The Art of Raising Humans

Why can the child who is most like you also be the one who pushes your buttons the fastest?
 
Maybe their anxiety, sensitivity, stubbornness, big emotions, or need for control feels painfully familiar. Without realizing it, parents can begin reacting to their own past instead of responding to the child in front of them.
 
In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara explore why familiar traits can feel so triggering and how parents can interrupt old patterns without blaming themselves or trying to fix their child. They share a brain based, relationship first way to grow in awareness, regulate in the hard moments, and give your child the safety and guidance you may have needed too.
 
In this conversation, you’ll learn:
Why your child’s behavior can activate old fears, memories, and pressure
How to notice when you are parenting from a trigger instead of the present moment
Why understanding yourself helps you respond to your child with more calm and connection
How to break unhealthy family patterns while still setting clear, confident limits
 
Your child does not need a perfect parent. They need a parent willing to pause, get curious, and choose a new path.
 
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Have you ever worried that you missed your chance to build a secure attachment with your child? Or wondered why your child shuts down, becomes clingy, or struggles to bring their emotions to you?
 
In this episode, Kyle and Sara talk with licensed professional counselor and attachment expert Eli Harwood, also known as The Attachment Nerd, about what secure attachment really looks like and how parents can strengthen it at any age.
 
Eli explains why attachment is not about perfect parenting or avoiding conflict. It is about becoming a safe, steady person your child can turn to when life feels hard—and a secure base from which they can confidently explore the world.
 
In this conversation, you’ll discover:
What the four attachment patterns can reveal about a child’s behavior
Why responding to emotions does not make children weak or overly dependent
How one secure relationship can make a lasting difference in a child’s life
How parents can work through their own emotional baggage and create a different legacy for their children
 
This hopeful conversation will help you see everyday emotions, conflicts, and repairs as opportunities to build the kind of relationship your child can carry into adulthood.
 
Eli Harwood, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor, USA TODAY bestselling author, mother of three, and creator of Attachment Nerd. She has more than 19 years of clinical experience helping individuals and families understand attachment and build healthier patterns of connection. Her books include Raising Securely Attached Kids, Securely Attached, and How to Deal with Your ____ So Your Kids Don’t Have To.
 
Connect with Eli:
Website: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/attachmentnerd/
Books: https://www.attachmentnerd.com/books
How to Deal Podcast: https://podcast.attachmentnerd.com/
 
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https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/how-to-build-a-secure-attachment-with-your-child-at-any-age-with-eli-harwood
 
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Few things frustrate parents more than trying to have an important conversation with a child or teen and hearing, “I don’t care” or “I don’t know.”
 
It can feel dismissive, disrespectful, avoidant, or even scary. Parents may start wondering: Do they really not care? Are they lying? Are they avoiding responsibility? Am I losing influence?
In this episode of The Art of Raising Humans, Kyle and Sara talk about what may actually be happening underneath these common responses. They explain why “I don’t care” can be a form of armor, why “I don’t know” can be a shutdown response, and why pushing harder often makes kids more defensive instead of more honest.
 
You’ll learn how to stay calm, lower the pressure without lowering the boundary, and help your child move from defensiveness into reflection, responsibility, and repair. Kyle and Sara also share practical ways to respond to kids ages 8–18, including what younger kids, tweens, and teens may need when they seem shut down or checked out.
 
This episode is especially helpful for parents who want to reduce power struggles, build emotional intelligence, strengthen connection, and guide their child with calm leadership instead of fear.
 
When your child says, “I don’t care” or “I don’t know,” try not to chase the words. Look underneath. Behind both phrases is often a child who feels overwhelmed, ashamed, confused, or unsure how to move forward.
 
Listen to this episode to learn how to respond with connection, clarity, and confidence.
 
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https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/when-your-child-says-i-dont-care-or-i-dont-know
 
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What if our teenagers’ risky choices, rebellion, or need to prove themselves are partly attempts to answer a deeper question: Am I ready to grow up, and does anyone see who I am becoming?
 
For thousands of years, communities intentionally helped young people transition from childhood into adulthood. Today, many teenagers are left to create their own rites of passage through drinking, drugs, sexual experiences, reckless behavior, or other choices they believe will prove they are grown.
 
In this episode, Kyle and Sara talk with Dr Arne Rubinstein about how parents can help teenagers experience this transition in a healthier, more meaningful way.
 
Dr Arne explains why teenagers need belonging, emotional safety, meaningful challenges, trusted adults, and opportunities to discover the gifts they can contribute to the world. He also shares how families can create an intentional rite of passage without needing an elaborate ceremony or extended retreat.
 
But this process is not only about helping teenagers mature. Parents must also be willing to change.
 
As children move toward adulthood, parents are invited to release some control, relate to them differently, and create space for greater responsibility, independence, and trust. Without that shift, even a powerful experience can quickly dissolve when the family returns to its old patterns.
 
This conversation will help you see adolescence as more than a difficult stage to survive. It is a pivotal season in which parents can help young people develop purpose, confidence, responsibility, and a clearer vision of the adults they want to become.
 
In this episode, you’ll discover:
• Why teenagers often create their own unhealthy rites of passage
• The three stages of a meaningful transition into adulthood
• Why stories and vulnerability can reach teens more effectively than lectures
• How challenges, vision, and recognition help teenagers discover who they are
• Why boys and girls may need different forms of support during adolescence
• How to honor your teenager’s natural gifts and strengths
• Why parents must go through a transition alongside their children
• Practical ways to continue the growth after the meaningful moment is over
 
About Dr Arne Rubinstein
Dr Arne Rubinstein, OAM, is the founder and director of the Rites of Passage Institute and a globally recognized expert on rites of passage. After 15 years in emergency medicine, he dedicated his work to helping young people, families, schools, and communities navigate major life transitions. His work has reached more than 450,000 people across 25 countries.
 
Connect with Dr Arne Rubinstein and the Rites of Passage Institute
Visit the Rites of Passage Institute
Explore camps, training, books, and resources
Follow the Rites of Passage Institute on Instagram
Connect with the Rites of Passage Institute on LinkedIn
 
Listen now and discover how intentional moments of connection can help your teenager step toward adulthood knowing they are seen, supported, and capable.
 
View the full podcast transcript at: 
https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/why-teens-need-a-rite-of-passage-and-parents-need-one-too-with-dr-arne-rubinstein
 
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The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.

Have you ever wondered whether your child’s sensitivity, strong will, quietness, or intensity is something you need to change?
 
When a behavior repeatedly frustrates or worries us, it is easy to start seeing our child as the problem. We may lecture more, push harder, compare them to other children, or try to shape them into someone who feels easier and less frightening to raise.
 
But what if the trait you are trying to eliminate was never broken?
 
In this episode, Kyle and Sara explore the important difference between accepting who your child is and guiding how they use their strengths. You will learn how sensitivity can become empathy, strong will can become leadership, quietness can reflect thoughtfulness, and intensity can grow into passion and purpose.
 
They also share practical language for responding to children and teens without shaming their identity, while still maintaining boundaries, teaching responsibility, and developing emotional regulation.
 
You’ll discover:
• How parental fear can turn guidance into rejection
• Why children need to know, “I am loved as I am, and I am capable of growing”
• How to find the strength underneath a frustrating behavior
• What children ages 8–18 need from parents at different developmental stages
• Four questions to help you decide whether a moment needs acceptance, guidance, or a clear boundary
• How protecting your child’s dignity strengthens your influence into adulthood
 
Your child does not need you to fix who they are. They need your help becoming the healthiest, wisest version of who they already are.
 
Learn more about Parent Relationship Coaching and the Art of Raising Humans at ArtOfRaisingHumans.com.
 
View the full podcast transcript at: 
https://www.artofraisinghumans.com/what-you-should-never-try-to-fix-about-your-child
 
Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey.
 
Resource Website: 
https://www.artofraisinghumans.com
Video Courses: 
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Facebook: 
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Podcast Website: 
https://www.theartofraisinghumans.com
Book List:
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The Art of Raising Humans podcast should not be considered or used as counseling but for educational purposes only.