When does our rage feel compelling, not repelling? After Part 3 of the podcast series went live II received messages like this: “Hearing this unlocked something in me…” “You awoke an anger inside of me I’ve been swallowing, and made it feel okay to let it out…” “This was a holy rage and it was exciting, inviting even, to witness, thank you…”   I had been nervous to release that episode, but it turns out the lack of filter was deeply needed.  Today we’ll break down 6 elements to consider that increase our chances of being heard and honored when we speak up with passion. And what I realize in hindsight was the recipe to why the Part 3 episode felt so raw yet so safe for you to hear   Links mentioned in this episode: What Makes Women Feel Beautiful is coming this June!   Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share the links above + tag me so I can thank you + hear what spoke to you!  

You requested this episode, submitting follow-up Q’s you had after listening to parts 1-3.   Today I’m answering your Q’s including: How do you move on after that level of betrayal? How many books are ghostwritten? Have you heard from anyone involved since it went live? I also talk about how to: Know when it’s better to fight, or walk away (even if you know you’re right) Get closure Honor yourself/others who’ve been through something hard, without defining them as victims, but their whole selves  Links mentioned in this episode: Share the series this series to help someone else at HilaryRushford.com/BookStory Read a free excerpt of the book at that link too What Makes Women Feel Beautiful is coming this June! Get on the waitlist to hear first at HilaryRushford.com/BeautifulWaitlist Instagram reels on 05/22: I feel bad I don’t have a happy encouraging ending for you   If you’re an author or in the publishing industry and want to share your experience after listening, write to me privately at [email protected] All correspondence will remain anonymous.  Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share the links above + tag me so I can thank you + hear what spoke to you!  

You’ve known gaslighting, rage at disorganization or disrespect, or a traumatic work/community experience.   Today I’ll share 7 action ideas to help us protect ourselves in the present or future, those in our inner circle, and more broadly our culture. Use this cheat sheet to journal, discuss, and reflect what you’ll do in this season to grow 10% better, leaving you more empowered + confident:   Identify what you loathe in the situation. Anything else you can try to make this better, or accept it’s to get out or worth it to stay Pour into your self-aware confidence Heal your burnout (new resources coming this summer at HilaryRushford.com/burnout) Share your story Be a safe person Join a movement   Links mentioned in this episode:   *** JOIN THE WAITLIST: hear when What Makes Women Feel Beautiful is coming this June at HilaryRushford.com/BeautifulWaitlist *** Brightlings BookCamp for Girls (what I gifted my niece) Instagram post on wishing I had a happy ending to encourage you   Would love to hear your thoughts after on Instagram @HilaryRushford. If you think this would help someone you know please share and tag me so I can see + chime in! If this episode helped you or someone you know, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review. They mean so much to creators!  

I want to say it gets better.  In life I’ve really found that to be true. In romantic relationships, homes, friends, employees. But sometimes it gets worse first. How do you know when it’s time to walk away from a dream? From everything you’ve invested, with nothing–less than nothing, far far less than what you started with? You know it when it happens. The final straw.  HEADS UP: This is a very raw, salty, cursing, no holding back episode.   Links mentioned in this episode: Read the Introduction Chapter of “What Makes Women Feel Beautiful” that you heard the editor’s feedback on in the episode at HilaryRushford.com/Chapter. Want to hear what’s coming in June? Enter your email for the book download and you’ll be invited to the garden, blooming soon. Share this series and read an exclusive chapter of What Makes Women Feel Beautiful at HilaryRushford.com/BookStory.   If you do so on Instagram tag me @HilaryRushford so I can thank you for doing what I wish someone had done for me, and/or hear what parts spoke to you the most. If you’re an author or in the publishing industry and want to share your experience after listening, write to me privately at [email protected] All correspondence will remain anonymous.  If this episode helped you or someone you know, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review. They mean so much to creators!  

In 2011 I started a business as a stylist. I’d moved to New York City for my career in theater after a Broadway tour, Radio City Rockettes, and all that jazz.   [The below timeline is not covered in the episode and included here for backstory.]   In 2014 a friend who worked at a top publisher told me that my style course, “had to be a book.” She’d told everyone in her office my principles and they were using them daily–women needed this. I told her that sounded like a lot of work for very little money. We were both right.   In 2016 I began writing the book in fits and starts, always “let’s just get through one more launch, just a little more income so we aren’t burned out and *then* I’ll write the book.”   By 2020 I decided *then* was never going to come. I had to take the leap. I hired a book coach and in 2021 they introduced me to a top agent. My book went to auction and my dream was coming true.   For a year I absolutely adored the writing process (which most authors bemoan) yet was traumatized by the publishing process (which I had never heard anyone mention–as explained in the episode now I know why.) One year later, and it was all for nothing.   Worse, it almost cost me everything.   This is part 2 of 3 in sharing that story. Please begin with last week’s Part 1: Silent vs Silenced.    This is a story of creative and financial heartbreak, shared to protect others from it.    It’s the episodes I have wish I had heard from just one person, to have any idea what I was risking when I decided 7 years ago that maybe I would in fact like to write a book.   Links mentioned in this episode: March 2021 texts about securing literary agents April 2021 video explaining what that validation meant + the respect I instantly attached to them (Instagram is awkward for long videos so you can also listen on YouTube) June 2021 official author celebration The first time I “saw” my book in my local bookstore. (Wild this was so long ago I was still wearing a mask for everyday errands.) Want to learn how I survived this season without burning out? Join the wait list for new free resources coming this summer.   Share this series and read an exclusive chapter of What Makes Women Feel Beautiful in Part 3 at HilaryRushford.com/BookStory.   If you know any author, creative, or aspiring this could bless, please share it with them and if you do so on Instagram tag me @HilaryRushford so I can thank you for doing what I wish someone had done for me. If you’re an author and want to share your experience after listening to next week’s final episode (I understand the desire to share with someone who can relate), DM above or write [email protected] All correspondence will of course remain anonymous..    If this episode helped you or someone you know, I’d be so grateful if you’d leave a review. They mean so much to creators!