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• Impossible Standards in Motherhood: Letting Go of the Good Mother Myth | Lisa Marchiano

  Episode 17: We have the pleasure of hearing from Lisa Marchiano for the second time on the Down The Well Podcast, a Jungian analyst and author of "Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself." Lisa and Elle peel back the layers of the "Good Mother" myth and dive deep into the transformative power of shadow work in motherhood. Are you ready to confront the shadow side of mothering? To embrace the parts of yourself you've been told to hide? Lisa reveals how the "good mother myth" sets impossible standards, leaving us feeling inadequate and disconnected from our true selves. But here's the kicker—what if those "negative" aspects we try to suppress are actually the key to our growth?Elle and Lisa explore: • The liberating truth about the "Good Mother" myth [1:27] • Why your anger might be your greatest teacher [19:44] • The golden nuggets hidden in your shadow [41:52] • How to parent from wholeness, not perfection [30:51] Prepare to be challenged, inspired, and ultimately freed by this raw and honest exploration of motherhood's deepest truths. 🔔 Subscribe for more soul-stirring conversations that light the path to authentic motherhood. 💬 Comment below: What part of yourself are you ready to reclaim in your mothering journey? Timestamps: 0:00 Intro: The good mother myth 5:34 How the good mom image affects women 8:28 Disempowering effects of perfect parenting ideals 14:11 Letting go of the good mother myth 21:15 Working with difficult emotions in motherhood 28:43 Understanding and integrating your shadow 37:38 Identifying shadow qualities in yourself 44:33 Practical steps for shadow work 49:22 Reintegrating positive aspects of younger self 54:12 Advice for different stages of motherhood Show Links: • "Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself" by Lisa Marchiano • Lisa's website: https://lisamarchiano.com/ Down The Well Links: • YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCN6YKPAhI1Rstsc4dT2N86w • Elle's Substack: https://substack.com/@ellerowley • Elle's Instagram: instagram.com/ellerowley About Down The Well: Motherhood should be full of joy and meaning. But it often isn't. Why is that? On Down the Well, Elle Rowley talks through the mother's hero's journey, and why it's different from the one you might have learned in school or books. Unlike the traditional hero's journey, mothers have to descend into the depths of their own soul. No one comes out of motherhood the same, and with the right perspective and resources, we can make sure that transformation is for the better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• What Nobody Tells You About the Maiden to Mother Transition

  What if the transition to motherhood isn't just about diapers and sleepless nights... but a profound archetypal shift that reshapes your entire being? In this soul-stirring episode, Elle dives deep into the often overlooked journey from maiden to mother. She peels back the layers of societal pressure, personal resistance, and the bittersweet beauty of this transformation. Are you clinging to your "maiden" self even as you navigate motherhood? You're not alone. This isn't just about having kids—it's about saying yes to a fuller, vaster version of yourself. Ready to step into your power? 🔔 Subscribe for more soul-nourishing conversations on motherhood, identity, and becoming. 💬 Comment below: What's been the hardest part of your maiden-to-mother transition? Timestamps: 0:00 - Intro 00:40 - Understanding the archetypes 02:43 - Why we resist the mother 09:20 - Three lies holding us back 16:27 - The gifts of motherhood 20:32 - Missed your maiden years? 23:35 - Integrating maiden and mother Show Links: Oura Ring: https://ouraring.com/product/rings Down The Well Links: Elle's Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@ellerowley⁠⁠⁠⁠ Elle's Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/ellerowle⁠y Listen to Down The Well: Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/6lUJfguVjtso0sPEg2wR6t?si=votEkMgqRiq8b_aEKht1gg⁠ Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/down-the-well/id1797861644 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Down-The-Well About Down The Well: Motherhood should be full of joy and meaning. But it often isn't. Why is that? On Down the Well, Elle Rowley talks through the mother's hero's journey, and why it's different from the one you might have learned in school or books. Unlike the traditional hero's journey, mothers have to descend into the depths of their own soul. No one comes out of motherhood the same, and with the right perspective and resources, we can make sure that transformation is for the better. SEO Keywords: transformational motherhood, maiden archetype, mother archetype, matriarch archetype, women's developmental phases, releasing maidenhood, embracing motherhood, cultural expectations, societal pressures, aging and beauty, body acceptance, self-discovery, personal growth, life transitions, motherhood challenges, work-life balance, self-care for mothers, identity shifts, parenting journey, female empowerment, archetypal psychology, women's spirituality, intergenerational wisdom, life stages, personal transformation Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• Torn to Pieces No More: Finding Wholeness as a Mother

  In this soul-stirring episode, Elle dives deep into the heart of modern motherhood's greatest paradox: How do we find wholeness in a role that seems to demand we shatter ourselves into a million pieces? Drawing inspiration from Ann Morrow Lindbergh's timeless wisdom, Elle explores the concept of "Zerissinheit"—that torn-to-pieces feeling so many mothers know all too well. But here's the plot twist: What if fragmentation isn't our destiny, but our chrysalis? Elle challenges the notion that mothers must sacrifice everything on the altar of caregiving. Instead, she offers a radical new vision: motherhood as a catalyst for profound personal growth and self-discovery. 🔔 Ready to revolutionize your approach to motherhood? Hit subscribe and join the wholeness revolution! 💬 Share below: What fills your "source" and makes you feel most alive? Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 03:03 - Unpacking "Zerrissenheit" 08:40 - The audacity of maternal time off 15:49 - Your motherhood HR department 23:00 - Restoration through deep presence Show Links: "Gift from the Sea" by Ann Morrow Lindbergh: https://www.amazon.com/Gift-50th-Anniversary-Anne-Morrow-Lindbergh/dp/0679732411 Oura Ring: https://ouraring.com/product/rings Down The Well Links: Elle's Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@ellerowley⁠⁠⁠⁠ Elle's Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/ellerowle⁠y Listen to Down The Well: Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/6lUJfguVjtso0sPEg2wR6t?si=votEkMgqRiq8b_aEKht1gg⁠ Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/down-the-well/id1797861644 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Down-The-Well About Down The Well: Motherhood should be full of joy and meaning. But it often isn't. Why is that? On Down the Well, Elle Rowley talks through the mother's hero's journey, and why it's different from the one you might have learned in school or books. Unlike the traditional hero's journey, mothers have to descend into the depths of their own soul. No one comes out of motherhood the same, and with the right perspective and resources, we can make sure that transformation is for the better. SEO Keywords: motherhood challenges, work-life balance, self-care for mothers, Ann Morrow Lindbergh, Gifts from the Sea, torn-to-pieces-hood, wholeness in motherhood, maternal burnout, solitude for mothers, nurturing source, creative pursuits, maternal identity, family dynamics, personal growth, maternal well-being, time management for mothers, maternal mental health, parenting strategies, maternal restoration, mindful motherhood, maternal boundaries, purposeful giving, maternal self-reflection, maternal resilience, balancing motherhood roles Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• The Art of Emotional Self-Reliance: Redefining Marital Happiness

  Episode 14: Elle dives deep into the often-overlooked middle years of marriage with couples coach Natalie Clay. They explore the hidden treasures and challenges of long-term partnerships, offering a fresh perspective on what it means to truly grow together. Are you feeling more like roommates than soulmates? Struggling with communication or emotional self-reliance? This episode can be your lifeline. Natalie shares powerful insights on: • The importance of emotional self-reliance (without losing connection) • Transforming conflicts into opportunities for growth • Embracing vulnerability as the key to deeper intimacy It's time to rewrite the narrative of the "boring" middle years. Let's discover how this phase can be the most transformative and rewarding chapter of your love story. 🔔 Subscribe for more soul-nourishing conversations about relationships, personal growth, and the journey of becoming. 💬 Comment below: What's been your biggest challenge (or unexpected joy) in the middle years of your relationship? Timestamps: 0:00 Intro: Middle years of marriage discussion 5:12 Emotional self-reliance in relationships 10:12 Dealing with insecurities in marriage 20:24 Why couples feel like roommates 25:05 Physical intimacy and mismatched desire 36:29 Parenting differences in marriage 42:42 Radical acceptance in relationships 49:41 Navigating different parenting approaches 55:41 The role of mystery in marriage 57:05 Hidden strengths of middle years 1:02:15 Lightning round: Marriage advice Show Links: Natalie Clay Coaching Couples Coaching with Natalie Clay podcast @Natalieclaycoaching on Instagram Down The Well Links: Elle's Substack - ⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@ellerowley⁠⁠⁠ Elle's Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/ellerowle _____ Listen to Down The Well: Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/6lUJfguVjtso0sPEg2wR6t?si=votEkMgqRiq8b_aEKht1gg⁠ Apple:  ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/down-the-well/id1797861644⁠ Amazon: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa0p4aFo3SlBSNWNpUzhiNkt⁠ _____ About Down The Well: Motherhood should be full of joy and meaning. But it often isn't. Why is that? On Down the Well, Elle Rowley talks through the mother's hero's journey, and why it's different from the one you might have learned in school or books. Unlike the traditional hero's journey, mothers have to descend into the depths of their own soul. No one comes out of motherhood the same, and with the right perspective and resources, we can make sure that transformation is for the better. SEO Keywords: marriage coaching, emotional self-reliance, middle years of marriage, couples communication, vulnerability in relationships, conflict resolution, parenting differences, intimacy challenges, personal growth in marriage, marriage struggles, emotional connection, self-compassion, relationship dynamics, marriage expectations, long-term commitment, marital conflict, relationship coaching, marriage counseling, emotional intimacy, relationship vulnerability, marriage longevity, relationship autonomy, marriage challenges, relationship growth, marriage satisfaction Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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• 5 Lessons From The Kindred Spirit of Lucy Maud Montgomery | Author of Anne of Green Gables

  Episode 13: What if the key to unlocking your creative genius lies in the pages of a century-old novel? In this episode, Elle Rowley shares another installment in her series of Portrait of a Matriarch. She takes us on a journey through the life of the matriarch, Lucy Maud Montgomery, creator of Anne of Green Gables and unexpected mentor to generations of dreamers. From Prince Edward Island's red-clay roads to the depths of personal struggle, we explore how Montgomery's resilience and creativity shaped a literary legacy that still resonates today. Elle shares her 5 favorite lessons she learned from studying Maud’s complex life, and the gems of wisdom she took from her matriarchal years: Success comes from small and simple things done consistently Creativity can offer resilience and beauty in the bleakest of circumstances What other people think of you is none of your business Nature is a constant source of wonder and healing The matriarch is the wise woman Are you ready to find your own "Green Gables" of the soul? Share with us what lesson resonates with you as a current or future matriarch. Timestamps: 0:00 Intro: Lucy Maud Montgomery's impact 5:07 Childhood and early life of Montgomery 10:15 Writing career and publishing Anne of Green Gables 15:23 Marriage, motherhood, and personal struggles 20:35 Five lessons from Lucy Maud Montgomery's life 25:44 Creativity as resilience in difficult circumstances 31:25 Overcoming fear of others' opinions 37:33 Nature as inspiration and solace 42:38 Montgomery's message to future generations 47:13 Reflecting on Montgomery's legacy and impact Show Links: "Lucy Maud Montgomery: The Gift of Wings" by Mary Henley Rubio: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/Lucy-Maud-Montgomery-Gift-Wings/dp/0385667604⁠ Anne of Green Gables (1985) starring Megan Follows Anne of Green Gables, 1908 edition: https://www.amazon.com/Anne-Green-Gables-Original-Montgomery/dp/B0BTNNMXBV Down The Well Links: Elle's Substack - ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://substack.com/@ellerowley⁠⁠⁠⁠ Elle's Instagram - ⁠⁠⁠⁠instagram.com/ellerowle⁠ _____ Listen to Down The Well: Spotify: ⁠https://open.spotify.com/show/6lUJfguVjtso0sPEg2wR6t?si=votEkMgqRiq8b_aEKht1gg⁠ Apple: ⁠https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/down-the-well/id1797861644⁠ Amazon: ⁠https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa0p4aFo3SlBSNWNpUzhiNkt⁠ _____ About Down The Well: Motherhood should be full of joy and meaning. But it often isn't. Why is that? On Down the Well, Elle Rowley talks through the mother's hero's journey, and why it's different from the one you might have learned in school or books. Unlike the traditional hero's journey, mothers have to descend into the depths of their own soul. No one comes out of motherhood the same, and with the right perspective and resources, we can make sure that transformation is for the better. SEO Keywords: Lucy Maud Montgomery, Anne of Green Gables, Canadian literature, Prince Edward Island, creative writing, childhood imagination, resilience through creativity, matriarchal lessons, mental health struggles, literary success, consistent writing habits, nature inspiration, character development, female authors, early 20th century literature, overcoming rejection, balancing motherhood and career, societal expectations, personal journals, childhood abandonment, community gossip, self-doubt in writing, nature as solace, literary legacy, historical fiction Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

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