Raising Elite Competitors

If your daughter is constantly comparing herself to other athletes more than focusing on her own game, or losing confidence this is your episode! Have her take this quiz to find out your competitor style: elitecompetitor.com/athlete
 Comparison is one of the most common confidence killers in girl athletes. It feels normal. It even feels productive sometimes. But when her focus is on everyone else, she loses the one thing that actually moves the needle - her own game. 
👋🏼 Hi, I'm Coach Saylor, a mental performance coach for girl athletes. I empower girl athletes with tools to build confidence and manage pressure so they can compete freely and passionately. 
In this episode I'm breaking down exactly why comparison keeps athletes stuck and how to shift it into something that actually fuels performance. 
Here's what you'll learn:
✅ Why comparison is a normal part of athletics (and why that doesn't make it okay to stay there)
✅ The signs your daughter is stuck in the comparison trap right nowHow to help her flip comparison into inspiration instead of a confidence spiral
✅ Why her teammate's success is not a threat to hers - and how to help her believe that
✅ A simple mental shift that gets her focus back on what she can actually control 
The biggest takeaway from this one → there is room for both of them to succeed. Her daughter's success does not take away from anyone else's, and I explain exactly how to help her see that.💛 
🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
01:38 Signs You're in the Comparison Trap
02:41 Shift Focus to Your Own Game03:26 Turn Comparison Into Inspiration
04:34 There's Room for Everyone to Succeed
06:32 Take Action & Next Steps 
Want to learn more about how to support your daughter's mental game? Grab the free training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom 
💬 Moms - comment below: Which sign of the comparison trap have you seen in your daughter? 
📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg 
🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors
P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
💡 70% of young athletes quit sports by age 13 (National Alliance for Youth Sports) 
💡 Social comparison is one of the top 3 sources of competitive anxiety in adolescent female athletes. (Hanton, Mellalieu & Hall, Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2004)
💡 Athletes who focus on personal improvement goals (vs. comparing to others) show significantly higher motivation and lower dropout rates. (Duda & Nicholls, Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology, 1992) 
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EMG Athlete of the Month, Samantha, went from spiraling after one bad shot to shooting a 76 the very next day. Here's how she did it ➡️ https://trainhergame.com/mom

Samantha is a middle school golfer and our January Athlete of the Month inside the Elite Mental Game. She came in struggling with confidence, caring too much about what other players thought, and spiraling after mistakes with no way out.

What changed? She learned actual tools.
✅ The Snapback Routine - a quick breath, reset word, and signal to get her head right after any mistake
✅ The What If Flip - turning worst-case spirals into best-case possibilities
✅ The 10-Second Rule - her own invention for processing mistakes without getting stuck in them

💛 The moment that says it all: Samantha looked at a rough first day of a two-day tournament and decided to just have fun. No pressure. No scoreboard obsession. She shot a 76 on day two.

This is what mental training actually looks like in real life. Not perfection. Not "shake it off." A real girl athlete with real tools who learned how to bounce back.If your daughter struggles with confidence, mistakes, or getting in her own head, this episode is for her and for you.

💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction & Welcome
01:52 Samantha's Golf Journey
03:42 Discovering EMG
05:06 Favorite Tools & Techniques
06:41 Tournament Comeback Story
09:31 Confidence & Growth
10:21 Goals & Future Plans
12:28 Advice & Closing

Athlete of the month episodes are hosted by REC Coach Saylor, a mental performance coach for girl athletes. I empower girl athletes with tools to build confidence and manage pressure so they can compete freely and passionately. New AOTM episodes every month!

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg 

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors

P.S. - Stats worth knowing:
85% of elite athletes incorporate mental training as part of their performance prep (Association for Applied Sport Psychology, 2023)
Athletes who use consistent pre-performance routines show significantly higher confidence and focus under pressure (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2019)
Mental resilience training in youth athletes is linked to better performance AND lower dropout rates (Journal of Youth and Adolescence, 2021)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#mentalperformance #girlathlete #sportsparenting
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Your daughter just got pulled after one mistake. Here's exactly what to do. Grab the free training here - https://trainhergame.com/mom 💛 
If you've sat in those bleachers watching her slump on the bench, frustrated for her AND with the coach, this video is for you. 
🙋‍♀️ Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a certified Mental Performance Coach and former collegiate athlete with 14 years of coaching experience, including 4 state championships. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and host of the Raising Elite Competitors podcast, where I help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so they can perform their best when it matters most.  
In this episode, I'm giving you the inside perspective on why coaches pull athletes, and more importantly, what your daughter can actually do about it.
Here's what you'll learn:
✅ Why venting with your daughter about the coach puts her in a victim mindset (and what to do instead)
✅ How to help her separate her performance from her worth
✅ The 2-second Snapback Routine that helps athletes reset before coaches lose confidence in them
✅ 🚦 The traffic light framework coaches use to decide who stays in and who comes out
✅ What your daughter can always control - even from the bench 
The athletes who earn more playing time aren't always the most talented. They're the ones who reset fast, keep their chin up, and show the coach they're ready. Here's how to help her become that athlete. 
💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction: The Pulling Problem
00:56 What NOT to Do as a Parent
03:30 What TO Do: Separate Worth from Performance
06:34 Give Her a Skill: The Snapback Routine
10:59 The Coach's Perspective11:48 Having Conversations with the Coach
13:05 Control What You Can Control
13:38 Wrap-Up and Next Steps 
💬 Moms - comment below: Has your daughter ever gotten pulled after one mistake? What did you do in that moment? 
📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg 
🔔Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors 
P.S. A few stats worth knowing: 
⚡️ 70% of youth athletes quit sports by age 13 - with girls leaving at significantly higher rates than boys, most citing eroded confidence as the primary reason. (Aspen Institute, Project Play)
⚡️ Athletes with high athletic identity are more vulnerable to emotional distress following reduced playing time - meaning the athletes who care most are often hit hardest when they get pulled. (Journal of Sport and Exercise Psychology, Brewer et al.)
⚡️ Athletes who use consistent pre-performance reset routines perform 22% more consistently under pressure than those without one. (University
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💛 A 9-year-old competitive swimmer learned one mental skill and dropped time in every single event. Grab the free training for your daughter: https://trainhergame.com/mom

Meet Mackenzie. She's nine years old, a competitive swimmer, and our December Athlete of the Month inside the Elite Mental Game.

At her first swim meet after starting the program, she used her Snapback Routine for the very first time. She placed first in two events. Third in another. And dropped nearly 14 seconds in one event alone.

Her mom Sarah said she was blown away by Mackenzie's excitement, dedication, and commitment. In fact, Mackenzie asked for a journal so she could take notes on the Zoom calls.🏊‍♀️ 

In this episode, you'll hear:
✅ What Mackenzie said about her first time using the Snapback Routine
✅ Why mental skills matter even more in swimming (the clock doesn't lie)
✅ What Sarah noticed about her daughter's confidence before her next meet
✅ How mom and daughter worked through the program together

This is the shared transformation we talk about. When your daughter has the tools to reset quickly, she doesn't just swim faster. She believes in herself differently. And that's the whole point. 💛

💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
01:20 Mackenzie's Snapback Routine Success
02:03 First Swim Meet Results
02:58 Mom's Perspective
04:55 Closing & Call to Action

Athlete of the month episodes are hosted by REC Coach Saylor, a mental performance coach for girl athletes. I empower girl athletes with tools to build confidence and manage pressure so they can compete freely and passionately. New AOTM episodes every month!

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ 

P.S. - Stats worth knowing:
According to research from the NCAA, 85% of elite athletes use mental training as a regular part of their performance preparation. (NCAA, 2020)
A study published in the Journal of Applied Sport Psychology found that pre-performance routines significantly reduce anxiety and improve consistency in athletes. (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2010)
Athletes who learn emotional regulation skills before age 12 are significantly more likely to maintain sport participation through high school. (Aspen Institute, Project Play, 2022)

The Raising Elite Competitors podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#mentalperformance #girlathlete #sportsparenting
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We both quit our sports despite being talented. Here's what girls actually need to stay in the game → https://trainhergame.com/mom

Girls are quitting sports at twice the rate of boys by age 14. But it's not about talent or access.

The real reason? Mental game. Fear of judgment, anxiety, pressure to perform, low confidence.

In this episode, my co-founder Kristina and I are sharing our personal stories about quitting our sports. Stories we don't usually tell.

Kristina was a basketball starter who quit her senior year because she physically couldn't shoot anymore. Not because she lost her skills, but because she couldn't handle the pressure of standing out and the fear of friends getting mad at her for being too good.

I turned down college volleyball offers after my senior year because the emotional cost felt unbearable. Between my parents' divorce and perfectionism, I felt like I was failing everyone no matter what I did.

We both came back to our sports later. But we shouldn't have had to quit in the first place to find peace.

That's why we built The Elite Competitor and the Play, Stay, Lead mission.

What You'll Learn:
✅ Why girls quit sports at twice the rate of boys (and it's not what you think)
✅ The real reason talented athletes walk away from their sport
✅ How mental game challenges show up (pressure to be invisible, perfectionism, anxiety)
✅ What keeps girls in sports longer and turns them into confident leaders
✅ The mission behind everything we do at The Elite Competitor

👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion.

🕓 Key Moments: 
00:00 Introduction: The Girls Sports Crisis
02:40 The Mission: Play, Stay, Lead
04:39 Kristina's Story: Quitting Basketball
12:32 Bre's Story: Walking Away from Volleyball
17:04 Coming Back: Finding the Game Again
22:36 Why Girls Quit: The Mental Game Gap
24:13 Building Future Leaders Through Sports
25:52 How You Can Help: Parents and Coaches

💬 Parents - comment below: Did you or your daughter ever struggle with wanting to be good but not wanting to stand out?

📌 Resources & Tools
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️  Raising Elite Competitors  

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
⚡️ Girls quit sports at twice the rate of boys by age 14 (Women's Sports Foundation, Aspen Institute)
⚡️ 94% of women in C-suite positions played sports growing up (Ernst & Young and espnW)
⚡️ 70% of girls drop out of sports by age 13 (National Alliance for Youth Sports)

The Raising Elite Competitors Podcast is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.

#girlssports #mentalperformance #sportsparenting #girlathlete #youthsports
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