The EXTRAORDINARY Family Life Podcast

• How to Hold High Standards With Teens (Without Power Struggles)

  Are you trying to set teen boundaries without your child calling you “controlling” or “the worst parent ever”?If you want your teen to live by high standards—around tech, food, friends, habits, and lifestyle—you can’t just make it your standard and enforce it. It has to become their standard. In this episode of the Extraordinary Family Life Podcast, Greg and Rachel break down exactly how they helped their own teens buy in so deeply that they now say things like, “I’m not putting that garbage in my body,” or “I don’t waste my life on that.”Instead of rules and power struggles, they show you how to prioritize relationship over rules, lean on unconditional love, and teach the laws that govern health, happiness, success, and addiction—so your kids see for themselves where certain choices lead. When teens understand the why behind your standards, they stop feeling controlled and start choosing those standards for themselves.You’ll also hear how the Dennings have intentionally made real life more compelling than video games or junk food—often inviting friends along for the ride—so the “different” lifestyle isn’t a punishment, it’s an upgrade.If you’ve ever wondered, “How do I hold the line without wrecking the relationship?” this conversation will give you a new framework: less control, more conviction—and a family standard that everyone owns.🎉 Enrollment is now open for our Winter 2026Habits for a Successful Life Online Class for Teens → Learn More HereKey Takeaways✅ It can’t be my standard; it has to become our standard as a family, or teens will always feel controlled.✅ Prioritizing the relationship over the rules makes high standards easier to hold and easier for teens to accept.✅ Unconditional love is the foundation, but standards and boundaries are still essential—just not weaponized.✅ Focus less on control and correction, and more on conviction, conversion, and clear “why’s” behind your standards.✅ Treat standards like universal laws (like gravity)—not arbitrary parent rules—so kids see cause and effect for themselves.Memorable Quotes🗣 “It can’t be my standard I enforce on my kids. It has to be our standard.”🗣 “If we don’t live the message, we suck as the messenger.”🗣 “The goal isn’t to make your child do what you want—it’s to help them want it for themselves.”🗣 “Tell me your habits and I’ll tell you your future.”🗣 “We’re not the creators of the rules—we’re the teachers of the laws that already exist.”Chapters00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdotes00:38 Navigating Parenting Standards and Boundaries01:10 The Challenge of Standing Out as Parents02:53 Communicating Values and Standards to Teens04:46 The Importance of Ownership in Standards06:12 Understanding Consequences and Life Choices08:21 Living the Message: The Role of Parents11:02 The Balance of Unconditional Love and Standards17:21 The Complexity of Love: Unconditional vs Conditional18:41 Prioritizing Relationships Over Rules21:58 Conviction vs Control in Parenting26:25 Creating an Engaging Family Culture30:29 Choosing the Hard Path for Greater RewardsRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel’s ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Join the 12-Week Habits Challenge for parents of kids 13+Don’t miss out on the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class!Get Greg’s NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Get Rachel’s Extraordinary Family Life PlannerFollow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

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• How to Stay Calm With Toddlers (Without Losing Yourself)

  Do your evenings disappear into chaos—feeding, cleaning, and collapsing into bed exhausted? Are you wondering how to stay calm and connected while parenting toddlers who seem to need you every second?In this episode, Greg & Rachel reveal the mindset and framework behind calm parenting toddlers—how to meet your child’s needs without losing yourself, gently transition from co-sleeping, and end night wakings without cry-it-out. You’ll learn why the 0–5 window shapes your child’s identity, confidence, and future emotional health—and how your calm presence now builds secure attachment and independence later.They also share why dads don’t babysit—they lead, and how fathers can bring energy, joy, and true relief to moms in the toddler trenches. You’ll leave with practical, doable shifts that make family life lighter, calmer, and far more fulfilling.🗝️ Key Takeaways✅ Calm parenting toddlers builds trust and independence. Meeting needs early reduces clinginess.✅ Co-sleeping transitions can be gentle and peaceful. Move step by step without trauma or tears.✅ Night weaning works best with connection. Stay near, soothe with presence, and stay patient.✅ Dads don’t babysit—dads lead. Real help means engagement and energy.✅ Self-care fuels capacity. Movement, nutrition, and recovery make calm possible.✅ Presence > perfection. Toddlers sense your energy more than your words.🕒 Chapters00:00 Embracing the Chaos of Parenthood01:08 The Importance of Mindset in Parenting03:20 Understanding Child Development and Needs05:40 The Long-Term Investment of Parenting08:07 Balancing Self-Care and Family Needs09:46 Creating a Secure Environment for Children10:47 Navigating Relationships and Priorities13:18 The Value of Minimalism in Parenting15:40 The Evolution of Parenting Practices17:38 Creating a Safe and Secure Environment for Children23:29 The Importance of Self-Care for Parents29:14 Building Strong Foundations for Future Relationships💬 Memorable Quotes🗣 “Dads don’t babysit—dads lead. Be the king of your kingdom.”🗣 “Attachment now creates freedom later.”🗣 “You can’t spoil a child under three—you can only secure them.”🗣 “Your calm nervous system is your child’s safety net.”The topics discussed in our episodes are intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. They should not be considered medical advice. Always consult a qualified professional for any medical concerns or questions.RESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel’s ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Join the 12-Week Habits Challenge for parents of kids 13+Don’t miss out on the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class!Get Greg’s NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Get Rachel’s Extraordinary Family Life PlannerFollow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

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• Joyful Kids Start with You: How to Model Real Happiness

  Do your kids “catch” your stress—and you hate how quickly the mood at home drops?What if the fastest way to raise happy kids is to model authentic joy (not fake calm)—even while cleaning a messy kitchen?In this video, we unpack how parents set the emotional tone at home—and why your child has been watching you from birth to learn how to do life. You’ll learn how to raise your emotional baseline on purpose (water, breath, sunlight, movement), process triggers so you’re not pretending, and lead with real peace your kids can imitate. You can’t fake it—kids feel the truth—so let’s build the real thing.What you’ll learn:Modeling vs. masking: why kids imitate your state (and can’t be fooled)Story → state: how the meaning you give messes determines your moodMorning biochemistry reset: water, breath, sunlight, movement = instant upliftFrom nagging to leading: make chores joyful by choice, not drudgeryTriggers, then tools: journaling, breathwork, micro-meditations, and the “jukebox” swap (remove the old CD for good)Key Takeaways✅ Parents create the climate—kids grow the weather✅ Authentic calm beats performative patience (they can tell)✅ Biochemistry is leverage: hydrate, breathe, move, sunlight✅ Choose joy while you work—easier to recruit help✅ Process & replace triggers so old songs stop playingMemorable Quotes🗣 “The easiest way for our kids to feel joy is for parents to model it.”🗣 “We’re the adults. We have to be the adults.”🗣 “You can’t fake it. It has to really be there.”🗣 “Is it possible to have joy while I’m cleaning the mess? Yes.”🗣 “Happiness isn’t the reward at the end—it’s the way.”Chapters00:00 The Essence of Happiness in Family Life02:03 The Struggle Between Doing and Being03:09 Modeling Joy for Children03:47 The Role of Triggers in Parenting05:59 Choosing Emotions in Daily Life06:31 Finding Joy in Everyday Chores07:31 The Impact of Environment on Happiness09:47 Teaching Children Through Example11:09 Morning Routines: Setting the Tone for Positivity13:14 Processing Emotions: The Key to Emotional Freedom17:18 Authenticity in Parenting: The Importance of Genuine EmotionsRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel’s ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Join the 12-Week Habits Challenge for parents of kids 13+Don’t miss out on the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class!Get Greg’s NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Get Rachel’s Extraordinary Family Life PlannerFollow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

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• How to Stop Toddler Tantrums with Attachment (Without Burnout)

  Are your toddler’s meltdowns leaving you “touched out” and wondering how to stay calm? What if the fastest way to end tantrums is more connection—not more limits?In this video, we break down attachment parenting for toddlers—the practical, science-aligned way to reduce tantrums, boost cooperation, and rebuild calm (in you and your child). You’ll learn why kids imitate your emotions but can’t yet regulate them, how to be the adult in the room, and the exact strategies we used to go 16+ years without tantrums in our home.We’ll show you how to increase your capacity (food, sleep, recovery) so you’re not running on empty, plus simple co-regulation tools like cuddle-pauses, couch resets, and family calm breaks. Attachment isn’t coddling—it's how kids become secure and independent. When their emotional bucket is full, clinginess drops and behavior improves. Parenting isn’t convenient—but it can be effective.Key Takeaways✅ Attachment first makes every other parenting strategy work better✅ Capacity over boundaries: build yourself up so you can show up✅ Food & sleep are fuel for patience, presence, and self-control✅ Fill the bucket daily: secure kids act better and rebel less✅ Pause > push through: a 2-minute cuddle beats a 20-minute battleMemorable Quotes🗣 “We are the ones who have to be the adults.”🗣 “I don’t want it to be easy—I want it to be effective.”🗣 “Kids imitate without regulation—you must co-regulate.”🗣 “Parenting is never convenient—but it is transformational.”🗣 “Toddlers with full buckets don’t have tantrums.”Chapters00:00 Welcome & the “be the adult” principle02:04 Imitation without regulation (why kids escalate)06:15 Attachment disorders → behavior problems (and hope)10:22 Zero–Three: the critical window (and what if you missed it)13:40 Touched-out? Capacity, not limits17:18 Food & sleep: the fastest patience upgrade21:05 “Fill the bucket” method (quality + quantity time)26:30 Co-regulation: couch cuddle resets & calm breaks31:12 Rebuilding attachment with older kidsRESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel’s ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Join the 12-Week Habits Challenge for parents of kids 13+Don’t miss out on the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class!Get Greg’s NEW Formidable Family Man BOOK!Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Get Rachel’s Extraordinary Family Life PlannerFollow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Gather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

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• Parenting Is a Skill: How Attachment Ends Tantrums & Rebellion

  Are you using “attachment parenting” — or accidentally doing permissive parenting?In this eye-opening conversation, Greg & Rachel Denning break down what true attachment parenting is (and isn’t). They share the skills, mindsets, and tools that helped them eliminate tantrums for 16 years and prevent teen rebellion—without yelling, shaming, or rigid control.You’ll learn why parenting is a specific, learnable skill, how to build secure attachment from baby to teen, and where popular advice (cry-it-out, forced “holding time,” over-scheduling, letting kids lead everything) quietly damages trust. You’ll also get a clear blueprint for connection with boundaries so kids feel safe, seen, and guided—and you feel calm, confident, and effective.Bottom line: Attachment is earned, not forced. Respect your child’s free will, meet real needs (sleep, food, attention), co-regulate big emotions, and set firm, sensible boundaries. That’s the evergreen approach that works in every generation.Key Takeaways✅ Parenting is a skill—unrelated to how good you are at business, sports, or leadership.✅ Attachment ≠ permissive. It’s connection + boundaries and kind + firm.✅ Attachment is earned, not forced. No cry-it-out or “holding until defeat.”✅ Respect free will while providing age-appropriate structure and safety.✅ Co-regulation first (your calm is contagious), then teach self-regulation.✅ Meet basics (sleep, nutrition, attention) before behavior battles.✅ Measure success by long-term trust and adult outcomes—not short-term compliance.Chapters:00:00 Introduction to Attachment Parenting00:43 Clarifying Misunderstandings in Parenting02:04 The Importance of Parenting Skills03:09 Defining Success in Parenting04:39 Understanding Attachment Parenting05:23 The Dangers of Misapplied Parenting Techniques06:56 The Impact of Adoption on Attachment08:25 The Consequences of Control in Parenting11:28 The Role of Freedom in Child Development13:48 The Misconception of Holding Time16:10 The Impact of Sleep Training on Children17:59 Respecting Free Will in Parenting20:39 The Concept of Holding Time24:22 Understanding Boundaries and Safety28:24 Preparing Children for Adulthood31:24 The Lifelong Mentor-Mentee Relationship33:01 Building a Legacy of Good ParentingMemorable Quotes🗣 “Parenting is a skill—and a very specific one you can learn.”🗣 “Attachment is earned, not forced.”🗣 “Be kind and firm: connection with boundaries.”🗣 “Children push to find the boundary—when they find it, they feel safe.”🗣 “Your calm co-regulates their storm.”RESOURCES:Let us help you in your extraordinary family life journey.How We Raised 7 Well-Adjusted Kids - Without Yelling, Tantrums, Punishments or Power Struggles (+ get THE CHECKLIST: Things We Do Every Day to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids)Rachel’s ⁠⁠Must-Read Booklist for Well-Read Moms⁠⁠Greg's ⁠⁠Recommended Reading List for Parents & Youth⁠⁠Follow us on Instagram: ⁠@worldschoolfamily⁠ or ⁠@greg.denning⁠Don’t miss out on the Extraordinary Parent Mentoring Method class!Get Rachel's ⁠⁠Family Systems & Charts⁠⁠Get Rachel’s Extraordinary Family Life PlannerJOIN GREG'S 90-DAY HEALTH & FITNESS CHALLENGE! Join the Formidable Family Man Masterclass and TribeGather with us at the ⁠World School Family (Beach & Farm) Resort⁠ in Portugal

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