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• How Meditation Rewires Your Brain for Love, Sex & Self-Control l Ft. Light Watkins

  Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Join Dr. Emily as she sits down with meditation teacher, speaker, and author Light Watkins to explore how mindfulness and meditation can transform your relationships and sex life. From creating space in relationships to finding authentic happiness, this conversation dives deep into practical tools for better living and loving. Light Watkins is a bestselling author, accomplished meditation teacher, and founder of the Shine Movement. He's an inspirational keynote speaker and workshop leader who has delivered wellness-themed talks around the globe. Timestamps [8:24] - Emily's personal meditation journey [10:01] - How meditation creates space between offense and reaction in relationships [14:55] - The correlation between meditation and sex [21:02] - Light's accountability hack [31:04] - Why happiness is like doing a pull-up [38:47] - How meditation changed Light's approach to sexual connection and intimacy [41:01] - Split-testing your inner voices [45:35] - The gratitude algorithm [52:52] - Quickie Questions

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• Why You’ve Lost Desire in Your Relationship (And How to Get It Back) l ft. Esther Perel

  Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!:https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this episode of Sex with Emily, world-renowned psychotherapist Esther Perel joins us for an intimate conversation about the complexities of modern love, desire, and relationships. From her groundbreaking work on infidelity to her insights on maintaining passion in long-term partnerships, Esther shares the wisdom that has helped millions navigate the tension between security and excitement in love. We explore Esther's core philosophy that desire is not something you have—it's something you cultivate. She breaks down the fundamental paradox of modern relationships: love seeks closeness and security, while desire craves space, novelty, and mystery. We discuss how to integrate these opposing forces and why the question "Can you want what you already have?" is central to sustaining passion over time. Esther reveals why eroticism is truly a state of mind, how pleasure connects directly to self-worth, and her revolutionary perspective on infidelity—that sometimes people don't go elsewhere to find another person, but to find another version of themselves. We also dive into her new card game "Where Should We Begin," designed to foster vulnerability and deep connection through storytelling. This conversation addresses the unrealistic expectations we place on one partner to be our everything, practical tools for managing relationship anxiety, and why modern love requires us to calibrate rather than abandon our expectations. Whether you're single, coupled, or somewhere in between, Esther's insights offer a roadmap for creating more authentic, passionate connections. Timestamps 0:00 - Introduction 2:45 - The evolution from duty to desire 8:02 - Can we experience desire and deep love simultaneously? 11:20 - "I turn myself off when..." vs "I turn myself on when..." 16:00 - Pleasure vs. performance 19:09 - The ice cream exercise 25:52 - One person can't be everything 31:14 - Understanding infidelity 35:10 - Playing the relationship game 44:00 - Dealing with anxiety in love

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• Why You Feel Empty After Having Sex (Even When You Want It)

  Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this transformative episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily explores how our earliest childhood experiences create patterns that show up in our adult relationships and sex lives. This deep dive into attachment theory, trauma responses, and relationship patterns reveals why we often find ourselves repeating the same relationship dynamics over and over again. Dr. Emily breaks down the science behind how our nervous systems record experiences from the third trimester of pregnancy through early childhood, creating unconscious blueprints for how we navigate love, intimacy, and connection as adults. She explains the difference between explicit memories (things we consciously remember) and implicit memories (body-based memories that influence our behavior without our awareness). This episode unpacks common relationship patterns including the caretaker who becomes resentful, the person who chases unavailable partners, the over-communicator paired with someone who stonewalls, and the chameleon who loses themselves in relationships. Through real listener examples, Dr. Emily illustrates how childhood experiences of co-regulation (or lack thereof) shape our adult attachment styles. Key topics include understanding your primary unmet needs, recognizing "trauma tingles" versus genuine attraction, the difference between healthy novelty and addiction to drama, and why some people are drawn to emotional unpredictability. Dr. Emily also explores how these patterns specifically impact sexual connection, including dissociation during intimacy and the challenge of staying present with a partner. The episode offers practical tools for identifying your own patterns, understanding the difference between internal and external processing styles, recognizing stonewalling versus healthy space-taking, and beginning to heal these deeply ingrained responses. This conversation provides essential insights for anyone who wants to understand why they keep attracting the same types of partners or repeating familiar relationship dynamics. Let's get social: Instagram / sexwithemily X / sexwithemily Facebook / sexwithemily TikTok / sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text Timestamps: [0:00] - Introduction [15:20] - The Science of Early Memory Formation [18:50] - Common Pattern #1: The Caretaker Who Becomes Resentful [28:50] - Common Pattern #2: Chasing Unavailable Partners [39:00] - The Art of Staying Present in Relationships [43:20] - Common Pattern #3: Over-Communication vs. Stonewalling [52:40] - Common Pattern #4: The Chameleon Effect [56:00] - Trauma Tingles vs. Real Attraction [1:04:15] - The Performance Trap in Dating

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• What It’s Really Like to Grow Up Non-Binary l Jeffrey Marsh

  Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. Sign up for Dr. Emily's newsletter at sexwithemily.com for free guides, articles, and more ways to prioritize your pleasure and relationships. In this powerful episode of Sex with Emily, Dr. Emily sits down with Jeffrey Marsh, the first openly non-binary public figure interviewed on national television, author of "How to Be You," and a Zen-trained meditation teacher who has helped millions embrace self-acceptance. This conversation goes deep into identity, authenticity, and the radical act of loving yourself exactly as you are. Jeffrey shares their journey from childhood feelings of not fitting into traditional gender roles to becoming a leading voice for non-binary visibility and self-compassion. We explore the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation, the importance of using correct pronouns as basic respect, and how Jeffrey's 20+ years of Zen practice has shaped their approach to self-love and helping others break free from shame. This episode addresses the real challenges of coming out, setting boundaries with family, and the courage it takes to live authentically in a world that often demands conformity. Jeffrey offers practical wisdom on moving from self-criticism to self-acceptance, why asking for what you need is essential for healthy relationships, and how their work helps people - especially parents - learn to support LGBTQ+ loved ones. Whether you're exploring your own identity, supporting someone in your life, or simply want to understand how to love yourself more fully, this conversation offers profound insights on breaking free from societal expectations and embracing your authentic self. Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here - https://sexwithemily.com/text

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• How Your Brain Sabotages Your Sex Life! l Dr. Daniel Amen Explains

  In this episode of Sex with Emily, renowned psychiatrist and brain expert Dr. Daniel Amen joins us to explore how our "hidden dragons", the unconscious patterns from our past, are secretly controlling our happiness, relationships, and sex lives. Based on his latest book, "Your Brain is Always Listening," Dr. Amen reveals how childhood experiences, family trauma, and even ancestral patterns get written into our brains and show up in our intimate relationships. We dive deep into the most common dragons people face, including the anxious dragon, the abandoned and insignificant dragon, and the codependent dragon. Dr. Amen shares his personal journey with these patterns and explains how understanding your dragons can transform not just your mental health, but your sexual wellness too. We explore the connection between brain health and sexual function, why ADD can impact orgasms, and how negative thought patterns become "bad habits" that sabotage intimacy. This episode includes practical tools like positivity bias training, the power of rewriting your story, and specific breathing techniques that can reset your nervous system. Dr. Amen also addresses a listener's question about cheating addiction and explains how brain scans revealed the neurological patterns behind compulsive behavior. Whether you're struggling with commitment issues, sexual anxiety, or just want to understand how your brain affects your love life, this conversation offers both scientific insights and actionable strategies for creating healthier relationships. Show Notes: 00:00 - Introduction to Hidden Dragons 01:02 - Dr. Amen's Personal Dragon Story 04:40 - The Abandoned & Insignificant Dragon 08:26 - Most Common Dragons People Face 11:07 - The Ancestral Dragon & Epigenetics 14:18 - Rewriting Your Story & Focus 16:06 - Positivity Bias Training 19:07 - Happiness as Moral Obligation 21:22 - Brain Health & Sexual Function 24:02 - Building Better Mental Habits 27:59 - Listener Q&A: Cheating Addiction 35:12 - ADD & Relationships 38:20 - ADD & Female Orgasms 40:30 - Breathing Techniques for Regulation Join the SmartSX Membership : https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ Let's get social: Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexwithemily/ X https://twitter.com/sexwithemily Facebook https://www.facebook.com/sexwithemily TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sexwithemily Threads https://www.threads.net/@sexwithemily Let's text: Sign up here https://sexwithemily.com/text

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