The Black Mother Wound Podcast

• Ep 066: Answering Listener Mother Wound Questions

  Hey! Click here to send me a message to tell me how much you love the podcast or suggest an episode topic.Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.***************************************How we can stay connected and work together!1. Grab my free mini-course2.  Work with me one-on-one***************************************Many of us carry pain from our mothers that runs deep. It’s a kind of hurt that isn’t easy to fix with quick answers or easy fixes. Healing from the Black mother wound means facing that pain head-on and learning to care for ourselves in a new way.It starts with being kind to the little girl inside us who’s been hurt and shamed. Too often, we punish that inner child by talking to ourselves harshly or expecting perfection. But real healing is about letting her know it’s okay to make mistakes and that she’s worthy of care no matter what.This wound can also show up in how we handle money and relationships. Sometimes, because of how our mothers treated us, we don’t trust ourselves to be in charge. Money feels scary, and trusting others feels risky. But healing means taking back that power and learning to say “no” when something doesn’t feel safe.At the end of the day, healing this wound is about loving yourself fiercely, setting clear boundaries, and being patient with the process. It’s about freeing yourself from shame and walking boldly into your true self. You deserve that love. You owe that to yourself.In this episode of the Black Mother Wound podcast, I answer some of the most asked questions from listeners. I share how my relationship with my mother shaped my views on money, identity, and body image. I also talk about setting healthy boundaries and healing from old wounds. Join me for honest, healing conversations about the Black mother wound and finding freedom beyond it.Topics Covered:(00:00:00) Episode Snippet(00:00:15) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast(00:03:14) Q1: Can non-Black women relate to the Black Mother Wound?(00:05:13) Q2: How does the Black Mother Wound affect finances? (Book Link: https://amzn.to/4luh3YE)(00:07:42) Q3: How do we punish our inner little girl?(00:10:45) Loving her no matter what(00:11:41) Q4: What does our birth story reveal about the mother wound?(00:13:02) Q5: Has your mother sabotaged your romantic relationships?(00:16:13) You can change the access(00:16:44) Q6: How do you develop your own identity apart from your mother?(00:21:48) Q7: How has your mother shaped your views on body, sexuality, fertility, and parenting?(00:24:13) What's wrong with my body? (00:26:55) Why I feared my mother more than menKey Takeaways: "The number one thing you’re going to have to do in developing your own identity is disappoint her."DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treaClick here to learn more about my private coaching program.Support the showFollow me on IG @blackmotherwound

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• Ep 065: Stop Lettin’ Folks Play in Your Face

  Hey! Click here to send me a message to tell me how much you love the podcast or suggest an episode topic.Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.***************************************How we can stay connected and work together!1. Grab my free mini-course2.  Work with me one-on-one***************************************Many of us play games with others thinking it helps us keep peace. But those games don’t heal the wounds, especially the deep ones from our mothers. Healing means something real: reclaiming your authority and being loyal to yourself above all else.It means setting firm boundaries so no one can disrespect you or “play in your face.” Real safety starts inside, where your own care and approval come first. If you don’t protect yourself, no one else will. Loyalty to yourself can’t be only when it’s easy; it has to be unconditional.Too many let others disrespect them just to avoid conflict, but that peace comes at a cost: your happiness and dignity. Let others be upset if they want. You have to be your own protector.Healing your mother wound is a lifestyle of self-loyalty. It brings peace, freedom, and joy. So stop letting people play games with you. Stand up, set boundaries, and protect your peace. You deserve that. You owe that to yourself.In this episode, I want to share with you what healing really looks like when it starts with being loyal to yourself. We’ll talk about setting strong boundaries, recognizing when you’re betraying yourself, and how to stop letting others play in your face. I’ll also share why healing your mother wound is a lifestyle and why loyalty to yourself is the foundation for real peace and ease in your life. If you’ve been playing nice at the expense of your own well-being, this episode will help you reclaim your power, one bold choice at a time.Topics Covered:(00:00:00) Episode Snippet(00:00:20) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast(00:01:34) Living with ease is a mindset(00:04:30) Real ease comes from loyalty to self(00:06:27) Approval isn’t safety(00:10:06) Be willing to be alone(00:11:26) How about YOU showing up for yourself first?(00:13:13) Where do I betray myself?(00:15:27) Healing is a lifestyle(00:16:39) You are a resource(00:19:04) Stop tolerating relationships that make you unsafe(00:21:01) Prostitution is a self-betrayal (00:22:56) Protect yourself without apology.(00:24:00) Ruffle all the feathersKey Takeaways: "Safety really starts with the relationship you have with yourself.""You will betray and abandon yourself in a heartbeat for someone else, for something else, and that is because you have no sense of loyalty to yourself."DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and basedClick here to learn more about my private coaching program.Support the showFollow me on IG @blackmotherwound

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• Ep 064: You're Not a Burden

  Hey! Click here to send me a message to tell me how much you love the podcast or suggest an episode topic.Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.***************************************How we can stay connected and work together!1. Grab my free mini-course2.  Work with me one-on-one***************************************Many of us grew up feeling unwanted, like our very being was too much, like our presence took up space that no one wanted to give. Sometimes, it began at home. Sometimes, it was the way our mother looked at us, spoke to us, or ignored us. And slowly, that feeling settled in. A quiet, heavy shame that followed us everywhere.But a feeling is not a fact.Carrying the belief that you're a burden makes life heavier. It pushes you away from connection, even when your heart aches for it. That’s why healing begins with truth. You were never too much. You were never the problem. You were a child in need of care, safety, and love. And that love begins with you.You are not a burden. You are worthy of love, of rest, of joy, and of being known and welcomed. It is never too late to believe that.In this episode, we talk about feeling like a burden and how it hurts our self-worth. Healing starts when we comfort the little child inside us who felt alone and unwanted. You’ll learn how to love yourself more and find places where you truly belong. Tune in to discover simple steps to feel safe, grow, and shine as your true self."Feeling like a burden is a burden. It is a weight that you carry and it makes it impossible for you to show up as your true self."– Jennifer ArniseTopics Covered:(00:00:00) Episode Snippet(00:00:11) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast(00:03:06) Acknowledge your lived experience(00:06:09) The shame of being a burden runs deep(00:08:00) To my little inner girl: You matter(00:10:05) Hyper-independence is rooted in fear of not belonging(00:12:05) How to reset your mindset(00:14:10) Let yourself be seen, even in small ways(00:16:23) Nobody can abandon me (00:18:03) Stop over-performing to earn love(00:20:33) Your only job is to take care of yourself(00:22:04) Reparent your inner child(00:25:17) Not an entitlement, but a healthy self-esteem(00:26:40) Show up for your inner child consistently(00:27:07) You deserve all good thingsKey Takeaways:  "Your only job is to take care of yourself. It is to go in and lick your wounds and soothe yourself and find the comfort that you deserve."DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions are my own and based on my personal lived experience.Connect on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackmotherwound Click here to learn more about my private coaching program.Support the showFollow me on IG @blackmotherwound

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• Ep 063: Give Yourself Permission to Do the New Thing

  Hey! Click here to send me a message to tell me how much you love the podcast or suggest an episode topic.💬 Episode SummaryHey sis. This week’s episode is a heart-to-heart. I’m showing up a little late (your girl’s flying solo on production), and I’m letting you know we’re taking a June break from full episodes.But this episode is the one if you’ve ever felt like you needed permission to enjoy your life. I talk about healing through joy, how play is part of reparenting, and how that self-doubt you feel isn’t truth—it’s programming.If you've been stuck in “who am I to…?” energy, this one’s your reminder that you don’t need permission. Just go.⏱️ Time-Stamped Chapters[01:55] Late But Here Why this episode dropped late and how juggling travel, RESOLVE, and podcasting is a lot—but I’m still showing up.[02:21] June Break Ahead Announcing the June hiatus and encouraging you to catch up on past episodes during this time.[02:50] Go Back and Listen Again The wisdom hits different the second time—revisit older episodes and notice what new truths show up.[03:19] Mulch & Memorial Day A quick life update: mulch delivery, gardening joy, and stepping into something new just for me.[04:09] This Week’s Topic: Permission This episode centers around giving yourself permission to do something new—something joyful and healing.[06:36] Recognizing Internalized Voices I name the internal voice of doubt and realize—it’s my mother’s. That programming still lingers, even during joy.[08:21] Joy Is Part of Healing Expression and play are not extra—they're medicine. Depression lifts when we start to express and explore joy.[10:49] Creating New Data Healing means gathering evidence through experience—doing things that build trust in yourself, even when it’s scary.[12:46] Redefining Without Permission When no one gave you the authority to be you, you’ve got to crown yourself. That’s where the grief and power collide.[14:13] From Doubt to Knowing The inner “I don’t know anything” voice is a lie. And we prove it wrong by doing the damn thing—again and again.[15:36] The Grief of Becoming Becoming yourself brings grief too—letting go of old identities that were never really yours to begin with.[16:55] What You Never Got Doing joyful things can feel humiliating when you’ve never had someone affirm your desires. That’s real—and it hurts.[17:53] Feel It to Heal It All those feelings you avoid? They surface through new experiences. That’s how healing works. It’s not optional.[18:41] You’re Not Out of Place Imposter syndrome isn’t about the room—it’s about old wounds. You’re not out of place. You’re just stretching.[20:02] Community Normalizes Your Joy Find your people. Whether it's gardening or anything else, being around folks who reflect your joy back to you matters.[21:29] Collect Evidence That You’re Enough Every new, joyful thing you try is proof that you’re not who they said you were. That’s how we break the cycle.[21:59] You’re Not Alone This healing journey can feel lonely. But I promise—you are not alone. This podcast is proof.[22:58] Do It Just for You Try something that feels good for you—even if it’s “frivolous.” Capitalism liClick here to learn more about my private coaching program.Support the showFollow me on IG @blackmotherwound

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• Ep 062: How to Keep Your Heart Open When You’ve Been Hurt So Much

  Hey! Click here to send me a message to tell me how much you love the podcast or suggest an episode topic.Ask me anything about healing your mother wound and I’ll answer it on the podcast. Click here to ask.***************************************How we can stay connected and work together!1. Join the RESOLVE course waitlist2. Grab my free mini-course3. Work with me one-on-one***************************************Healing from deep wounds is never easy, especially when those wounds come from our closest relationships, like the one with our mother. It’s tempting to avoid the pain or push it aside, but real healing starts when we take a brave step to look deeper at our struggles.When we allow ourselves to feel sad, angry, or confused, we begin to understand what we need. This is when healing really starts. It is okay to feel pain and not pretend everything is fine. Taking care of the hurt child inside us is very important. This little part of us was hurt and needs love. When we give ourselves that love, we can begin to feel better.Everyone’s healing is different, but it always begins when we stop hiding our pain and start loving ourselves. That is when we can find real peace.In this episode, I talk about why healing can’t happen if we ignore our emotions. Many of us try to fix the outside without looking at what’s really going on inside. I share why it’s so important to express your feelings through words, art, movement, or whatever works for you. If you’ve ever felt unseen, like you’ve been carrying sadness without knowing why, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about the power of expression, creativity, and facing those big emotions head-on."You can only start to understand where you are and what needs to be healed in you when you decide to express in whatever way that is for you."– Jennifer ArniseTopics Covered:(00:00:00) Episode Snippet(00:00:20) Welcome to The Black Mother Wound Podcast(00:00:42) Last chance to join the “Resolve” healing class(00:01:44) My June summer break(00:04:05) Express yourself creatively(00:07:12) Face your big feelings(00:08:03) You cannot know enough(00:11:17) Your inner child needs love, not lessons(00:16:22) Focus on the root(00:20:00) Denying your inner child is a form of shaming her(00:22:36) Come back for her (00:24:10) Tell me podcast ideas(00:28:27) Be good to yourselfKey Takeaways: "The opposite of depression is not happiness, it's expression.""Doing your inner child reparenting work is directly aligned with tapping into those emotions.""If you're not dealing with your inner little girl's emotions, then you're not re-parenting and you're not healing."DISCLAIMER: I am not a licensed psychologist, medical doctor, or health care professional and my services do not replace the care of psychologists, doctors or other healthcare professionals. All opinions expressed here are my own. If you feel you are in any danger of harming yourself please call 911. I am not providing health care, medical or nutritional therapy services, or attempting to diagnose, treat, prevent or cure any physical, mental or emotional issue, disease or condition. All opinions Click here to learn more about my private coaching program.Support the showFollow me on IG @blackmotherwound

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