The Biology of Trauma® With Dr. Aimie

• Why You Always Feel Responsible for Everything and What Your Body Is Really Trying to Tell You

  Do you carry everyone else's emotions like they're your personal responsibility? What if that crushing weight isn't your personality, but your nervous system still running on childhood survival biology? When you feel like everything depends on you - fixing problems, managing emotions, preventing disasters - your body is operating from what I call protection mode. This isn't about being caring or responsible. It's complex PTSD showing up as hyperresponsibility, and there's specific biology behind why your nervous system won't trust others to handle anything. Think of protection mode like living with an internal security system that never turns off. Your shoulders stay braced, your nervous system scans for problems to solve, and you exhaust yourself trying to control outcomes that aren't actually yours to manage. Meanwhile, everyone else seems to relax while you carry the mental load. In this Biology Behind It mini episode, I break down the highlights from Episode 136, explaining why adults who experienced childhood chaos still live with their hearts protected and an exhausting need to manage everyone else's stability. You'll hear more on: Why neuroception (your body's background safety calculator) still reads danger signals everywhere How protection mode creates the physiology of chronic responsibility and hypervigilance The hidden costs of living protected: sleep issues, chronic fatigue, muscle tension, and autoimmune problems Why you can't be in protection mode AND connection mode simultaneously - they're opposite physiological states How childhood experiences of "I never want to feel that way again" create lasting protection patterns The difference between telling yourself you're safe versus creating actual inner safety Why waiting for someone else to make you feel secure keeps you stuck in survival biology Practical somatic approaches to shift from protection mode to authentic safety Whether you're the person everyone calls when things fall apart or you're supporting someone whose strength might actually be stored trauma, this episode reveals why your nervous system refuses to let others take responsibility. I give you the roadmap back to trusting life enough to finally let your guard down. 🎧 Want the full deep-dive? Listen to Episode 136: "Why You Always Feel Responsible for Everything: Hidden Signs of Complex PTSD from Childhood" for the complete framework on recognizing protection patterns and creating the inner safety your body needs to finally relax.

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• Why You Always Feel Responsible for Everything: Hidden Signs of Complex PTSD from Childhood with Dr. Tian Dayton

  Many adults struggle with patterns they can't explain: feeling responsible for everything, working harder than everyone else without realizing it, or getting triggered by chaos even when their current life is stable. They might find intimacy difficult, feel disconnected from their emotions, or notice their nervous system going into overdrive in situations that don't seem threatening. What they don't realize is that these patterns often trace back to growing up in chaotic environments where they had to become the adult in the room as a child. The truth is, when children are forced to take on adult responsibilities - managing emotions, solving problems, or keeping the family together - it rewires their nervous system in ways that show up decades later as chronic overwhelm, relationship difficulties, and an inability to recognize their own limits. In this episode, Dr. Tian Dayton joins Dr. Aimie to explore how early relational trauma and chaotic family dynamics create lasting patterns in our nervous system. You'll discover why traditional talk therapy often isn't enough for trauma resolution, how movement and body-based approaches can complete what words cannot, and why environments like 12-step programs can create the perfect container for nervous system healing. You'll hear about: [2:00] The hidden signs of early relational trauma and why chaos is so hard to identify [5:30] How children adapt to become "project managers" in dysfunctional families [8:00] Why some people feel like the "crazy one" while others become the "uptight one" [9:00] Understanding "thwarted intention" and how it creates emotional blocks in adulthood [12:00] How sense memory gets triggered in relationships and intimacy [14:00] The critical importance of early touch and bonding for nervous system development [18:00] When nervous systems "freeze" and brace for danger with intimate partners [21:00] Why 12-step programs create ideal conditions for trauma healing [27:30] The power of "limbic baths" and co-regulated nervous system states [32:00] How "act hunger" and movement help complete unresolved trauma responses [35:00] Why the body needs catharsis and energy release for true healing Whether you're recognizing your own patterns from a chaotic childhood, supporting someone who grew up in dysfunction, or you're a practitioner working with clients who have early relational trauma, this episode provides both the understanding and practical approaches needed to break generational cycles and create lasting healing. Dr. Tian Dayton is a leading expert in psychodrama therapy have developed her approach of Relational Trauma Repair and is the author of numerous books on trauma, addiction, and family dynamics.  Helpful Links Related To This Episode Resources/Guides: Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you’ll get over $350 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window (before Sept 23).  Foundational Journey - If you want to be guided through The Essential Sequence laid out in my book, join me and my team for this 6 week journey into your inner world to create calm aliveness with somatic and parts healing practices. This lays the foundation to do the deeper work safely. These are a specific sequence of 42 different daily practices I have found that change one’s biology and health symptoms the fastest. Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 45: Can Adoption or Childhood Trauma Cause Bipolar Disorder? with Dr. Christina Bjorndal Episode 48: How to Heal Bracing and Hypervigilance with Cat Dillon Episode 58: Parenting in a Traumatizing World: The answer Our Children Need with Dr. Gordon Neufeld Episode 73: Early Attachment Shocks: How Unexpected Stressors Can Cause Developmental Trauma & What To Do Related Youtube Videos:  What You Need First Before Processing Your Childhood Trauma | Dr. Aimie Apigian Early Relationships Shape Biology: Attachment Insights | Dr. Aimie Apigian   Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.   Comment Etiquette:  I would love to hear your thoughts on this episode! Please share your constructive feedback by using personal name or initials so that we can keep this space spam-free, and let's keep the discussion positive!  

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• Why Strong People Get Sick: The Connection Between Childhood Trauma and Chronic Illness

  Being praised for strength or handling everything so well might seem like a positive thing. But what if those compliments aren't celebrating resilience, but actually highlighting stored trauma masquerading as strength? Being called resilient might be one of the most dangerous compliments you've received. True resilience flows from safety and support, but trauma resilience is your nervous system running on emergency biology that will eventually make you sick. In this mini episode, Dr. Aimie goes into the biology behind the difference between healthy resilience and trauma resilience. She explains why the child who never complains and the adult who never misses work despite chaos are running on trauma biology that leads to chronic illness decades later. You'll hear more on: The two types of resilience and why only one is actually healthy How trauma biology creates leaky gut, inflammation, and autoimmune responses Why your nervous system is actually stuck in survival mode The connection between adverse childhood experiences and adult chronic illness How stored trauma shows up as digestive issues, fatigue, brain fog, and autoimmunity Why traditional stress management doesn't work for trauma biology What needs to be repaired in order to start building authentic resilience  Whether you're the person everyone calls mature for your age or supporting someone whose strength might be stored trauma, this episode gives you practical tools to move from functioning in survival mode to building authentic resilience from a place of safety and support.  🎧 Want the full deep-dive? Listen to Episode 135: The Hidden Difference Between Stress and Trauma for the complete framework on understanding how your body keeps the score.  

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• The Hidden Difference Between Stress and Trauma In How The Body Keeps Score

  Most people think stress and trauma are just different points on the same scale. But what if that belief has kept people stuck in cycles of chronic illness, autoimmune flare-ups, and emotional overwhelm? Many people are doing everything "right." They’re eating well, exercising, going to therapy, yet they still struggle with gut issues, brain fog, anxiety, and fatigue that won't go away. They can't understand why their body seems to be working against them instead of healing. In this episode, Dr. Aimie reveals the crucial difference between stress and trauma, and why understanding this distinction changes everything about how you heal. She explains how unresolved trauma gets stored in the body and creates a biology of trauma that keeps your nervous system stuck in survival mode. You'll discover why trauma doesn't have to be "big" to be significant, how it shows up as chronic health conditions decades later, and the repair tools that address trauma at the emotional, somatic, and cellular levels, creating accelerated healing that single approaches cannot. You'll hear more on: [2:30] The simple question that reveals childhood trauma you may have downplayed [6:45]  How chronic conditions like autoimmunity follow predictable trauma patterns [9:00]  What happens during nervous system shifts and why they affect your whole body [15:30]  How brain inflammation fuels “body trauma loops” that keep you stuck [19:44] Why brain inflammation is part of your trauma response (and how to recognize it!) [25:00] The three levels of repair needed for lasting trauma healing [27:30] How generational trauma passes through epigenetics (and how to break the cycle) [30:15]  The #1 thing to prioritize for nervous system regulation and recovery [32:45] Daily habits that increase resilience, healing capacity, and overall well-being Whether you're personally dealing with chronic health issues and unresolved trauma, or you're a practitioner helping clients understand the mind-body connection, this episode provides the scientific framework and practical tools you need to start addressing trauma at all levels and create lasting healing.     Resources/Guides: Biology of Trauma book - how the body experiences and holds fear, pain and overwhelm, and how to heal. Pre-order now and, at the time of this recording, you’ll get over $400 in bonuses included! Those bonuses are only for the pre-order window which goes until Sept 22, 2025. Essential Sequence Guide - Discover why doing the right things in the right order is key to releasing trauma and achieving your full potential. Get the insights you need to make lasting change. Foundational Journey - If you want to be guided through The Essential Sequence laid out in the Roadmap and the book, join me and my team for this 6 week journey into your inner world with practical somatic and parts self-practices to lay your foundation to do the deeper work safely. These are the daily practices I have found that change one’s biology and health symptoms the fastest. Related Podcast Episodes: Episode 48:How To Heal Bracing And Hypervigilance with Cat Dillon Episode 122: Shutdown Before Stress: The Misstep in Trauma Healing That Often Gets Missed Related Youtube Videos:  Stress vs. Trauma: What's the Difference? | Dr. Aimie Apigian   Disclaimer: By listening to this podcast, you agree not to use this podcast as medical, psychological, or mental health advice to treat any medical or psychological condition in yourself or others. This podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and does not constitute professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always consult your own physician, therapist, psychiatrist, or other qualified health provider regarding any physical or mental health issues you may be experiencing. This entire disclaimer also applies to any guests or contributors to the podcast. Under no circumstances shall Trauma Healing Accelerated, any guests or contributors to The Biology of Trauma® podcast, or any employees, associates, or affiliates of Trauma Healing Accelerated be responsible for damages arising from the use or misuse of the content provided in this podcast.  

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• Why Your Brain Shuts Down Over Cereal and What to Do About It

  Have you ever been so mentally drained that even choosing breakfast cereal felt impossible? It’s not just that you’re being indecisive. It’s decision fatigue, and it’s your nervous system’s way of saying your nervous system capacity is running low. Think of nervous system capacity like an internal energy bank account. Every decision, big or small, is a withdrawal. When that account is empty, even simple choices can feel like climbing a mountain. Your brain hits “insufficient funds,” and suddenly you’re overwhelmed. In this Biology Behind It mini episode, Dr. Aimie responds to a listener  who shared his embarrassing moment of having to leave the grocery store because choosing cereal felt impossible! This question opens the door to understanding decision fatigue, neuroception, and why our survival system treats every choice as a potential threat. You'll hear more on: Why every decision is a withdrawal from your capacity account Why your nervous system doesn't distinguish between small and big decisions What happens when your energy reserves can't meet the demands you're facing How attachment filters from early life determine which decisions drain more energy than others Why low energy triggers trauma biology and chronic functional freeze Practical strategies to reduce decision fatigue Whether you're struggling with decision overwhelm or supporting someone experiencing these "adult meltdowns," this episode helps you understand why small decisions can feel impossible and gives you concrete tools to build your capacity back up. 🎧 Want the full deep-dive? Listen to Episode 134: "The Biology of Overwhelm: Why Small Demands Feel Impossible" for the complete framework on building your energy reserves and capacity account.  

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