In this conversation, Victoria Loorz speaks with Alexandra "ahlay" Blakely, singer-songwriter, communal grief tender, and community organizer, and the creator of WAILS: Songs for Grief, an album recorded with 200 voices entirely dedicated to grief, inspired by whales and Francis Weller's five gates of grief. Drawing from the lineages of movement song, Dagara grief ritual, and a lifelong relationship with whales, Alexandra has spent years developing her practice at the intersection of collective mourning, ancestral remembrance, and the emerging movement for the rights of nature.
Together, they explore what it means to grieve what we love as an act of reverence — and what it takes to carry that grief without being destroyed by it. Alexandra reflects on the land and water that raised her, the dreams that called her home after eleven years in Mexico, and a vision of multi-species liberation rooted in the belief that humans belong to this earth — and have a role within it urgently worth reclaiming.
Audio note: Alexandra's world was very alive during this recording. You will hear sounds of planes, cars, and dogs.
Content Warning: Discussion of suicidal ideation starting at 28:01 to 28:29. Please listen with kind care for yourself.
Connect with Alexandra:
Website: healingattheroots.com
Album: WAILS: Songs for Grief
Featured Song: All The Places
Featured Song: Sacred Wild One
Mentioned in the episode:
Movie: Free Willy
Movie: Whale Rider
Colleague: Linda Thai
Colleague: Laurence Cole
Wiki: the Dagaaba people
Colleague: Joanna Macy
Book: Is A River Alive? by Robert Macfarlane
Colleague: César Rodríguez-Garavito
Colleague: Lyla June
TedX Talk: 3000-year-old solutions to modern problems - Lyla June
Book: Braiding Sweetgrass by Robin Wall Kimmerer
Colleague: Francis Weller
Book: The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller
Poem: Sweet Darkness by David Whyte
Connect with the Center:
Website: wildspirituality.earth
Victoria's Website: victorialoorz.com
Email: hello@wildspirituality.earth
Linktree: linktr.ee/ctrforwildspirituality
Instagram: @center_for_wild_spirituality
Timestamps:
0:00 – Introduction
3:44 – Interview Begins
8:08 – Love For Whales
10:55 – Grief Medicine
11:54 – Alexandra's Movements Music
13:35 – Song: All The Places
18:30 – Ancestral Memory
19:54 – An Ecosystem of Action
24:01 – Multi-Species Liberation
30:41 – Song: Sacred Wild One
33:53 – We Grieve What We Love
43:05 – Alexandra's Wild Edge
45:31 – Wild Invitation
49:44 – Credits