Educated Parent: Evidence-Based Parenting Tips to Solve Everyday Parenting Problems

Watching your teen experience their first heartbreak can feel absolutely gut-wrenching as a parent. You want to fix it. You want to make the pain disappear. And at the same time, you may be flooded with memories of your own teenage breakup experiences that still live in your nervous system. In this episode, we talk about how to show up in a way that actually supports healing instead of creating more distance.
I’m joined by teen mental health specialist Charity Chaffee to talk honestly about why a first heartbreak hits teens so hard, why a teenage breakup can feel world-ending, and how parents can support teen mental health without minimizing feelings or becoming overinvolved. This conversation is all about learning how to stay connected through pain, using validating emotions as the foundation for trust and emotional safety.
In this episode, we cover
• Why a first heartbreak is developmentally intense and why teens experience a teenage breakup differently than adults
• How to support teen mental health without rushing the healing process or trying to fix the pain
• The difference between dismissing feelings and validating emotions in a way that builds long-term resilience
• Common parenting reactions that unintentionally make a teenage breakup harder to process
• How validating emotions helps teens feel safe opening up instead of shutting down
• What parents can model to support teen mental health after a first heartbreak
If your teen is struggling after a teenage breakup, this episode will help you understand what they actually need from you and how validating emotions can strengthen your relationship during one of the most vulnerable moments of adolescence. Supporting teen mental health through a first heartbreak is not about fixing the pain. It is about staying present, steady, and emotionally available when it matters most.
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Episode 13: How to Help an Angry Child Calm Down Without Losing Your Cool: The Key to Connection Before Correction
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Play dates are supposed to be fun, but so many parents tell me the same thing: play dates are stressful. You worry about how your child will act, whether they’ll feel left out, or if things might go sideways in front of another parent. In this episode, I wanted to give you concrete tools to help play dates feel calmer, smoother, and actually enjoyable for everyone involved.
I’m joined by Maria Hammond, Ph.D., a specialist in communication development and parent-child relationships. Maria runs social skills groups for young children and brings a thoughtful, practical lens to helping kids build social skills through everyday interactions. Together, we talk about why successful play doesn’t mean perfection and how small shifts in preparation can make a big difference.
In this episode, we cover:
Why play dates are stressful for both kids and parents, and how anxiety can shape expectations
How to build social skills by planning play dates witha clear structure and realistic goals
Why going into a play date with a “mission” helps kids feel more confident and engaged in successful play
How environment and expectations impact successful play, especially for shy or sensitive kids
When and why it’s better to leave a play date while it’s still going well
How parents can support build social skills without hovering or overcorrecting

If play dates have ever left you feeling tense, discouraged, or unsure of what went wrong, this conversation will help you reframe what success really looks like. With guidance from Maria Hammond, Ph.D., you’ll walk away with practical strategies to support successful play, reduce stress, and help your child build social skills in a way that feels manageable and developmentally appropriate.
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Listen to Episode 16: How to Stop Meltdowns Before They Start By Managing Expectations and Parenting Without Power Struggles
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Eating out with kids can quickly turn into a battle over screens. If your child expects a phone the moment you sit down at a restaurant, you are not alone. In this episode, I walk you through how to reset expectations, change screen time habits, and build sustainable screen time boundaries without turning every meal into a meltdown.
I explain why this pattern develops, why it is so hard to undo once it starts, and how to step out of it using evidence-based, realistic strategies. This episode is full of positive parenting tips to help you feel more confident and prepared the next time you go out to eat with your child.
In this episode, you will learn:
Why screen time habits form so quickly at restaurants
How to reset expectations before you even walk through the door
Practical ways to build and hold screen time boundaries without escalating behavior
What to do when your child pushes back and how to respond calmly
positive parenting tips to make restaurants less stressful and more connected

If you are tired of relying on screens at meals and want a plan that actually works, this episode will help you take the first steps toward screen-free restaurant experiences that feel doable and respectful for everyone.
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Episode 16: How to Stop Meltdowns Before They Start by Managing Expectations and Parenting Without Power Struggles
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If choosing extracurricular activities leaves you feeling overwhelmed, stretched thin, and stuck in constant mom guilt, this episode is for you. Many parents in a busy family feel pressure to do more, sign up for everything, and keep up with what other families are doing, even when it does not feel right. In this conversation, I want to help you step out of overschedulingand into confident decision-making that actually supports your child and your nervous system.
In this episode, I sit down with Rachel Fein, a licensed child psychologist and board certified behavior analyst, to talk about how parents can prioritize extracurricular activities without burning out. Rachel Fein brings both clinical expertise and real-life parenting experience to this conversation, helping parents rethink mom guilt, pressure, and what children truly need to thrive.
Together, we break down how overscheduling happens so easily in a busy family and how parents can make intentional choices that support connection, emotional regulation, and physical activity for kids without sacrificing family wellbeing.
In this episode, we discuss
Why overscheduling is so common in a busy family and how it quietly fuels mom guilt
How to evaluate extracurricular activities through the lens of family values instead of outside pressure
The difference between meaningful physical activity for kids and activity overload
How to recognize when mom guilt is driving decisions instead of your child’s actual needs
Practical strategies for setting boundaries around extracurricular activities without feeling selfish
Why protecting downtime matters just as much as physical activity for kids
How confident parenting reduces overschedulingand supports healthier routines for the entire busy family

This episode is a reminder that you do not need to do everything to be a good parent. When you let go of mom guilt, reduce overscheduling, and make values-based choices, you create more space for connection, regulation, and joy for both you and your child.
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Episode 15: Should You Keep Pushing Your Child to Succeed or Back Off? With Kristin Mervich
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If you feel disconnected from your child, overwhelmed by behavior struggles, or unsure how to rebuild closeness without adding more to your plate, this episode is for you. I am going to show you how just 5 minutes per day can meaningfully change your relationship with your child and help you feel more grounded in confident parenting.
In this solo episode, I walk you through one of the most powerful positive parenting tips I teach as a PCIT specialist. This simple daily practice comes straight from evidence-based parent-child interaction therapy and has helped hundreds of families strengthen their relationship with your child without punishment, power struggles, or long complicated routines. I also share how I use this exact strategy in my own home when things start to feel off.
In this episode, we talk about:
Why 5 minutes per day of focused attention can transform your relationship with your child
How this approach supports confident parenting even when behavior feels challenging
What parents often get wrong about play and connection, and how to fix it
The specific positive parenting tips that make these five minutes actually work
How letting your child lead builds emotional safety and strengthens your relationship with your child

If you are looking for realistic positive parenting tips, want to feel more confident in your parenting choices, and are hoping to improve your relationship with your child without burning out, this episode will give you a clear place to start. Five minutes per day really can make a difference, and I want to show you how.
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