Redeeming Marital Sexuality: An Interview with Sam Jolman
Sam Jolman says, “The realm of evil hates your sexuality… [and] tries to, as quickly and as early as possible, join shame to your sexual story.”As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, therapist and author Sam Jolman joins us to talk about sex in marriage. Shame wreaks havoc on intimacy and relational connection, keeping us isolated and feeling alone.It was never intended to be this way. Author of The Sex Talk You Never Got, Sam offers a refreshing, pure, and healing perspective on how to discuss, heal, and redeem intimacy with your spouse.Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction2:39 Sam Jolman joins the show6:04 Shame and the assault on sex13:09 The human body created for pleasure19:54 Song of Songs and the deep “knowing” that is the bedrock for intimacy24:17 How to have the conversation of sex with your spouse32:33 The role of kindness and compassion in the healing of your story37:51 Talking about playfulness, safety, and sex with your spouseShow Notes: Get Sam Jolman’s book The Sex Talk You Never Got: https://amzn.to/4kflULX If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Register now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
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How Screens Shape Our Nervous System
How well do you manage your relationship with the screen? How would your spouse describe how well you manage your relationship with the screen? What about your kids?As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss screen time and its effects on our nervous system. We share some sobering statistics about screens and hope by the end you honestly evaluate the answer to the question, “What role does the screen play in the quality of my life?” Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction 3:20 How do you relate with your screen? 8:57 Screens and the nervous system 12:12 Dopamine, screens, and temper tantrums 19:00 Multitasking, nervous system dysregulation, and attunement 27:20 Inattention in children’s television shows32:29 Becoming relationally intelligent with screensShow Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
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The Complicated Beauty of Forgiveness
Forgiving others can be complicated. Especially when you’ve been hurt deeply by those you love the most.As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the reality of forgiveness, why it’s so complicated, and a helpful process for forgiving others. We also offer a beautiful story of deep forgiveness in marriage as a model and a path forward. Time Stamps: 0:00 Introduction to forgiveness and why it matters 3:16 The reality and process of forgiveness 7:50 The people we have to forgive 10:22 The complicated beauty of forgiveness 17:32 An example of forgiveness in marriage 21:30 The grace of our own forgivenessShow Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkout Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
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How Self Protection Hurts Relationships
Why do we self-protect in relationships? Especially if it hurts our deepest levels of intimacy with those we love? Though we’re hurt in relationships, we’re also healed in relationships. As we continue season 5 on relational intelligence, we discuss the ways we self-protect, why self-protection is a form of artificial intelligence, and how to break free. Our hope for this episode is to give you hope that you can surrender self-protection and discover deeper relational connection with those you love. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction 4:00 The ripple effect of relational intelligence 5:00 Self-protection as a form of artificial intelligence 8:12 The ways we self-protect 18:38 Ways to surrender our self-protection 24:06 Christi shares what she’s learning in her own journey of self-protection 31:43 Self-protection, overcoming fear, and the softening of your heart toward others 38:22 Disconfirming experiences, holding hope, and healing your heart Show Notes: If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriageRegister now for the Tender & Fierce Fall Cohort: https://www.famousathome.com/offers/dDt2Aobj/checkoutDownload NONAH's single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
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Marriage and Relational Intelligence
In season 5, we’re talking about relational intelligence. In this episode, we’re specifically looking at it through the lens of marriage, the delicate dance of intimacy, and why emotional safety is so important. We also introduce season 5, which covers hot topics that challenge how we think about relationships, why we become numb to them, and how to navigate relational connections with those we love in a world becoming more artificially intelligent. Time Stamps:0:00 Introduction to season 53:00 The face-to-face nature of relational connection4:19 Why and how we numb in relationships13:11 Defining relational intelligence16:00 Marriage coaching options17:30 The delicate relational dance of marriage24:51 Emotional safety in marriage31:54 Your relationships in light of eternity38:40 The inside-out nature of marriage Show Notes:If you’re interested in a marriage you love, fill out this form: https://www.famousathome.com/loveyourmarriage Download NONAH's brand new single Find My Way Home by clicking here: https://bellpartners.ffm.to/findmywayhome
We all long to put our families center stage. Yet, in a world that competes for our time, attention, and identity, we often give our family the leftovers instead of our full, undivided hearts. Welcome to the Famous at Home podcast, with marriage and leadership coaches, Dr. Josh and Christi Straub. With a realistic, grace-filled look at the struggles families face, the Famous at Home podcast is like having a cup of coffee with authentic friends who just “get you,” yet with the practical and life-changing coaching strategies Josh and Christi use to help spouses, parents, and leaders stay emotionally engaged and connected to their biggest fans. With topics designed to help you set healthy rhythms between work and home, be fully present with your kids, and build a rock-solid marriage, the Famous at Home podcast will awaken your own heart and revive your family.Because we all need to find our way back home.