The Midlife Chrysalis

Aging isn’t just about getting older. It’s about discovering who you are when the roles that once defined you begin to fall away.

In this episode, Chip Conley sits down with Connie Zweig, author of The Inner Work of Age, to explore the deeper psychological and spiritual work of midlife and beyond.

Connie shares what it takes to move from simply growing old to becoming an elder, including:
Moving from role to soul: Why identity built around achievement and productivity may need to loosen as we age.
Meeting your shadow: How the parts of ourselves we ignore can surface during major life transitions and shape our choices without us realizing it.
Listening to the unlived life: Why buried desires, abandoned paths, and old patterns often reappear at midlife.
Learning to let go: How releasing outdated roles, beliefs, relationships, and attachments can make space for a new stage of life.
Accepting impermanence: What Connie has learned in her 70s about mortality, control, self-reflection, and living more consciously.

This is a thoughtful conversation about aging not as decline, but as a profound inner transition.

Watch now and discover what it means to move from role to soul.

Timestamps:
(02:40) Growing and Aging Throughout Life
(08:17) Letting Go of Roles and Identities
(10:02) Moving From Doing to Being
(17:28) What Is Shadow Work?
(20:05) From Role to Soul
(23:17) The Unlived Life and Midlife Crisis
(29:14) The Inner Ageist
(31:58) The Chrysalis of Midlife
(34:41) Facing Death and Mortality
(39:37) What Rumi Can Teach Us
(43:35) Wisdom for Younger Generations
(45:40) Impermanence, Control, and Conscious Living

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Some losses hit harder than we ever expect, and grief doesn’t follow our timeline.

In this deeply personal episode of Midlife Chrysalis, Chip Conley opens up about the unexpected death of his beloved dog Jamie and what the experience has taught him about grief, love, and loss.

Key insights from the episode:
Grief comes in waves. It can surface as sadness, anger, exhaustion, or simply the need for space.
You can’t rush grief. Searching for meaning too quickly can keep us from actually feeling what we’ve lost.
Grief reveals what we love. The depth of our grief often reflects the depth of the connection.
Some losses go unacknowledged. Pets, relationships, careers, health, and unrealized expectations can leave grief we never fully allowed ourselves to feel.

Tune in for an honest and moving conversation about the losses we carry, the emotions we can’t control, and why there is no shortcut through grief.

Watch the full episode now.

Timestamps:
(00:00) Welcome to Wisdom Wednesday
(02:10) Remembering Jamie
(07:05) How Grief Comes in Waves
(10:40) The Losses We Don’t Talk About
(11:44) Why Unexpected Loss Hits Harder
(12:54) Finding Ways to Cope With Grief
(13:55) The Danger of Spiritual Bypass
(18:53) You Can’t Force Grief
(19:16) Grief, Anger, and Boundaries
(20:30) Letting Emotions Pass Through
(22:07) An Experiment for Unprocessed Grief
(24:34) Grieving the Losses of Cancer
(26:03) Closing Thoughts

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What happens when the identity you've spent your entire life building suddenly disappears?

Former South African international cricketer Paul Harris reached the highest level of his sport, but retiring at just 33 forced him into an even bigger challenge: discovering who he was beyond cricket. In this powerful conversation, Paul shares the emotional reality of life after professional sports and the lessons that helped him build a meaningful second chapter.

In this episode, you'll learn:
Why major life transitions often trigger an identity crisis
The hidden mental health challenges many high achievers face
The three principles that helped Paul rebuild his confidence, purpose, and career
Why the people you surround yourself with can shape your future
Why "Outwork Everybody" became the foundation of his success

Paul's journey proves that losing one identity doesn't mean losing yourself. Sometimes the end of one chapter is the beginning of a more meaningful one.

If you enjoyed this episode, please like, subscribe, and share it with someone who could benefit from Paul's story.

Timestamps:
(02:46) Meet Paul Harris
(03:44) Early Life and Playing Cricket
(08:36) What is a Spinner?
(10:45) Baseball vs. Cricket
(11:22) Why Cricket Never Caught in the US
(13:15) Why He Retired At 33
(15:00) Losing His Identity After Cricket
(18:24) Life After Fame
(21:14) Starting Over At 40
(22:22) Why Retired Athletes Struggle
(27:01) Advice For Major Life Transitions
(31:30) What Midlife Means To Him
(33:35) Wisdom Bumper Sticker

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Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is stop doing and simply be present.

In this episode, Chip Conley talks with Teddi Dean, former Bones Brigade skateboarder turned filmmaker, mindfulness teacher, and Head of Mind & Body at MEA.

Teddy shares his journey through sobriety, yoga, meditation, and decades of exploring what it means to live with greater awareness.

You’ll discover:
Why stillness can be transformative and help us reconnect with ourselves.
How 10 to 20 minutes of daily mindfulness can change how we respond to life.
Why mindfulness goes beyond meditation, from walking and surfing to ordinary daily activities.
How listening to your body and breath can lead to wiser choices.
Why paying attention makes ordinary life richer and helps us see familiar things with fresh eyes. Teddi’s hard earned wisdom is beautifully simple: Just be.

Watch the full episode for a practical and inspiring conversation about becoming more present for your own life. 

Timestamps:
(00:00) Meet Teddi Dean
(01:05) Growing Up in Skate Culture
(03:03) Joining the Bones Brigade
(05:20) Walking Away From Skateboarding
(08:57) Drinking and Life After Skateboarding
(10:04) Getting Sober at 35
(11:00) Finding Yoga and Mindfulness
(14:23) Starting a New Life in Baja
(17:10) Joining the Modern Elder Academy
(19:04) Why Midlife Needs a Wisdom School
(21:35) The Power of Silent Retreats
(26:49) Learning to Sit With Yourself
(28:39) Building a Daily Mindfulness Practice
(30:22) Creating Space Between Stimulus and Response
(32:01) Turning Everyday Activities Into Mindfulness
(35:05) What Is Embodied Prayer?
(36:30) Listening to the Wisdom of the Body
(39:06) Becoming Amazed by the Mundane
(41:18) Wisdom Bumper Sticker
(43:00) Sunday Sangha 

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Happiness and purpose may not be enough for a truly rich life.

In this episode of The Midlife Chrysalis, Chip Conley joins Derek Gehl to explore psychological richness and why curiosity, new experiences, challenge, and spontaneity become especially valuable as we age.

You’ll discover:
Why psychological richness matters as we get older and how curiosity keeps us engaged with life.
The question that can reshape your next decade: What will you regret not learning, doing, or investing in 10 years from now?
Why becoming a beginner again matters, from learning a new skill to pursuing a passion you’ve neglected.
Why spontaneity and stepping beyond routine enrich our lives and open us to experiences we might otherwise miss.

Watch the full episode and choose one thing you’re ready to finally do. 

Timestamps:
(00:02) Welcome to Wisdom Wednesday
(02:23) What Is a Psychologically Rich Life?
(05:58) Creating More Psychological Richness
(10:33) Reinventing Yourself in Midlife
(12:04) What Will You Regret in 10 Years?
(14:33) Is the Door Really Closed?
(16:04) Why We Regret What We Don’t Do
(17:48) Ways to Enrich Your Life
(20:24) Pilgrimages and New Experiences
(21:40) Curiosity and Leaving Your Comfort Zone
(22:08) The Power of Spontaneity
(24:01) This Week’s Challenge24:50 Make Your Commitment Public 

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