Culture Changers with Allison Hare

Culture Changers Podcast is 7 TODAY!

Award-winning.

Globally ranked (top 1.5%)

Almost 300 episodes and a million downloads.

And to celebrate, I'm doing a ridiculous marathon livestream starting today at 1pm EST. 

And I might even go for SEVEN HOURS!

Join me LIVE (please comment and say hi - surprise guests, surprise announcements, spice level 1000. 

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I can't thank you enough for being part of this global conversation.

xo,

Allison Hare

 

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Learn what healing looks like after 40 years of identity collapse in Christian patriarchy. Tia Levings is a New York Times bestselling author, featured in Amazon's "Shiny Happy People," who escaped Christian fundamentalism, recovered from religious trauma, and now decodes why patriarchal family structures mirror the theocratic policies taking shape in American government right now.

In this episode, Tia walks us through:

The mechanics of silence culture and why it protects abusers

How to identify when you're in a high-control group (it's rarely obvious)

Why women brought into patriarchal power structures become scapegoats

What healing actually looks like (not spiritual bypassing, not "I'm grateful it happened")

The healing modalities that work for complex PTSD after religious trauma

How modern politics is the scaled-up version of the family systems she lived in

This is a warm, grounded conversation about one of the most urgent cultural issues we're not talking about clearly enough.

Books mentioned:

A Well-Trained Wife: My Escape from Christian Patriarchy (https://amzn.to/4tTCvug)

I Belong to Me: A Survivor's Guide to Recovery and Hope After Religious Trauma — released May 5, 2026 (https://amzn.to/4epEiCy)

Find Tia:

Website: https://tialevings.com/

Substack: https://tialevings.substack.com/

Social: @TiaLevingsWriter

Viral first appearance on Culture Changers Podcast "What Christian Patriarchy Doesn't Want You To Know" - https://youtu.be/aU6CcgskrUE

Rather watch on YouTube? https://youtu.be/tCeYbmwcnXA

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Have we biohacked our way to loneliness? We've over-optimized every aspect of our lives—Oura rings, trackers, endless connections on social media. We're fitter, more quantified, more tracked than ever. Yet we're the loneliest society that has ever existed. Suicide rates have never been higher. Somewhere along the way, we lost touch with each other and maybe even ourselves.

Chris Schembra makes the case that true fulfillment doesn't lie in adding more optimization. It lies in adding friction back. In this conversation, we break down why convenience is the enemy of connection, what earned intimacy actually requires, and how the serenity prayer—tattooed on Chris's arm from early sobriety—reveals the wisdom we're desperately seeking.

What You'll Learn:

Why "biohacking" and optimization have backfired on human connection

The difference between weak ties (what social platforms designed for) and deep relationships (what we actually need)

What "earned intimacy" means and why it requires inconvenience and repeatability

The League of Gentlemen: how a village of 100 friends grew from three people having breakfast together

Why we're outsourcing our emotions to chatbots instead of sitting in our own thoughts

The serenity prayer as a practical life design tool—not spiritual advice

The discernment crisis: why judgment and taste are the most valuable skills of tomorrow

How to reclaim your life from algorithms and convenience

Rather watch on YouTube? https://youtu.be/8xxiRxRR24E

Resources & Links:

Chris Schembra on LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/chrisschembra

Reach out: [email protected]

7:47 Gratitude Experience: https://747club.org

EP79of CC: A new twist on gratitude: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0V49SVlsXGMmcH8Af2aGnO?si=3f708350572a4b01

EP101: BDSM and the Boardroom: https://open.spotify.com/episode/4cBTAzKRV27qa3wSOwpsQV?si=be9222f7e2104674

EP157: Ketamine psychedelic therapy: Chris Schembra's story: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0V49SVlsXGMmcH8Af2aGnO?si=3f708350572a4b01

Key Timestamps:

00:00 — Intro: Have we biohacked our way to loneliness?

00:41 — Mother Teresa on the poverty of the soul

02:23 — Allison pushes back on the framing

03:40 — The distinction between "too easy" and "too optimized"

04:09 — Why tech companies call us "users"

05:56 — The convenience trap: clicking vs. calling

06:51 — Outsourcing emotions to chatbots and streaming services

54:26 — Building true intimacy vs. collecting weak ties

55:27 — The Strength of Weak Ties study and social media's backfire

56:25 — The breakfast story: how a village of 100 friends was born

58:26 — Walking through seasons of life together

59:13 — The League of Gentlemen and being held when you show up messy

01:01:14 — The serenity prayer tattoo and the three pillars

01:03:40 — Wisdom to know the difference: the discernment crisis

01:04:40 — The beauty of inconvenient choices and earned connection

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We celebrate female empowerment while simultaneously destroying women who actually achieve it. This episode unpacks why we pile on female leaders—from Brené Brown to Mel Robbins to Gwyneth Paltrow—in ways we never do for men. Not to defend these women although some deserve critique. It's about understanding the line between legitimate critique and character assassination, and asking what happens when we redirect that energy toward systemic change instead of moral policing. Where is the line where you go from beloved to canceled?

Timestamps:

0:00 Intro: The White Women Villain Pattern

2:18 We're at an Inflection Point

4:42 The Brené Brown Takedown (Threads, Reddit, Appropriation Claims)

7:04 Appropriating Black Feminist Theory

9:23 The Mendoza Line: Where Does Deserving Cancellation Begin?

12:45 Why Thought Leaders Stay Silent (Fear of Judgment)

15:20 The Grifter Accusation (Mel Robbins, Gwyneth, Reese)

18:00 Cult Leaders, Wellness Culture & False Profits

21:30 The Poet Cassie & Mel Robbins' Poem

25:15 Accountability vs. Character Assassination

28:40 The Over-Optimization Backlash

31:00 We're All Learning (Both/And Complexity)

34:20 Toxicity & Beloved-by-Millions Syndrome

37:15 It's Envy and Gender, Not Ethics

40:30 I Want to See People Win

43:00 Don't Die with Your Song Unsung

45:15 Systemic Change Happens in Community

48:30 These Women Are Mirrors, Not Heroes or Villains

51:32 We Can't Dismantle Patriarchy by Policing Women

53:55 Little Drops of Water Matter

56:14 Your Message Needs to Be Heard

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Prefer to watch on YouTube? Voila! https://youtu.be/9qKRgKekea4

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You can watch two people look at the same video of the Minneapolis shooting and come to completely opposite conclusions about what happened. Why? Because their brains — literally — were looking at different parts of the screen. That's selective perception. And once Dr. Jay Van Bavel explained it to me, I couldn't stop seeing it everywhere. In my feed. In my family. In myself.

Jay is one of the top 1% of researchers in the world — not my words, that's Clarivate — and a professor of psychology and neuroscience at NYU. His research has been cited by the US Supreme Court, the Senate, and the World Health Organization. And in this conversation, he did not let me off the hook. Neither will you.

We went deep on why our brains are not built for social media, how AI is becoming a full-time confirmation bias machine, what's actually happening to democracy right now, and — I promise there's a reason to keep listening — one genuinely hopeful hack backed by hard data that can lower your polarization by 25%.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why two people can watch the exact same video and reach opposite conclusions — and it's not about intelligence or bad faith

How AI chatbots are 50% more sycophantic than actual humans — and what that's doing to your relationships and your politics

What the research actually says about Trump's approval drop and the role of "apolitical" influencers in shifting minds

The one social media move backed by a clinical study that can reduce your polarization by 25% in a single month — and keep it lower for a full year

Rather watch on YouTube? https://youtu.be/-upTCa6s7oc

Resources & Links Mentioned:

Dr. Jay Van Bavel's Substack: The Power of Us

NYU Center for Conflict and Cooperation: nyu.edu

The Power of Us (book) by Jay Van Bavel & Dominic Packer

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