The One You Feed

In this episode, Nedra Glover Tawwab talks about why family relationships are so hard and what actually helps navigate them. She explores the complexities of family dynamics, self-sabotage, and why people resist change. Nedra also shares insights on managing discomfort, setting boundaries, and accepting others’ limitations. The conversation covers practical strategies for healthier relationships, the challenges of being a “cycle breaker,” and how to navigate difficult conversations. You'll discover compassionate guidance for breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering self-awareness, acceptance, and growth in family and personal relationships.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

Family dynamics and their impact on personal development

Understanding and managing unhealthy relationships

The concept of self-sabotage and its connection to discomfort

The role of emotional patterns in addiction and recovery

Navigating relationships with individuals resistant to change

The significance of personal accountability in healing

The complexities of shame and its effects on relationships

Strategies for effective communication and resolving circular conversations

The importance of self-compassion and acceptance in difficult relationships

Recognizing and addressing the influence of family roles and expectations on identity

For full show notes: ⁠⁠click here⁠⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Nedra Glover Tawwab, check out these other episodes:

How to Make Great Relationships with Dr. Rick Hanson

How to Have Healthier Relationships with Yourself and Others with Jillian Turecki

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Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠⁠!

In this episode, Brad Stulberg explores how to cultivate excellence in a chaotic world. He explains how excellence is a lifelong practice rooted in daily effort, presence, and values, not a final achievement. Brad also discusses the importance of process over outcome, balancing ambition with self-kindness, and finding meaning through consistent, value-driven actions. The conversation also covers overcoming burnout, the illusion of perfect balance, and how to live intentionally in a chaotic world, offering practical advice for cultivating fulfillment and true greatness in everyday life.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠

Key Takeaways:

The concept of excellence as a continuous practice rather than a fixed destination.

The transformative nature of pursuing goals and its impact on character and personal growth.

The importance of a process mindset, focusing on daily efforts and consistency.

The metaphor of "feeding the good wolf" to emphasize nurturing positive qualities.

The balance between striving for outcomes and being present in the process.

The significance of measuring effort over outcomes for sustained progress.

The idea of "raising the floor" to improve performance on average days.

The role of care and commitment in achieving excellence.

The distinction between meaningful engagement and the pitfalls of comfort and convenience.

The necessity of intentional living and effort in a chaotic, technology-driven world.

For full show notes: ⁠click here⁠!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Brad Stulberg, check out these other episodes:

The Practice of Groundedness with Brad Stulberg

Mindfulness and Understanding Identity with Cory Allen

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Check out ⁠Mountains to Cross ⁠by Dr. Abraham George. It’s the story of how a life built on success was redirected toward compassion, and how that choice led to the founding of Shanti Bhavan, a school helping children break free from generational poverty. Find it wherever books are sold.
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Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for ⁠Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)⁠!

In this episode, Casey McGuire Davidson talks about discovering life beyond alcohol and strategies for lasting sobriety and emotional wellness. She shares her struggles with alcohol, repeated attempts to quit, and how support, coaching, and treating sobriety as an experiment helped her succeed. Casey also discusses the challenges of early sobriety, the importance of community and self-care, and practical strategies for replacing drinking habits. The conversation emphasizes curiosity, planning, and support as keys to lasting change, offering hope and encouragement for anyone considering a break from alcohol.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, ⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠

Key Takeaways:

Personal journey of struggling with alcohol and attempts to quit.

Challenges faced during early sobriety, including anxiety and withdrawal symptoms.

Benefits of sobriety, such as improved emotional stability and better sleep.

The concept of treating sobriety as an experiment rather than a permanent decision.

Importance of support systems, including coaching, therapy, and community groups.

Strategies for replacing drinking habits with healthier alternatives and activities.

The role of public accountability in maintaining sobriety goals.

Understanding the cultural conditioning around alcohol and its impact on social interactions.

The significance of creating new rewards and self-care practices to replace alcohol.

Encouragement to approach sobriety with curiosity and openness to change.

For full show notes: click here!

If you enjoyed this conversation with Casey McGuire Davidson, check out these other episodes:

Special Episode: 4 Different Journeys to Sobriety

The Joy of Being Sober with Catherine Gray

The Magic of Being Sober with Laura McKowen

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Check out Mountains to Cross by Dr. Abraham George. It’s the story of how a life built on success was redirected toward compassion, and how that choice led to the founding of Shanti Bhavan, a school helping children break free from generational poverty. Find it wherever books are sold.

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Falling off a goal is normal. Knowing how to get back on track—without shame or drama—is the real skill. I’m hosting a free 60-minute live workshop on Tuesday, January 27 at 7pm ET to teach a simple framework for getting unstuck. Register now for Falling Off is Part of It: The Framework for Getting Back on Track (Without the Drama)!

In this episode, Chris Guillebeau explores time anxiety and the illusion of urgency that is st. aling your joy. He explains the pervasive feeling of never having enough time, discusses the psychological roots of time anxiety, and shares practical strategies for managing competing demands, avoidance, and procrastination. Chris also offers insights on creating personal “rules of engagement,” decluttering schedules, and embracing acceptance, encouraging listeners to cultivate a more intentional, compassionate, and fulfilling relationship with time.

Exciting News!!! Coming in March, 2026, my new book, How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!

Key Takeaways:

Definition and exploration of time anxiety as a psychological issue.

The distinction between feeling overwhelmed and traditional productivity challenges.

The impact of competing priorities and requests on time management.

The concept of “rules of engagement” for managing daily demands.

Strategies for overcoming avoidance and procrastination.

The importance of self-awareness and intentionality in managing time.

Practical tips for improving time management, such as allowing buffer time for tasks.

The idea of “time decluttering” to create space in schedules.

The role of cognitive distortions in exacerbating time-related stress.

Encouragement to embrace a mindset shift towards a more fulfilling relationship with time.

For full show notes: https://www.oneyoufeed.net/time-anxiety/https://www.oneyoufeed.net/time-anxiety/!

If you enjoyed this episode with Chris Guillebeau, check out:

Chris Guillebeau (Interview from 2014)

How to Accept Limitations and Make Time for What Counts with Oliver Burkeman

Time Management for Mortals with Oliver Burkeman

Oliver Burkeman on Modern Time Management (2019)

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In this episode, Adam Alter discusses the science of getting unstuck and learning to know when to keep going or when to let go. He explores why people get stuck in areas like work, creativity, and personal growth, and discuss the psychological and cultural factors behind feeling stuck. Adam also shares practical strategies for getting unstuck, such as breaking big goals into smaller steps, embracing curiosity, and taking action - even imperfectly. The conversation highlights the importance of acceptance, mindset shifts, collaboration, and self-compassion in overcoming plateaus and sparking breakthroughs.

Exciting News!!!Coming in March 2026, my new book, ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠How a Little Becomes a Lot: The Art of Small Changes for a More Meaningful Life is now available for pre-orders!⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Key Takeaways

Exploration vs. Exploitation: The two-step process for achieving creative breakthroughs.

The concept of "stuckness" in various life aspects, including creativity, work, and relationships.

Psychological vs. physical stuckness and the emotional toll it takes.

Cultural differences in perceptions of change and stuckness (Eastern vs. Western perspectives).

The importance of acceptance and mindset in overcoming feelings of being stuck.

Strategies for breaking large goals into manageable tasks to maintain motivation.

The "plateau effect" and how to navigate periods of stalled progress.

The role of curiosity in fostering creativity and challenging the status quo.

The significance of action and starting small to overcome inertia.

The impact of physical movement and changing environments on mental clarity and creativity.

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If you enjoyed this conversation with Adam Alter, check out these other episodes:

How to Create Emotional Agility with Susan David

Thomas Sterner on How to Be Fully Engaged

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