EPISODE 8: Are you ready to challenge traditional notions of parenting and create a family ecosystem centered on teamwork and mutual understanding? I'm talking about an ecosystem where everyone's voices are heard and each family member's needs are valued.Sounds like something out of a dream, right?Well, guess what? It's definitely possible, and we're here to show you how. This is the final stage of our Family Road Map. I know the idea of individualizing parenting and ditching the cookie-cutter approach can seem overwhelming. You might be thinking, "Hey, I've got four kids - how am I supposed to parent each one differently?" But here's the thing — you DON’T HAVE to handle each kid separately. The secret sauce lies in shifting from solely relying on parents to adopting a team approach.Think of it as creating a biosphere within your family, where each member relies on and supports one another for survival. This is what a family should be — a cohesive unit that operates as a team.Of course, we've tested these strategies on our own family before sharing them with others (we’ve been like guinea pigs in this case). Over almost a decade of working online, we've witnessed countless families implementing these techniques, allowing us to identify areas of improvement and fine-tune the system. And it works - we've got hundreds of thousands of success stories to prove it! So, if you're ready to turn your family into the ultimate dream team that supports and uplifts each other, then you don't want to miss this episode. We're diving deep into creating family success plans, and we're excited to share the insights with you.Join us as we unravel the secrets to building a thriving family ecosystem that fosters teamwork and support. Tune in now!Key Takeaways:Creating a family ecosystem that works together (00:00)What is different about the family team approach (04:46)Road Map Stage 5: Family Success (07:02)A family team approach vs. traditional parenting (15:55)The 4-step family success plan (24:46)What could have been a nightmare situation worked out really well (31:06)The key takeaway from this episode (38:56)Recap (44:37)Additional resources:🔍 Check out my website 📖 Pre-order your copy of Calm The Chaos Book 🗓️ Take the Routine Cure course and keep your days organized and running smoothly  👉 Check out my YouTube channel Connect with me on social media:🔹 TikTok 🔹 Instagram 🔹 Facebook Calm the Chaos Parenting is a podcast offering parents practical tools and strategies to navigate the challenges of raising strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodivergent children.🎧 Follow us on your favorite platform so you never miss an episode!

EPISODE 7: Imagine a world where parenting isn't like playing an endless game of Whack-a-Mole, where you're not constantly bouncing from one struggle to the next. Sounds too good to be true? Well, this week, we're here to tell you it's actually possible.In this episode, we're diving into the Ahead of the Moment stage of the Family Road Map. It's all about leaving reactive parenting behind and stepping into the realm of proactive strategies and empowerment.The point is to shift our perspective and become true collaborators and partners with our children. Throughout the earlier stages, we've learned the importance of staying calm, shifting our mindset, saving our energy, and weathering storms together.But now, it's time to level up!In this stage, we're done with constantly extinguishing fires and arguing about shoes, electronics, and bike rides. It's time to get strategic. We're becoming problem-solving sidekicks, guides, and mentors instead of mere disciplinarians.Because here's the thing: in this stage, we're not just parenting — we're empowering, guiding, and nurturing our kids' growth.The real beauty of this stage lies in equipping children with the skills to navigate life, communicate effectively, and advocate for themselves.It's a game-changer, really. They learn to understand their own needs and find constructive ways to express them, how to problem solve, be compassionate, and truly listen to others.So tune in, and let’s prevent challenging behaviors before they even appear. Get ready to be ahead of the moment! Key Takeaways:Intro (00:00)Dayna caused a ruckus on her Facebook page (00:57)Today’s topic: Getting ahead of challenging behaviors (07:12)The big D word - discipline (10:42)How to approach a bad situation in a leadership way (12:36)Bedtime routine challenges (16:40)The 4-step ahead-of-the-moment plan (21:05)You (22:04)Connect (24:48)Understand (30:12)Empower (34:29)Recap (41:43)Additional resources:🔍 Check out my website 📖 Pre-order your copy of Calm The Chaos Book 🗓️ Take the Routine Cure course and keep your days organized and running smoothly 👉 Check out my YouTube channel Connect with me on social media:🔹 TikTok 🔹 Instagram 🔹 Facebook Calm the Chaos Parenting is a podcast offering parents practical tools and strategies to navigate the challenges of raising strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodivergent children.🎧 Follow us on your favorite platform so you never miss an episode!

EPISODE 6: What is the best way to quickly defuse your child's challenging behavior in the heat of the moment?Yelling at them? Punishing them? Locking them in their room? Nah, that's not the way to go, although a surprising number of experts advise using such measures to set strict limits and insist on staying consistent no matter what. They make it seem like if you’re a gentle parent, your kids are going to walk all over you and have no rules. But using these methods, you’ll only add fuel to the fire. And the point is NOT TO make things worse in those intense situations.I've actually been using an alternative approach for a while now, and guess what? It works! Not just for me but for countless families I've shared it with.This system has nothing to do with quick hacks or tricks you've seen scrolling Pinterest, TikTok, or Instagram. Here at Home the Chaos, we're all about creating lasting change.So how do we do that?I've created the concept of in-the-moment 4-step plans grounded on our You-Cue framework. And in this episode, we’re going to show you how to handle tantrums, outbursts, and meltdowns while staying connected with your kid.What’s the secret?The more of these in-the-moment plans you create, the more valuable experience you'll gain, and become better at calming the chaos while empowering your child.And here's the best part - you'll also learn to predict and prevent challenging behaviors before they even happen.So tune in, and let's tackle this together, one step at a time!Key Takeaways:We're NOT supposed to make kids cry (00:00)Family Road Map, Stage 3 - The Calm at the Center of the Storm (03:07)In the heat of the moment, it’s never the time to ignore or fix (05:20)Common situations of challenging behaviors (08:38)4-step in-the-moment plan (15:11)You - swapping the thought monsters (16:11)Connect - get closer and lower (22:27)Understand - identifying root causes of outward behavior in children (26:14)Empower - knowing ahead of time what you're going to say/do/provide (34:49)Recap (37:50)Additional resources:👉 Learn the system 100k+ parents use to Calm the Chaos 🔍 Check out my website 📖 Pre-order your copy of Calm The Chaos Book 🗓️ Take the Routine Cure course and keep your days organized and running smoothly  👉 Check out my YouTube channel Connect with me on social media:🔹 TikTok 🔹 Instagram 🔹 Facebook Calm the Chaos Parenting is a podcast offering parents practical tools and strategies to navigate the challenges of raising strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodivergent children.🎧 Follow us on your favorite platform so you never miss an episode!

EPISODE 5: What if I told you that you could have all the energy you need to handle anything your kids throw at you, and you could do it in just five minutes a day? Would you believe me?I don't blame you. Five years ago, I wouldn't have believed it myself.What I remember from that period (actually, I can picture it almost like it was yesterday) was standing in front of the mirror, looking at myself, and not recognizing the person staring back at me.Wrinkles, gray hairs, dark circles under my eyes, and a faint odor all seemed to confirm that I had lost myself. Later I realized that this is a common experience for parents of challenging children.When you have a challenging kiddo, on top of everything else in your life, the first thing to go is you. I feel for all of you struggling with these things today. I know there are millions of you who feel like they're spiraling out of control and think this is happening only to your family. But believe me - there is a way out. You can take baby steps every day to eventually calm the chaos.In this week's episode, we're going to share a plan to create enough time and energy in just five minutes a day.It's not about completely overhauling your day or going away for weekends to rejuvenate. It's about building small daily habits that can re-energize you and boost your energy so that you have enough to handle anything your family throws at you.Join us as we’ll be walking through the second stage of the Calm The Chaos Road Map (Energy Reserves) to show you that you don't need to wake up exhausted and dreading the day ahead.Tune in and start reclaiming your life today.Key Takeaways:I didn’t recognize myself in the mirror (00:00)The Road Map stage that everyone tries to skip (03:57)Thinking about yourself first is NOT selfish (06:48)How stress affects executive functioning (09:36)How the five-minute plan works (13:19)You-Cue of the five-minute energy plan (17:05)You - clearing your head (19:23)Connect - connecting with another adult (27:43)Understand - your energy boosts and drains (29:45)Empower - taking care of your body (32:16)Recap (34:32)Additional resources:👉 Learn the system 100k+ parents use to Calm the Chaos 🔍 Check out my website 📖 Pre-order your copy of Calm The Chaos Book 🗓️ Take the Routine Cure course and keep your days organized and running smoothly 👉 Check out my YouTube channel Connect with me on social media:🔹 TikTok 🔹 Instagram 🔹 Facebook - - -- Visit Seth Perler’s website - Check out Voxer App - Check out Marco Polo App - - -Calm the Chaos Parenting is a podcast offering parents practical tools and strategies to navigate the challenges of raising strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodivergent children.🎧 Follow us on your favorite platform so you never miss an episode!

EPISODE 4: Facing the most challenging behavior of your child is a devastating experience for any parent. In those moments, it's normal to feel afraid, hopeless, embarrassed, or even angry. In one of such moments, I thought Jason would divorce me… Seriously - after an epic fight, he took our daughter and drove off to his parents’ place. However, we soon realized that it’s crucial not to let these emotions take over. Because it obviously doesn’t lead to anything good.In life, we cannot avoid storms like this one. You are going to deal with your kids' meltdowns, arguments with your spouse, having your teenager screaming "I hate you" and breaking things, and other challenging situations. However, we can prepare for them and get through them with minimal damage. Therefore, in this week’s episode, I am sharing a 4-step ride-the-storm plan that can help you survive the eye of the storm and remain calm during epic tantrums, outbursts, and meltdowns.Developing this plan using the Calm the Chaos Framework can help you prepare for inevitable challenges and keep everyone safe and connected.We will show you how to create a plan for surviving tough moments, whether it's a fight over electronics, a disagreement with your spouse, or having both of your kids in a knock-down fight. Tune in and find out how this plan can help you weather the storm and emerge stronger on the other side. Let’s dive in!Key Takeaways:The day that I thought our marriage was over (00:00)Creating a ride-the-storm plan (02:29)What does survival mode look like? (04:23)Stage one - survive the storm (07:15)Four steps of You-Cue to follow (13:07)Recap (30:16)Additional resources:🔍 Check out my website 📖 Pre-order your copy of Calm The Chaos Book 🗓️ Take the Routine Cure course and keep your days organized and running smoothly 👉 Check out my YouTube channel Connect with me on social media:🔹 TikTok 🔹 Instagram 🔹 Facebook Calm the Chaos Parenting is a podcast offering parents practical tools and strategies to navigate the challenges of raising strong-willed, highly sensitive, and neurodivergent children.🎧 Follow us on your favorite platform so you never miss an episode!