365: Soul Sisters Unite: Q&A w/ Valerie & Dr. Julie Hanks about Their Faith Journeys
Send us a Positive Review!Join Dr. Julie Hanks & Valerie in a heartfelt audience Q&A addressing their shared passion as therapists working with thousands of people in and around The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Listen in and find hope and comfort as these two women answer questions about their eventful year promoting, leading, and trying to embody (although imperfectly!) lives of psychological and spiritual health. Stay tuned for the end of the episode where they announce a 4 week online Q&A session for those interested in exploring how they can stay connected to the LDS church in psychologically healthy ways & on their own terms. Link to enroll below!Timestamps:00:00 Welcome and Introductions03:15 Discussing Faith Journeys and Challenges03:46 Addressing Audience Questions on Faith and Spirituality06:12 Experiences with Church Leadership12:16 Rebuilding Identity and Addressing Scrupulosity20:29 Taking Feedback and Sacrifice21:46 Honoring Family While Acknowledging Harm25:16 Staying in the Church: Personal Reflections28:31 Marriage and Dating After Stepping Away31:22 Biggest Shifts in Faith Journeys36:36 Upcoming Events and Announcementshttps://drjuliehanks.as.me/schedule/d028d361/appointment/82717607/calendar/30967?appointment=Support the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website
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363: The Beautiful Simplicity of Minding our Own Underwear Drawers
Send us a Positive Review!In this eye-opening episode Valerie is a guest on the Inside Out Podcast with Ian Wilkes and Jim Bennett, where they dive deep into the complexities of women's roles within the LDS Church, locking in on the recent garment policy shifts. You might be surprised to learn Valerie’s take on this topic. A hint: adding women leaders to these policy-making gatherings is NOT the answer to this conundrum where it seems that thousands of LDS women across the belief & practice spectrum are frustrated. Tune in to explore a thought-provoking discussion on equality, institutional overreach, and the beauty (and simplicity) that unfolds when humans are given the dignity to manage their own underwear drawers. 00:00 Introduction and Welcome00:31 Jim's Experience in Argentina01:47 Special Guest: Valerie Hamaker02:16 Valerie's Background and Podcast04:50 Challenges of Patriarchy in the Church06:18 Authority and Decision Making in the Church16:35 Impact of Patriarchy on Men and Women22:17 Garment Controversy and Gender Equality30:21 Church Surveys and Member Feedback35:38 The Problems with Fundamentalism36:38 Controlling Dress and UnderwearSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website
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361: I'm Sharing My Life with This Stranger?
Send us a Positive Review!In this heartwarming episode, Val is the guest on the Therapy Brothers podcast hosted by brothers & fellow relationship therapists Brannon and Tyler Patrick.  The topic is navigating the choppy waters of a marriage in distress due to the faith journey of one of the partners--a demographic of couples that is multiplying rapidly.  The bottom line? A faith transition can (and has) weakened or destroyed many a marriage. But guess what? A faith transition can actually strengthen a marriage in ways that virtually nothing else can--if both partners have the framework and the tools.  Listen in as Valerie shares her experiences and strategies helping countless distressed couples rediscover love by: redefining what healthy marriage isfocusing on values over beliefsembracing discomfort for growth fostering deep connections through compassion, curiosity, and healthy differentiation of self.  Whether you're in a faith-expanding journey or just want to deepen your relationship, this episode is packed with wisdom to guide you through the intricate dance of intimate relationship & spiritual evolution.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction and Going Live00:33 Weekend Stories and Parenting02:33 Introducing Valerie Hamer04:00 Valerie's Professional Journey06:08 Navigating Faith and Relationships11:49 The Role of Compassion and Understanding32:39 Process Over Content in Relationships42:14 Valerie's Resources and ConclusionSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website
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359: Holy Betrayal: When Men Betray Patriarchal Privilege
Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Valerie is the guest on the podcast Black & White & Gold hosted by Carly and Rob Allred where they engage in a compelling conversation on gender and faith. Valerie is becoming the prominent voice for the LDS Church advocating for educating men around the harms of patriarchal indoctrination on male development. This work is yielding good results as more and more LDS men are becoming feminists in their own right and are declining traditional attitudes and roles of male privilege while speaking up for the equality needed to create a truly healthy community.Tune in to hear a narrative that merges deep love for tradition with a call for transformative change.Timestamps:00:00 Introduction to Self-Trust and Patriarchal Systems00:42 Exploring Patriarchy in Season Three01:29 Defining Patriarchy and Its Impact03:08 Introducing Valerie Hamaker03:35 Valerie Hamaker's Background and Work06:34 Challenges and Resignation from the LDS Church09:06 The Aftermath and Community Support12:21 Understanding Patriarchal and Dominator Models23:37 The Harmful Effects of Patriarchy on Men24:13 Personal Experiences with Patriarchy25:33 The Impact of Patriarchy on Men28:52 Exploring Masculine and Feminine Energies32:04 Patriarchy and Gender Norms34:57 The Fragility of Patriarchal Structures40:55 Hope for Egalitarianism in Church Structures46:05 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website
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357: Hands Off My Soul!
Send us a Positive Review!In this episode Valerie is guest on the Parrish the Thought podcast where Brian Parrish interviews Val on the resistance she experienced from local priesthood leaders as a mental health worker tending to the complex issues of faith crisis in an institution that has yet to understand either the faith journey itself or widespread mental/relational/spiritual health issues that come from pathologizing the faith journey. As we all know—fear of church leaders did not deter Val & Nathan and their love of YOU [their listeners!] is only stronger these many months following their crucible experience.  Moral of the story? Integrity breeds empowerment. Listen in and feel empowered to own your own soul too!00:00 Introduction and Guest Welcome00:25 Valerie's Background and Podcast Journey01:49 Starting the Private Practice03:57 Intersection of Faith and Mental Health05:12 Challenges and Growth in the Church07:06 Launching the Podcast09:58 Therapeutic Insights and Faith Dynamics21:41 Confronting Church Leadership33:22 Complexities of Faith and Leadership39:31 The Challenge of Updating Church Doctrine42:25 Personal Journey and Podcast Impact46:29 Facing Church Leadership57:19 Decision to Withdraw Membership01:05:17 Reflections on Church and Personal Integrity01:16:25 Final Thoughts and Contact InformationSupport the showSupport the show Listen, Share, Rate & Review EPISODES Friday Episodes Annual Subscription $89 Friday Episodes Monthly Subscription $10 Valerie’s Support & Processing Groups Gift a Scholarship Download Free Resources Visit our Website
The Latter Day Struggles Podcast addresses beliefs and issues within the LDS faith that are challenging to talk about but vital to discuss for those trying to navigate their relationship in or around the church. Valerie and her guests invite psychological maturity, theological health, and institutional integrity.
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