Unlocking Your Sensual Self | A Woman's Guide to Pleasure
In this episode of the podcast, host Emily Morse is joined by guest Pamela Madsen to explore the transformative power of "back-to-the-body" retreats for women and couples, focusing on reclaiming pleasure and improving communication. Pamela, a retreat leader with over a decade of experience, details a 7-day program emphasizing self-pleasure through clothed genital work, addressing issues such as vaginal pain and low libido.
Positive outcomes from the retreats include increased self-esteem, improved communication, and better consent negotiation. The retreats also involve sexological bodywork, including genital mapping, fantasy exploration, and elements of BDSM and tantra. Men’s participation is discussed, highlighting the positive impact these retreats have on couples.
The conversation also covers practical techniques like the "lotus lift" meditation and sensate focus exercises for embodied self-expression—even for those unable to attend in person. Emily and Pamela address common challenges such as body image issues, societal pressures, and communication barriers in long-term relationships.
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00:00:12 - Women's Retreats & Couples' Impact
03:19 - Sexological Bodywork: A Woman's Journey
06:43 - Female Anatomy & Desire
12:14 - Embodied Movement & Wellness
15:04 - Embodied Arousal & Lotus Lift
18:07 - Body Connection & Sensations
20:22 - Couples Rediscovering Sexuality
25:46 - Couple's Intimacy Coaching
32:17 - Pleasure, Aging, & Body Image
47:50 - Overcoming Anorgasmia
54:26 - Guest Contact & Retreats
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1:02:56
The Truth About The Spark in Relationships
Is the spark gone? Dr. Scott Lyons, as I explore how to get the spark back in relationships and
sex. We're talking about why the spark is not what you think and what you're actually looking for.
In this episode, Dr. Scott Lyons and I discuss:
● Why the initial 'spark' might be misleading.
● The importance of evolving and growing in relationships.
● How trauma responses affect attraction and intimacy.
● The difference between intensity and intimacy.
● Practical ways to cultivate a sustainable and fulfilling connection.
I share personal experiences and insights on dating, attraction, and the journey toward deeper
self-understanding. Dr. Scott Lyons brings his expertise as a trauma therapist and somatic
healer to help us understand the complexities of relationships and sexuality.
Show Notes:
00:00:00 - Rekindling the Spark: What You Need to Know
00:02:45 - The Reality of Growth: Attraction Can Evolve
00:07:57 - Freedom vs. Attachment: Different Relationship Patterns
00:11:10 - Evolving Attraction: Hemisexuals, Saposexuals, and Demisexuals
00:15:03 - The Attraction ICK: Is There an Attraction Spark?
00:19:29 - Peeling Away the Layers: The Beauty of Intimacy
00:22:49 - The Honeymoon Period Is Drunk: Sobering Up and Finding Organic Excitement
00:27:40 - Variety and Newness: Keeping the Spark Alive
00:31:17 - Passion or Safety: Cultivating Eroticism in Safety
00:35:56 - Arousal Runway: Pottery Classes and Cooking Meals
00:40:19 - Developing New Habits: Making Time for Connection
00:42:51 - Chasing the Familiar: Red Flags as a Spark
00:46:16 - The Importance of Feeling Safe
00:49:54 - Childhood Was Perfect: Somatic Therapy and Nervous System Regulation
00:53:10 - Grounding in Our Senses: Getting Back to Sensuality and Connection
00:56:26 - Healing Patterns: Not Taking the Bait
00:58:20 - Sustainable, Healthy, Loving Relationships: Going the Distance
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1:05:34
Praise, Humiliation & Other Kinks
What feeling are you chasing in bed? No, I’m not talking about orgasm. I’m talking about an emotion, like feeling worshiped, praised, or unbelievably desirable. On the other hand, maybe it arouses you to feel degraded, objectified – even humiliated.
On today’s show, I’m unpacking a kink that’s getting a ton of attention on social media: praise kink. It falls under the larger umbrella of core erotic desires, which we all have. I show you how to identify your core erotic desires and how to turn them into realities. I also get into your kinky questions, including: when you adore your fiancée, but fantasize about sex with your much kinkier ex, what now? And when your partner constantly gets hit on my other men, is it healthy to get turned on by it? All this and more in today's episode.
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43:19
Sex and Self-Confidence
You’ve heard this one before: the sexiest quality in the world is confidence. And that’s true...but...it’s not always easy to muster. Confidence is an inside job, but here’s the good news. Once you generate it on your own terms, life - and sex - gets a whole lot easier.
So on today’s Ask Emily show, I’m joined by my dear friend and former co-host Menace from The Woody Show, as we talk confidence, jealousy, What happens when you adore your partner, but can’t stop thinking about their high body count? Or want to have hot phone sex, but don’t know where to start? We talk through both. How about when you feel too short to find a great partner, or don’t know how to be dominant in bed? We help you think through both. Finally: discovering your partner’s can of delay spray. Our listener wonders whether he’s sleeping with someone else; we think it’s time for open communication.
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29:18
Am I The Asshole? My Partner Never Wants Sex
We’re back for another AITA episode! This time it’s all about sexual mismatches. First: they’ve got a 12-year age difference, and she suspects his sex drive is dwindling. She doesn’t want to cheat, but she also wants more sex…what now? Next, he wants sex for pleasure, she was raised to do it only for procreation. Is there any way to meet in the middle? A self-professed "pillow princess" writes in, is she the asshole for wanting to receive pleasure – but not give it? Finally, they’re in a dead bedroom of 10 years. “She’s repulsed by my touch” he writes, but is he really asserting himself to make healthy changes? You decide
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