Talk To Me: The Debra Fileta Podcast

Parenting tension is often a marriage problem in disguise. Today on Couples Therapy, I’m joined by Landon and Lindsey who open up about the exact cycle that keeps blowing up their home. They’ve been married 15 years, have three young children, and find that their relationship seems strong – until stress hits. They’re finding that the differences in their parenting styles are triggering each other, and bringing the worst of them – as well as their past wounding – to the surface. Debra walks them through a practical framework for healthier parenting and a healthier marriage. This episode goes deeper than behavior management. It asks the question every overwhelmed parent needs to ask: What happens when your tank is empty, your patience is gone, and your child’s worst moment collides with your worst trigger? The answer could change the way you parent, repair, and connect. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a thriving relationship.

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Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down.

Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you

in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation

in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself

in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict

in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant

Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed...

Is it possible to heal AFTER separation? This episode of Couples Therapy is a heartfelt session with Meagan and Ryan, who join Debra to unpack the roots of their separation, including communication breakdowns, emotional distance, betrayal, and the need for healing on both sides. They’re wondering if it’s even possible to heal after the breakdown that’s happened in their marriage over the years. Debra helps them move beyond blame and into a clearer conversation about safety, ownership, boundaries, and what real restoration would require in stages. This episode will give you some very practical steps for repair, as well as a hopeful framework for rebuilding a struggling marriage with honesty, faith, and intentional next steps. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a thriving relationship.

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Podcast Extras:

Relationship Skills - Order Now!

Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down.

Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you

in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation

in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself

in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict

in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant

Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, and founder of the

I am SO EXCITED that today my new book Relationship Skills officially releases into the world!! Because I believe that healthy relationships are not found, they’re built – I invited Levi and Sabrina to join me on today’s episode to discuss some of the concepts in Relationship Skills and how to apply them to this season of marriage. After welcoming their rainbow baby 9 months ago, they find themselves dealing with more conflict and tension in their relationship than usual...and they need some hacks to help them better navigate the conflict when it comes up. We dive into some of my favorite conflict hacks, and I teach them how to practice the skills necessary to get through conflict feeling more connected than they started. Relationship Skills is officially available anywhere books are sold, and I cannot wait to share it with you!! So grab a copy and start building the skills you need to take your relationship to the next level!

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Podcast Extras:

Relationship Skills - Order Now!

Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down.

Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you

● in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation

● in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself

● in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict

● in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant

Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started on your healing journey from the inside out TODAY!

DEBRA FILETA is a Licensed...

When kids take over the house, marriage can easily go to survival mode - and suddenly the relationship you love feels like one more chore on the to-do list. In this powerful Couples Therapy episode, Lenny and Letty open up about the invisible ways parenting, exhaustion, and unresolved patterns are draining their connection. With three kids, room-sharing, chronic sleep disruption, and years of putting everyone else first, they have reached a point where intentional connection is nonexistent. Debra helps them uncover what is really happening underneath the bedtime battles. What starts as a conversation about kids in the bedroom becomes a deeper look at motivation, avoidance, emotional timing, and the patterns that keep couples disconnected even when they still love each other deeply. If you’ve ever felt like your marriage is getting lost under the demands of parenting, work, and fatigue, this episode will hit home. It’s honest, hopeful, and full of practical wisdom for couples who want to move from barely getting by to building something stronger on purpose.Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a thriving relationship.

Click here to WATCH the full episode.

Podcast Extras:

Relationship Skills - Pre-Order Now!

Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you

in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation

in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself

in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict

in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant

Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session...

We’re BACK with the most popular series of the year: COUPLES THERAPY! And we hit the ground running in this heated episode with Curt and Lindsey.They’ve been dating for quite some time, moving toward marriage, yet they still don’t see eye to eye about some of their boundaries in the relationship. Curt feels uncomfortable with some of Lindsey’s decisions and interactions, and Lindsey feels like Curt is not able to understand her perspective, nor trust her to make good choices. Is this an issue of healthy boundaries, or is this an issue of control? Debra helps them get to the root of what might actually be going on underneath their conflict, and the deeper feelings and needs that each one of them need to communicate. This conversation gets a little tense, which is exactly why healthy relationships require us to have the skills to navigate difficult topics and stay engaged. Tune into this episode, and then grab a copy of Relationship Skills to learn the skills you need to build a healthy relationship that lasts!

Click here to WATCH the full episode.

Podcast Extras:

Relationship Skills - Pre-Order Now!

Relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love but struggle because of a lack of skill. As you and your partner move through the four seasons of a relationship each bringing its own rhythms, challenges, and opportunities for growth—how you show up will either strengthen your relationship or slowly wear it down. Originally released as Love in Every Season, this updated and expanded guide from licensed professional counselor Debra Fileta is your road map to the skills you need to strengthen your relationship at every stage. Whether you’re single, dating, engaged, or married, Relationship Skills will help you

in SPRING: stop ignoring red flags and build on a healthy foundation

in SUMMER: build connection and intimacy without losing yourself

in FALL: communicate honestly, repair, and grow through conflict

in WINTER: stay intentional when things feel stagnant

Let this guide help you take your relationship skills to the next level so you can grow in maturity, deepen intimacy, and build a relationship that lasts!

The Debra Fileta Counselors Network:

Book a counseling session at the Debra Fileta Counselors Network and get started...