The Parenting Podcast

Our children have whole parts of their lives we’ll never witness. We can’t follow them into those moments—but we can become the place they want to return with them.
In the Conversation
The “invisible backpack” our children carry home from school, activities, friendships, and everyday life
Why connection—not simply information—changes the conversations we have with our children
Good questions that help children open up without making them feel interrogated
Why availability and timing matter, especially as children move into the teen years
How listening can get lost when we move too quickly into teaching, correcting, or fixing
Recognizing the unexpected windows when children are ready to talk—and making room for them
Quotes
“The goal isn’t information. What we need is connection.”
“They really just want me to know them.”
“You’ve lived a whole life that very easily no adult in your life could know about if you didn’t share it.”
“Sometimes the best gift we can give them is just listening.”
“We can’t make those moments happen. We can make room for them.”
“Sometimes the most important thing we can give our children is the feeling that whatever they’re carrying, they don’t have to carry it alone.”

Public school, private school, homeschool—we can put a lot of weight on getting that choice right. But what if some of the things shaping our kids most have very little to do with where they go to school? As a new school year begins, we’re bringing back a conversation that might help us look at what matters a little differently.
IN THE CONVERSATION
• The difference between parenting principles and the methods we choose to live them out
• When our children’s education and performance become tangled up with our own identity
• What children notice about the way we respond to families who make different educational choices
• Building connection in the small spaces of ordinary family life
• Releasing children toward independence while remaining a safe place to come back to
• Making room for grace, apologies, resets, and do-overs
FROM THE CONVERSATION
“I caught so much of my identity based on my choice of how I was educating my kids.”
RELATED EPISODES
This conversation originally followed our three-part series with parents from different educational paths:
Episode 134 — Parenting on the Public School Path: An Insider’s Look
Episode 135 — Parenting on the Private School Path: An Insider’s Look
Episode 136 — Parenting on the Homeschooling Path: An Insider’s Look
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