The Counter Culture Mom Show with Tina Griffin

Is it possible to heal after infidelity has split a marriage in two? Yes, it’s possible, but it’s not easy. Ruth Erickson is a worship pastor and the author of Unfaithful: Finding Healing After Your Husband’s Affair (Whether Your Marriage Survives or Not). She is uniquely qualified to discuss the healing and restoration that is possible only in Christ in the wake of infidelity. When her husband cheated on her, it broke her heart, but it never broke her spirit. She believed strongly that God would use her story for good - and she was right. Ruth’s story is an inspiration in overcoming the unthinkable, navigating unwanted divorce, and walking through the tricky and emotional territory of co-parenting with a former spouse who was unrepentant.
TAKEAWAYS
Ruth’s book, Unfaithful, will give hope to women who have walked through infidelity trauma
You can’t control other people - you can only control yourself and you can’t affair-proof your marriage, but you can affair-proof yourself
When it comes to co-parenting, the needs of the children should be the top priority
You’re responsible for your obedience to the Lord, not anyone else’s
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To make marriage last, there are three main areas that couples must focus on: making each other happy, avoiding making each other unhappy, and making major decisions together. Dr. Willard Harley has talked and written about the topic of “affair-proofing” marriage for decades. As a clinical psychologist, bestselling author with over four million copies sold, and marriage expert, he has counseled thousands of couples who have been at their wits’ end - and helped them get back on track! It’s so important to meet each other’s needs, Willard says, because that is where your love deposits come from. Marriage is complicated, and few people know what they’re doing when they exchange vows at the altar, which can spark emotional turbulence. Willard also discusses the red flags of potential adultery and how to deal with it.
TAKEAWAYS
Don’t set yourself up for cheating by refusing to be transparent with your spouse
After or during an affair, the offending spouse must accept that their marriage is more important than chasing after anyone else
If someone is continually unrepentant in their adulterous behavior, Willard recommends divorce as an option
Every couple should be totally transparent with each other on all of their devices and social media
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How do you build an affair-proof marriage? Dr. Willard Harley knows the secret! Willard is the creator of Marriage Builders and the author of His Needs Her Needs: Making Romantic Love Last. With decades of marriage under his belt and a lifetime of expertise counseling couples through a gamut of sticky situations, he talks about his heartfelt mission to help people take the steps needed to steer clear of infidelity. Willard also highlights a growing trend among young adults: the fear of matrimony. What is driving this fear? Is it generational trauma? Is it seen as a cultural norm? Willard observes that as society becomes more sophisticated and educated, the more fearful they become of marriage. Willard is passionate about addressing these fears and encouraging healthy marriages.
TAKEAWAYS
Those who get married today tend to have fewer children than previous generations
Willard says that up to 70 percent of marriages are affected by infidelity
Staying in love makes remaining faithful a lot easier and dating your spouse is a great way to enjoy the best things about life
Fear of marriage likely stems from observing unhappy parental figures
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Adultery is devastating and affects not just the couple involved but the entire family. How can you heal after such a deep hurt? How can you trust your spouse again? And if you’re the offender, can your spouse forgive you? “The road to restoration with your spouse is never guaranteed, but God’s hope is,” Robert Jones reminds us. Former pastor and decades-long counselor, Robert is the author of My Spouse Was Unfaithful: Finding Strength in God’s Presence. His book helps readers understand their suffering and guard against bitterness and a vengeful spirit, while pointing them to their truest hope: God alone. Robert addresses both the offender and the victim in cases of adultery, providing tips on how to communicate after suffering such massive trauma and how to walk through the healing process.
TAKEAWAYS
After infidelity, couples should individually put their focus on Christ to begin the restoration process and not immediately talk to each other
The church should be involved in bringing a resolution when dealing with cases such as infidelity
Psalm 46:1 reminds those who are suffering that God is a refuge and help in all conflicts and crises
Adultery is a very serious sin: it’s a sin against one’s own body, breaking of the marriage covenant, and sinning against God
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“One lifetime is nowhere near enough time to get to know another human being,” says Robert Paul, the Vice President of the Focus on the Family Marriage Institute. When it comes to marriage, what keeps the passion and romance burning hotter than ever is a lifelong inquisitive and curious pursuit of your spouse. Ignore what secular culture and even misguided churches may be telling you about the “fairytale” of marriage. Your spouse is your life journey partner, in good times and in bad. Support and encourage each other. Avoid giving unsolicited or unkind advice. Don’t be bossy, but be a cheerleader. Keep Jesus at the center of your marriage, and if you need help, don’t hesitate to reach for it. Getting help is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign of courage, says Robert.

 

 
TAKEAWAYS

 
Nothing is more foundational to a marriage than having the relationship centered on Christ

 
Choosing a spouse is not about stepping into a fairytale - it’s about journeying through the trials of life together

 
Happiness can’t be the measurement of whether your marriage is going well, because it can change daily, depending on your emotions

 
Connect with the Lord in every difficult situation together as a couple and ask for His guidance and direction

 

 
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