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What does it actually mean to be a “good man” in today’s world—and does Christianity offer something deeper than dominance, leadership clichés, or internet manosphere culture? In this thoughtful and surprisingly hopeful conversation, Zachary Wagner joins us to unpack masculinity through the lens of the fruits of the Spirit, exploring everything from loneliness and power to marriage, self-control, parenting boys, and the modern crisis of meaning for men. Together, we challenge shallow cultural narratives and argue that true strength looks a lot more like love, service, courage, and emotional maturity than performance or control. Listen in as we propose a healthier vision of manhood for both men and the people who love them.
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Zachary Wagner’s Website
Zachary’s Book: “Men of Virtue”
Our conversation with Zachary about his book Non-Toxic Masculinity
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Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What happens when you know the old “because I said so” parenting style isn’t healthy…but you also don’t want to raise entitled little tyrants? In this episode, parenting coach Wendy Snyder joins us for a deeply practical, heartfelt, (and hilariously honest) conversation about strong-willed kids, emotional regulation, yelling, boundaries, anxiety, and what healthy authority actually looks like in family life. Together, we unpack the difference between authoritarian, permissive, and powerful parenting—and why so many parents swing wildly between all three. From power struggles and picky eaters to shame spirals and unmet emotional needs, this episode is packed with compassionate, evidence-based wisdom that will leave you feeling both challenged and hopeful. If you’ve ever wondered how to parent with confidence without fear, guilt, or constant battles, this conversation is for you.
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Wendy Snyder’s Book “Fresh Start Your Family” Pre-Order Link & Bonuses 
Wendy’s Website
Wendy’s Instagram
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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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What if the “Billy Graham rule” (or the evangelical distortion of it) says more about fear than integrity? In this episode, Danielle Strickland helps us unpack the assumptions behind the idea that men and women can’t be alone together—and ask whether it protects integrity or quietly reinforces suspicion, segregation, and control. Drawing on Scripture, leadership research, and real-world church experiences, our conversation explores how transparency—not isolation—is a stronger safeguard against abuse and moral failure. We also dig into how purity culture, pornography narratives, and fear-based systems shape the way we interpret opposite-sex friendships, mentoring, and authority. If you’re ready to rethink gender, leadership, and trust through a more Jesus-centered lens, this one will give you plenty to chew on.
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Danielle’s Book, “Better Together”
Danielle’s Website
Danielle’s Substack
“The Billy Graham Rule” aka The Modesto Manifesto
Podcast Episode 192: How Every Young Man's Battle Makes Everything Worse: 
"Recovering From Purity Culture" by Dr. Camden Morgante 
The Whole Story courses
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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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Welcome to Part 2 of our breakdown of For Men Only! This episode dives headfirst into the sex chapter — and quickly exposes how shaky stats and selective storytelling create misleading narratives about libido and desire. We examine why women’s sexual desire is far more contextual — and relational — than the book admits. We unpack the myth of “on-demand” desire, challenge rigid sex rules like the 72-hour expectation, and explore why libido is far more dynamic — and human — than most advice admits. We also critique popular marriage frameworks that outsource self-worth to partners and rely on oversimplified gender stereotypes rather than evidence-based relational health. Get ready for a candid, research-informed takedown of bad advice — with a clear message: real intimacy thrives on emotional maturity, not scripts.
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Our article demolishing Shaunti Feldhahn's "research" on love & respect
One Sheet on For Women Only 
Podcast on For Women Only 
Podcast on mental load
Our book The Marriage You Want
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Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.

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In this episode, we dive into For Men Only, by Shaunti & Jeff Feldhahn, and let’s just say…we have many thoughts! We unpack some of its core claims about gender dynamics, communication, and emotional needs. Rebecca shares how this book impacted her first few months of marriage to Connor, and not in a good way!
We address major concerns with the book’s research methods, its reliance on broad gender stereotypes, and its tendency to frame women as overly emotional and men as disengaged. While it contains one of the best descriptors we’ve seen on mental load, the Feldhahns have yet to propose workable solutions that include mutual accountability and behavioral change. Sheila and Rebecca advocate for a more nuanced, evidence-informed understanding of relationships—one that prioritizes emotional maturity, shared responsibility, and meaningful communication over simplified gender narratives. This one is worth a listen and keep an eye out for Part 2 next week!
TO SUPPORT US: 
Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work (and get access to the book club!)
And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
Give to the Good Fruit Faith Initiative of the Bosko Foundation
Join our email list!
LINKS MENTIONED: 
Our article demolishing Shaunti Feldhahn's "research" on love & respect
One Sheet on For Women Only 
Podcast on For Women Only 
Podcast on mental load
Our book The Marriage You Want
Support the show
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
The Great Sex Rescue 
She Deserves Better
The Marriage You Want and the Study Guide
 The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex
 and The Good Guy's Guide to Great Sex
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.