In this episode of 'What If Nothing's Wrong With You?', hosts Paula D. Atkinson and Lisa K. Kays, dive into the complexities and chaos of online dating. They discuss their clients' experiences, Paula's memories of online dating, and how it can be approached in a relatively sane manner. They explore the impact of societal norms on relationships and the importance of individual preferences, freedom, and self-awareness. The hosts provide practical advice for managing online dating, including treating it as an experiment or skills-building lab. They also emphasize the significance of listening to one's body and give tips on how to gracefully say no to unsuitable matches.00:00 Introduction and Podcast Hosts00:10 Diving into Online Dating00:52 Lady Gaga's New Album and SNL Performance04:15 Mental Health and Celebrity Struggles06:25 Community Building and Conflict Management11:55 Heteronormativity and Relationship Freedom19:42 Online Dating Experiences and Challenges23:04 Dating and Speech Therapy: A Hilarious Connection23:53 The Serial Killer Factor in Dating24:20 Navigating Chemistry and Safety in Dating25:58 The Absurdity of Online Dating28:33 Setting Boundaries and Knowing What You Want33:17 Listening to Your Body's Signals37:26 Using Dating as a Skills-Building Lab39:52 Infinite Permission to Say No43:57 Final Thoughts and Listener Engagement
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Monogamy / Heteronormativity (Ep. 21)
Welcome to another episode of 'What If Nothing's Wrong with You?' Join Paula D Atkinson and Lisa K Kays as they dive deep into the topics of heteronormativity, monogamy, and allonormativity. In this enlightening and thought-provoking episode, they explore various cultural norms and societal pressures that shape our relationships and identities. They discuss ethical non-monogamy, relationship agreements, and the impact of societal expectations on our mental health. Don't forget to like, subscribe, and leave a review! 00:00 Introduction and Podcast Theme01:08 Discussing Heteronormativity and Monogamy01:31 Lady Gaga and Generational Music Tastes04:49 Queer Art and Performances07:57 TV Show Recommendations and Therapy12:55 Patriarchy and Gender Norms22:38 Ethical Non-Monogamy Explained31:22 Challenging Monogamy and Traditional Love32:36 Queer Identity and Relationships33:19 The Problem with Heteronormativity35:13 Redefining Gender and Sexuality38:04 Relationship Agreements and Consent41:01 Amatonormativity and Its Impact45:48 Allonormativity and Sexual Liberation58:35 The Industrial Revolution's Influence on Family Structures01:04:16 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Being The Villain (Ep. 20)
In this episode of 'What if Nothing's Wrong with You?' Paula Atkinson and Lisa Kays dive deep into the concept of autonomy and the importance of setting boundaries even if it means disappointing others. They address a listener's question about overcoming anxiety and discuss the pitfalls of bad therapy practices. The hosts also reflect on their personal experiences of stepping away from obligatory engagements, the societal expectations placed on women, and the crucial distinction between autonomy and selfishness.
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Gossip-Redux (Ep. 19)
Join us as we delve into discussions about intuition, community service, and the importance of staying connected in an increasingly fragmented world. From touching on the magic of Trader Joe's to the role of libraries and touching trees, we explore ways to stay sane and connected in tumultuous times. Plus, hear our thoughts on the powerful shifts with Pluto entering Aquarius and find out our updates on personal intuition and community gossip. As always, we aim to serve therapists and individuals looking for community and healing. Give us a review on Youtube, iTunes, follow us on Instagram, and join the conversation!
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Over-Functioning (Ep. 18)
In this episode of 'What If Nothing's Wrong with You?', hosts Paula D. Atkinson and Lisa K. Kays discuss the pervasive issue of over-functioning, particularly among women. They explore the cultural grooming that perpetuates this behavior, the resentment it breeds in relationships, and the importance of being honest with oneself and others. From pop culture influences to personal anecdotes, Paula and Lisa delve into the dynamics that keep many trapped in cycles of over-functioning and under-functioning. They offer insights and practical advice on how to break free from these harmful patterns, advocating for authenticity, self-compassion, and genuine connection.
Hi! We're Paula D. Atkinson and Lisa Kays, hosts of the What If Nothing's Wrong With You? podcast, and we're so grateful you found us. We are two psychotherapists who have been in the field for a long time, and we started this podcast to invite you into our ongoing conversations that explore the mental health field, psychotherapy, freedom and sanity. We investigate the history of psychotherapy, the way it is practiced, the roots of treating "mental illness", who among us is usually diagnosable, and the ways in which perhaps psychotherapy creates more harm than healing.
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