CONSISTENT by Primal Potential

The most helpful thing I ever told a client was to eat nine pieces of Halloween candy.
For weeks she’d promised herself “none,” and for weeks it hadn’t worked once. Nine worked right away. Less than 10 days later, she wasn’t eating the candy at all. In this episode, I break down why, and what makes the next plan different from the last hundred.
In this episode:
Why the plan you know you should follow and the plan you’re willing to follow can be miles apart
The question I use to find the version I’ll actually do, and the day I used it after butchering chickens, a sick babysitter and no food until 3 p.m.
Why “I must not want it enough” is the wrong explanation
How to tell whether an excuse is about this moment or part of a pattern
The three checks to run before you start over again

Read the free written version on Substack: https://elizabethbentonthompson.substack.com/p/started-over-a-hundred-times-heres
If you want to go deeper:
3 Strategies for When You Know What to Do but Still Aren’t Doing It: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1340-3-strategies-for-when-you-know-what-to-do-but/id954984769?i=1000724349837
How to Shut Down Excuses in the Moment, Even When They Feel True: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1337-how-to-shut-down-excuses-in-the-moment-even-when/id954984769?i=1000723192258
Consistency Vault Part 2: Dial Down: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/1378-consistency-vault-part-2-dial-down/id954984769?i=1000744777319

Follow me on Substack: https://substack.com/@elizabethbentonthompson

How I Get Out of Overwhelm in Under a Minute: The Fix No One Taught You
Most of the overwhelm you’ll feel this week will come from trying to solve things it isn’t time to solve yet.
After I wrote about this on Substack, a lot of you asked me to go deeper, so in this episode I do. You’ll hear:
Why the amount on your plate matters a lot less than you think
What a text about our empty egg box taught me about mental management
The simple decision tree I use to get out of overwhelm in under a minute
Why overwhelm shows up at night, and after a great course or conference
What to do when it really is the right time and it still feels like too much
One thing to try in the next 24 hours

Read the free article this episode came from: elizabethbentonthompson.substack.com
Build My Coach: For less than the cost of a single coaching session, get three personal coaches in your pocket, built by me and personalized to you, ready to coach you through the decisions that are actually shaping your life, 24/7. $97 until November 1. elizabethbenton.com/buildmycoach

If you can tell me what time tomorrow you're most likely to struggle, you already have what you need to stop it.
Most of us know exactly when we fall off. The dinner we didn't plan. The workout that gets pushed until the day is gone. The afternoon that starts overwhelmed and scattered. We know what to do, we know we're not doing it, and we even know why. And still, we keep getting caught off guard, the same way so many of us get caught off guard by Christmas every December.
Elizabeth walks through the four traps that keep us repeating the same struggles:
Believing that wanting to do better is enough. Wanting to do better has never once changed a behavior.
Planning the home run. The plan you're proudest of is often the one you're least likely to follow, and the one question to ask about every plan you make.
Waiting for certainty. Certainty is something you earn by deciding. Waiting won't give you any.
"I don't have time." Most of us have never actually done the math.

Then she shows you how to look at your next 48 hours, find the struggle that's already waiting for you, and decide what you'll do before you get there.
If you'd like help seeing the patterns you can't see on your own, Build My Coach gives you three personal coaches in your pocket, built by Elizabeth and personalized to you, for less than the cost of a single coaching session. Today is the last day to get the Personal Insight Library bonus when you join:
Join Build My Coach. 10/12 is the last day to get the Personal Insight Library Training for free with your purchase!

Think about the best personal development book you’ve ever read. Now name the five most valuable things you learned from it.
I can’t do it either.
And that got me thinking about how much we’ve expected information to do for us. It’s not enough to learn something valuable. You have to remember it, access the right piece at the exact moment you need it, and know how to apply it to the situation you’re actually in.
No wonder knowing what to do hasn’t been enough.
In this episode, I’m sharing what I realized about the massive gap between learning something and actually being able to use it. I’ll show you how I’m using AI to close that gap, including the Personal Insight Library I built for myself, why EBGPT can sometimes answer a question better than I can, and a real example of how I used my Defense Coach to prepare for a week I knew would be hard.
This is one of those ideas that changed the way I think about every book, course, podcast, coaching program, sermon, and insight I consume.
Build My Coach gives you three highly personalized AI coaches for one payment of $97, with no subscription.
And through October 12, you’ll also get my complete step-by-step tutorial for building your own Personal Insight Library free with your purchase.
Access Build My Coach and secure your free Insight Library tutorial!

What if the most useful thing you’ve ever learned could actually find you when you needed it?
Think about how many times you’ve read a book, listened to a podcast, sat through a sermon or heard something in a coaching conversation and thought:
Oh my gosh. I need to remember that.
Then real life happens.
Six weeks later, you’re in the argument. Standing in the kitchen. Making the decision. Talking yourself out of the thing you said you wanted.
And that incredible insight?
Nowhere to be found.
The insight existed. Access to the insight didn’t.
That is the problem I’ve become obsessed with solving.
For the last year and a half, I’ve been exploring what becomes possible when we stop using AI like a blank box that knows a lot of stuff and start deliberately training it on the information, frameworks, perspectives and context we actually want it to know.
The result is something I genuinely believe can change the way we access coaching, perspective and even our own accumulated wisdom.
It’s called Build My Coach, and today I’m finally showing you what I built.
In this episode, we’re talking about why having great information is not the same as being able to use it, why we can spend years working hard on the wrong problem, what happens when you reach the edge of your own perspective, and why the moment you need coaching almost never happens to be the moment your coach is available.
I’ll also show you what changed when I realized AI could do more than retrieve information. It could be trained to coach, and it could learn the person being coached.
That led me to build three highly personalized AI coaches:
Your Defense Coach, built to help in the moments when you’re talking yourself into the exception, excuse or choice that threatens to take you off course.
Your Personalized Coach, built around your goals, patterns, history, circumstances and the way you need to be coached, with the ability to know you better the more you use it.
EBGPT, giving you access to more than 13 years of my coaching, 2,000+ podcast episodes, programs, frameworks and body of work without requiring you to remember where I taught the thing you need.
But while I was building all of this, I realized something:
I wanted this for everything else I learn, too.
I recently finished a marriage book filled with insights I desperately wanted to remember.
Ask me right now for the most important ones.
I can’t remember them.
And I JUST read the book.
So I started building something for myself that I’m now giving you as a launch bonus:
BONUS: Build Your Personal Insight Library
I’m going to show you how to create your own AI-powered library of the things you want available at your fingertips.
The book that changed how you think about your marriage.
The podcast that taught you something important about your career.
The sermon you never wanted to forget.
The course you paid for three years ago.
Your own notes, realizations and insights.
Not just stored somewhere. Accessible when you actually need them.
The full step-by-step bonus training will be delivered October 12 and is included when you purchase Build My Coach during this launch.
Get Build My Coach for $97
Three highly personalized AI coaches.
One payment of $97.
No subscription.
Plus Build Your Personal Insight Library during this launch.
Get Build My Coach here
Build My Coach for $97