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Jealousy Isn’t the Enemy with Ally Iseman | Episode 263

Jealousy is one of those emotions almost everyone experiences—but in the lifestyle, it can feel like something you’re supposed to have already “figured out.”
In this episode of The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy sit down with Certified Relationship Coach Ally Iseman for an honest conversation about jealousy, envy, and what these emotions can actually teach us about ourselves and our relationships.
Ally breaks down the difference between jealousy and envy and explains that jealousy isn’t just one simple emotion—there are actually four different types, each with its own triggers and underlying needs.
Together, Dan, Lacy, and Ally discuss why jealousy is completely normal, especially in non-monogamous relationships, and why pretending it doesn’t exist—or believing you should eventually “grow out of it”—can actually make it harder to work through.
Ally shares practical advice for recognizing what’s underneath jealousy when it comes up, regulating your emotions before reacting, and figuring out what you may actually be needing in that moment. They also dive into how to bring those feelings to your partner without blame, accusations, or turning jealousy into a fight.
Whether you’re brand new to the lifestyle, have been navigating non-monogamy for years, or simply want to communicate better when uncomfortable emotions show up, this conversation is a reminder that experiencing jealousy doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong. What matters is what you do with it.
Tune in for a thoughtful, honest conversation about jealousy, communication, self-awareness, and building stronger relationships in the lifestyle.
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Tuesday Talks: Too Loud in the Playroom? | Episode 126
This week on Tuesday Talks, Dan and Lacy are answering a listener voicemail about something that left her feeling a little self-conscious after her first experience in the playroom at a lifestyle event.
She noticed that she was much louder than she expected to be and felt like her moans may have drawn a lot of attention. Ever since, she’s been wondering: Was I too loud? Is there such a thing as being too loud in a playroom? And should she be embarrassed about it the next time she attends an event?
Dan and Lacy give their honest take on playroom etiquette, being aware of the people around you, and why making noise isn’t necessarily a bad thing. They also talk about the difference between enjoying yourself authentically and feeling like you have to monitor every little thing you do because you’re worried about what other people might think.
If you’ve ever walked away from a lifestyle experience replaying everything in your head and wondering, “Was that normal?”—this episode is for you.

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Vixen Turns 10: Our Hollywood Party Recap | Episode 262

This week on The Swing Nation Podcast, Dan and Lacy are taking you behind the scenes of one of their most glamorous trips yet: Los Angeles for Vixen’s 10 Year Anniversary Party!

They kick things off by explaining exactly who Vixen is, the powerhouse media company behind brands like Wifey, Blacked, and other major adult film productions, and sharing how much they’ve enjoyed building a relationship and working with both Wifey and Vixen.
They also address some of the criticism Wifey has received for showing up at swinger and lifestyle events. Dan and Lacy clear up an important misconception: Wifey isn’t attending these parties to secretly film attendees or turn lifestyle events into adult productions. Instead, the brand helps sponsor events, brings added experiences and entertainment to the community, and helps make some of the parties we already love even bigger and better.
Then it’s time to head west.
Dan and Lacy recap their flight to Los Angeles and what it was like attending their very first true Hollywood red carpet party in the hills of LA. From getting dressed up and stepping onto the carpet to spending the night surrounded by recognizable influencers, creators, and adult film stars, the entire experience felt a little surreal.
What’s it like seeing people you’ve watched online suddenly standing right beside you at a party? Who did they recognize? Did they feel completely out of place—or like they belonged there?
Dan and Lacy share the excitement, nerves, laughs, and unforgettable moments from a night that took The Swing Nation from lifestyle parties to the Hollywood Hills.
Grab a drink, settle in, and join them for the full Vixen 10 Year Anniversary recap!

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Tuesday Talks: Balancing Life & Recovering from Lifestyle Events | Episode 125
This week on Tuesday Talks, a listener sends in a video question about something a lot of parents in the lifestyle can probably relate to: How do you balance lifestyle events with real life—especially when you have kids waiting for you at home?
As a single parent, this listener has to juggle parenting, everyday responsibilities, travel, events, and the recovery that sometimes comes after a big lifestyle weekend. Because as much fun as these events can be, they can also be exhausting.
Dan and Lacy share how they manage the transition from party mode back into parent mode and offer practical advice for enjoying events without completely draining yourself. They talk about things like pacing yourself, managing your alcohol intake, getting enough rest, knowing when to call it a night, and remembering that you don’t have to do everything just because you’re there.
If you’ve ever come home from a lifestyle weekend feeling like you need a vacation from your vacation, this Tuesday Talks is for you.
Tune in to hear Dan and Lacy’s advice for finding the balance between lifestyle fun, recovery, parenting, and real life.

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Splash Atlanta/Eroticon: Pool Games, Playtime & a Unicorn Flash Mob | Episode 261

Dan and Lacy are back with another event recap, and this time they’re taking you inside Splash Atlanta/Eroticon for a weekend packed with pool parties, friends, playtime, and plenty of unexpected adventures.
Lacy arrives at Splash fresh off an action-packed trip to Hedo and running on fumes, while Dan is more than ready to make up for lost time after sitting that trip out. The weekend kicks off Thursday with Dan helping host the pool games before the two reconnect with friends for a little group playtime later that night.
And things definitely don’t slow down from there.
Between dinner with the Wifey crew, celebrating a wedding, catching up with lifestyle friends, and somehow finding themselves in the middle of a unicorn flash mob, Splash Atlanta proves once again that you never quite know where the weekend is going to take you.
Dan and Lacy break down the highlights, the hilarious moments, the sexy adventures, and what it was really like trying to keep the party going when one of them was ready to rage and the other desperately needed a nap.
Tune in for their full Splash Atlanta/Eroticon recap and hear all the stories that could only happen on a Swing Nation weekend.

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