170 | let’s chat shame, language, and autism research
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Think of this episode like sitting down with Dr. Tay to chat about a variety of topics, while she is getting ready for morning sessions. She shares her struggles with neck pain and ties it to stress and shame while discussing the application to your parenting journey. Dr. Tay then dives into the recent political climate, particularly RFK Jr.'s controversial remarks about autism and the proposed national registry. She discusses the ongoing robust research into the causes of autism, language use in the autism community, and the importance of supporting high support needs families. 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Setup01:06 Personal Updates and Daily Life01:25 Stress and Physical Health05:13 Therapy and Somatics07:46 Shame and Parenting09:34 Political Climate and Autism10:09 RFK Junior's Remarks on Autism11:14 Autism Research and Funding23:17 National Autism Registry Concerns26:04 Conclusion and Future Plans Like the format of this podcast? Let Dr. Tay know! She is exploring options for how to best serve you through this podcast! RESOURCES ⚡️Instagram posts referenced in this episode >>@autismoutloud’s post on autism research funding @fidget.and.fries post on high support needs and a false sense of hope ⚡️while the national autism registry was only briefly touched on (more to come here and/or on Dr. Tay’s social media), you can take action now and express your concerns to your representatives. thanks to @blackspectrumscholar, here are templates you can use ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay.
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169 | from navigating a medical condition and developmental disabilities to advocacy with Camille Joy
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay is joined by Camille Joy, an advocate and host of the Moments of Joy podcast. They discuss Camille's journey as a mother of five boys, including her youngest son Maison, who has a congenital heart defect, autism, and intellectual disability. They dive into the importance of early diagnosis, navigating the education system, and advocating for children's needs. Camille shares her experiences with challenging the status quo, particularly around getting Maison access to music and art classes. The conversation also touches on emotional processing, the significance of support systems, and Camille's initiatives including her podcast and children's book, The Adventures of Maison and Mr. Straw: Mac and Cheese Please.00:00 Introduction and Special Guest Announcement00:44 Dr. Tay's Background and Podcast Mission01:55 Camille Joy's Family and Advocacy Journey02:36 Maison's Diagnosis and Early Intervention03:26 Challenges and Realizations in Parenting05:28 Navigating Medical and Educational Systems10:29 Advocating for Mason's Education17:08 Using AI for Advocacy and Legal Rights21:17 Understanding the Importance of Data Collection22:15 Advocating for Your Child's Needs25:34 Navigating Emotional Challenges33:25 The Journey of Starting a Podcast35:46 Introducing Maison's Adventures39:25 Conclusion and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ purchase Camille and Maison’s book here (profits go directly to a savings account for Maison)⚡️ listen in to the Moments of Joy podcast here⚡️follow her on Instagram, TikTok, & Facebook ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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168 | what therapies are families ACTUALLY doing?
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini episode, Dr. Tay shares what families with autistic children are ACTUALLY doing in terms of therapy and support services. Emphasizing the importance of quality over quantity, Dr. Tay discusses common therapies like ABA, speech therapy, occupational therapy, and mental health support. The episode also highlights the significance of individualized plans tailored to each family's needs and reminds parents that it's okay to prioritize their child's well-being and capacity over an overwhelming number of services. Real-life examples from listeners are included to illustrate the diverse approaches families take. Dr. Tay encourages parents to trust their intuition and focus on what truly benefits their child.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:20 Understanding Therapy Options01:36 Balancing Therapy Demands02:57 Real-Life Family Experiences04:09 Diverse Therapy Approaches11:42 Concluding Thoughts and Encouragement RESOURCES ⚡️ additional episodes that may be helpful: "26 | why ABA therapy is controversial?", "31 | three "system issues" you may be facing with your child's autism care", and "110 | what is PDA?" ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com ⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
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167 | declarative language with Linda Murphy: from introduction to in-depth application
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇Dr. Tay explores the concept of declarative language and its benefits, especially for demand-avoidant children, with Linda Murphy—a speech therapist, RDI consultant, writer, and expert on the topic. They discuss the definition of declarative language and how it differs from demand-based phrases, emphasizing the importance of thoughtful communication that invites a collaboration. Linda shares insights from her book Declarative Language Handbook and provides practical strategies for parents to effectively use declarative language. They also cover topics such as building self-advocacy, fostering cognitive flexibility, and managing sibling conflicts through this approach. The importance of mindset shifts is emphasized as well as the continuous learning process in order to improve communication with autistic children.00:00 Introduction to Declarative Language00:30 Meet Linda Murphy: Expert in Declarative Language02:12 Understanding Declarative Language03:37 The Power of Declarative Language05:29 Practical Examples and Strategies08:47 Proactive Conversations and Mindset Shifts16:05 Dynamic Support and Scaffolding22:17 Direct vs. Indirect Declarative Language25:40 Introduction to PDA and Indirect Language26:18 Experimenting with Communication Strategies26:53 Building Transparent Communication28:23 Practical Examples and Techniques29:48 Using Declarative Language in Different Scenarios33:13 Modeling and Validating Emotions45:00 Declarative Language with Non-Speaking Individuals48:34 Final Thoughts and ResourcesRESOURCES⚡️ continue learning at declarativelanguage.com, including ordering Linda's books and checking out the resources referenced in the episode (types of DL and direct language for PDAers) ⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tayNote: PDA is a theorized profile of autism and not a clinical diagnosis. however, it has been a helpful conceptualization for many parents to learn about how their child's brain is wired. our knowledge of PDA is currently unfolding and I do my best to share up-to-date, balanced information. to learn more about PDA, please listen to episode 110
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166 | the power of noticing wins in autism parenting (without toxic positivity!)
ABOUT THIS EPISODE (+ scroll for resources) 👇In this mini-episode, Dr. Tay discusses the importance of noticing and reinforcing small wins in the autism parenting journey. Emphasizing the balance between avoiding toxic positivity and acknowledging positive moments, Dr. Tay explains how behaviorism done in a neurodiversity affirming way can play a role in promoting desired behaviors in autistic children. She shares practical tips on how parents can start recognizing subtle behavioral shifts and reinforce them to facilitate positive change. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Dr. Tay offers valuable strategies for improving parent-child interactions and fostering an environment where small steps are celebrated on the way to achieving bigger goals.00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview00:04 Understanding the Concept of Wins01:45 Behaviorism and Neurodiversity Affirming Approaches02:57 Practical Examples and Strategies07:57 The Importance of Interpretation09:04 Reinforcing Small Wins12:42 Conclusion and Final ThoughtsRESOURCES⚡️ want to learn more about Dr. Tay's Whole Family Approach and current services offered? visit drtaylorday.com⚡️ continue learning from me and submit any questions [could be featured on a future episode] >>Instagram @the.dr.tayTikTok @the.dr.tay
About EVOLVE with Dr. Tay: the podcast for parents of autistic kids
welcome to a parenting space actually designed for YOU! where you can get answers about navigating a life that includes autism.
I’m Dr. Tay, a licensed child psychologist specializing in autism and neuroaffirming care. I have supported 100s of autistic children and their families and have been in the autism field for over a decade.
on this podcast, we focus on supporting your autistic child AND your whole family, including you! every topic is on the table, and your questions (which you can submit through my social media) inspire the episodes created. I share some of my personal stories growing up with a brother who was diagnosed at 23 months of age as well as feature other families' stories so you know you are not navigating this journey alone. this is a space for you to be SEEN. HEARD. SUPPORTED. and get reputable and reliable information about autism instead of searching Google endlessly for hours. I am so dang grateful that you are here.
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