaches rank coachability, composure, and attitude among their top 3 recruiting criteria, beyond raw athletic ability (NCSA College Recruiting, 2022)
⚡️ Just 5-10 minutes of intentional daily mindset practice measurably improves performance outcomes in competitive athletes (American Psychological Association, Sport Psychology Division)

The Raising Elite Competitors channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.    

#girlssports #mentalperformance #sportsparenting #girlathlete #youthsports 
If you have an athlete with goals to play in college, join me for our free training next week! Register Here

If your daughter wants to play at the next level, this is the video she needs to see. 🎯 Grab the tools she needs → trainhergame.com/mom

Most athletes spend years training their bodies for college scouts. But the coaches doing the recruiting are quietly screening for something else entirely.

After 14 years as a head volleyball coach, I watched talented athletes get removed from recruiting lists - not because of skill gaps, but because of what happened between the plays.

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

In this episode, I'm breaking down 5 things college coaches look for beyond talent:
✅ How she responds after mistakes (and what coaches are really watching)
✅ What her body language says when things aren't going her way
✅ How she treats her teammates under pressure
✅ How she interacts with her parents and coaches at events
✅ Whether she performs when the moment gets big - or plays it safe

Every single one of these is trainable. I'm also breaking down the Snapback Routine - the simple reset system athletes use to bounce back faster than their sport requires.

If she has the talent, let's make sure the rest of her game matches it.

⏱️ Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
00:32 Why Mental Skills Matter in Recruiting
02:12 #1: Response to Adversity
03:15 The Snapback Routine
04:35 Free Training Callout
05:19 #2: Body Language
06:40 #3: How You Treat Teammates
08:28 #4: How You Treat Your Parents
09:43 #5: Performing Under Pressure
12:29 Recap & Final Thoughts

Drop a comment below and let me know which of the 5 hits home👇

📩 Want to connect? Email us at [email protected]

📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️  Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors   

 P.S. A few stats worth knowing:  
⚡️ Mental skills are among the top factors coaches cite in recruiting decisions, alongside physical skills and coachability. (Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology)
⚡️ 85% of college coaches say they would not recruit an athlete who displayed poor body language or sportsmanship, regardless of talent level. (NFHS)
⚡️ Athletes who use mental skills training show a 43% improvement in competitive performance consistency under pressure. (Association for Applied Sport Psychology)

The Raising Elite Competitors YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.    

#girlssports #mentalperformance #sportsparenting #girlathlete #youthsports
If you have an athlete with goals to play in college, join me for our free training next week! Register Here

Elise went from "stuck in a box" after every mistake to bouncing back in a championship game. Here's how she did it ➡️ https://trainhergame.com/mom

She's 11. Competitive soccer player. And in her own words, she was "stuck in a box" - trapped in her mistakes mid-game, spiraling after every error, losing herself in the what-ifs.

Then her whole family joined The Elite Mental Game together.💛 
What changed? Everything.

In this episode, Coach Saylor sits down with our March Athlete of the Month to talk about what the mental game actually looks like from the inside - as an athlete, and as a family. Here's what you'll hear:

✅ How Elise used the Snapback Routine to turn around a championship game at halftime
✅ The exact moment her parents went from "are you okay?" to knowing exactly what to say
✅ What it means to go from spiraling after mistakes to trusting your skills under pressure
✅ Why her family finally felt "on the same page", and what made that shift happen

The part that gets me every time? She's 11 years old and she already knows something most adults never learn: you're in control of the game, not your mistakes.

💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction & Welcome
01:43 Meet Elise – Background & Sport
03:12 Why Elise Joined the Mental Game Program
04:23 The Snapback Routine & Mental Tools
05:24 Championship Game Comeback Story
07:05 Family Support & The Mental Game
11:24 Goals, Advice & Closing

🎙️ This one is for every mom watching from the bleachers wondering what else she can do to help.

Athlete of the month episodes are hosted by REC Coach Saylor, a mental performance coach for girl athletes. I empower girl athletes with tools to build confidence and manage pressure so they can compete freely and passionately. New AOTM episodes every month!

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg 

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

P.S. A few stats worth saving if you've ever wondered whether the mental game really matters that much:

➡️ 75-90% of athletic performance at the competitive level is mental - not physical (Association for Applied Sport Psychology)
➡️ Only 9% of youth athletes receive any formal mental skills training - despite the mental game being the biggest factor in performance (Mental Health America / Sport & Exercise Science research)
➡️ Girls who feel supported by their parents in sport report higher confidence and stay in the game longer (Aspen Institute Project Play, 2022)

The Raising Elite Competitors YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#mentalperformance #girlathlete #sportsparenting #athleteofthemonth

70% of girls quit sports by age 13. This is the story of one who didn't and why it matters. Grab our free training for sports parents 👉 https://trainhergame.com/mom

Coach Saylor is our head athlete coach inside The Elite Mental Game. She played volleyball and track and field at the collegiate level. She's coached thousands of girl athletes.

She's also someone who cried after games in middle school, faked her confidence for years, burned out during COVID, and quietly fought depression while being everyone else's rock on the team.

In this episode, I sit down with Coach Saylor to hear the full story - the one behind the coach your daughter might already know and trust.💛 

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

Here's what you'll hear in this episode:
✅ Why the most reliable, levelheaded player on the team was falling apart inside
✅ What burnout actually looks and feels like from the inside (not the coaching manual version)
✅ The moment a coach said "How could you be struggling?" - and what that cost
✅ The two words Saylor's dad said before every game that changed how she played
✅ What she wishes someone had said to her when she was losing her love for the sport
✅ What she'd say directly to the mom whose daughter is burning out right now

This one is for the athletes who look fine but aren't. And for the moms watching from the bleachers, wondering what's really going on inside their daughter's head.

⏱️ Key Moments
00:01 Introducing Coach Saylor
01:49 Saylor's Athletic Background
02:35 Pressure, Perfectionism & Faking Confidence
04:52 Burnout in College
08:22 Getting Help & Being Heard
10:58 Why Saylor Became a Mental Performance Coach
15:10 Choosing to Stay & Lessons from Sport
19:42 What Athletes Are Carrying
22:24 Advice for Athletes & Sports Moms

Drop a comment below with the moment from this conversation that hit closest to home for you 👇

📩 Want to connect? Email us at [email protected]

📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:  
⚡️ Nearly 35% of elite youth athletes experience burnout symptoms - with overtraining and no recovery time as the primary drivers (Goodger et al., Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology)  
⚡️ Girls drop out of sports at 6x the rate of boys by age 14, with lack of confidence and emotional burnout cited as leading causes (Women's Sports Foundation)
⚡️ When girls over-identify with sport as their primary identity, they are significantly more likely to experience depression and anxiety when performance dips (Brewer et al., Journal of Applied Sport Psychology)

The Raising Elite Competitors  channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.    

#girlssports #mentalperformance #sportsparenting #girlathlete #youthsports
If you have an athlete with goals to play in college, join me for our free training next week! Register Here