Cults and the Culting of America

• Cults & The Culting of America w/ Knitting Cult Lady & Dr. Scot Loyd | 57 | Born and Razed

  Content Warning: This episode contains discussions of religious and institutional abuse, child abuse, disordered eating, family estrangement, mental illness, trauma recovery, and medication withdrawal. Listener discretion is advised. In this episode of Cults and the Culting of America, hosts Dr. Scot Loyd and Daniella Mestyanek Young speak with Beth Granger, author of Born and RAZED: Surviving the Cult Was Only Half the Battle. Beth shares her experience growing up at Grenville Christian College, a Canadian boarding school later revealed to be a religious cult connected to the Community of Jesus. She describes the systematic control, emotional and physical abuse, and the long process of recovery and rediscovery that followed her escape. The conversation dives into the complexities of grief, family estrangement, and the enduring impact of coercive religious systems. Beth also discusses her role as a representative plaintiff in a landmark class-action lawsuit against the institution, and how advocacy, writing, and community have shaped her healing. The episode ends with a reflective discussion about deconstruction, the search for meaning after leaving high-control groups, and what it means to "live with it" as an adult survivor. Disclaimer: This conversation is for educational and storytelling purposes only. It is not medical, legal, or therapeutic advice. If you or someone you know is struggling, resources are available: National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): 1-800-950-6264 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 (US) National Eating Disorders Association Helpline: 1-800-931-2237 Beth's Book:  Amazon Daniella's Links: Preorder for Culting of America: The Culting of America PRE-SALE (SHIPS BY JANUARY 20, 2026) – Knitting Cult Lady Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autographed: Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok Patreon Instagram Youtube Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Scot's Socials TikTok:  @thescotloyd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thescotloyd Haley's Tiktok @nuancedmasculinities Religious abuse can hide in plain sight: Grenville Christian College operated for decades as a "prestigious" Anglican school while functioning as a coercive cult. Systemic control dismantled family bonds: Children were separated from parents, spied upon, and punished under the guise of spiritual discipline. Recovery is lifelong: Leaving a cult is only the beginning—true healing often unfolds over decades. Grief is complex for survivors: Survivors grieve not only their past but also the version of themselves and families they never got to fully have. Weaponized religion causes lasting harm: Faith can be used as a tool of control, and rebuilding a healthy spiritual or secular identity takes time. Community resilience matters: The class-action lawsuit gave survivors both validation and voice, setting legal precedent in Canada. Art and storytelling as healing: Beth's memoir and Daniella's creative work illustrate how expression can help survivors reclaim their narratives. Ambiguity is part of recovery: Many survivors find peace not in certainty, but in learning to live with doubt. Intergenerational healing is possible: Rebuilding family connection and emotional fluency can break the cycle of silence. Living with it: Healing doesn't erase trauma—it integrates it into a fuller, more authentic life. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Cult Experiences 01:39 Beth Granger's Journey as a Cult Survivor 03:02 Life Inside the Cult: A Personal Account 05:16 Surviving and Recovering from Cult Life 10:17 The Importance of Recovery Narratives 11:27 The Breaking Point: Realizations and Escape 18:44 Grief and Loss After Leaving the Cult 24:43 Navigating Faith and Doubt Post-Cult 26:37 Navigating Personal Beliefs and Cult Influence 31:30 The Role of Music in Healing and Identity 37:36 Grief and Family Dynamics Post-Cult 40:59 Community Resilience Against Coercive Organizations 47:54 The Impact of Trauma and the Journey to Healing Produced by Haley Phillips, Meghan Picmann, and Lizy Freudmann  

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• Cults & The Culting of America w/ Knitting Cult Lady | 56 | Brazilian Dictatorship and Resilience

  In this special episode, Daniella Mestyanek Young ("Knitting Cult Lady") speaks with Dr. Bryan Pitts, Assistant Director of UCLA's Latin American Institute, about the Brazilian military dictatorship (1964–1985) and how studying Brazil's political history can help Americans understand current threats to democracy. They compare U.S. and Brazilian political systems, the cultural myths that obscure inequality (the "American Dream" vs. Brazil's "racial democracy"), and the interplay between religion, class, and authoritarianism. The discussion explores how political elites, class structures, and the military shaped Brazil's dictatorship and its fall, how the U.S. normalizes corruption through legality, and why Americans struggle to recognize creeping authoritarianism. The episode ends with reflections on community resilience, the dangers of individualism, and lessons from Brazil on defending democracy. Dr. Pitts' Book: Amazon Daniella's Links: Preorder for Culting of America: The Culting of America PRE-SALE (SHIPS BY JANUARY 20, 2026) – Knitting Cult Lady Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autographed: Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok Patreon Instagram Youtube Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Scot's Socials TikTok:  @thescotloyd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thescotloyd Haley's Tiktok @nuancedmasculinities Key Takeaways  U.S. comparisons to Nazi Germany miss nuances—Latin American dictatorships, especially Brazil's, offer more relevant parallels. Brazil's 1964 coup was not purely CIA-driven but enabled by U.S. encouragement and anti-communist ideology. The Brazilian dictatorship's fall was driven by local politicians regaining influence and citizens mobilizing for democracy. Brazil's political class and military were both hereditary systems that reinforced inequality and control. Corruption in Brazil was often criminalized campaign funding—whereas in the U.S., "legal corruption" (e.g., Citizens United) plays a similar role. National myths—America's "classless society" and Brazil's "racial democracy"—mask systemic inequality and prevent honest reckoning. Daniella and Bryan compare cult structures to political systems: authoritarian control thrives on isolation, hierarchy, and sacred assumptions. Bureaucracy and decentralization (local politics, paperwork, institutional rules) often protect democracy better than charismatic leadership. The Brazilian opposition's shift from abstract "save democracy" rhetoric to focusing on people's material needs (poverty, inequality) was pivotal to defeating authoritarianism. Americans may not recognize creeping dictatorship because they lack collective memory of one; Brazil's experience offers a warning and a roadmap. The U.S. military's apolitical stance may protect against coups but limits civic intervention when democracy erodes. Building community and mutual aid networks is crucial as a counter to isolation and authoritarian individualism. Both guests reflect on how growing up in cults or authoritarian systems gave them insight into manipulation, obedience, and ideological rigidity. Authoritarianism can appear on the left or right; unquestioning certainty is itself cult-like. Brazilians unified quickly to defend democracy after Bolsonaro's attempted coup—contrasting sharply with U.S. responses after January 6th. Americans over-trust institutions and underestimate the need for civic defense of democracy. Brazil's "relative democracy" under dictatorship reveals how regimes justify authoritarian control in the name of "protection." Structural inequality, not individual failure, drives poverty—an insight both guests developed from missionary childhoods. Both guests emphasize that understanding other nations' histories is vital to preventing tyranny at home. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Conversation 02:18 Personal Backgrounds and Cultural Insights 11:40 Understanding Brazil's Military Dictatorship 18:33 The Role of the Political Elite in Brazil 24:25 Class and Military Dynamics in Brazil and the US 29:06 Sacred Assumptions and the American Dream 30:28 The Decline of the American Dream 31:41 Comparing Dictatorships: The U.S. and Latin America 35:07 Cultural Diversity and National Identity 38:37 Birthright Citizenship and Its Implications 42:48 Political Maneuvering During Dictatorship 52:04 Lessons from Brazil's Political History 55:03 The Role of Community in Political Change 56:01 Introduction to Authoritarianism and Democracy 58:33 The Role of Institutions in Protecting Democracy 01:01:36 Military's Role in American Politics 01:04:22 Cult Dynamics in Military and Academia 01:07:19 Experiences of Extremism and Authoritarianism 01:10:15 The Importance of Community and Resistance Produced by Haley Phillips, Meghan Picmann, and Lizy Freudmann

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• Cults & The Culting of America w/ Knitting Cult Lady | 55 | The Power of Story Telling

  In this episode of Cults and the Culting of America, Daniella Mestyanek Young (aka Knitting Cult Lady) speaks with Chicago educator and social work student Jamal Bruce about his experiences teaching, navigating race and identity, and how her memoir Uncultured influenced his career pivot from education to social work. Their conversation explores how America's educational and social systems function as cult-like institutions that condition compliance, suppress individuality, and reflect deeper cultural hierarchies. Together, they draw parallels between trauma survival, masking behaviors, racial inequity, and the ways storytelling can challenge systemic norms. They also discuss how white privilege manifests in subtle daily ways, the importance of listening across difference, and the transformative power of reading beyond one's own identity. Daniella's Links: Preorder for Culting of America: The Culting of America PRE-SALE (SHIPS BY JANUARY 20, 2026) – Knitting Cult Lady Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Scot's Socials TikTok:  @thescotloyd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thescotloyd Haley's Tiktok @nuancedmasculinities Key Takeaways: Jamal Bruce, a Black high school teacher in Chicago, found Uncultured profoundly validating and inspiring, prompting his shift toward social work. Daniella and Jamal discuss how schools often mirror cult-like systems that demand conformity and suppress individuality. Both highlight how trauma survivors often overachieve as a coping mechanism—seeking safety in perfection and compliance. Educators of color are more likely to "see" marginalized students and advocate for them because of shared systemic experiences. The U.S. educational model has roots in Puritan indoctrination and continues to prioritize obedience over humanity. White privilege shows up in small, everyday ways—like who gets questioned, believed, or celebrated for multilingualism. The conversation emphasizes the need to believe marginalized voices rather than debate their experiences. Daniella reflects on how publishing, like education, gatekeeps whose stories are told and deemed "marketable." Both guests stress reading broadly and engaging with diverse perspectives as a way to dismantle bias and foster empathy. Uncultured demonstrates how personal trauma can illuminate collective social conditioning, inviting broader discussions of power, race, and belonging. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Uncultured Perspectives 02:41 The Role of Educators in Social Change 05:26 Personal Stories of Advocacy and Support 08:19 The Cult-like Nature of Education 11:20 Navigating Identity and Trauma in Education 14:10 The Intersection of Race and Education 16:44 The Impact of Trauma on Academic Performance 19:35 The Complexity of Privilege and Identity 22:33 The Need for Authenticity in Education 25:27 Conclusion: Shared Experiences and Collective Growth 29:03 Finding Your Audience in Storytelling 30:25 Relating Through Shared Emotions 32:33 Understanding Different Perspectives 34:53 The Importance of Believing Experiences 37:32 Recognizing Privilege in Society 40:32 Bilingualism and Perceptions of Intelligence 44:06 Challenging Gender and Racial Stereotypes 48:18 The Journey of Deconstructing Worldviews 51:06 The Power of Diverse Narratives Produced by Haley Phillips, Lizy Freudmann, and Meghan Picmann

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• Cults & The Culting of America w/ Knitting Cult Lady & Scot Loyd | 54 | Join A Club, Not A Cult

  In this episode of Cults and the Culting of America, Daniella and Scot talk with brother-sister filmmakers Rebecca and Pete Davis, co-directors of the documentary Join or Die. The film explores the steep decline in civic engagement across America and how rebuilding community is the antidote to the loneliness, polarization, and manipulation that make people vulnerable to cults. Together, they discuss the connection between isolation and extremism, how everyday community life has eroded over decades, and why showing up for local action is both a civic duty and a personal safeguard against coercive control. From Bowling Alone to the "cult of media," this conversation challenges listeners to ask one question: What am I doing alone that I could be doing together? Pete and Rebecca's Links: Website Movie Daniella's Links: Preorder for Culting of America: The Culting of America PRE-SALE (SHIPS BY JANUARY 20, 2026) – Knitting Cult Lady Go Fund Me for Culting of America: https://tr.ee/fldwYRFTJI Daniella Mestyanek Young's book:  From Bookshop.org Uncultured Autograph:  Connect with Daniella on social media  TikTok, Patreon, Instagram  Youtube Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Scot's Socials TikTok:  @thescotloyd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thescotloyd Haley's Tiktok @nuancedmasculinities 💡 Key Takeaways The ultimate inoculation against bad community is good community. 43% of Americans report belonging to zero community groups — a sign of deep civic decline. Cults exploit the human need for belonging that isolation leaves unmet. Healthy communities build "social capital" — the foundation of both democracy and resilience. Television, air conditioning, and social media each contributed to the privatization of daily life. Online groups offer connection but lack the embodied care of local, face-to-face relationships. "Civic reforestation" starts small — hosting a club, joining a group, showing up in person. Conflict isn't bad; learning to have it well is a democratic skill. Attention is power — Americans spend about 10 hours a day consuming media instead of creating community. Every movement in history began with about 1% of people showing up. Cult-proof your life by diversifying your relationships and commitments. Start where you are: know your neighbors, host a screening, join something local. Chapters 00:00 – Welcome & Introductions 02:00 – Why We Need Good Communities 04:00 – Isolation as a Weapon 05:30 – A 75-Year Decline in Connection 09:00 – Democracy and Social Fabric 12:00 – Air Conditioning, Modernity, and Lost Stoops 14:00 – What Are You Doing Alone That You Could Be Doing Together? 17:00 – From Online to Embodied Community 19:00 – The Cult of Media & Attention Theft 22:00 – Mono-Focus and Cult Vulnerability 26:00 – Why We Have Fewer Friends Now 30:00 – Learning the Lost Art of Organizing 33:00 – Lessons from History 36:00 – Conflict Is Good in a Democracy 40:00 – How to Watch or Host "Join or Die" 42:00 – Showing Up: The Real Inoculation 45:00 – Closing Reflections Produced by Haley Phillips, Meghan Picmann, and Lizy Freudmann  

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• Cults & the Culting of America w/ Knitting Cult Lady and Scot Loyd | ep53 | The God Scot Was Given

  In this episode of Cults and the Culting of America, hosts Scot Loyd and Daniella Mestyanek Young unpack Secretary of War Pete Hegseth's recent dystopian-sounding address to military leadership, examining it through the lens of cult psychology, gendered standards, and authoritarian control. Daniella dissects how "standards" and "professionalism" in the military are tools to maintain patriarchal and racial hierarchies, using examples like grooming policies and "gender-neutral" male standards. She argues that rhetoric like Hegseth's is part of a broader movement toward Christian nationalism and toxic militarized masculinity, dubbing it the "Mojo Dojo Casa Military." Together, they explore whether the U.S. military could ever be used against American citizens, why cult-like obedience structures are dangerous, and how individual ethics, diversity, and generational change make full-scale authoritarian control unlikely. The conversation then shifts toward Scot's new book, The God That I Was Given: Looking for Faith After Losing My Religion. Daniella and Scot discuss faith deconstruction, privilege, and how to hold space for both pride in one's past and critical honesty about harm. They reflect on storytelling, accountability, and how both military and religious institutions reward conformity and punish introspection. Daniella's Links: You can read all about my story in my book, Uncultured-- buy signed copies here. https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured   For more info on me: Patreon: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Cult book Clubs (Advanced AND Memoirs) Annual Membership: https://bit.ly/YTPLanding Get an autographed copy of my book, Uncultured: https://bit.ly/SignedUncultured Get my book, Uncultured, from Bookshop.org: https://bit.ly/4g1Ufw8 Daniella's Tiktok: Knitting Cult Lady Instagram:  https://bit.ly/4ePAOFK / daniellamyoung_  Unamerican video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/YTVideoBook Secret Practice video book (on Patreon): https://bit.ly/3ZswGY8 Other Podcasts Daniella's other podcast: Hey White Women Scot's Socials TikTok:  @thescotloyd Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@thescotloyd Haley's Tiktok @nuancedmasculinities 🔑 Key Takeaways "Standards" are culturally constructed — often used to uphold existing power structures under the guise of objectivity. "Gender neutral" usually means "male" — erasing femininity and reinforcing patriarchal norms. Hegseth's rhetoric reflects toxic masculinity, racial dog whistles, and authoritarian nostalgia for a "Department of War." Military culture mirrors cult structures, but its guiding "cult" is loyalty to the Constitution — not to any single leader. Younger service members (Millennials & Gen Z) are reshaping the culture toward diversity, empathy, and critical thinking. Brainwashing tactics from abusive systems and cults were deliberately baked into modern military training. Deconstruction is not destruction — you can be proud of aspects of your experience while acknowledging systemic harm. Both hosts connect cult dynamics across institutions — religion, the military, and politics all rely on controlling narratives. Writing memoirs like Uncultured and The God That I Was Given provides a model for honest reflection that includes both pride and pain. Truth-telling invites criticism, but it's vital for cultural healing and understanding. Chapters 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast and Guests 00:53 Military Standards and Gender Equality 03:43 Rhetoric and Leadership in the Military 06:29 Concerns Over Military Use Against Citizens 09:21 Basic Training and Military Culture 12:08 The Role of Experience in Military Leadership 14:54 Political Rhetoric and Military Professionalism 17:51 Diversity in the Military and Its Implications 20:39 Public Perception and Military Loyalty 23:23 Historical Context of Military Orders 26:09 Conclusion and Future Implications 28:18 Generational Perspectives in the Military 32:50 The Culting of America: A Deeper Dive 37:16 Navigating Privilege and Perspective 41:48 The Complexity of Faith and Deconstruction 47:06 The Power of Storytelling and Truth 54:22 Closing Thoughts on Diversity and Listening Produced by Haley Phillips, Meghan Picmann, and Lizy Freudmann

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