Pardon the Mess with Scarlet Hiltibidal - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids

Parenting little kids can feel like an endless cycle of correction. You’re saying “no,” breaking up fights, reminding, redirecting, and wondering if you’re doing any of it right.
In this episode, Scarlet Hiltibidal talks about the exhaustion of feeling like the “bad cop” and the temptation to believe that if we just parent well enough, we can make our kids patient, kind, self-controlled, and spiritually mature. But the fruit of the Spirit isn’t something we can manufacture in our children. It’s the work of God in them over time.
Special thanks to Jacie Laweson, who joined Scarlet in this week’s Messy Mom Moment, talking about the realities of parenting littles and how impactful finding a mentor mom has been!
If you’re in the thick of little kid chaos and wondering, Does this ever end? This episode is for you. You will not always feel this way.
Scripture Focus:
Galatians 2:22-23

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Resources:
Christmas Gift guide
Operation Christmas Child
NiRV Question & Answer Bible for Kids
WinShape Camps Carpool Conversations Podcast
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Get your copy of our latest prayer journal and join Scarlet each Monday to listen to guided prayer and reflection that follows the journal!
Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation

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When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death. (James 1:13–15)
This week, let’s pray that:
• Our kids have a faith strong enough to flee from temptation.
• Our kids have a heart that turns to God when they fall.
• We, as parents, would also be quick to forgive and to model for our kids the joy of regular confession.
This episode continues our series through Christian Parenting's Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation, a 38-week prayer journal to help you pray intentionally for your kids all school year long. Grab your own printed copy here, and join us every Monday through the end of May for guided prayer and reflection.

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What does it actually mean to teach our kids to repent?
In this episode, Scarlet Hiltibidal talks about why repentance is one of the most important things we can teach our children, and why it has to be about so much more than getting them to say “sorry.” We want our kids to stop hiding and defending sin, and rather to confess it honestly, and turn toward Jesus.
Scarlet shares from her own experience as a mom, along with Scripture’s vision for repentance, to help us think about how we can model it in our homes. She talks about the difference between an apology and genuine repentance, why our kids need to see us repent too, and how confession can lead to the joy, peace, freedom, and nearness to Jesus we were made for.
Special thanks to Caroline Saunders, who shared so much wisdom in today’s Messy Mom Moment. Caroline Saunders is a writer, Bible teacher, pastor's wife, and mother of three who believes in taking Jesus seriously and being un-serious about nearly everything else. Learn more about what the Bible says about clothing in Caroline's recent tradebook, But What Do I Wear?: The Biblical Story of Clothing, How It Helps Us Think About Getting Dressed, and Approximately Seventeen Stories I May Regret Telling. Find her writing, resources, and ridiculousness at WriterCaroline.com and on Instagram @writercaroline. 

Scripture Focus:
2 Corinthians 7:8-11
Isaiah 6

Connect with Scarlet
If this episode encouraged you, would you take a minute to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another mom who's trying to faithfully point her kids to Jesus. You can connect with Scarlet on Instagram and find her books, Bible studies, and more encouragement at scarlethiltibidal.com
Scarlet’s Instagram
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Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Christian Parenting Website
Christian Parenting Instagram
Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube!

Resources:
Caroline Saunders’ latest book:  But What Do I Wear?: The Biblical Story of Clothing, How It Helps Us Think About Getting Dressed, and Approximately Seventeen Stories I May Regret Telling
Podcast episode Scarlet mentioned with “the Elizabeth story!”
Book: You’re the Worst Person in the World
Christmas Gift guide
Midnight Mom Devotional Bible
NiRV Question & Answer Bible for Kids
WinShape Camps Carpool Conversations Podcast
Sign up for Morning Minute

Get your copy of our latest prayer journal and join Scarlet each Monday to listen to guided prayer and reflection that follows the journal!
Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation

Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Our Sponsors:
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Blessed is the one who perseveres under trial because, having stood the test, that person will receive the crown of life that the Lord has promised to those who love him. (James 1:12)
This week, let’s pray that our kids:
• Keep their eyes focused on Jesus.
• Rely on him to help them persevere through all of life’s trials.
This episode continues our series through Christian Parenting's Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation, a 38-week prayer journal to help you pray intentionally for your kids all school year long. Grab your own printed copy here, and join us every Monday through the end of May for guided prayer and reflection.

Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org

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What does it look like to love our kids well when they are all so different from each other? What does it look like to pursue community when you’re raising an only child?
In this episode, Scarlet Hiltibidal talks about siblings, only children, adoption, personality differences, and the ways God uses our families to teach us how to love. 
In this episode we talked about how…
Genuine love comes from being loved by Jesus, not from effort alone.
Parents should model prayer and dependence on God.
Children are always growing and not fully mature, so we can’t expect them to have loving each other well down pat. We are all growing into Christ-likeness.
Love and patience in parenting are rooted in understanding God's love for us.
Practical parenting involves asking God for guidance and leading by example.

A special shoutout to Stori Nix, who joined in for the Messy Mom Moment to share what it’s like to raise an only child and what the Lord has taught her through it.
Scripture Focus
Romans 12:9–18
Connect with Scarlet
If this episode encouraged you, would you take a minute to subscribe, leave a review, and share it with another mom who's trying to faithfully point her kids to Jesus. You can connect with Scarlet on Instagram and find her books, Bible studies, and more encouragement at scarlethiltibidal.com
Scarlet’s Instagram
Scarlet’s Facebook

Connect with Pardon The Mess:
Christian Parenting Website
Christian Parenting Instagram
Prefer video? This episode is on YouTube!

Resources:
Christmas Gift guide
All Kinds of Weather by Abbey Wedgeworth
NiRV Question & Answer Bible for Kids
WinShape Camps Carpool Conversations Podcast
Sign up for Morning Minute

Get your copy of our latest prayer journal and join Scarlet each Monday to listen to guided prayer and reflection that follows the journal!
Faith in Action: Prayers from James for the Next Generation

Pardon The Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. For more information visit www.ChristianParenting.org

Our Sponsors:
* Check out IXL and use my code ixl.com/TODAY for a great deal: https://www.ixl.com

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy