Raising Elite Competitors

Your daughter's dealing with team drama and everything you say seems to make it worse. Let me show you what actually helps → https://trainhergame.com/mom 
In this conversation with teen relationship expert Sheri Gazitt (founder of Teen Wise), we're breaking down why girls default to mean girl behavior, what parents accidentally do that shuts daughters down, and the exact 4-step formula that teaches girls to handle conflict without the drama. 
🙋‍♀️ Hi, I'm Coach Bre, a certified Mental Performance Coach and former collegiate athlete with 14 years of coaching experience, including 4 state championships. I'm also the co-founder of The Elite Competitor and host of the Raising Elite Competitors podcast, where I help sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game so they can perform their best when it matters most.  
👤 My guest is Sheri Gazitt. She founded Teen Wise 15 years ago after 30 years in psychology. Sheri specializes in helping teen girls navigate friendships, team dynamics, and mean girl behavior through private coaching, community presentations, and her Game On webinar for coaches.  
🧐What You'll Learn:
✅ The 4-step conflict conversation formula that actually works for teen girls (affirm, share, own, seek solution)
✅ Why exclusion happens and how to help without being intrusive
✅ The difference between gossiping to connect vs gossiping with negative intent
✅ How to support your daughter when she feels left out by teammates
✅ Proactive strategies coaches can use before drama erupts 
This isn't theory. It's what works when she's shut down in the car ride home and you have no idea what to say. 💛 
💬 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction to Teen Wise
05:14 Common Types of Drama Girls Face
07:51 Teaching Conflict Resolution Skills
14:55 Early Warning Signs for Parents
16:38 How Parents Should Respond
19:59 When to Involve Coaches
24:47 Helping Girls Who Feel Excluded
29:31 Top 3 Mistakes Parents Make
35:46 Guidance for Coaches
39:48 Resources and Wrap-Up 
💬 Moms - comment below: What's the biggest friendship or team drama challenge you're facing with your daughter right now? 
📌 Resources & Tools
You can find Sheri at: 
Teen Wise Website: https://www.teen-wise.com/
Be Teen Wise Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beteenwise/
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg 
🔔Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors
P.S. Here's what the research shows about girls and sports:
70% of girls quit sports by age 13, with social issues and loss of enjoyment being the p

Feeling nervous before games? Here's a simple one-word reframe that changes everything: Instead of saying "I'm nervous," say "I'm excited." Your body literally can't tell the difference. 🎯 FREE ATHLETE TRAINING: trainhergame.com
Here's the truth: nervousness and excitement produce identical physical responses. Faster heartbeat. Clammy hands. Dilated pupils. The only difference is how you label it. 
When you reframe nerves as excitement, you stop viewing your body's response as a threat and start seeing it as your competitive advantage. This one shift helps you show up ready to compete at your best. 
In this episode, I break down the science behind why this works and share a client win from Rose, a track athlete who just broke 7 minutes in the 1600 for the first time using mental training tools. Plus, I introduce the concept of finding your optimal "hype number" so you can show up at exactly the right energy level every single time. 
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre, a Certified Mental Performance Coach and former 4x state championship volleyball coach with 14 years of experience. I help girl athletes ages 11-18 build unshakeable confidence and develop the mental skills that create a competitive advantage. At The Elite Competitor, we believe your mental game is what separates good athletes from great ones. 
🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction: Nervousness is Normal
00:38 Athlete Spotlight: Rose's Success
01:31 The Hack: Say 'I'm Excited'
01:49 Understanding Your Body's Response
02:58 Advanced Strategies & Resources 
💬 Athletes - comment below: how do you manage your nerves before big games? 
💡 MENTAL TRAINING RESOURCES FOR ATHLETES:
🔗 Free Training: trainhergame.com
🔗 The Elite Mental Game Program: elitecompetitor.com/emg
🔗 Instagram: @raising.elite.competitors
🔗 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdg
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (for athletes!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
📩 Questions? Email us: [email protected] 
🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors
P.S.
💡 Studies show that reframing anxiety as excitement improves performance in high-pressure situations by up to 22% (Harvard Business School). 
💡 85% of elite athletes work with sports psychologists or mental performance coaches (American Psychological Association).
💡 Research confirms the physiological response to excitement and anxiety is nearly identical—your body genuinely can't tell the difference (Journal of Experimental Psychology). 
The Raising Elite Competitors YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most.
 #PreGameNerves #AthleteMentalTraining #SportsPerformance #MentalGame #CompetitiveAthletes #SportsAnxiety #MentalToughness #YouthSports #GirlAthletes #EliteCompetitor

If your daughter has ever said "I suck" after a game and you had no idea how to respond, this one's for you. 💛 Join my free training for sports moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom 

I used to think the best response was to immediately reassure her. Tell her she played great. Remind her of all the things she did well. 

But here's what I learned after 14 years of coaching girl athletes: That response actually makes her feel MORE misunderstood, not less. 

In this video, I'm breaking down the 3-step system that actually works when your daughter tears herself apart after games or practices. 

🎯 What you'll learn:
Why "No you don't! You played great!" backfires (and what she's actually hearing when you say it)
The 3-step response system: Validate → Ask → Offer Perspective
Why your response is only half the solution (she needs her own mental skills too)
Real transformation story: How one mom went from dreading pickup to easy car rides home 

I also share the story of Leah and her daughter Campbell, who went from 20 minutes of post-practice negativity to healthy, objective processing after learning mental skills through our program.

🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
02:24 What's Really Happening
03:45 The Three-Step System
03:53 Step 1: Validate the Feeling
05:30 Step 2: Ask Don't Tell
06:50 Step 3: Offer Perspective
07:50 Mental Skills Training

The Elite Mental Game teaches athletes how to catch negative thoughts before they spiral, use reset routines in real time, and assess their performance objectively instead of catastrophizing.

When you combine YOUR calm response with HER mental skills training, the car rides home get so much easier.

💬 Moms - comment below: What's your biggest struggle your daughter has a bad game?

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors 

P.S. 
Did you know that 70% of kids quit organized sports by age 13, with pressure and lack of enjoyment as primary reasons? (National Alliance for Youth Sports)
Research shows that athletes with mental skills training demonstrate 45% greater improvement in performance consistency compared to those receiving only physical training. (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2019)
According to the Aspen Institute's Project Play, parents' post-game behavior is the #1 factor affecting whether young athletes continue in sports - ahead of coaching quality and playing time. (Aspen Institute, 2023)
Studies show that 85% of elite athletes work with mental performance coaches or sports psychologists as part of their training regimen. (Sport, Exercise, and Performance Psychology, 202

If you're wondering whether The Elite Mental Game is worth the investment, whether your daughter will actually use it, or how long it takes to see results - this episode is for you. Three moms (climbing, softball, and figure skating) share the real, messy, beautiful truth about joining EMG: the hesitations they had, the breakthroughs they witnessed, and the one thing that surprised them most about the program.

Inside look at how mental training actually works for girl athletes. Get my free training here → https://trainhergame.com/mom 💛 
I'm pulling back the curtain on The Elite Mental Game so you can see exactly how it works, who it's for, and whether it's the right fit for your daughter. This isn't theory or motivational speeches. 
It's a complete mental training system that teaches girls how to bounce back from mistakes, perform under pressure, and build lasting confidence. And here's what makes it different - we coach both you and your daughter together. 
👋🏼 I'm Coach Bre - a mental performance coach for girl athletes, Co-Founder of The Elite Competitor, and a former head volleyball coach and 4-time state champion. 
In This Episode You'll Learn:
How the 5-phase athlete program works (self-paced, 30 min/week)What parents learn in their dedicated training program
How the kickoff call handles teen buy-in (so you don't have to convince her)
Why mental training is the missing multiplier in the performance equation
What Level-Up Club live coaching includes (coach-on-call texting, group calls) 
🕓 Key Moments:
00:00 Introduction
00:49 What is Elite Mental Game?
03:23 How the Program Works
05:24 The 5 Phases for Athletes
09:24 Level Up Club Benefits
14:29 Common Questions
16:20 Investment & Value
18:53 Final Thoughts & Enrollment

💬 Moms - comment below: What's your biggest hesitation about trying mental training with your daughter?

📌 Free Tools & Next Steps
🙌 What's Your Competitor Style Quiz (to send your athlete!): https://www.videoask.com/fnbmhduxy
💜 Conversation Guide w/ Scripts to Bring Up Mental Training: https://s3.amazonaws.com/kajabi-storefronts-production/file-uploads/sites/144031/downloads/66e16c-6886-4a62-b8db-c43a1ae18fbd_The_Elite_Mental_Game_Conversation_Starter.pdf%20
🎯 FREE Training for Sports Moms: https://trainhergame.com/mom
📺 YouTube Playlist for Athletes: https://www.youtube.com/@AthleteMentalEdge
🎓 The Elite Mental Game (our self-paced mental training program): https://elitecompetitor.com/emg

🔔 Subscribe for more mental training tips for girl athletes ⬇️ Raising Elite Competitors YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@RaisingEliteCompetitors 

P.S. A few stats worth knowing:
70% of kids drop out of organized sports by age 13 (National Alliance for Youth Sports)
Athletes who work with mental performance coaches report 60% improvement in confidence and 55% improvement in handling pressure (Journal of Applied Sport Psychology, 2019)
85% of elite and professional athletes use mental performance coaches or sports psychologists (American Psychological Association) 

The Raising Elite Competitors YouTube channel is hosted by The Elite Competitor and is dedicated to helping sports moms strengthen their daughter's mental game and confidence in order to help her perform her best when it matters most. 

#mentaltraining #girlathlete #sportsparenting #athleteconfidence #sportsmom