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• Episode 193: Stop Trying to Rescue Everyone - The Holiday Savior Complex

  Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.If December turns you into everyone’s emotional paramedic, this episode is your intervention.We’re unpacking the Holiday Savior Complex, that sneaky trauma-driven pattern where you over-function, over-give, manage everyone’s moods, smooth over conflict, and basically try to save the entire holiday season from falling apart.And yes… we’re going there with adults and kids.I’m breaking down why survivors of emotional and narcissistic abuse slip into “fixer mode,” how it drains you, and what it’s really costing your nervous system. You’ll also hear the story of the year I didn’t put up a Christmas tree right before a big move — my kids weren’t thrilled, my friends had opinions, and I learned one of the biggest lessons of my healing journey: I don’t have to rescue anyone from their own emotions. And neither do you.In this episode you’ll learn: ✨ Why the holidays activate old survival patterns ✨ How rescuing creates self-betrayal (even when it feels loving) ✨ What it looks like to stop managing everyone else’s feelings ✨ How to support your kids without over-functioning ✨ Nervous-system resets you can use at holiday gatherings ✨ Permission to do less — without guilt, shame, or burnoutIf this hits a little too close to home, it’s not a coincidence. These patterns come from deep subconscious conditioning — and that’s exactly what I help women unravel.Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: [email protected] 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

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• Episode 192: Stressmas - How to Reduce Holiday Stress for You and Your Kids

  Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Today I am shedding light on the unique challenges faced by abuse victims and survivors during the holiday season—dubbed "Stressmas." As the festive spirit envelops many, those navigating abuse often find themselves in heightened stress, facing tactics from their abusers that intensify during this time.The episode delves into the common challenges victims experience, exploring the ways abusers may escalate tactics and create additional stress, especially in co-parenting situations involving children. I'm offering valuable insights into setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and building a support system during Stressmas.Learn how to navigate the emotional challenges and the importance of self-care. The episode extends its focus to survivors with children, addressing the complexities of protecting children from abuse and creating positive holiday memories despite the adversity.So, if you have experienced narcissistic abuse and/or toxic family and are worried about holiday stress...listen in for some quick tips to help you along the way to make your Holiday less Stressmas and More Christmas!If you'd like to be part of the market research to bring my future healing app to survivors of abuse, I'd love your feedback on this short survey!  https://forms.gle/YhGSecGkZM1cdWQv8Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: [email protected] 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

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• Episode 191: Doing Positive Affirmations Wrong is Wasting Your Time

  Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.In this eye-opening episode, we unravel the intriguing complexities behind the world of positive affirmations and why they so often don’t work. We explore the profound impact of subconscious communication, emphasizing the transformative power of images, stories, and analogies that speak directly to the deeper layers of your mind.Discover why positive affirmations can actually backfire—creating cognitive dissonance and even self-gaslighting when your conscious mind repeats words your subconscious doesn’t believe. Instead of building confidence, they can deepen self-doubt, leaving you wondering why you still don’t feel good enough.Through compelling examples and real-life insights, we navigate the psychological landscape of inner resistance and conflicting beliefs, shedding light on how these hidden patterns block true transformation. You’ll learn how the subconscious mind interprets meaning, why it rejects surface-level statements, and how to start reprogramming it in ways that actually stick.Join Allison K. Dagney, emotional-healing coach and subconscious-reprogramming expert, as she shares practical techniques that go beyond mere words—so you can stop wasting time with affirmations that don’t reach your core, and start speaking the language of the subconscious mind to create real, lasting change.✨ Ready to go deeper?Book your Free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the beliefs blocking your transformation.Explore the Radiate & Rise Community for guided subconscious tools, live coaching, and genuine support.Because true empowerment doesn’t come from repeating what you wish you believed—it comes from rewiring your mind.If you'd like to be part of the market research to bring my future healing app to survivors of abuse, I'd love your feedback on this short survey!  https://forms.gle/YhGSecGkZM1cdWQv8Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: [email protected] 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

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• Episode 190: The Truth About “Doing the Work” (and Why You’re Still Stuck)

  Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you read all the books, journaled your heart out, listened to the podcasts, and done all the work — yet still wake up anxious, triggered, or doubting your worth? You’re not broken. You’re just trying to heal with the wrong tools.In this episode, emotional healing coach Allison K. Dagney reveals the real reason survivors stay stuck even after months or years of “doing the work.” You’ll learn why conscious mindset tools don’t always reach the subconscious beliefs that drive your emotional pain — and what to do differently to finally feel free.Allison shares powerful stories of women who were exhausted from trying harder and still feeling the same — and how everything changed once they began rewiring their subconscious mind.In this episode, you’ll discover:Why knowledge isn’t the same as healingThe subconscious patterns that block your progressHow to tell if you’re managing pain instead of transforming itWhat “doing the work” actually means for lasting changeThe real path to peace, confidence, and emotional freedomIf you’ve been wondering “Why am I still stuck?” this conversation will give you the clarity — and hope — you’ve been missing.✨ Ready to go deeper?Book your Free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the subconscious blocks keeping you stuck.Join the Radiate & Rise Community for live coaching, emotional healing tools, and support from other survivors who truly get it.Healing after emotional abuse isn’t about trying harder. It’s about finally working with your subconscious mind — not against it.If you'd like to be part of the market research to bring my future healing app to survivors of abuse, I'd love your feedback on this short survey!  https://forms.gle/YhGSecGkZM1cdWQv8Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: [email protected] 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

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• Episode 189: When Healing Feels Like Betrayal & Letting Go of The Guilt

  Leave a message & include your contact or I won't know it's you.Have you ever felt a wave of guilt the moment you finally laughed, smiled, or felt a spark of joy after abuse? You’re not alone. For many survivors, healing can feel like betrayal — especially when your kids, family, or others are still struggling.In this raw and honest episode, Allison K. Dagney, survivor, author, and subconscious reprogramming expert, breaks down why joy can feel unsafe and how subconscious beliefs keep you stuck in guilt. You’ll hear the hidden thoughts that survivors carry, like:“If my kids are hurting, I’m not allowed to be happy.”“If I move on, people will think it wasn’t abuse.”“If I heal, I’ll be leaving others behind.”Through powerful examples and real-life scenarios, you’ll learn how guilt shows up in everyday life — from canceling fun plans, to sabotaging new relationships, to downplaying your progress so no one thinks you’ve forgotten what happened.This episode will help you see why your healing is not abandonment — it’s the most powerful gift you can give yourself and your loved ones.✨ Ready to go deeper?Book your free Root Cause Call with Allison to uncover the beliefs keeping you stuck.Take the free Beliefs Quiz to reveal your hidden patterns.Download the Survivor Starter Pack with journal prompts and bonus podcast episodes designed to help you break free from rumination.Healing after emotional abuse doesn’t have to feel like betrayal. In fact, your joy is the beginning of breaking the cycle.Support the showTo learn more about my Programs visit the websitewww.radiatenrise.com Email: [email protected] 30 Min Root Cause Call Join Radiate and Rise Together - Survivor Healing Community for Women To send a DM, visit Allison's profiles on Instagram and Facebookhttps://www.instagram.com/allisonkdagney/https://www.facebook.com/allisonkdagney/*Formerly (The Emotional Abuse Recovery Podcast)

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