COACHED with Coach Keren

What happens when the thing you worked so hard to build… works — but you no longer want the life that comes with it?
Lacey Newman knows.
A former top 1% real estate team leader and host of an Emmy-nominated television show, Lacey built the kind of career most people would be terrified to walk away from. But behind the success was a business that required her to be constantly available, constantly reactive, and increasingly disconnected from the way she actually wanted to live.
So she did something most people struggle to do: she left while it was still working.
In this episode of COACHED, Lacey and I talk about what it really takes to outgrow a successful identity, why major pivots are rarely clean or comfortable, and how she learned to stop putting clients above herself and start building a business around her actual life.
We also get into the particular reckoning that often happens in midlife, when the question changes from Can I succeed? to: Do I actually want the life my success has created?
And perhaps most importantly, we talk about why the next level for highly capable women often requires subtraction, not addition.
Because if you have spent your life being the woman who can handle everything, the answer may not be becoming even more capable.
It may be finally deciding what you are no longer willing to carry.
IN THIS EPISODE, WE DISCUSS:
Why walking away from something successful can be harder than walking away from failure
The hidden personal cost of being available to clients 24/7
Why boundaries can actually make you better at what you do
The difference between serving your clients and putting yourself beneath them
Why you do not have to burn your old life to the ground in order to build a new one
What Lacey calls “the ick” — and why your body may recognize misalignment before your mind is ready to admit it
The messy reality of changing identities and careers
Why midlife is such a powerful period of individuation and reinvention
Why authenticity matters more, not less, in the age of AI
The danger of becoming addicted to being “the most capable woman in the room”
Why overwhelmed women often need to remove responsibilities rather than add another strategy
The difference between changing your strategy and raising your standards
Why Lacey believes creativity cannot be outsourced
The deeper purpose behind the book she hopes to write next

Connect with Lacey Newman: https://laceynewman.com/
Lacey’s free workshop, AI for Ambitious Women, is on August 25th. Registration link: https://go.laceynewman.com/ai-for-ambitio us-women-workshop
Learn more about Coach Keren Eldad: www.kereneldad.com
Book a consultation: https://calendly.com/kereneldad

Ever heard someone say, “You give such good advice. You should be a coach”?
Not so fast.
Because coaching — real coaching — isn't about dispensing good advice. It is a discipline requiring training, practice, listening, discernment, and the ability to ask the right question rather than simply offer your opinion. And excellent coaching requires something considerably harder to put on a website:
You have to do your own work.
In this episode of The COACHED Podcast: Coaching Masters, Coach Keren sits down with executive and leadership coach Carrie Fabris, founder of CareerFrame and author of ALL IN: A Working Mom’s Unapologetic Quest for a Juicy Life, to examine what actually makes a great coach.
Carrie and Keren share analogous paths into the profession: substantial corporate careers, rigorous training and accreditation, and the eventual realization that credentials and experience alone are not enough.
Carrie candidly shares why her first attempt at building CareerFrame failed, how ego, fear, imposter syndrome, inherited beliefs, and her own unexamined material followed her into her work, and why she ultimately had to go inward before she could successfully go outward again.
Today, Carrie describes excellent coaching as learning how to “read the human” in front of you: listening carefully, noticing what changes in their face, hearing what they are saying and what they are avoiding, and asking the right question rather than the impressive-sounding one.
Because you cannot take another human being somewhere you are unwilling to go yourself.
In this conversation:
Why giving great advice does not make someone a great coach
Why coaching is a discipline — not simply a personality trait
What real corporate experience brings to executive coaching
Why Carrie's first attempt at CareerFrame didn't work
The difference between ego-driven ambition and genuine alignment
Why Carrie returned to corporate — and eventually realized she couldn't stay there either
Fear, imposter syndrome, inherited beliefs, and the inner work that changed her trajectory
Why credentials, frameworks, and assessments matter — but aren't enough
What it means to truly “read the human” you're coaching
Why great coaches listen instead of rushing to advise
The difference between asking a question and asking the right question
Why a coach's own unexamined material inevitably enters the room
The essential truth at the heart of great coaching: you have to do your own work

CONNECT WITH CARRIE
Learn more about Carrie and CareerFrame:
CareerFrame
Read ALL IN: A Working Mom’s Unapologetic Quest for a Juicy Life:
Get ALL IN
Follow Carrie on Instagram:
@cdfabris
ABOUT COACHING MASTERS
Coaching Masters is a series from The COACHED Podcast devoted to positioning coaching as the serious profession it is by examining what excellent coaching actually looks like, what qualifies someone to do this work, and what those entrusted with another person's growth owe to the human being sitting across from them.
Listen to the full episode of The COACHED Podcast with Coach Keren Eldad.

What if everything you've worked so hard to build isn't freedom...but a beautifully decorated cage?
In this special episode, Coach Keren Eldad shares the full introduction to her bestselling new book, Gilt Free: Ditching Your Gilded Cage for Good.
If you've ever felt successful on paper yet strangely disconnected from yourself...
If you've checked every box but still wondered, "Is this really it?"
If you've built an impressive life while quietly sacrificing peace, joy, authenticity, or freedom...
this episode was written for you.
Inside this exclusive preview you'll discover:
• Why success without freedom is still a cage
• The hidden psychological trap high achievers rarely recognize
• The fascinating story of Consuelo Vanderbilt and the original "gilded cage"
• Carl Jung's concept of individuation—and why becoming yourself is the privilege (and fight) of a lifetime
• The moment that changed Keren's own life forever
• Why Gilt Free isn't about becoming more successful—it's about becoming more free
Whether you're an entrepreneur, executive, leader, creator, parent, or simply someone who's tired of performing your life instead of living it, this conversation will challenge the way you think about achievement.
In This Episode
✔ Why modern achievement often leaves us feeling empty
✔ The surprising psychology behind overachievement
✔ The invisible "performance" so many successful people are living
✔ Why insight alone never creates transformation
✔ Introducing the Anti-Rules—the counterintuitive principles that create genuine freedom
✔ The difference between guilt and gilt
Ready to Go Deeper?
📖 Get your copy of Gilt Free
https://www.amazon.com/Gilt-Free-Ditching-Your-Gilded/dp/B0GY5ZNHPK/ref=sr_1_1?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Uq_7tgTOv9fIqe_tOXuQJx5GHH9sJpou5R2e9abTCyvGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.y5mfuMw55-XTNGNP0CaUexzwFG-bTjyqp7uHgmvSNiw&dib_tag=se&keywords=gilt+free+keren+eldad&qid=1784581218&sr=8-1
🌐 Learn more about private coaching and events
https://www.kereneldad.com
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📅 Book a Coaching Consultation with Coach Keren Eldad: https://calendly.com/kereneldad/consultation?back=1
If this episode resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who's ready to stop performing success and start living it.

What if the exhaustion, perfectionism, people-pleasing, burnout, and imposter syndrome you have spent years trying to fix are not actually the problem?
What if they are symptoms of something deeper?
In this deeply moving conversation, Coach Keren sits down with coach, speaker, and author Annalie Howling to explore the hidden force that drives so many high achievers: shame.
Annalie shares her extraordinary personal journey from a violent childhood, chronic self-doubt, and self-harm to becoming one of the leading voices on shame, trauma, and healing. Together, they unpack why achievement can never heal unworthiness, why burnout is often a wake-up call rather than a failure, and how self-compassion becomes the antidote to the belief that we are somehow not enough.
This episode is a powerful reminder that healing is not about becoming someone else. It is about finally coming home to yourself.
In This Episode
Why high achievement often becomes a strategy for outrunning shame
The critical difference between guilt and shame
How childhood experiences shape adult identity and self-worth
Burnout as a symptom of living out of alignment
Why perfectionism and people-pleasing are survival mechanisms
Understanding imposter syndrome through the lens of shame
How Annalie transformed her relationship with her inner critic
The role of EMDR and trauma healing in lasting transformation
Why receiving compliments feels uncomfortable for so many people
The connection between self-compassion and true freedom
How to begin healing shame one small act of self-kindness at a time

Memorable Quotes
"I wasn't intolerant to gluten. I was intolerant to my life."
"Shame is always an 'I am' statement."
"The imposter's job is to police our shame from ever being discovered."
"There is a cure for shame, and it is self-compassion."
"Start by learning about yourself. Then liking yourself. Then loving yourself."
Connect with Annalie
📖 Book: Unapologetic: Unshackle Your Shame, Reclaim Your Power
🌐 Website: Annalie Howling
📸 Instagram: @annaliehowling

Listener Invitation
If this conversation resonated with you, please subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs it. You never know who may be carrying shame in silence.

This episode has become far more meaningful than I could have imagined when we recorded it.
Carolyn Elliott was one of the most original thinkers I have ever had the privilege of knowing. Brilliant, provocative, funny, and relentlessly committed to truth, she challenged thousands of people to question not only what they wanted from life- but why they remained attached to the very patterns they claimed to want to escape.
Tragically, Carolyn passed away shortly after this conversation. I later learned that this was the last podcast interview she ever recorded.
I cannot think of a more fitting way to honor her than to share her voice, her wisdom, and her extraordinary mind with all of you once again.
In this profound and deeply philosophical conversation, Carolyn and I explore shadow work, suffering, individuation, spirituality, power, and the unconscious forces that quietly shape our lives.
Carolyn—bestselling author of Existential Kink and founder of Immortal College—shares the personal experiences that led her to develop one of the most challenging and liberating frameworks in modern personal development: the possibility that some unconscious part of us may actually be invested in the very circumstances we consciously wish would disappear.
Together, we discuss why high achievers become trapped in recurring cycles, why healing cannot be another performance, and how lasting transformation begins when we are finally willing to tell ourselves the truth.
In this episode:
What "Existential Kink" actually means
Why the unconscious creates recurring life patterns
The hidden pleasure inside suffering, struggle, and martyrdom
Carolyn's journey through addiction, recovery, and depth psychology
Why spirituality can become another achievement identity
The difference between performative healing and genuine integration
The role of humility, groundedness, and radical honesty
Carl Jung's influence on Carolyn's work
The relationship between suffering, awakening, and individuation
Why freedom begins when we embrace the parts of ourselves we've spent our lives avoiding

Books Mentioned in this episode:
Carolyn Elliott
→ Existential Kink — Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Existential-Kink-Unmask-Embrace-getting/dp/1578636477
→ https://existentialkink.com/
→ https://theimmortalcollege.com/

If Carolyn's ideas move you as deeply as they moved me, I hope you'll read her books, share her work, and continue the conversations she devoted her life to having.
Her voice may be gone, but her ideas—and the courage with which she shared them—will continue to change lives for many years to come. May her memory be a blessing.