WTF - Stories and Advice

Three anonymous confessions this week, three people who have done a thing and now can't stop thinking about it. A guy who slept with his best mate's girlfriend while the mate was away, and now she's back for round two. A 36-year-old who quietly stole a junior colleague's project to get a promotion and is now the boss of the person she robbed. And a 29-year-old having dreams he can't explain and doesn't know if he needs to tell his girlfriend about.
Caroline and Daryl work through all three: what confession actually costs, when honesty is generous and when it's just offloading, and why the dream might not mean what you think it means. Guilt, sex, workplace treachery. A classic WTF inbox.
To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove 

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To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out:

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Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at wtfstoriesandadvice@gmail.com
To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out:
https://integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com
Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at wtfstoriesandadvice@gmail.com
Loved this episode? We teach hypnotherapy. Caroline and Daryl run the Integrative Hypnotherapy Institute — an online school for people who want to actually help others (or themselves) with the tools we use every day.
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Timestamps:
00:00 — Intro
00:49 — Letter one: the best mate's girlfriend
11:54 — Letter two: the workplace credit theft
17:24 — Letter three: the dreams
25:04 — Wrap up
Intro Music By Soul (Vlog Music) by Dj Quads https://soundcloud.com/aka-dj-quads

Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/m0UBmJLv208

Ever wondered why you keep ending up in the same fight, dating the same person in a different body, or working yourself into the ground for people who don't notice? There's a name for it: schemas, and Caroline has been down a rabbit hole on this.
Schemas are the deep emotional patterns that got wired in when you were small and haven't updated since. Abandonment, defectiveness, self-sacrifice, unrelenting standards, mistrust — you'll probably recognise yourself in at least two of these. We walk you through the most common ones, the three ways people cope with them (spoiler: none of them are working), and what actually shifts them — because insight alone is not going to do it.
Schema Quiz
 
https://www.attachmentproject.com/early-maladaptive-schemas/
Also in this one: why making friends as an adult is a whole thing, a Netflix rec that will hook you in one episode, and a genuinely unhinged tangent about UFOs and alien abductions. As you do.
To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove 
https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/
https://www.darylgove.com/#/
To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out:
https://integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com
Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at wtfstoriesandadvice@gmail.com
Loved this episode? We literally teach this stuff. Caroline and Daryl run the Integrative Hypnotherapy Institute — an online school for people who want to actually help others (or themselves) with the tools we use every day.
→ Certificate of Clinical Hypnotherapy: https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com/offers/GLPdWvBX/checkout
→ Diploma of Integrative Clinical Hypnotherapy: https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com/offers/iuR2rLtn
https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/
Timestamps:
00:00 — Weekend banter and the birthday curry
05:18 — Why you repeat patterns: schemas explained
09:38 — The common ones: which are yours?
24:12 — Survival modes and how people cope (badly)
30:37 — What actually shifts them
35:16 — Netflix pick, books, and the UFO tangent
42:39 — Outro
Intro Music By Soul (Vlog Music) by Dj Quads https://soundcloud.com/aka-dj-quads
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/m0UBmJLv208

In 2006, an ER nurse came home from a twelve-hour shift in Portland, Oregon and walked into the wrong room at the wrong moment. Her husband had arranged a surprise for her. He thought he'd never see her again. He was right — but not for the reasons he expected.






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Caroline and Daryl tell Susan Kuhnhausen's extraordinary story and then go absolutely everywhere with it — strangulation safety (yes really), celebrity death rumours, self-defence law, the UK unrest, why church might be making a comeback as a third place, and a French film with a gender-swap premise so good they're still thinking about it.
Genuinely wild story, genuinely wild tangents.
To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove 
https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/
https://www.darylgove.com/#/
https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/
To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out:
https://integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com
Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at wtfstoriesandadvice@gmail.com
Timestamps:
00:00 — Accents, Tourette's, and a Scottish film rec
01:48 — The case begins
06:51 — Strangulation, kink safety, and celebrity rumours
15:46 — The break in the case
22:30 — Self-defence law, riots, and policing
33:27 — Church, faith, and the third place
41:40 — Michael Jackson, the French film, and Sacha Baron Cohen
49:23 — Outro
Intro Music By Soul (Vlog Music) by Dj Quads https://soundcloud.com/aka-dj-quads
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/m0UBmJLv208

A 29-year-old writes in about the man she loves, the daughter they share, and the family quietly bleeding him dry. He's stable, he's kind, he's husband material. His parents, on both sides, treat him like a personal cashpoint — and when she gently suggested he stop, they disowned him, called her the problem, and called their baby something much worse. Now there's a grandmother in ICU and the pressure is back on.
Caroline and Daryl get into why "supportive" can quietly turn into "exploited," what actual boundaries look like when a whole family is invested in not having them, and the hard limits she needs to set before she signs a marriage certificate. Plus a tangent about wedding chaos, divorce parties, and the time someone's paperwork went absolutely sideways.
Should she marry him? Listen and find out.
To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove 
https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/

https://www.darylgove.com/#/

https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/

To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out:

https://integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com


Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at wtfstoriesandadvice@gmail.com

Check out our Alcohol Reduction Course

https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com/offers/LAiJuAJ9
Timestamps:
00:00 — Therapist voices, Andrew Tate, and a blood orange tangent
05:00 — The letter
23:46 — The advice: boundaries, hard limits, and one big decision
31:29 — Wedding stories and divorce party chaos
41:49 — Final advice and resources
48:15 — Outro
Intro Music By Soul (Vlog Music) by Dj Quads https://soundcloud.com/aka-dj-quads

Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/m0UBmJLv208

A 43-year-old counsellor writes in with a confession: she grew up poor, earns good money now, doesn't have debt — and has just bought a second chest freezer, a year's supply of olive oil, and accidentally hoarded fourteen bottles of conditioner she didn't know she had. The fuel crisis news has flipped a switch she can't switch back. And the truly humiliating part? She knows exactly what she's doing. She explained the model to a client this week. It didn't help.
Caroline and Daryl get into why knowing isn't enough, why scarcity wounds don't care about your bank balance, and what actually shifts this — including a salary structure that changes everything for self-employed people and a savings account trick that quietly does the heavy lifting. Plus: the builder who accidentally became a marriage counsellor, and the marriage counsellor whose own marriage is held together with string.
To find more out about Caroline Cranshaw & Daryl Gove 

https://nzhypnotherapy.co.nz/

https://www.darylgove.com/#/

https://www.youtube.com/@HypnosisTraining/

To find out about training in hypnotherapy with us, check out:

https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com


Write to us if you have a question or want us to tell your story at wtfstoriesandadvice@gmail.com

Check out our Alcohol Reduction Course

https://www.integrativehypnotherapyinstitute.com/offers/LAiJuAJ9
Timestamps:
00:00 — Therapists who need therapists (and a builder who became one)
06:31 — The letter
10:02 — Why knowing isn't enough
15:14 — The fixes: salary, savings, and the deeper work
22:19 — Practical anti-shopping moves
23:58 — Recommendations and outro
 
Intro Music By Soul (Vlog Music) by Dj Quads https://soundcloud.com/aka-dj-quads
Music promoted by Audio Library https://youtu.be/m0UBmJLv208