After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

Why does your child completely shut down anytime you bring up feelings? Should you actually ignore tantrums... or is that some of the worst parenting advice we've been given? And if your child is potty trained during the day but still having accidents at night... is something wrong?

In this Q&A episode, we're answering the parenting questions we hear over and over again—the ones that leave even thoughtful, loving parents second-guessing themselves and wondering if they're getting it all wrong.

We cover:
- Nighttime potty training (and what's actually developmentally normal)
- Whether you should ignore tantrums (spoiler: we have thoughts)
- What to do when your child refuses to talk about their feelings
- Why some kids completely shut down when emotions come up
- Healthy ways to help kids express anger instead of stuffing it down
- How to build emotional intelligence without making your child feel pressured or overwhelmed
- The science behind why connection, not punishment, is what actually helps kids learn emotional regulation

You'll walk away knowing exactly what actually helps kids build emotional regulation, why anger deserves a complete rebrand, and how the way many of us were raised is still shaping the way we parent today. And we can almost guarantee there's one idea in this episode that you'll think about during your child's very next meltdown, and it'll change how you respond.

Plus:
Kristin and Deena discover they are complete opposites when it comes to movie theaters, sleepovers, and basically existing as humans, Deena explains why she'd happily skip every girls' trip forever, and Kristin has a surprisingly emotional realization about anger that might just change the way you think about your own emotions, too.

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If you're feeling like summer has somehow become another thing you have to nail” or do perfectly"... this episode is your reminder that you don't have to.

Our feeds are full of magical summer moments, bucket lists, and family vacations that look effortless and picture perfect so it's easy to feel like we're not doing enough.

In this hilarious episode, Kristin and Deena are playing “F*ck Yeah or F*ck No" to all of this summer's biggest trends—from hotel pool passes and reading romance novels to Labubus, camping chairs, creatine, pickleball, backyard movie nights, and everything in between.

Along the way, they accidentally stumble into some surprisingly important conversations about motherhood, boundaries, partnership, body image, and why your kids don't actually need a Pinterest-perfect summer.

In this episode, you'll hear:
* The summer trends Kristin and Deena are fully embracing (and the ones they're absolutely not).
* Why staying home might actually create better family memories than chasing the "perfect" vacation.
* The simple mindset shift that takes the pressure off creating the "best summer ever."
* Why saying no might be the healthiest trend of all this year.
* What your kids will ACTUALLY remember from the summer, rather than what you think they will

Whether you're planning a huge vacation, hanging out in your own backyard, or trying to make it to September with your sanity intact, this conversations is your reminder that your kids don’t need a perfect summer!

So lower the pressure, laugh along with us, and tell us which summer trends you're saying "F*ck Yeah" to... and which ones you're leaving behind.

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If every family vacation somehow ends with you and your partner bickering... snapping at each other... feeling guilty because your kids are watching... and wondering why you spent thousands of dollars to argue somewhere prettier...Stop.

Listen to this episode before you pack your bags.

Kristin is pulling back the curtain on the exact couples therapy tools that completely transformed the way they travel as a family. These simple conversations changed everything - from constant vacation bickering to actually feeling like teammates again.

In this episode, you'll learn:
The 5 questions every couple should answer before leaving for vacation that prevent fights before they even start.
Why even the happiest couples end up fighting on family vacations (and what to do instead).
How to stop resentment before it builds, so you don't spend the whole trip quietly keeping score.
Exactly what to do when a vacation fight starts... so one bad moment doesn't ruin the entire vacation.
The simple repair strategy that helps you reconnect faster, and models healthy relationships for your kids.

If you've ever come home from vacation feeling like you need another vacation... if you've ever looked at your partner and thought, Can we please not do this again next year? This episode is for you.
Send it to your partner before you leave.

Your kids won't remember whether the vacation was perfect. They'll remember how it felt to be there. This episode will transform the memories you come home with.

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If your house sounds like a WWE match in a bounce house all summer long... this episode is for you. The arguing. The tattling. The screaming from the other room. The constant feeling that you've spent the last three hours breaking up fights and saying, "GUYS. PLEASE. JUST STOP." Most parents think sibling fighting means something is wrong. What if it's actually one of the most important relationships your child will ever have?

In this episode, Kristin and Deena are giving you the exact roadmap for what to do when your kids won't stop fighting (hello summer) and the surprisingly common parenting mistake that can make sibling conflict even worse.

You'll learn:
When to step in... and when to stay out of it
Why playing detective ("Who started it?!") backfires
What to say in the moment when things are escalating
The simple shift that helps kids actually solve problems together
The science-backed way to reduce sibling rivalry before it starts
How to teach the social skills your kids need for life, not just for summer

By the end of this episode, you'll understand what's really happening beneath the sibling chaos, exactly how to respond, and how to raise kids who can disagree, repair, and stay connected—even when they're driving each other absolutely insane. This isn't just about the summer, it's about creating the groundwork for a lifelong healthy sibling dynamic and closeness.

If you've ever hidden in the pantry eating snacks while your kids scream at each other in the next room... press play immediately. This episode might save your summer.

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If you’re a true crime girlie, stop what you’re doing and press play. Because this conversation with Dateline’s Andrea Canning is one of those episodes you’ll be thinking about long after it’s over. Andrea has spent more than a decade interviewing killers, sitting with grieving families, and uncovering what really happened behind the closed doors of seemingly “perfect” lives. In this episode, she reveals the relationship patterns she sees over and over again, the red flags she wishes more women would trust, why women are so fascinated by true crime in the first place, and the case that still haunts her to this day.

But this isn’t just an episode about murder mysteries. It’s also about motherhood. Because Andrea is raising six kids while building a career most of us can only dream about. We talk honestly about mom guilt, ambition, traveling for work, freezer-pop-induced breakdowns, teenagers who want absolutely nothing to do with you, and the surprising freedom that comes with realizing you don’t have to do everything perfectly.

This episode will make you laugh, give you chills, validate your experience as a working mom, and might just change the way you think about trusting your instincts.

In this episode, you’ll hear:
● Why women are so obsessed with true crime (Andrea’s answer is fascinating)
● The relationship red flags that show up again and again in Dateline cases
● The heartbreaking case Andrea still can’t stop thinking about
● What interviewing victims’ families has taught her about humanity
● How she’s navigated motherhood while building an extraordinary career
● The permission every mom needs to hear about evolving, growing, and pursuing something that’s just for you

If you’ve ever listened to Dateline while unloading the dishwasher… if you’ve ever wondered, How did nobody see this coming? … if you’ve ever struggled with the impossible balance of motherhood and ambition… you need this episode.

Seriously. Don’t save this one for later.

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