Sorry, I Missed This: The Everything Guide to ADHD and Relationships with Cate Osborn

Ever catch yourself spiraling over a decision and feeling like your brain won’t stop replaying every possible “what if”? 
Dr. J is joining us to talk about rumination, overthinking, and getting caught in a mood spiral as a woman with ADHD. We’re breaking down why we get stuck and practical ways to interrupt those thought loops. 
For more on this topic: 
Try: ADHD Unstuck (a free self-guided activity)
Listen: How to climb out of mental rabbit holes (from Hyperfocus)
Read: ADHD and mood swings
For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected].

ADHD Unstuck is a free, self-guided activity from Understood.org and Northwestern University designed to help women with ADHD boost their mood and take small, practical steps to get unstuck. In about 10 minutes, learn why mood spirals happen and get a personalized action plan of quick wins and science-backed strategies that work with your brain. Give it a try at Understood.org/GetUnstuck.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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When ADHD overwhelm hits, it’s usually not because of one big event. It’s the work project and your kid’s school play and the relationship thing and everyone is out of clean socks... and now you’re caught in a spiral.
Today, Cate and our fabulous producer, Jessamine, dig into Reddit stories about work screw-ups, panic lying, and how pattern recognition can quietly turn everyday moments into emotional flashpoints in relationships. 
What actually can stop that spiral? 
For more on this topic: 
Listen: ADHD and workplace stress
Listen: Managing expectations in relationships (feat. KC Davis)
Read: How to Keep House While Drowning, by KC Davis
Read: Fair Play, by Eve Rodsky
For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected].

ADHD Unstuck is a free, self-guided activity from Understood.org and Northwestern University designed to help women with ADHD boost their mood and take small, practical steps to get unstuck. In about 10 minutes, learn why mood spirals happen and get a personalized action plan of quick wins and science-backed strategies that work with your brain. Give it a try at Understood.org/GetUnstuck.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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In this listener Q&A, Cate tackles two wildly relatable ADHD questions: sudden sensory discomfort during intimacy, and the maddening cycle of not being able to start a task… then not being able to stop. 
From sensory overload and burnout to hyperfocus, momentum anxiety, and emotional regulation, Cate breaks down what’s going on and how to navigate it without losing it. 
Thanks to our listeners for these deeply ADHD-coded questions! Keep ’em coming.
For more on this topic: 
Listen: ADHD and sensory overwhelm
Listen: ADHD sensory challenges and sex
Read: ADHD and hyperfocus
For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected].

ADHD Unstuck is a free, self-guided activity from Understood.org and Northwestern University designed to help women with ADHD boost their mood and take small, practical steps to get unstuck. In about 10 minutes, learn why mood spirals happen and get a personalized action plan of quick wins and science-backed strategies that work with your brain. Give it a try at Understood.org/GetUnstuck.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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We’re back with another spicy Reddit Reactions episode!
This week, we dive into two wildly relatable ADHD relationship posts: one about a partner claiming “you lost your sparkle” (eye roll), and another spiraling over chores, shame, and new-job burnout. We unpack toxic dynamics, people-pleasing, clutter blindness, and why you’re not weaponizing incompetence. 
For more on this topic: 
Listen: ADHD, cheating, and weaponized incompetence
Watch: ADHD and people-pleasing
Read: What IS weaponized incompetence?
Timestamps:
(01:00) A sparkle-stealing husband
(04:10) Is it ADHD… or a toxic partner?
(08:20) ADHD shame spiral: “I can’t do anything right!”
(11:40) Clutter blindness and burnout
For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected].

ADHD Unstuck is a free, self-guided activity from Understood.org and Northwestern University designed to help women with ADHD boost their mood and take small, practical steps to get unstuck. In about 10 minutes, learn why mood spirals happen and get a personalized action plan of quick wins and science-backed strategies that work with your brain. Give it a try at Understood.org/GetUnstuck.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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Ever said yes to sex a little too fast and regretted it later? Same. 
Today we’re joined by psychologist and Understood Expert Dr. Ari Tuckman for a candid talk about impulsivity, ADHD, and intimacy. We’ll dig into the messy mix of consent, shame, and emotional regulation. And we’ll talk about how to slow down, stay curious, and find self-compassion after a spicy decision. 
For more on this topic: 
Listen: Impulsivity, risky behavior, and obsessions (Chris’ story)
Listen: ADHD, loving intensely, and impulsivity (Ange’s story)
Timestamps:
02:15 How ADHD-related impulsivity can influence sexual decisions
08:45 Consent, emotional regulation, and navigating pressure or fear of rejection
17:30 Differentiating shame from embarrassment after vulnerable sexual experiences
28:10 Strategies for slowing down and gathering insights from experiences
For a transcript and more resources, visit Sorry, I Missed This on Understood.org. You can also email us at [email protected].

ADHD Unstuck is a free, self-guided activity from Understood.org and Northwestern University designed to help women with ADHD boost their mood and take small, practical steps to get unstuck. In about 10 minutes, learn why mood spirals happen and get a personalized action plan of quick wins and science-backed strategies that work with your brain. Give it a try at Understood.org/GetUnstuck.
Understood.org is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give

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