Culture Changers with Allison Hare

JP Miller preached a full sermon less than 24 hours after his wife died - allegedly by suicide - without taking a single question about it. Netflix gave "Death of the Pastor's Wife" three episodes but still left out a lot: the earlier conviction, the first wife whose stories echoed Mica's experience, the third wife already leading worship beside him. I watched the whole thing, went deep into the rabbit hole - and am reporting back here as I noticed some notable patterns that are showing up right now in trad wife culture too. This is a harrowing story whose theological foundations permeate our society across many angles. Trigger warnings on this one.
Rather watch on YouTube? Watch here.
Notable timestamps:
00:00 The documentary, the trigger warning, and why this one couldn't wait
03:10 Who Mica Miller was, and how grooming looked like devotion at 13
11:20 Christian patriarchy 101: the umbrella, submission, and Bill Gothard's IBLP
15:40 JP's 1999 conviction, the pardon, and the pattern nobody flagged
23:15 The sermon the morning after Mica's death, and the room that stayed silent
29:00 What Netflix actually left out
33:30 The data: how common this is inside churches, and how few pastors are trained for it
36:45 Savanna Stone, trad wives, and why there are no old trad wives
41:10 Allison's mom, her dad's advice, and what she wants for her own marriage
47:30 Mica's Law: where it stands, and how to actually help
Episode resources:
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-SAFE (7233), or text START to 88788
"Death of the Pastor's Wife" updates, Netflix Tudum: https://www.netflix.com/tudum/articles/death-of-the-pastors-wife-john-paul-miller-updates
What Netflix left out, Ladbible: https://www.ladbible.com/entertainment/tv/jp-miller-netflix-left-out-documentary-criminal-record-527761-20260902
Mica's Law update, WBTW: https://www.wbtw.com/news/grand-strand/horry-county/shes-the-reason-second-micas-law-bill-sparks-statewide-push-for-stronger-domestic-violence-protections/
Savanna Stone documentary: https://youtu.be/Xvy0yOVtUqw?si=a6IUhRM5k3DTKB9Q
Allison's links:
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Let's connect on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare
Watch on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@culturechangerspod
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Are you as obsessed as I am with the dumbest headlines of the week? Well, you're in luck! I've got comedian and pop culture whisperer Rachel LaForce on to break down what Spencer Pratt's mayoral run, the $250 Trump bill, and trad wife content filmed at Home Goods actually say about the rest of us. Rachel got sober by accident, spent decades masking her neurodivergence, and built her whole show around one idea: comedy gets you to the truth faster than seriousness does. This is a fast, sharp, occasionally unhinged hour that somehow keeps landing on self-belief.

Notable timestamps:

03:57 – The UFC fight on the White House lawn, and how "healing is hilarious" started as Rachel's own recovery philosophy

12:08 – How she got sober "on accident" during a breakup, and never went back

16:57 – The push-yourself-out-of-the-pool metaphor for knowing you're actually ready for change

20:02 – Spencer Pratt's mayoral run and the self-belief lesson hiding inside it

23:38 – Why she thinks billionaires are boring, and her case for an abundance mindset

27:54 – MacKenzie Scott, Jeff Bezos, and the gender dynamics of wealth

31:45 – Her actual rule for what's fair game to joke about, and why trad wife content makes her sad instead of snarky

37:36 – Cortisol dressing, dopamine dressing, and how marketing invents things to sell women

43:36 – Where to find Rachel and what's next for Healing is Hilarious

Rachel LaForce, resources and links:

Healing is Hilarious podcast: https://www.rachellaforce.com/podcast

Listen on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/6jliDvkqHQFXyfx9Qh0lr4

Listen on Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-rachel-laforce-show/id1600838616

Watch on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@therachellaforce

Rachel's website: https://www.rachellaforce.com/

Follow Rachel on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rachellaforce/

Follow Healing is Hilarious on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healingishilarious/

Skewed Orbit Studios: https://www.skewedorbitstudios.com/

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I grew up thinking if I did everything right, negotiated hard enough, leaned in enough, the outcome would eventually match the effort. Y'all, that was a big old fat lie. Stefanie O'Connell spent years digging into the research for her new book, The Ambition Penalty, and the data is downright shocking. We get into girlboss culture and tradwife culture, and why they're actually selling the same lie in different outfits. We talk about what happens to women who out earn their male partners, and I promise, you're going to be picking your jaw up off the floor. Fair warning, there's some rage in this one. Mine included.

Notable timestamps:

01:55 – Stefanie explains the title and the reckoning behind the book

06:07 – The truth about whether women actually negotiate less than men

10:29 – Was Lean In a net positive or a net negative

15:55 – Girlboss and tradwife culture are selling the exact same lie

20:03 – Midroll

26:34 – The data on breadwinning moms and abuse in the home

36:43 – Why men only read 20% of bestselling books by women

45:03 – Where to actually start when the problem feels too big

50:10 – Why Stefanie refuses to buy into mom guilt

56:27 – What utopia actually looks like, ten years out

Stefanie's links:

The Ambition Penalty (book):https://amzn.to/4gbQlSY

Website: https://tooambitious.com/

Too Ambitious newsletter: https://tooambitious.substack.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/stefanieoconnell/

TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@stefaniemoconnell

Allison's links:

Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall

Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare

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The women who built Lilith Fair were called "angry," "hysterical," "emotional," and dismissed as "a bunch of lesbians" back in the 90s. Turns out Sarah McLachlan and her all-female lineup were way ahead of their time, running the highest grossing tour of 1997. Now the concept is back, and leading the charge is Olivia Rodrigo, using her platform to advocate for women's rights. This is a fun, fascinating, and timely look at how right those women were, and why the fight just picked up way more steam.

Notable timestamps (estimated):

00:00 Daisy Chain Fields, and why it couldn't have come faster

02:20 The Alanis Morissette clip that stopped Allison cold

05:00 The real history of Lilith Fair: why radio wouldn't play two women back to back

08:10 The Indigo Girls, internalized homophobia, and breaking through anyway

18:45 Allison's mom, "never rely on a man to make money," and what it cost her

27:20 Olivia Rodrigo's parents: "you can't be a real artist unless you speak up"

32:00 The Daisy Chain Fields lineup and how fast it sold out

34:00 The gestalt therapy session with a bat, and learning to let anger out

38:40 Why the internet is already criticizing what Olivia Rodrigo wears

Rather watch on YouTube? Watch here.

Episode resources:

Daisy Chain Fields: https://www.daisychainfields.com

Lilith Fair: Building a Mystery (2025 documentary)

Talk Easy with Sam Fragoso, the Alanis Morissette episode: https://talkeasypod.com/alanis-morissette/

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Are you as obsessed as I am about how we are being manipulated by social media, ads, propaganda, politics, and what's real and what's not? Well, you're in luck! I've got ad sleuth Emily Rask from the hit show Lies We Bought podcast on to break it down for us! This is a fun and fascinating exploration into the sinister truth of advertising.

Notable timestamps:

03:05 What Lies We Bought actually is

10:29 The Kellogg brothers and the breakfast myth

11:38 Listerine invented a disease called halitosis

15:18 Growing up Mormon in Utah

22:33 The LDS Church's $30 billion SEC settlement

31:20 Why she turns down supplement company sponsors

38:03 Lie or Legit: rapid-fire mythbusting

42:35 Edward Bernays, the father of propaganda

Guest links:

Emily Rask's Lies We Bought: https://www.lieswebought.com/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@liesweboughtpodcast

Patreon: patreon.com/c/lieswebought

IG: https://www.instagram.com/lieswebought/

Allison's links:

Instagram: https://instagram.com/allison__hare

LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/allisonhare

Free Podcast Clarity Call: https://allisonhare.com/freecall

No Country for Mothers screening, Atlanta, Aug 24: https://allisonhare.com/mothers

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